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over a year ago
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Carefully... With someone you trust..
Maybe even visit a fetish club as often people there that would help..
It also depends what exactly your looking for...
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Invest time in looking into what you would like so that you are clear what appeals to you and how much you'd like to experience. Make sure you share your thoughts with someone you really trust that you know won't hurt you (well, more than you want to!) and perhaps even agree a 'safe' word or another way to let them know you had enough.
I think it's hard to have this kind of play without being in a relationship of some kind (and I mean that in the widest sense) as trust is very important to make the experience free and enjoyable.
Hope you find what you are looking for, it's worth it  |
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"No Shibari suspension unless there's super trust and they seriously know what they are doing. Read, read, read, it's a huge subject.
and always use a safe word ! ! !"
why?
a safe word is not magic.If u know and trust someone it is far better than believing some sacred word will somehow stop something bad happening.
Safewords are a useful tool in play situations,not harry potters wand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Invest time in looking into what you would like so that you are clear what appeals to you and how much you'd like to experience. Make sure you share your thoughts with someone you really trust that you know won't hurt you (well, more than you want to!) and perhaps even agree a 'safe' word or another way to let them know you had enough.
I think it's hard to have this kind of play without being in a relationship of some kind (and I mean that in the widest sense) as trust is very important to make the experience free and enjoyable.
Hope you find what you are looking for, it's worth it "
The relationship between master and sub is a relationship in itself, far transcending anything sexual I can assure you - that is the relationship you will be entering into!
If you are uncertain, read. Many will profess to tie and perform all manner of play, but they will proffer this as an excuse to get their own wishes. If in doubt, ask to come and see your prospective master. Most will be happy that you feel safe and relaxed before proceeding
You'll be under little pressure or coerced to do anything you don't want to. You will follow your own path to him, and he will guide you on your journey with him. A good master will have great care for you.
A safeword is useful, but I have yet to have anyone use it in my presence. I put that down to intuition. Nevertheless, everything stops the moment it is said...
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Wow from nilla straight into a Master dynamic in such a short time?????
Wouldn't a submissive or switch approach be better? Everyone starts out as a curious kinkster at some point,
As others have said read up on it, google it, get recomndations from people re sites, good ones and ones to avoid. |
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Personally, I'd try something at home with a partner you trust (believe me, once there's a wriggling sub they can do ANYTHING to, most guys get the idea pretty quickly.)
Tips for beginners:
- Always, always, ALWAYS have a safeword. Even if you don't THINK you're going to do anything that would normally freak you out. A safeword stops EVERYTHING and is something you wouldn't normally say during kinky sex. Mine's "Rob Pattinson", because that stops anything sexual fairly quickly.
- Invest in leather/nylon cuffs from a sextoy store for your wrists and ankles :the kind with buckles. Once buckled, they shouldn't slip down any tighter. In any case, ensure you can slip a finger between flesh and the material.
- NEVER place anything tightly round your neck or that can slip down, or attach a collar to a fixed restraint point.
- I wouldn't use any gags early on. If you do want to try one, again, get a professionally made ball gag from a store as nothing can break off/slip down /catch on your tongue and choke you.
- Remember the mantra "Safe / Sane / Consensual." Refuse any activity that falls outside YOUR judgement of those three criteria.
Once you're ready, find a Munch to meet like-minded folks for play (as well as a laugh and a beer: the Norwich Munch is legendarily the friendliest in the world for newbies, with people coming from as far as Toronto).
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By *itty . OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Personally, I'd try something at home with a partner you trust (believe me, once there's a wriggling sub they can do ANYTHING to, most guys get the idea pretty quickly.)
Tips for beginners:
- Always, always, ALWAYS have a safeword. Even if you don't THINK you're going to do anything that would normally freak you out. A safeword stops EVERYTHING and is something you wouldn't normally say during kinky sex. Mine's "Rob Pattinson", because that stops anything sexual fairly quickly.
- Invest in leather/nylon cuffs from a sextoy store for your wrists and ankles :the kind with buckles. Once buckled, they shouldn't slip down any tighter. In any case, ensure you can slip a finger between flesh and the material.
- NEVER place anything tightly round your neck or that can slip down, or attach a collar to a fixed restraint point.
- I wouldn't use any gags early on. If you do want to try one, again, get a professionally made ball gag from a store as nothing can break off/slip down /catch on your tongue and choke you.
- Remember the mantra "Safe / Sane / Consensual." Refuse any activity that falls outside YOUR judgement of those three criteria.
Once you're ready, find a Munch to meet like-minded folks for play (as well as a laugh and a beer: the Norwich Munch is legendarily the friendliest in the world for newbies, with people coming from as far as Toronto).
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thanks for advise dont have someone who I think would be into it, I'll keep looking ty |
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By *itty . OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Invest time in looking into what you would like so that you are clear what appeals to you and how much you'd like to experience. Make sure you share your thoughts with someone you really trust that you know won't hurt you (well, more than you want to!) and perhaps even agree a 'safe' word or another way to let them know you had enough.
I think it's hard to have this kind of play without being in a relationship of some kind (and I mean that in the widest sense) as trust is very important to make the experience free and enjoyable.
Hope you find what you are looking for, it's worth it "
thank you still looking ! |
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It's fun so definitely worth finding someone. Personally I was just looking for a fb and stumbled on the fact that we were both into it. I trusted him by then and we talked about it loads before we actually did anything. x |
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depends on what level,and good advice only with someone you trust ,or if you have a partner and want to do it with someone ells take your partner along for the first few times, my x and i did it this way and it was fine ,but be aware ,when if you decied to go it alone things can change ,we had one guy who we thought we could trust but after a few meets alone ,her being tied quiet securly, he wanted more bazar things ,lucky ,when she said no he let her go,but i could have seen this coming to a point where he may not have been so willing to take no for a answer ,,,so be carfull |
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now i love aspects of what you have all described, but the master/sub scenario really puts me off going further..but this an essential part?....i only ask as i see it as a bit too serious and dont have a full understanding. I dont want to be controlled, just have mutual fun if that makes sense. |
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"I'm wanting to experience this but to what level unsure whats the best way to start ?"
Slowly and carefully
As some have already said, forums, munches, fetish markets and after-parties are good places to get to know others with a similar kinks.
It's how I 'started' |
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