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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
You Dont Need to Know, right now |
Another vote for Swingers Clubs, from me.
If you make a private arrangement at a hotel or attend a house party, you might feel that there is some pressure in the atmosphere, which is NOT what you want, when you're just beginning. For information, I would suggest browsing the website of La Chambre in Sheffield, which has pages and pages of advice on what to wear, how people should conduct themselves, advice for singles and couples as well. Then use the Clubs pages on here, to find a good club near you.
Give them a call, to get up to date details on things such as which nights are couples only, which nights you can expect single men to be admitted, etc. When you get there, mention that you're new, and the staff should give you a tour of the facilities, remind you of the rules (e.g. no touching without asking etc) introduce you to some of the regulars, and maybe check in with you once or twice, to make sure you're enjoying the experience.
Don't plan on playing on your first visit - I actually went further and planned NOT to play, to make sure I didn't do something that I would regret later. As you doubtless know, make sure your boundaries are agreed between the two of you, before you go in.
At the end of the day, just enjoy the experience, soak up the atmosphere, maybe watch the action in the public areas, use the pool or Jacuzzi or sauna, be chatty and friendly, and above all TELL people that you're new. You will find that clubs are full of more experienced couples who are delighted to help new people find the right way for them. Good luck! |
but it all seemed to happen naturally with no pressure from anyone else to do more than we felt comfortable.
For us it was the perfect introduction to swinging. 
That sparked a deep and honest conversation about what we'd found so exciting and what our fantasies were.
We visited our first club a few months later and found we had a real passion for being watched and watching. Like you, op, we had (and still have) so many questions about swinging and what others may think about us and our comfort levels.
We've been lucky enough to meet some fantastic people of different experience levels who've been so great in terms of guiding us. We've also met total newbies who were as wide-eyed and nervous as we were so we've been able to offer our own support too. 