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carry on swinging or not ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What should I do. Due to serious back injury g/f is struggling to carry on playing. I can tell she is struggling to do it anymore. I've loved every minute of what we've done. It'll be so hard to give up. I've recently discovered bi fun too and she cucked me too.
Life shouldn't be over just yet should it ? I don't want to retire from swinging, yet it seems I may be forced too. I feel so unlucky as I've escaped from a marriage 10 years ago where my ex wife wouldn't play.
Or..... should I be content with the fun I've had and stop whingeing as I've lived the dream for the last few years.
Hard isn't it. So may people on here would have just died for a few of the opportunities I've had. Advice please ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had a similar situation myself a while back. Talk to your gf and ask her what she wants to do. It's a joint decision. She might not be able to join in physically but she might enjoy watching etc. hope her back gets better. Good luck whatever you decide to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is not a subject anonymous strangers can give you advice on, this is something you should be discussing with your nearest and dearest.
Sorry, but your "woe is me" attitude doesn't sound like you want to stop but testing the waters somewhat...that's how it reads to me.
Only you can decide and know what the consequences are likely to be...whatever you decide. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading your post, it looks like you hold swinging in higher regard than either of the people you have been in a relationship with.
Surely your partner is the most important part of your swinging, and if they cant swing then you shouldnt swing either.
To me, if my partner couldnt play with me then I would not play at all. Playing is something we got into together, we enjoy together, and we will both stop swinging together when the time comes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if your gfs gotta bad backand cant play no more surely you shouldnt be asking ppl on here what to do, you should no wt to do...shes ur gf..if you love her you should stop |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate i feel for ya
But i personally would back down and look after ya lovely girl
Ive been on the scene fa ever nearly lol but if my girl was unable to play then neither would i
Relationships are more important than swinging
Growing old with swinging and on ya own aint as fulfilling as growing old with someone you love
Good luck to the both of you and i really hope she improves and feels better soon
Craig xx |
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Soapy is wise...
While Last of the Summer Wine would seem to be a fab old life, we need to remember that it was fiction.
Cherish and care for those who love you as you yourself would want to be cared for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really hope that it is the way I'm reading it but you sound totally self-obsorbed.
I had a back injury that left me pretty much unable to walk for 2-3 months. It was terrorfying. Thankfully my g/f at the time was incredibly supportive rather than making me think that I'd done it to somnehow inconvenience her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I can not play then I look for people for Master to enjoy.. just because I am out of action why should Master not carry on..
Its just sex after all.. a basic human need.. and I am always well looked after, so in my eyes making sure that Master would get something then thats me looking after Master.
same as if I ever went off sex... I wouldnt expect Master to be celibate..
Cali x |
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You seem to think its either or...
u cud socialise ,getting to know people so when she can play u are ready to go...u cud swing with her consent...if she wants to carry on meeting you cud consider how...there are people with various disabilities on here.
the one thing your post lacks is any idea of what she wants...suggesting she is not your priority here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some of you are a bit harsh and see it in a black and white way. I was only asking and yes it's hard to get across in a few sentences the situation.
Thanks to all of you that take a more balanced _iew and recognise we're not all perfect, virtuous and saintly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is her situation going to improve?
Is she happy for you to play without you?
If no to the above it looks like Tesco meals for one and sorting your own washing and ironing!!!
Seriously, yep it's fun, but when in a LTR where there's been as much openness that you can swing the sex isn't going to get much better. The grass isn't always greener.
If I was your other half I'd kick you to the kerb so fast you wouldn't be able to draw breath.
I was married to a guy and we had no sex life (his choice not mine). I was under investigation for rheumatoid arthritis (I didn't have it) His response was "It's ok I wont leave you" Guess what, he's divorced now! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi there,
We've got in touch with a sports therapist so she is taking advice from him. As you say all is not lost and we've chatted a bit and she definitely wants to continue playing once better.
Thanks for advice
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take time out together and time rest could help to heal her back and if she feels ready only untill then .... come back she needs you now more then ever swinging is only a small part of life. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I am hoping you have spoken to your OH about this....so my questions would be.
Is she against you playing alone? Would that make you want to stop if she was?
Your answer to the last question would give you the answer you needed as to what to do or not.
I can understand the advice you were given up the thread, even if it doesn't sound like it was what you wanted.
We don't play alone for the only reason of we get off on watching the other enjoy themselves....so if one of us decided this wasn't what was wanted anymore we would just stop as our relationship is more important than any MFM.
So I would give you the same advice as others..if your OH doesn't want you playing alone while she is ill then I would stop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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carry on swinging or not ?
i've not seen that 1 !
does syd james pinch bottoms and give a dirty laugh ?
does kenneth williams say 'oooh matron' ?
does bernard breslaw act dumb and gormless ?
and most importantly,
does barbara windsor get her waps out ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps more time resting up may help? Maybe a break to show your support to her through this difficult time
Nobody can tell you the right thing to do, yes they can give advice or more likely opinions but it is something you and your partner need to discuss and work through. 
Hope she makes a recovery  |
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