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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Help or advice needed.
I’m a single guy looking for FF or MFF fun but find it difficult meeting people on here. Not been to a club event and need guidance or help meeting people.
Not into men or TV/TS and not a bad looking chap with decent build and pretty ve.
Anyone interested or at least give some guidance.
Location is Chichester but can travel within reason. |
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Mate get yourself down to a club.
It’s the best way to meet People and get verified.
Don’t expect to play at a club though. Just be friendly, chat, flirt and if you manage to play it’s an added bonus.
Hapoy swinging |
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Your profile is a major turn off. I 'do' couples. Really? And your status  . What were your expectations of this site? Why did you join and what have you heard the ladies and couples that you want to 'do' are after? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is a major turn off. I 'do' couples. Really? And your status . What were your expectations of this site? Why did you join and what have you heard the ladies and couples that you want to 'do' are after?"
Not a pleasant profile tbh. We wish we got a quid for each of these threads and an extra quid for the number of guys that fail to search the forum and find the 12 billion other threads on this topic.
The wording is bad. You need to check out the bloke profiles that have had quite a few verifications for pointers to set your profile out. |
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You have more words in the pointless, unenforceable 'legal' paragraph that you have copied from elsewhere, than you have on your profile.
Straight away that comes across as you don't want to put the effort in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for the feedback I have changed this profile "
Its worse hun. Take the pointless legal bit out and try to get a bit more of your personality/humour across whilst putting what you are looking for, what you can offer and why you're here. Oh, and smile  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Changed it again.
Pretty straight forward. Didn’t know what to write but see if this helps and now isn’t too in for face "
To be honest OP it's no different from hundreds of other single male profiles on here and doesn't really sell you well at all - you need to stamp your personality across it.
You mention you're a "decent size" twice and in all honesty for most on here size really doesn't matter - sure there are a few who prefer VWE etc and if you fall into that category perhaps you should say so rather than "decent" after all one person's "decent" may be very different from another's.
The general thrust of the profile appears to be about you and what you want - should also consider including something that tells a reader what you think you can offer and why they'd want to meet you over the next guy.
Your pics aren't the best either - try playing around with the timer feature on your phone camera to take some that aren't you in front of a mirror holding your phone - look at other single guy profiles to get ideas for the kind of pic that works 
Finally you've only been here 5 weeks which is no time at all in Fab terms - it .ca. take time and patience to get a meet - in the meantime consider organised socials or clubs as a way of meeting people or even getting more involved in the forums which is a great way to spark conversations |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm assuming you are referring to your cock and not you when you say decent size and thick??! 
Its better than it was and having a face pic always helps but please smile hun! |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Changed it again.
Pretty straight forward. Didn’t know what to write but see if this helps and now isn’t too in for face "
Do you know what "UCC 1-103 1-308 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED WITHOUT PREJUDICE." means? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Changed it again.
Pretty straight forward. Didn’t know what to write but see if this helps and now isn’t too in for face
Do you know what "UCC 1-103 1-308 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED WITHOUT PREJUDICE." means? "
Is it Up Cunt Cock and the numbers references to measurements of both? XXX |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol I’m not doing to well. Anyway final change and been myself. Like it or not it’s staying as this now. Thanks all for your comments as much appreciated |
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"Lol I’m not doing to well. Anyway final change and been myself. Like it or not it’s staying as this now. Thanks all for your comments as much appreciated "
Smashing, it tells me everything I need to know. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Lol I’m not doing to well. Anyway final change and been myself. Like it or not it’s staying as this now. Thanks all for your comments as much appreciated "
Much better and have to say it's good to see someone actually take the advice offered on board and act on it - all too often people spend time providing advice for it to be ignored completely only for the requester to come back asking the same thing a few weeks later.
One minor thing I'd remove is the reference to Richard from the Undateables - know it was meant humorously but given the nature of the programme some might see a comment like that as offensive. |
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Delete the line that starts "Decent size and thick...." It sounds like you are bragging, and most women really aren't bothered about cock size.
Also delete all the text under the "Safe sex......" line, as it's mostly just repetition.
See how that reads then fella, good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Bad advice, I want to know if a potential meet is 420 friendly.
Me too it’s one of my personal filters "
Fair enough |
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I will give this guy some credit be has actually listened to the critism and done something about it,he even had the decency to pm me and thank me for the advice... Good luck fella but its still not going to be easy for you, at the end of the day there are a lot of single guys on here you are one of many ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too "
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users . |
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users ."
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it."
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What are you all trying to do?? They should just be themselves an write what they want an what makes them happy.
No wonder so many lie on profile s it’s because of all the helpful comments on here.  |
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets "
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a man's attitude that's attractive .lots of people I have been put off by moaning status updates .Moaning threads or hello look at me threads .its all a bit childish behaviour in my opinion .All funny too read but i wouldn't meet them .Moaning doesn't get you anywhere . Unless in bed naked with a hunky man |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is."
Lets face it anyway..you have to believe what you want to believe on someones profile ..it's like someone saying they are single when in fact they are married..you would never know ..someone may not put on their profile they are 420 friendly yet puff away on a daily basis you would never know unless they turned up stinking of the stuff .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve changed this profile numerous times and am now finally happy with it
Can’t please everyone but do appreciate the comments
No more changes needed as happy and lots more people looking at me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is."
Plus the guy posted this for advice so thats is what we have done but it could advice or not ..so maybe he should have not asked for it and just did his own thing in his profile in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve changed this profile numerous times and am now finally happy with it
Can’t please everyone but do appreciate the comments
No more changes needed as happy and lots more people looking at me "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...
One minor thing I'd remove is the reference to Richard from the Undateables - know it was meant humorously but given the nature of the programme some might see a comment like that as offensive. "
Yeah, making fun of an autistic person actually isn’t minor in a lot of people’s books. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is.
Plus the guy posted this for advice so thats is what we have done but it could advice or not ..so maybe he should have not asked for it and just did his own thing in his profile in the first place "
Plus the guy posted this for advice so that's is what we have done be it good advice or not ..so maybe he should have not asked for it and just did his own thing in his profile in the first place
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is.
Lets face it anyway..you have to believe what you want to believe on someones profile ..it's like someone saying they are single when in fact they are married..you would never know ..someone may not put on their profile they are 420 friendly yet puff away on a daily basis you would never know unless they turned up stinking of the stuff .."
Exactly, which is why I want to know so I don't waste all that time arranging meets only to recoil at the smell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is.
Lets face it anyway..you have to believe what you want to believe on someones profile ..it's like someone saying they are single when in fact they are married..you would never know ..someone may not put on their profile they are 420 friendly yet puff away on a daily basis you would never know unless they turned up stinking of the stuff ..
Exactly, which is why I want to know so I don't waste all that time arranging meets only to recoil at the smell."
Yes but some might not declare it anyway ..so what do you do then..just like they say they are not married but in fact there are ..surely you can ask if they like to 420 in the messages you send .I thought declaring the use of drugs was not allowed on here anyway |
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is.
Lets face it anyway..you have to believe what you want to believe on someones profile ..it's like someone saying they are single when in fact they are married..you would never know ..someone may not put on their profile they are 420 friendly yet puff away on a daily basis you would never know unless they turned up stinking of the stuff ..
Exactly, which is why I want to know so I don't waste all that time arranging meets only to recoil at the smell.
Yes but some might not declare it anyway ..so what do you do then..just like they say they are not married but in fact there are ..surely you can ask if they like to 420 in the messages you send .I thought declaring the use of drugs was not allowed on here anyway"
Ther's loads here that isn't allowed but it carries on anyway, especially the photos.
The point is he had it on his profile until you told him having it there will reduce his chances of getting laid.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would deffo get rid of the 420 friendly part too
Not everyone wants to meet somebody that uses drugs and it could put people off .. and some don't mind as pointed out ..but I would say it might limit your meets chances in the end.. but if that is what you are into and want to meet folks who are into it too than as pointed out it was bad advice from me(Mike)..but personally we would not meet drug users .
Which is why it's bad advice to remove it.
And that is why I admit I have given bad advice ..leave it for those who use drugs and leave it on for those that do not ..but it will either way reduce his chances of meets
Could we not just encourage people to be who they really are in profiles and stop giving them advice to change into something they really aren't?
Of course it will reduce his chances of meeting, it also increases wasting time and effort in trying to find out who he really is.
Lets face it anyway..you have to believe what you want to believe on someones profile ..it's like someone saying they are single when in fact they are married..you would never know ..someone may not put on their profile they are 420 friendly yet puff away on a daily basis you would never know unless they turned up stinking of the stuff ..
Exactly, which is why I want to know so I don't waste all that time arranging meets only to recoil at the smell.
Yes but some might not declare it anyway ..so what do you do then..just like they say they are not married but in fact there are ..surely you can ask if they like to 420 in the messages you send .I thought declaring the use of drugs was not allowed on here anyway
Ther's loads here that isn't allowed but it carries on anyway, especially the photos.
The point is he had it on his profile until you told him having it there will reduce his chances of getting laid.
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I did say I was wrong giving that advice to him if that is what he is in to,but that is what I thought at the time and still do,but obviously it does not work for others ..unfortunately I am not perfect and probably not the only person to give out the wrong advice if it is in posts like this,I do apologise.. .. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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All advice is appreciated. I have removed 420 comment and seem to be getting lots of views. Not so many messages or invites but need more verifications I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All advice is appreciated. I have removed 420 comment and seem to be getting lots of views. Not so many messages or invites but need more verifications I suppose "
People are looking because you’ve posted in this thread they are just having a snout, if they are interested they will message |
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