FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swinging Support and Advice > Here we go again
Here we go again
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
"
this site is different things for different people,some find it a more honest environment to find a life partner ,some just come for a chat ,some come for NSA and some come for sex but to like and socialise with the people they meet,everyone eats sometimes its nice to eat with company  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
this site is different things for different people,some find it a more honest environment to find a life partner ,some just come for a chat ,some come for NSA and some come for sex but to like and socialise with the people they meet,everyone eats sometimes its nice to eat with company "
I get that ... wish people would accept someone's wish and let them be |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If you've said no thanks why keep replying to them?
I don't.After the millionth message I block.
"
We use to reply saying no thanks. But people would never leave it at that now we just delete message if they send a second we block them. Saves so much drama. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"If you've said no thanks why keep replying to them?
I don't.After the millionth message I block.
Just block after the first one now.. easy!"
Yeah suppose |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"If you've said no thanks why keep replying to them?
I don't.After the millionth message I block.
Just block after the first one now.. easy!"
But then we wouldn't have anything to post on the forum about. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple?  "
she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
"
not everyone here is the same |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
not everyone here is the same "
Oh I know  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that "
Using the block button doesn't make you a nasty person. it's not a weapon of mass destruction. But it does stop people having something to whine about i guess!
Jeez the mentality on here sometimes baffles me.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
Using the block button doesn't make you a nasty person. it's not a weapon of mass destruction. But it does stop people having something to whine about i guess!
Jeez the mentality on here sometimes baffles me. "
yours baffles me |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
Using the block button doesn't make you a nasty person. it's not a weapon of mass destruction. But it does stop people having something to whine about i guess!
Jeez the mentality on here sometimes baffles me. "
site rules are their as a buffet for the age old problem of too many messages ,doesn't make it right to be rude and not reply or block and not reply ,just makes it easier for your conscience |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
Using the block button doesn't make you a nasty person. it's not a weapon of mass destruction. But it does stop people having something to whine about i guess!
Jeez the mentality on here sometimes baffles me. site rules are their as a buffet for the age old problem of too many messages ,doesn't make it right to be rude and not reply or block and not reply ,just makes it easier for your conscience "
buffer |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
Using the block button doesn't make you a nasty person. it's not a weapon of mass destruction. But it does stop people having something to whine about i guess!
Jeez the mentality on here sometimes baffles me. site rules are their as a buffet for the age old problem of too many messages ,doesn't make it right to be rude and not reply or block and not reply ,just makes it easier for your conscience "
Rules or no rules...I'm not ever going to have a conscience about stopping a random stranger sniffing around for sex, from being able to message me  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Just block them when you've said no.
Who would have thought the solution to the problem was so simple? she's obviously a nice person she feels guilty about blocking nice guys who send polite messages ,I get that
Using the block button doesn't make you a nasty person. it's not a weapon of mass destruction. But it does stop people having something to whine about i guess!
Jeez the mentality on here sometimes baffles me. site rules are their as a buffet for the age old problem of too many messages ,doesn't make it right to be rude and not reply or block and not reply ,just makes it easier for your conscience
Rules or no rules...I'm not ever going to have a conscience about stopping a random stranger sniffing around for sex, from being able to message me "
Refreshingly direct. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
this site is different things for different people,some find it a more honest environment to find a life partner ,some just come for a chat ,some come for NSA and some come for sex but to like and socialise with the people they meet,everyone eats sometimes its nice to eat with company "
totally agreed meet two different occasions 2 couples who meet here one they got married and another they are engaged . I believe in here you can find minded like people,for a partner. Also has people who are not swingers , they just looking for a fuck and go . Yes no means no , not just here ,but anywhere you go . X |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
this site is different things for different people,some find it a more honest environment to find a life partner ,some just come for a chat ,some come for NSA and some come for sex but to like and socialise with the people they meet,everyone eats sometimes its nice to eat with company totally agreed meet two different occasions 2 couples who meet here one they got married and another they are engaged . I believe in here you can find minded like people,for a partner. Also has people who are not swingers , they just looking for a fuck and go . Yes no means no , not just here ,but anywhere you go . X"
yes I know a couple who got married to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
this site is different things for different people,some find it a more honest environment to find a life partner ,some just come for a chat ,some come for NSA and some come for sex but to like and socialise with the people they meet,everyone eats sometimes its nice to eat with company totally agreed meet two different occasions 2 couples who meet here one they got married and another they are engaged . I believe in here you can find minded like people,for a partner. Also has people who are not swingers , they just looking for a fuck and go . Yes no means no , not just here ,but anywhere you go . Xyes I know a couple who got married to "
congratulations! The clubs are an excellent place for it ,meet people! Love them and the freedom ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
You'll never please all of the people all of the time. Don't worry about it, a polite no thanks doesn't offend me, but then I love in the real world, some people on here live in LaLa Land. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We’ve had knock backs (plenty too) it’s part of life.
If a person/s says they are not interested in us, that’s there choice we leave it at that.
However we tend to block people who send randomness to our inbox or who send us a message we are not interested in.
Some may say it’s rude to block them but we disagree. If I walked up to you in the street and started chatting to you, you said that you’re not interested would it then be ok for me to follow you down the street asking you why? No it wouldn’t.
In our opinion op block anyone you’re not happy with! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the whole site is mostly random strangers and here for you guessed it sex ,so you advocate blocking every guy "
No. Only those I've no interest in as I don't have enough time to enter into pointless discussions with. Which is what the op was moaning about |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I politely replied no to two guys last night....got called a fat slag and a fucking tosser, and I wonder why these guys would ever get a meet with attitudes like that |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If I ever get rejected or given a ‘sorry you are not my type’ I simply thank them for replying, wish them luck in their search and bid them happy adventures. End of. Cannot see the point of harassing people. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I politely replied no to two guys last night....got called a fat slag and a fucking tosser, and I wonder why these guys would ever get a meet with attitudes like that"
and they wonder why we dont reply...
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If you've said no thanks why keep replying to them?
I don't.After the millionth message I block.
Just block after the first one now.. easy!
But then we wouldn't have anything to post on the forum about. "
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If I ever get rejected or given a ‘sorry you are not my type’ I simply thank them for replying, wish them luck in their search and bid them happy adventures. End of. Cannot see the point of harassing people. "
And that’s totally acceptable, in all fairness with a response like that it would make me perhaps think, hmmm I’ll have another look, just in case. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I get why the OP isn't comfortable blocking guys who have done no harm but she also needs to think of herself and deter any possible pests. My solution would be a c&p reply "thank you for your message however I'm not interested at this time. Don't take it personally but I'm blocking you just so you don't need to remember you've already contacted me. Good luck on Fab, I genuinely wish you the best."
Send the reply and block them. You know you've replied politely and given a non hurtful reason for the blocking but also you don't have to worry about the occasional arsehole revenge message |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I politely replied no to two guys last night....got called a fat slag and a fucking tosser, and I wonder why these guys would ever get a meet with attitudes like thatand they wonder why we dont reply... "
Exactly |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If I ever get rejected or given a ‘sorry you are not my type’ I simply thank them for replying, wish them luck in their search and bid them happy adventures. End of. Cannot see the point of harassing people.
And that’s totally acceptable, in all fairness with a response like that it would make me perhaps think, hmmm I’ll have another look, just in case."
And it has done on a few occasions, they have had another look. A couple of ladies who said no, are now friends and we chat. 1 we ended up meeting. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Although the message ping pong after you've said no thanks is annoying, don't you think it speaks volumes about the person you've said no to?
Equally I end up having a lot of respect for the guys who take the rejection with dignity |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
"
If they're persistent, pretend to give in, agree to meet, so they deserve to spend an hour or so in a pub waiting for your no show. Just treat people the way they treat you, if they don't like it, they need to change, then hit the block button. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Actually as a single guy who isn’t getting much response from anyone, I’d rather a lady hit the block button (even if it is unread) I live on an island and I’m trying to fathom out who iv contacted and whom I haven’t.
I must click on some profiles too many times (limited fab users here) and I must look like a proper stalker or something.
At least If I’m blocked I can save myself that embarrassment- tho I don’t think I have many more I can actually try an contact anyway! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
If they're persistent, pretend to give in, agree to meet, so they deserve to spend an hour or so in a pub waiting for your no show. Just treat people the way they treat you, if they don't like it, they need to change, then hit the block button."
Totally wrong to do that. Remember there is a report as a now show option on here as well, for the timewasters and idiots that do this. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
"
rejection causes infertility ya know |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
If they're persistent, pretend to give in, agree to meet, so they deserve to spend an hour or so in a pub waiting for your no show. Just treat people the way they treat you, if they don't like it, they need to change, then hit the block button."
That's a shitty thing to do. Then you wonder why people do the same to you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
If they're persistent, pretend to give in, agree to meet, so they deserve to spend an hour or so in a pub waiting for your no show. Just treat people the way they treat you, if they don't like it, they need to change, then hit the block button."
Have you done that? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
If they're persistent, pretend to give in, agree to meet, so they deserve to spend an hour or so in a pub waiting for your no show. Just treat people the way they treat you, if they don't like it, they need to change, then hit the block button.
That's a shitty thing to do. Then you wonder why people do the same to you. "
I hope so if that's what they do to others. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Rejection is never nice.
I try to be honest and nice when telling someone I am not interested.
This isn't a dating site.Trying to bribe me with dinner etc won't work.
It's a swinging site.No means no. Don't ask why. Why do you like someone or find someone attractive.
Awk I give up ... can they add a part on the forum rules about rejection??
"
It's ok to ask why, and it's ok to reply "you just don't do it for me", but I'd hazard a guess many men seek feedback to develop and improve their profile (as well as the ones who just wont give up! )
Although asking why seven times is for workplace investigations, not badgering someone who has said no. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Does anyone actually know what does happen if you report a no show to admin by the way?
Realistically what can admin do about it. Its one persons word against another."
No idea just wondering if anyone knew? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does anyone actually know what does happen if you report a no show to admin by the way?
Realistically what can admin do about it. Its one persons word against another."
If other people report the profile as a no show they will eject them from the site. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"We love being rejected. Could everyone on here please message us to say that we're not for you and then block us. Merry Christmas !"
Well that was fun. Anyone else want blocking? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Does anyone actually know what does happen if you report a no show to admin by the way?
Realistically what can admin do about it. Its one persons word against another.
If other people report the profile as a no show they will eject them from the site. "
I thought that might be the case. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
It's ok to ask why, and it's ok to reply "you just don't do it for me", but I'd hazard a guess many men seek feedback to develop and improve their profile (as well as the ones who just wont give up! )
Although asking why seven times is for workplace investigations, not badgering someone who has said no. "
This. If we were all working to the same standards it would work. But this isn’t iso standards as you say!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Does anyone actually know what does happen if you report a no show to admin by the way?
Realistically what can admin do about it. Its one persons word against another.
No idea just wondering if anyone knew? "
Admin are reluctant to release details of how they keep site standards high, partly as it stops inappropriate abusive people getting around the rules, systems and processes. This is in addition to not revealing their response to any report that users make. More data is better, helping them to refine their judgment. If in doubt, report with appropriate details. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
