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"Put some pictures of the male on your profile " Basically this. Make your profile appealing to single fems. You say you want to share him - so unappealing. | |||
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"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit" This really isn’t the case. | |||
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"Put some pictures of the male on your profile " 100% this | |||
"Put some pictures of the male on your profile 100% this" Do u Think thats where were going wrong too? Boo X | |||
"We’ve had two ffm meets, both times the ladies approached us first. One was in a club just chatting in the sauna. The other was on another site similar to this one, where a lady liked a picture of us. Just be patient it does happen." Totally agree with the above, especially about clubs. We go to clubs to socialise with people. Sometimes we end up talking to single women and end up playing. Its also a patience / numbers game. Single women especially get loads of messages and interest. | |||
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"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " 5 months and not a single meet on a couples profile  something fishy about that   ladies will do as they please on the terms they want,it's all about communication decency and just seeing how you get along,importantly it has to work 3 ways and have the attraction 3 ways that's where most fail x | |||
"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " Perhaps make those females feel interested? I  | |||
"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " We have several single female friends we meet regularly and have met many others over the years. We met most of them at clubs, parties and socials. We've found it the most successful and reliable way to allow women to see our dynamic as a couple, how we'll all get on together and if she is compatible with us...they also get to know that we don't want a performing seal...works for us | |||
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"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " Just keep looking as it’s not easy as we found out but you just have to click with someone so it’s not just aimless | |||
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"In the meantime rocking horse shit seems easier " One of the biggest problems we found was a female who is Bi and fancies playing with both of you. Mr looks like Shrek in all our photos, but is better looking in real life, hence why we have a bit more luck in clubs. Look at it from a single ladies view, she knows she’s in demand and can pick and choose who ever she wants rather than the other way round. | |||
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"I've done a few with the right people. It's great. " They are great fun, but I think they are the one that everybody wants, so sorting them isn’t always easy! | |||
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"I've done a few with the right people. It's great. They are great fun, but I think they are the one that everybody wants, so sorting them isn’t always easy!" Very true and I still see the couples as well we've become good friends. X | |||
"OP you haven't commented on this thread or made any changes to your profile so why did you ask for our advice? " This | |||
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"Plus not many females me included is going to be anyone's 3rd wheel and there to put a show on for hubby! I won't meet couples now because of that! " We don’t meet ladies as a third wheel, however we do enjoy lady-lady play before we get down to business! Not for a show just because it’s part of the play! | |||
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"In the meantime rocking horse shit seems easier One of the biggest problems we found was a female who is Bi and fancies playing with both of you. Mr looks like Shrek in all our photos, but is better looking in real life, hence why we have a bit more luck in clubs.i absolutely 100% agree with u. Single ladies have the cream of pickings. Maybe we just try a club. My man's gorgeous tbh xx Look at it from a single ladies view, she knows she’s in demand and can pick and choose who ever she wants rather than the other way round." | |||
"I like FFM. Most of my veri's are of this nature. Usually couples Ive played with introduce me to couples they know and have played with. Most times this works as we seem to be of a similar mindset. "Who doesn’t like FFM?! X | |||
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"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " library  | |||
"I like FFM. Most of my veri's are of this nature. Usually couples Ive played with introduce me to couples they know and have played with. Most times this works as we seem to be of a similar mindset. "They are lots of fun. | |||
"Put some pictures of the male on your profile 100% this Do u Think thats where were going wrong too? Boo X" Was just thinking the same  mr doesnt like pics though x | |||
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"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " Find a couple where they state they play separate. Mrs Littlesox doesn't mind helping another couple out!! | |||
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"Interested in replies to this post as well. Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples! " Ironic.... | |||
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"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking. Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. " Yeah we are too. Or you ask for a face pic and they are gone | |||
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"We’ve managed it twice in the two & bit years we’ve been into this, one off here & one from another source. Excellent time had by all. We class ourselves very lucky to have managed this especially with how hard it is to get another one sorted. Many false dawns & let down have damped my enthusiasm for it but not my fella’s lol. (Can’t think why!?) if you do find the perfect way to make this happen regularly please let us know how. lol good luck" We’ve found foursomes work best in place of, not as much fun but awesome all the same! | |||
"We’ve managed it twice in the two & bit years we’ve been into this, one off here & one from another source. Excellent time had by all. We class ourselves very lucky to have managed this especially with how hard it is to get another one sorted. Many false dawns & let down have damped my enthusiasm for it but not my fella’s lol. (Can’t think why!?) if you do find the perfect way to make this happen regularly please let us know how. lol good luck We’ve found foursomes work best in place of, not as much fun but awesome all the same!" We’ve had lots of interest from couples so I can understand where you’re coming from, but that’s just not our thing. | |||
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"Pretty much impossible" When I was a couple we often had FFM at clubs | |||
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"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club " exactly it remains the most difficult meet yet | |||
"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club " I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away | |||
"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " More pictures of both of you, and put some proper thought into your profile text. As a single female I have just read your text and to be honest it sounds like it has been written by a man looking to watch on - such an off put for many. | |||
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"Interested in replies to this post as well. Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples! Ironic...." No not really, perhaps she does her own searching? | |||
"Interested in replies to this post as well. Found it typical that a single lady in here loves meeting couples but when we tried to message, had blocked all couples! " its about message levels many women don't even attempt to keep up with their inbox .....just another way of coping | |||
"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away " Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here. | |||
"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here." We are not doing it to please one half of us, it’s for all parties pleasure & fun . We are the non drama couple but still we struggle for meets. Although we do understand how hard it must be for singles meetings a couple. Both of the ladies who have joined us were so driven & confident so we was lucky. | |||
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"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here." No drama couple here too. | |||
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"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol We have several single female friends we meet regularly and have met many others over the years. We met most of them at clubs, parties and socials. We've found it the most successful and reliable way to allow women to see our dynamic as a couple, how we'll all get on together and if she is compatible with us...they also get to know that we don't want a performing seal...works for us" Nail, head, done. | |||
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"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time. "Good choice works for me too | |||
"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time. "We do that, However lady play has always started first? | |||
so she knows she's going to be an equal partner in an all involved threesome.
It's hard for a single lady to be sure of a couple in pictures and messages!
Bun
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"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time.
We do that, However lady play has always started first?"It doesn't have to be that way, I'd be put off with being expected to play with lady first to be honest. | |||
"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here. We are not doing it to please one half of us, it’s for all parties pleasure & fun . We are the non drama couple but still we struggle for meets. Although we do understand how hard it must be for singles meetings a couple. Both of the ladies who have joined us were so driven & confident so we was lucky. " Yes a few couples have said that to me 'oh we are drama free' still dealing with the fall out from their shitty relationships. Im sure there maybe one or two genuine drama free couples out there. Now add attraction into the mix and you are looking for something v rare. | |||
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"Put some pictures of the male on your profile " There are some under the friends only link. Will pop some on the public profile too | |||
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"We've struggled so far, had foursomes etc but rarely even seen a single fem at a club I've been the single woman in a club and found a lot of women in couples shyed away Alot of insecure people out there. Often find women in couples are weary of single fems as they feel like we will 'steal' their man. It's usually the man behind pursuing fems and the woman in the couple is just doing it to keep the man happy. Experienced single fems sense this and keep away. More like it's the perfect couple that is hard to find for fems. Drama free and just out for fun is v rare on here. We are not doing it to please one half of us, it’s for all parties pleasure & fun . We are the non drama couple but still we struggle for meets. Although we do understand how hard it must be for singles meetings a couple. Both of the ladies who have joined us were so driven & confident so we was lucky. Yes a few couples have said that to me 'oh we are drama free' still dealing with the fall out from their shitty relationships. Im sure there maybe one or two genuine drama free couples out there. Now add attraction into the mix and you are looking for something v rare." We can’t speak for anyone else, so can’t & wont comment on that. What I will say we did all our talking long before we got to a meeting stage to make sure it was what we both wanted. Nobody knows until they have been through it how they are going to feel after the fun but we can safely say we sur_ived! lol. We are still looking for another meet but maybe not with the same vigour because it’s really hard work. Especially getting all 3 people to be attracted to each other. We are at the thinking if it happens it happens. | |||
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"I want to be enjoyed equally by the man and woman at the same time.
We do that, However lady play has always started first?
It doesn't have to be that way, I'd be put off with being expected to play with lady first to be honest. "Fair point, and we can understand it’s just how it’s always gone for us. Maybe we should change our tact! | |||
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"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then? And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account. " I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply. | |||
"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit This really isn’t the case." | |||
"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then? And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account. I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply. " We’ve had photos on the site of both of us, just him and just her and when we sent the messages we’ve only hidden the pictures in the last 2 days. We’ve had lots of verifications in the past but left the site so when we rejoined we had none and we played with the guy at a club and he left the verification so I would think this wasn’t the problem why they didn’t reply. We would like to think they might have replied with a not for me message not a straight delete, we reply to messages has think it only polite to. | |||
"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking. Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. " I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. | |||
"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking. Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. " We certainly wouldn't be rude to you x | |||
"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking. Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. We certainly wouldn't be rude to you x" why thankyou xx | |||
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"I feel your pain. Finding the elusive straight couple for a straight ffm is absolutely bastard hard work. For the ‘huh? Straight ffm??’ questions, it’s where 2 likeminded ladies completely ruin a chap. Leave him shaking and drained whilst we high five over a glass of wine. It’s a lot of fun. " I'm sure many bi ladies would also play straight wouldn't they. I know I would a bi female isn't essential. | |||
"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking. Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. " We wouldn’t be rude, those that are are either up thier own arse or not really interested. Don’t worry about them they are not worth the mobile data. | |||
"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then? And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account. I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply. We’ve had photos on the site of both of us, just him and just her and when we sent the messages we’ve only hidden the pictures in the last 2 days. We’ve had lots of verifications in the past but left the site so when we rejoined we had none and we played with the guy at a club and he left the verification so I would think this wasn’t the problem why they didn’t reply. We would like to think they might have replied with a not for me message not a straight delete, we reply to messages has think it only polite to. " Don’t beat yourself up about it! Some people just don’t have time to reply so deleting is quicker....and some people do not have the manners that others do....if it is a no....whether straight delete or polite refusal...then just crack on and message the next person....there will be someone out there....it is just finding them x | |||
"We sent 50 messages to single profile accounts 48 was a instant delete and 2 replied one saying “I only meet with the husband “ is it not better to have a couples account then? And the other chatted a little then decided to delete the account. I would suggest that your lack of pics and that your only veification is from a man is why most single women didn't reply. We’ve had photos on the site of both of us, just him and just her and when we sent the messages we’ve only hidden the pictures in the last 2 days. We’ve had lots of verifications in the past but left the site so when we rejoined we had none and we played with the guy at a club and he left the verification so I would think this wasn’t the problem why they didn’t reply. We would like to think they might have replied with a not for me message not a straight delete, we reply to messages has think it only polite to. Don’t beat yourself up about it! Some people just don’t have time to reply so deleting is quicker....and some people do not have the manners that others do....if it is a no....whether straight delete or polite refusal...then just crack on and message the next person....there will be someone out there....it is just finding them x"
Thank for that, we’ve just removed the pictures and taken a step back for now it has knocked us a little, we thought about sending them another message just in case it was a bulk delete but then don’t want to be like we are then pestering them, they never even looked at our profile anyway. But we might carry on like you said there might be something one day. | |||
" we’ve just removed the pictures and taken a step back for now it has knocked us a little, we thought about sending them another message just in case it was a bulk delete but then don’t want to be like we are then pestering them, they never even looked at our profile anyway. But we might carry on like you said there might be something one day. " I think you will be more likely to get replies from single women if you put it in your profile text. At present it says you are only looking for single white men. | |||
"A ffm has been something we have wanted to try since we joined but quickly realised that it was something that was unlikely to happen anytime soon and so stopped looking. Don't know about anybody else but when we get contact by a single female we are immediately suspicious and so probably put them off. I've had this quite a bit, people seem desperate for a female to join them, when I message they're rude. No win for anybody.. We wouldn’t be rude, those that are are either up thier own arse or not really interested. Don’t worry about them they are not worth the mobile data." And this attitude attracts single fems??? | |||
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"Does anyone have any suggestions? Lol " Make the extra fem feel included, it's not just about you and your fantasy. Find out what she wants from the experience. Be clear when messaging who she is talking to at the time. Often I have had a great chat with the female and then the male comes on and pretends to be the female to keep the conversation going but it's obviously a guy. This is why I only meet couples when I'm out. Too confusing trying to get to know two different people on one profile. | |||
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"I feel your pain. Finding the elusive straight couple for a straight ffm is absolutely bastard hard work. For the ‘huh? Straight ffm??’ questions, it’s where 2 likeminded ladies completely ruin a chap. Leave him shaking and drained whilst we high five over a glass of wine. It’s a lot of fun. I'm sure many bi ladies would also play straight wouldn't they. I know I would a bi female isn't essential. " I wouldn’t rule this out if I clicked with the couple. I’d be upfront enough to outline my wants and expectations. | |||
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"Thanks for these comments they have been really helpful. We do go to clubs and social and have made a lot of friends so we will just be patient and hope for the best. We do play with couples too so plenty of fun to be had in the meantime. Oh any if anyone has any suggestions on improving our profile then that's great too x" Hi ur profile looks great to me. Lots of sexy pics and the FF pics are a bonus. Something i definatly look for wen looking for couples. Ur profile is very good and u sound really polite and respectful. Hope this helps | |||
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"Hi everyone, im jen. Im a single female who prefers to play with couples. One thing i find hard is local couples and with work commitments and a son at home i struggle for free play time. Everyone is different wen it comes to meets, some want a last minute meet, others are too far away and others pressure for hotel meets. I read someones comments about club meets due to safety and i completly agree, im a single woman and dont know wot im walking into so club meets are a deffo for me plus it gives u time to chat and see if theres a mutual attraction. Ive heard unicorns are hard to come by but there are lots of us!! Ive met quite a few couples are they are lots of fun!!!" We only do club meets too, we totally understand why a single woman would feel uncomfortable meeting at some strangers house or a hotel. Unrealistic in our opinion to do it any other way. | |||
"Thanks for these comments they have been really helpful. We do go to clubs and social and have made a lot of friends so we will just be patient and hope for the best. We do play with couples too so plenty of fun to be had in the meantime. Oh any if anyone has any suggestions on improving our profile then that's great too x Hi ur profile looks great to me. Lots of sexy pics and the FF pics are a bonus. Something i definatly look for wen looking for couples. Ur profile is very good and u sound really polite and respectful. Hope this helps "Thank you for taking the time to comment and look at our profile. We will continue to be patient and see how we go. Ps if you were closer we would send you a message | |||
"A lady friend told me she went and met a couple and as they started to play she was left out and she just got up and left . I believe it's very hard to meet a single lady to join a couple . " that is awful, no one should be left out of any meet it should be all about equal fun for all and everyone leaving happy and fulfilled.
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"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit This really isn’t the case." | |||
"Give up. More chance of finding rocking horse shit This really isn’t the case. "No its not the case at all, I'm more than happy to meet couples, the only problem being is that they don't read my profile, and expect me to change my preferences for them, when I politely say no thanks a lot of the time I get the male half turning nasty. So pretty much given up on meeting new ones.  | |||
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