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By *illowz OP Woman
over a year ago
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I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? |
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over a year ago
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It's a tricky one. Some people make it easy to read on their profile that they also do single meets. Plus direct you to their single profiles. This is something we do.
But there will always be the sly people who try to go behind their partners back.
I think it's about staying alert for the bullshit if possible? |
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "
We get this too. Wife is away, unwell, at work, dead, non existent etc. We always decline on the grounds that we'll only play with a couple as a couple. In reality it's because of our doubts as to whether or not the profile is genuine. As has already been said a lot of single males pose as a couple hoping to increase their chances of a meet. Even verifications can be dodgy.
See if he'll let you chat with the female half. If it's a barrage of excuses or he goes quiet then you'll know it's most likely a fake profile. |
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "
I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP
MrsK xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stay safe. There are plenty of guy masquerading as couples. Insist on speaking with the lady first.
We never play alone, if it was requested then i'd want to speak to you, or have some kind of reasurrance. Afterall safety works both ways, i'm trusting you with one of the most precious people in my life, not given up so easily. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get messages from so called couples saying.. I want to surprise my hubby by allowing him to fuck another woman without me being there ..would you up for it..We always say yeah, we would consider it..can we phone you (the female) to confirm it's not just the male of the couple or it's not really just a single guy account trying it on..needless to say we never get another message back or a phone number to call.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our case I’m interested to see SB with another woman (although we are only FBs and not in a relationship he has his own profile and so can meet seperately if he wishes) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP
MrsK xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP
MrsK xx"
Same with me and my husband. I'm very happy for him to go play solo if the chance comes along.
If in doubt, ask to speak to the female half to confirm x |
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP
MrsK xx"
Same here ! |
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I been told that countless times ! My reply in no ! Because a couple is a couple , not half ! If the wife will be there fine ! I am not so keen to meet couples , the reason being is a lot are just friends with benefits . And I rather meet a married couple with a solid relationship , trust and openness! Usually is more fun ! Be careful ask to speak with the wife , if he has permission. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get messaged asking for this quite a lot, another one this morning. There are so many single men on here (who come with their own challenges of course as 90% of them aren't actually single) that it is just not worth the potential hassle of playing with one half of a partnership. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you be ok with meeting a married man if his wife didn't know? If so just meet them. 
No not really. I usually turn them down"
Treat “couples” profiles the same unless you can have phone contact with mrs...or maybe see them both on cam. Not all “couples” are what they seem! I’m sure you know what I mean.
Or meet single guys....lots of them about (but not always single?) |
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It’s rare we meet sexually alone, but we both have full permission to if we are away on holidays or somewhere where we aren’t together. Most of our fun involves us being together though. We have both FaceTimed / video messaged on kik with other fab users before meets as well to give permission |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm allowed to play by myself with Mrs marmites permission... if anyone wanted to ask her first then that wouldn't be a problem as we are both 100% genuine and have nothing to hide from each other. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"It's a tricky one. Some people make it easy to read on their profile that they also do single meets. Plus direct you to their single profiles. This is something we do.
But there will always be the sly people who try to go behind their partners back.
I think it's about staying alert for the bullshit if possible?"
..there are genuine people out there not everyone is at it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we get a couple message us saying the male half is allowed to meet us and play alone we ask if the 2 females can chat on the phone to confirm this , 99% of the time we dont hear from again "
This exactly. |
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I am a 'married' single and play on Fab without my wife's knowledge. Many will say I am a cheat or worse but our marriage has been virtually sexless since the birth of our children (now in their late 30s). My wife simply lost all interest but also found penetrative sex very uncomfortable. We explored all the possible medical causes for her discomfort, lack of interest and pleasure but in her case the desire for sex never returned. Of course this caused me much angst but I took great care in my efforts to arouse her and to awaken her lost sexuality. Sadly although we were (are) a great partnership, proud of what we have achieved at work and of our children and grandchildren and with many common interests I began to feel rejected as a man and the marriage became a very strained affair. We did go to Relate where the counsellor was impressed by my efforts to woo my wife but she (my wife) eventually said that it would be of 'no consequence to her if she never had sex again'. After that I continued to try but it felt as if it was something I was doing to her and my head said stop; don't subject her to an act without enjoyment for her but which she occasionally allowed out of no more than loyalty. The marriage has subsequently been sexless but I didn't want to end our partnership and all that meant in terms of family.
Then more than 10 years ago swinging found me (not the other way round). On a skiing holiday on my own I was 'befriended' by a couple staying in the hotel and after being invited to eat with them a couple of evenings I was invited to play with the wife whilst hubby watched. It was amazing and the lady was very complimentary of my 'warm up skills' long refined in my attempts to arouse my wife.
After the holiday I did not go in pursuit of the lifestyle for some time. Eventually I told my wife about the skiing encounter and her reaction surprised me. I was told that if I had to I should seek my pleasures elsewhere BUT I was not to embarrass her, family or friends, I was not to put my health at risk and I was not to fall in love and finally she didn't want to know anything about it. It was shortly after this I visited Quest in Leeds and joined Fab. As a married, older man I don't attract a lot of interest but at least I have the excitement of the chase and have had the occasional success (thank you - you know who you are). I appreciate there are a lot of cheats on here but the lifestyle only truly works where there is openness and honesty, please don't condem all married men. It's not always as simple a cheating! Alan
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP
MrsK xx"
Same here. G & I both play separately and as a couple. He regularly chats to a number of different ladies, he has played with some of them & would like to play with the others - but he also likes the chat & the banter. We have a rule that we only chat on Fab so that we are both included in conversations, or at least can keep a track of what’s happening - not from a trust perspective, but because we enjoy each other flirting, playing etc and we enjoy telling each other about it.
If you have any doubts OP, then back away. I’d be comfortable to chat on Kik with a lady that G was chatting to if she wanted to, so if you’re not happy & think it’s a single guy, go with your gut!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been asked several times to play with the male half, but to be honest it's not worth the hassle. There are plenty of single men on here who want to meet instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I get this quite often. My opinion is that most of these "couples" are actually married men who would love to have a wife that would join, but she has no idea she is half of a couple on here.
I'd say that's far worse than cheating and potentially falls foul of the revenge porn legislation, but that's just my opinion. |
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"We get messages from so called couples saying.. I want to surprise my hubby by allowing him to fuck another woman without me being there ..would you up for it..We always say yeah, we would consider it..can we phone you (the female) to confirm it's not just the male of the couple or it's not really just a single guy account trying it on..needless to say we never get another message back or a phone number to call.."
I get this all time. It's usually always just a single guy trying to get rounds filters and get your attention. Id rather they were honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We get messages from so called couples saying.. I want to surprise my hubby by allowing him to fuck another woman without me being there ..would you up for it..We always say yeah, we would consider it..can we phone you (the female) to confirm it's not just the male of the couple or it's not really just a single guy account trying it on..needless to say we never get another message back or a phone number to call..
I get this all time. It's usually always just a single guy trying to get rounds filters and get your attention. Id rather they were honest."
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If the guy wants to meet on his own he should have a single guys profile and message from there and allow the lady the ability to decide what her response is
Of course mention the couples profile in that as well so people can look if they’re interested and check veris etc but looking for single meets off a couples profile is always a risky game |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I am a 'married' single and play on Fab without my wife's knowledge. Many will say I am a cheat or worse but our marriage has been virtually sexless since the birth of our children (now in their late 30s). My wife simply lost all interest but also found penetrative sex very uncomfortable. We explored all the possible medical causes for her discomfort, lack of interest and pleasure but in her case the desire for sex never returned. Of course this caused me much angst but I took great care in my efforts to arouse her and to awaken her lost sexuality. Sadly although we were (are) a great partnership, proud of what we have achieved at work and of our children and grandchildren and with many common interests I began to feel rejected as a man and the marriage became a very strained affair. We did go to Relate where the counsellor was impressed by my efforts to woo my wife but she (my wife) eventually said that it would be of 'no consequence to her if she never had sex again'. After that I continued to try but it felt as if it was something I was doing to her and my head said stop; don't subject her to an act without enjoyment for her but which she occasionally allowed out of no more than loyalty. The marriage has subsequently been sexless but I didn't want to end our partnership and all that meant in terms of family.
Then more than 10 years ago swinging found me (not the other way round). On a skiing holiday on my own I was 'befriended' by a couple staying in the hotel and after being invited to eat with them a couple of evenings I was invited to play with the wife whilst hubby watched. It was amazing and the lady was very complimentary of my 'warm up skills' long refined in my attempts to arouse my wife.
After the holiday I did not go in pursuit of the lifestyle for some time. Eventually I told my wife about the skiing encounter and her reaction surprised me. I was told that if I had to I should seek my pleasures elsewhere BUT I was not to embarrass her, family or friends, I was not to put my health at risk and I was not to fall in love and finally she didn't want to know anything about it. It was shortly after this I visited Quest in Leeds and joined Fab. As a married, older man I don't attract a lot of interest but at least I have the excitement of the chase and have had the occasional success (thank you - you know who you are). I appreciate there are a lot of cheats on here but the lifestyle only truly works where there is openness and honesty, please don't condem all married men. It's not always as simple a cheating! Alan
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Your honesty is a refreshing change, good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "
Some guys lie. They claim to be a couple or that they can accommodate. We will play separate with a separate guy/female from a couple but we ALL must meet for a social first.
Also, we will meet single guys but they must accommodate. They ask for a hotel meet instead. That's a no so we press if they can actually accommodate. Turns out as a no, they have kids stopping etc.. Happened again the other week.
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "
A gorgeous girl like you, I'm sure the single guys are queuing round the block. So concentrate on those and don't bother with dodgy messages from one half of a couple. That is like advertising a pair of spectacles but only getting a monocle ... wtf? |
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
We get this too. Wife is away, unwell, at work, dead, non existent etc. We always decline on the grounds that we'll only play with a couple as a couple. In reality it's because of our doubts as to whether or not the profile is genuine. As has already been said a lot of single males pose as a couple hoping to increase their chances of a meet. Even verifications can be dodgy.
See if he'll let you chat with the female half. If it's a barrage of excuses or he goes quiet then you'll know it's most likely a fake profile."
In all fairness it happened to me when I first joined here,I was that excited to actually get a reply and a meet I ever thought the possibility it could be a bloke not a couple.He even turned up and said he’d had to come straight from work and his mrs would be along in a bit.I was sat there making small talk I bet everyone in the club were falling about laughing. He said he was going to meet her taxi and never came back.But you’d be surprised how many fall for it and I often wonder wether he just preyed on desperate newbies. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "
Now if it was us it would be would you like to play with me and then if you wanted to play with Dick. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
I have to say in our case this would Be 100% true, I give full permission for MrP to play separately as it’s part of our dynamic. However I do believe there are a lot of fake profiles where it was never a couple to start with, just be careful OP
MrsK xx
Same with me and my husband. I'm very happy for him to go play solo if the chance comes along.
If in doubt, ask to speak to the female half to confirm x"
Or meet them both in a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am the male half and yes Linda has given me permission and also I have met with two ladies who have partners and they are happy for me to play with there partners. Both times they were filmed so there partners could watch it later |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the guy wants to meet on his own he should have a single guys profile and message from there and allow the lady the ability to decide what her response is
Of course mention the couples profile in that as well so people can look if they’re interested and check veris etc but looking for single meets off a couples profile is always a risky game "
Why?
Part of our dynamic is that we are included in the build up, the messaging, the anticipation of a meet for the other partner. I love the thrill of knowing G is going to a meet, the excitement of wondering how it’s all going & waiting to hear all the details afterwards. Same for him if I play alone.
It also means that there is complete transparency between us because we have had a single female try to create a bit of drama between us & play is off against each other after chatting with G on Kik, but then speaking with me on Fab. After that, we stopped using Kik, because if someone wants to play with either of us, they need to respect the fact that we are a couple.
I don’t see how separate profiles makes any difference. If someone doesn’t want to play with one half of a couple, masquerading as a single doesn’t change the fact you’re part of a couple! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The only way I suppose to confirm that everything is ok before you dip your toes with this scenario ?
Would be to social with both parties to confirm that it's for real ? |
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Totally agree with most of the above, we have lots of guys message us saying it ok for them to play and their wife knows. Or the wife messages asking if we would like her hubby to visit as shes busy/unwell/working/travelling/off sex at the moment/ or unable to get a babysitter ( yes all real).
We wont play with the male.half til weve met both. |
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It would be totally genuine in our case too, we would have no problem verifying via a Kik video chat or phonecall for the other half to meet separately. There are genuine people out there but as others have said it's best to look into it and stay safe.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice?
Some guys lie. They claim to be a couple or that they can accommodate. We will play separate with a separate guy/female from a couple but we ALL must meet for a social first.
Also, we will meet single guys but they must accommodate. They ask for a hotel meet instead. That's a no so we press if they can actually accommodate. Turns out as a no, they have kids stopping etc.. Happened again the other week.
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Exactly the same in my experience too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm new here. I'm a single girl and have been messaged by couples asking if I would be interested in playing with the male half but with permission from the female half.
Is this normal? I really don't want to upset anyone. Any advice? "
We have no problems doing solo meets it’s not on our profile as it’s not something we actively seek often. We both are happy for the other to meet solo and we would also be happy to confirm this with a phone call or a social meet with both of us before hand. Any genuine couples that are happy with the other meeting solo would be more than happy to confirm they know and are happy with it. |
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