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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all. I have been on fab on and off for years. Have had some great meets and normally i am pretty self confident and cheerful. Just lately and I had dawned on me it has been ongoing for a few months I have lost almost all of my self confidence and self esteem. I am also tending to shy away from company at work. I am sure I am not the only one going through this. I just wondered how people pulled through these troughs x |
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You sound a bit low. I usually keep my head down until the feeling passes and try to treat myself well. Walks outside, chats with good friends etc. If you feel too bad see your doc.
Feel well soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get out in the sunshine when you can. Lack of Vit D can affect our moods. Also the exercise will help.
Be kind to yourself and realise those things you want can be things you deserve. But be realistic, we don't always get what we deserve through any fault of our own. Just work towards what you can provide for yourself and be proud of the effort you put in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You sound a bit low. I usually keep my head down until the feeling passes and try to treat myself well. Walks outside, chats with good friends etc. If you feel too bad see your doc.
Feel well soon."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a poster above said, make sure you get out when the weather isn't bad, this time of year vit D is hard to get, so maximise daytime sunlight, maybe get some Vitamin D supplements.
Do you suffer from SAD? I know I do, the way I combat it is by using supplements and ensuring each meal is packed full of nutrients, minimise the crap in your diet.
Maybe try and get to the gym, or swim, do something that gets your blood pumping, hormonally it will help, you'll sleep deeper, and it kills an hour or two to keep your mind of stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aaw you defo sound low hun. I go through periods of lacking self confidence - sometimes Ive no idea why either ( as in no specific incident sparked it off )
I have a counsellor I speak with now and again and I find my hour session clears my mind and restarts my happiness. I pay £40 an hour session and located mine from the accredited lists you can search for on the internet xx |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Hi all. I have been on fab on and off for years. Have had some great meets and normally i am pretty self confident and cheerful. Just lately and I had dawned on me it has been ongoing for a few months I have lost almost all of my self confidence and self esteem. I am also tending to shy away from company at work. I am sure I am not the only one going through this. I just wondered how people pulled through these troughs x"
Personally, I hide my profile when feeling low then show it again when I'm ready to face the world!
When I'm feeling really down I get myself banned from the forums.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No idea how people pull through, I even get panicky at the thought of socials at the moment. I’ve decided to let my demons win and just avoid them. No idea if I’ll ever get over it, not convinced at the moment I will.
Good luck
Mrs F x |
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Definitely exercise. Not always easy when you don't feel up to much but I doubt you will come back from a walk wishing you hadn't. If you like animals maybe volunteer at the local dogs home and walk a few dogs. Hope you feel better x |
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I go through the same op - real life can be stressful sometimes.
I take my profile down and try to eat better and work out abot - walk, swim, cycle to release endorphins and help me sleep better.
Takes a wee while but helps in the long run.
Guid luck op |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has just happened to me and I lost the one I wanted on here because of it. I think the best thing to do if you're feeling low or not confident is to avoid writing anything here as once you've said it it cannot be taken back. Attend socials get talking and you will find your confidence will return. Good luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get out in the sunshine when you can. Lack of Vit D can affect our moods. Also the exercise will help.
Be kind to yourself and realise those things you want can be things you deserve. But be realistic, we don't always get what we deserve through any fault of our own. Just work towards what you can provide for yourself and be proud of the effort you put in."
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The time of year dosnt help. The body is busy fighting of colds etc.
Problem with work colleagues is we often spend more time with them than our own families.
I know its easier said than done, but I would recomend getting a bit active, natural andorphines work wonders. Im not talking hitting the gym hours at a time, just a bit of walking or cycling, realy can make a big differance.
Fingers crossed for ya. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It’s not just confidence in meeting playmates. It’s the general low self worth which is hard to handle. Determined to stay off meds as had issues with Valium and anxiety last year. Maybe I should visit a club soon which I have always found to be relaxing |
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"It’s not just confidence in meeting playmates. It’s the general low self worth which is hard to handle. Determined to stay off meds as had issues with Valium and anxiety last year. Maybe I should visit a club soon which I have always found to be relaxing"
Have you tried yoga? The relaxation element of it can really help calm you down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all. I have been on fab on and off for years. Have had some great meets and normally i am pretty self confident and cheerful. Just lately and I had dawned on me it has been ongoing for a few months I have lost almost all of my self confidence and self esteem. I am also tending to shy away from company at work. I am sure I am not the only one going through this. I just wondered how people pulled through these troughs x"
I'm going through the same myself and I'm putting through winter blues. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"On here I sometimes get a bit on a complex as not many people reply so I think im ugly.
Most times I dont care what ppl think."
That's understandable. No one likes rejection obviously. But we can't please everyone.
Someone pm'ed me in regards to a comment I made on a music thread. We had a brief chat. She then sent me a face pic. I sent one back out of courtesy. Deleted and never heard back! I was happy just chatting music but after that I logged and stayed off for a day. I hadn't even thought about meeting them but it rattled me. Came back on and got on with things. You have to. |
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"On here I sometimes get a bit on a complex as not many people reply so I think im ugly.
Most times I dont care what ppl think."
You're not ugly, let's get that straight. None of us is to everyone's taste and you're part of the largest group on here. I can imagine how frustrating it is for single men and that you would ask yourself why you're not getting replies. It is down to sheer weight of numbers.  |
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"On here I sometimes get a bit on a complex as not many people reply so I think im ugly.
Most times I dont care what ppl think.
That's understandable. No one likes rejection obviously. But we can't please everyone.
Someone pm'ed me in regards to a comment I made on a music thread. We had a brief chat. She then sent me a face pic. I sent one back out of courtesy. Deleted and never heard back! I was happy just chatting music but after that I logged and stayed off for a day. I hadn't even thought about meeting them but it rattled me. Came back on and got on with things. You have to."
I think it's easy to forget there's a real person behind the message |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"It’s not just confidence in meeting playmates. It’s the general low self worth which is hard to handle. Determined to stay off meds as had issues with Valium and anxiety last year. Maybe I should visit a club soon which I have always found to be relaxing"
Ah, bless you. Go and do something you really enjoy and yes a nice walk is good for all off us. Good luck, hopefully you'll bounce back soon!  |
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