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Odd activity from a couple, thoughts?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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Report and bloke |
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
Report and bloke"
You're a couple, so you can both easily chat together using one number. We're guessing that it was possibly a single male attempting so get hold of the females number.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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Viewed one way it sounds suspicious, viewed another way it could well be just cautious people. Two numbers for a Whatsapp from your side ensures from their point of view they know both of you are involved in discussing and planning a meet. They may well only want to play in a hotel they’ve used before and feel comfortable in. They may want to engage in sexy chats because they want to gauge if you are the sort of people they like.
The ‘no together pics’ is very odd though! You have to use your instincts when arranging meets on Fab. If it feels off to you, don’t do it. At the very least, it seems you might benefit from having a social meet with them first. |
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
Viewed one way it sounds suspicious, viewed another way it could well be just cautious people. Two numbers for a Whatsapp from your side ensures from their point of view they know both of you are involved in discussing and planning a meet. They may well only want to play in a hotel they’ve used before and feel comfortable in. They may want to engage in sexy chats because they want to gauge if you are the sort of people they like.
The ‘no together pics’ is very odd though! You have to use your instincts when arranging meets on Fab. If it feels off to you, don’t do it. At the very least, it seems you might benefit from having a social meet with them first."
As a couple though James and Marie would only need one phone to talk on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Viewed one way it sounds suspicious, viewed another way it could well be just cautious people. Two numbers for a Whatsapp from your side ensures from their point of view they know both of you are involved in discussing and planning a meet. They may well only want to play in a hotel they’ve used before and feel comfortable in. They may want to engage in sexy chats because they want to gauge if you are the sort of people they like.
The ‘no together pics’ is very odd though! You have to use your instincts when arranging meets on Fab. If it feels off to you, don’t do it. At the very least, it seems you might benefit from having a social meet with them first."
Gut instinct for us both was that something was very wrong, which is why we asked for the photo together.. Anyway, lesson learned... |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
Viewed one way it sounds suspicious, viewed another way it could well be just cautious people. Two numbers for a Whatsapp from your side ensures from their point of view they know both of you are involved in discussing and planning a meet. They may well only want to play in a hotel they’ve used before and feel comfortable in. They may want to engage in sexy chats because they want to gauge if you are the sort of people they like.
The ‘no together pics’ is very odd though! You have to use your instincts when arranging meets on Fab. If it feels off to you, don’t do it. At the very least, it seems you might benefit from having a social meet with them first.
As a couple though James and Marie would only need one phone to talk on."
You misunderstand. If you are using WhatsApp with a ‘couple’ on one phone, how would the people you are chatting to know you weren’ just one person? It’s harder (but naturally not impossible) to fake a three way WhatsApp conversation than a two way one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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maybe they or he knew you and was trying to organise a caramel party for you and had friends who could get a discount on the hotel room  |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"Viewed one way it sounds suspicious, viewed another way it could well be just cautious people. Two numbers for a Whatsapp from your side ensures from their point of view they know both of you are involved in discussing and planning a meet. They may well only want to play in a hotel they’ve used before and feel comfortable in. They may want to engage in sexy chats because they want to gauge if you are the sort of people they like.
The ‘no together pics’ is very odd though! You have to use your instincts when arranging meets on Fab. If it feels off to you, don’t do it. At the very least, it seems you might benefit from having a social meet with them first.
Gut instinct for us both was that something was very wrong, which is why we asked for the photo together.. Anyway, lesson learned..."
Yes, you’ve most likely done the right thing. |
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I and my partner always used our own phone numbers or accounts when moving to WhatsApp or Kik, it shows we were both involved in the interest and its not one person leading the show, we actually also tended to avoid any couples using a single account as it just didn't feel like they were both engaged in the conversation. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
North Oxfordshire |
"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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I don't think any of this sounds particularly weird.
My partner and I always *both* chat, we use selerate phones. We prefer that other couples do the same and assume that if they'll only give one number then they are either a bloke controlling the meets or just a bloke without a female partner.
We also don't have any pictures of us together, we live apart and I never think to take pictures during sex or when we are enjoying ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I and my partner always used our own phone numbers or accounts when moving to WhatsApp or Kik, it shows we were both involved in the interest and its not one person leading the show, we actually also tended to avoid any couples using a single account as it just didn't feel like they were both engaged in the conversation."
or that the guy had two phones ha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Reported and blocked. Thanks guys.
Best thing to do .... dont give your number out ...as this can link to Facebook , as many people have discovered ...
Happy swinging folks  "
I don't have Facebook never have never will it's intrusive |
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By *v8 MedwayWoman
over a year ago
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I have one simple way of seeing if anyone is legit if i ever give our a number . I dont do kik etc or any medium someone can hide behind
Whatsapp voice note . If they ignore request or wont . Ignore and move onx |
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"I don't have Facebook never have never will it's intrusive
Only if you don't understand how to use technology and privacy settings."
Privacy settings? You realise how easy it is to bypass Facebook privacy settings? A private profile is very easy to view. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
North Oxfordshire |
"I don't have Facebook never have never will it's intrusive
Only if you don't understand how to use technology and privacy settings.
Privacy settings? You realise how easy it is to bypass Facebook privacy settings? A private profile is very easy to view. "
I'd love to know how. |
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"I don't have Facebook never have never will it's intrusive
Only if you don't understand how to use technology and privacy settings."
There are no privacy settings to stop FB mining your data which is why it is intrusive. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't have Facebook never have never will it's intrusive
Only if you don't understand how to use technology and privacy settings.
There are no privacy settings to stop FB mining your data which is why it is intrusive."
You know, you control the amount of data that you give Facebook... just like any website. |
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"or that the guy had two phones ha "
Thats why you don't rely on that alone and insist on a picture that's timestamped written on a piece of paper or verify them on cam, if they couldn't be bothered they're not worth our time. |
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The moment it doesn't feel right it usually isn't. Back out at that stage don't waste time fighting for it. Wether they're genuine or not if you feel like that it usually isn't going to work anyway in our experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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It sounds like a single guy but to be honest, I don't even know why your talking about this.
If there is any doubt whatsoever in any of your minds, just forget about him or them and move on.
Fab is about your enjoyment and not being dictated to if its not what you enjoy lol
If a single girl is looking for a single guy then its just two people who have to connect. If its a couple looking for one person then its 3 people who all have to get on but during chat/messages its a bit strained then as I would think, just move on, and block if you get hassle.
I don't think anyone who has joined fab for sexy fun wants hassle or drama. Only timewasters, pic collectors, egits etc... are the people who look for this.
I'm sure OP you both will meet the perfect couple and wont even give the other one a thought.
good luck and have a great xmas   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This situation certainly sounds slightly suspicious, and could be a guy pretending as stated before.
I don’t understand why a couple would insist on having both phone numbers from another couple. I could see it being reasonable after a few meets if you’ve become friends, but before any meet it sounds dodgy to me. If you want to talk to both partners then do it on a joint call over speakerphone or video chat.
Ultimately OP, you weren’t comfortable and can’t be blamed for blocking.
Good luck in future! |
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Pic swapping and sex talk is something I don’t allow. They get one pic non sexual and that’s its before a social in person and it avoids anyone just wanting wank material. If it’s a guy pretending to be a couple with no plans to meet he’ll give up quickly. If you have doubts and he isn’t verified or just had one, ask for a phone call with both or stop contact |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We're still relatively new to this site, and just come through an interesting interaction with an account claiming to be a couple.
They insisted on two phone numbers for a group WhatsApp chat, done by text (we only gave one), then just seemed to want photos and sex talk, and when talking about a meet (we had plenty of red warning flags going off by now) were insistent on the them booking a certain hotel.. "They" also gave individual photos of the two people supposedly in the couple, but couldn't give one of the two of them together.
So, while we're pretty certain this was a single guy pretending to be a couple, any thoughts on wanting both our numbers and being so adamant on the hotel choice?
James & Marie xx
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Don’t give out phone numbers always use KIK, its just as good and as all the functions of whatsapp but is so much easier to vanish if you’re not happy for any reason |
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