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Hello, everyone
Fully verified, hold payed membership on fab, however, see my story below.
Been here on Fab for about 6 month, I have sent so many messages to females and couple and so far I have met one couple, who were local to me. Nearly 99% of the messages I sent get deleted or no reply, Why is this? Any suggestions on why is this happening and feedback on how I could improve my profile to make it appealing, will be welcomed.
It’s this site more suited for female and couples than single male!
Thanks
Raj |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello, everyone
Fully verified, hold payed membership on fab, however, see my story below.
Been here on Fab for about 6 month, I have sent so many messages to females and couple and so far I have met one couple, who were local to me. Nearly 99% of the messages I sent get deleted or no reply, Why is this? Any suggestions on why is this happening and feedback on how I could improve my profile to make it appealing, will be welcomed.
It’s this site more suited for female and couples than single male!
Thanks
Raj"
Yes x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes, your profile says nothing at all about what you are looking for, what your preferences are..you dont need the waffle about timewasters, theyre hardly going to stop because you put that...also, being a paid 'member' is irrelevant..you seem to suggest it entitles you to something..it doesn't.
also no one has to reply to you. if they arent interested, then just move on. |
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you need to remember that there a lot more men that women on here so it's not easy to stand out from the crowd, you get to know more people in the forum than from messages so you're better off sticking around here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What sort of information should I put on then?"
Lies, just tell as many porkies as you think you can getting away with, that is what everyone else does  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Hello OP
Your profile write-up is rather long, and a bit repetative. For example, you mention clean/ hygenic/ unhygenic several times.
You might want to consider reducing your profile to 2 paragraphs...one about you, and one about what you are looking for.
Good luck.
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Hi Raj.
Unfortunately, you WILL find that there are many on here who will not meet with Asian guys.
You are also quite young, there are many who won't consider people who are as young as their children.
Your best bet would be to just bite the bullet and visit a club "on your own". Clubs allow you to chat and interact with people in real time... allowing your personality to shine.
Cal
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"Hi Raj.
Unfortunately, you WILL find that there are many on here who will not meet with Asian guys.
You are also quite young, there are many who won't consider people who are as young as their children.
Your best bet would be to just bite the bullet and visit a club "on your own". Clubs allow you to chat and interact with people in real time... allowing your personality to shine.
Cal
Cal"
Thats absolutely right by all means make the suggested changes to your profile but until you start making time to go to clubs I can’t see things changing.
Socials are very useful also |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I didn't see your profile previous. It is quote detailed, but talks a lot about what you want.
From.a ladies point of view, you are young inexperienced and want someone to practise on and who will take to club's. Why would they choose to spend time with you , rather than the other 99 blokes she had messages from over the weekend?
You Could do with adding more photos.
Go to a social or a club. Seeing people face to face may be your best option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry, no offence, we've found single Asian males pushy, so we avoid. So for us, it wouldn't matter what you said or posted as pictures.
One bit stood out -,
"Karma Sutra is something that I follow in term of sex life, which I think everyone needs follow too"
Erm, no we don't need to follow that, thank you very much. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
The bit that jumped out for me was you said you’ve sent “so many messages”. It kinda suggests a scattergun approach, with you contacting anyone in the area who you like the look.
That simply doesn’t work on here. Far better to get involved, contribute to forums, go to socials etc. Being known as a decent person with a rounded personality is far more likely to create interest.
Less (a lot less) is more when it comes to messages, I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you tried adding pictures of your penis? Been told that's what gets responses. Especially women you see posting on the forum, they love that. "
Oh behave!  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
You have a visible face picture, so obviously you don't mind showing your face, why have a picture with your face scraped out also?
I always feel pictures like that are something out of scary movies.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, it would be your lack of experience that I'd find off putting.
Look out for organised socials in the meets forum, if messaging isn't proving successful |
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"You have a visible face picture, so obviously you don't mind showing your face, why have a picture with your face scraped out also?
I always feel pictures like that are something out of scary movies.
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will delete that scraped photo |
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It's nothing personal to do with you. Unfortunately, you have three demographics that traditionally struggle on here:
1. Single men
2. Asian
3. Very young
This combination means that many people will not meet you based purely on those factors. Unfair? Yes. Racist? Yes. But it's not going to change I am afraid.
As others have said, your best bet is to go to clubs and talk to people. That way your personality can come through and hopefully overcome prejudice.
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"It's nothing personal to do with you. Unfortunately, you have three demographics that traditionally struggle on here:
1. Single men
2. Asian
3. Very young
This combination means that many people will not meet you based purely on those factors. Unfair? Yes. Racist? Yes. But it's not going to change I am afraid.
As others have said, your best bet is to go to clubs and talk to people. That way your personality can come through and hopefully overcome prejudice.
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ok thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your last profile pic, your face, was so much better than staring at your crutch with you strangling your man veg!! This alone will make most people you message not reply, or even read your profile I'm afraid to say hun. |
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"It's nothing personal to do with you. Unfortunately, you have three demographics that traditionally struggle on here:
1. Single men
2. Asian
3. Very young
This combination means that many people will not meet you based purely on those factors. Unfair? Yes. Racist? Yes. But it's not going to change I am afraid.
As others have said, your best bet is to go to clubs and talk to people. That way your personality can come through and hopefully overcome prejudice.
ok thanks"
Oh and as others have said, a cock pic as am avatar will put off most women and couples. If you don't want to show your face, try a torso pic. |
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over a year ago
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If you look at the bottom left corner of your ‘inbox’ button, (zoom right in,) you’ll see a red or green dot.
Click on that if it’s red to toggle it to green.
Single guys profiles are routinely set to ‘out’ only. A bit like a cat flap.
It takes accurate positioning to click the right spot otherwise you simply open your inbox.
There you go; another fab secret revealed  |
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"Your last profile pic, your face, was so much better than staring at your crutch with you strangling your man veg!! This alone will make most people you message not reply, or even read your profile I'm afraid to say hun. "
will change the pic
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"If you look at the bottom left corner of your ‘inbox’ button, (zoom right in,) you’ll see a red or green dot.
Click on that if it’s red to toggle it to green.
Single guys profiles are routinely set to ‘out’ only. A bit like a cat flap.
It takes accurate positioning to click the right spot otherwise you simply open your inbox.
There you go; another fab secret revealed "
thanks Rachael |
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"If you look at the bottom left corner of your ‘inbox’ button, (zoom right in,) you’ll see a red or green dot.
Click on that if it’s red to toggle it to green.
Single guys profiles are routinely set to ‘out’ only. A bit like a cat flap.
It takes accurate positioning to click the right spot otherwise you simply open your inbox.
There you go; another fab secret revealed thanks Rachael "
You’re very welcome.  |
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"If you look at the bottom left corner of your ‘inbox’ button, (zoom right in,) you’ll see a red or green dot.
Click on that if it’s red to toggle it to green.
Single guys profiles are routinely set to ‘out’ only. A bit like a cat flap.
It takes accurate positioning to click the right spot otherwise you simply open your inbox.
There you go; another fab secret revealed thanks Rachael
You’re very welcome. "
Where's ones inbox button ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you look at the bottom left corner of your ‘inbox’ button, (zoom right in,) you’ll see a red or green dot.
Click on that if it’s red to toggle it to green.
Single guys profiles are routinely set to ‘out’ only. A bit like a cat flap.
It takes accurate positioning to click the right spot otherwise you simply open your inbox.
There you go; another fab secret revealed thanks Rachael
You’re very welcome.
Where's ones inbox button ?"
In the imagination of someone with nothing better to do than play cruel tricks on the naive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you look at the bottom left corner of your ‘inbox’ button, (zoom right in,) you’ll see a red or green dot.
Click on that if it’s red to toggle it to green.
Single guys profiles are routinely set to ‘out’ only. A bit like a cat flap.
It takes accurate positioning to click the right spot otherwise you simply open your inbox.
There you go; another fab secret revealed thanks Rachael
You’re very welcome.
Where's ones inbox button ?
In the imagination of someone with nothing better to do than play cruel tricks on the naive."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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. “Spinner” is something that I love doing on short female, what is “spinner”? is done on air and where men feel whole body and weight of the woman at the same time. Light weight woman I find more handable and great for....... Op reading your profile and I'm still confused as to what "spinner" actually is even after you explain it?? Can anyone else explain?  |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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"Still no replies guys, look at my profile and more suggestions please m."
Tbh, the fact you expect things to have changed within the space of a day or two of making changes suggests you really don’t “get” this site.
Blokes need patience - loads of it. Personally I think single guys should only message on the odd occasions they see someone where they’re really sure the match up - that can mean weeks, months even between messages. Maybe that’s a little extreme, but I’m pretty sure there’s loads of guys sending way too many messages.
Far better to get involved on here, get known for being a interesting person and a decent contributor to the forums etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude your profile needs an edit and a focus. There is waffle eg “you might think I am young...” - if someone wasn’t thinking that, they will now.
Be confident and assured
This is who I am
This is what I offer
This is what I am after
That’s it! |
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The truth is, you have several factors against you. You are a single man, and this site can be tough for single men. Asian men have an unfortunate reputation for being pushy - so a lot of couples/single women are wary about meeting them. And you are young and come across as quite inexperienced, which will also put people off.
Obviously you can't change these factors, but it means you are going to have to be patient.
Your profile is long and repetitive. You mention that condoms are necessary twice, and the hygienic thing at least three times.
You need to take out that bit about the face picture since you now have one as your main picture.
'Maybe I’m young therefore, many of you might not be interested however, give me a chance and I won’t disappoint.' - this needs to go. If people aren't interested based on your age, trying to persuade them to give you a chance just makes you seem like one of those pushy guys.
Personally I would drop the roleplay scenario. It's not likely anyone is going to read your profile and find that appealing. It's something to bring up after you have spoken to a couple and established interest. |
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"The truth is, you have several factors against you. You are a single man, and this site can be tough for single men. Asian men have an unfortunate reputation for being pushy - so a lot of couples/single women are wary about meeting them. And you are young and come across as quite inexperienced, which will also put people off.
Obviously you can't change these factors, but it means you are going to have to be patient.
Your profile is long and repetitive. You mention that condoms are necessary twice, and the hygienic thing at least three times.
You need to take out that bit about the face picture since you now have one as your main picture.
'Maybe I’m young therefore, many of you might not be interested however, give me a chance and I won’t disappoint.' - this needs to go. If people aren't interested based on your age, trying to persuade them to give you a chance just makes you seem like one of those pushy guys.
Personally I would drop the roleplay scenario. It's not likely anyone is going to read your profile and find that appealing. It's something to bring up after you have spoken to a couple and established interest. "
Will make those changes |
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"Dude your profile needs an edit and a focus. There is waffle eg “you might think I am young...” - if someone wasn’t thinking that, they will now.
Be confident and assured
This is who I am
This is what I offer
This is what I am after
That’s it! "
Ok will take that on board |
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"Still no replies guys, look at my profile and more suggestions please m.
Tbh, the fact you expect things to have changed within the space of a day or two of making changes suggests you really don’t “get” this site.
Blokes need patience - loads of it. Personally I think single guys should only message on the odd occasions they see someone where they’re really sure the match up - that can mean weeks, months even between messages. Maybe that’s a little extreme, but I’m pretty sure there’s loads of guys sending way too many messages.
Far better to get involved on here, get known for being a interesting person and a decent contributor to the forums etc. "
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". “Spinner” is something that I love doing on short female, what is “spinner”? is done on air and where men feel whole body and weight of the woman at the same time. Light weight woman I find more handable and great for....... Op reading your profile and I'm still confused as to what "spinner" actually is even after you explain it?? Can anyone else explain? "
I be clearer ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always going to be hard for young single lads. More so if you’re asian. A fair few profiles round where I live have no Asians on them. Their loss  but just stick with it. Listen to advice and common sense and you’ll be grand. |
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"Always going to be hard for young single lads. More so if you’re asian. A fair few profiles round where I live have no Asians on them. Their loss but just stick with it. Listen to advice and common sense and you’ll be grand. "
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