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By *heboobieman OP Man over a year ago

aust bristol

Why is it so hard to find a cpl to give me my first bi experience its something that ive been thinking about exploring now for a long time and im ready to take it a step further ive had a guy give my cock one little stroke for about a second as i was fucking his wife i was fine with it so now want to go explore my bi side but nobody seem in to helping a newbie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is it so hard to find a cpl to give me my first bi experience its something that ive been thinking about exploring now for a long time and im ready to take it a step further ive had a guy give my cock one little stroke for about a second as i was fucking his wife i was fine with it so now want to go explore my bi side but nobody seem in to helping a newbie "

Might I suggest having some public pictures. People like to see what others look like before they start any chat that might lead to a meet.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people don't like to experimented with. I know I personally avoid women who are curious and want to try... maybe that's part of what you're experiencing too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because if you hate it, it's a terrible meet for us.

Yes I appreciate that everyone needs to start somewhere but we play out only prob once every couple of months at the moment so not interested in playing with a bi virgin.

Also we've had so many straight guys pretend to be bi just for a meet then unless they have experience they can talk to, I doubt their validity.

So obv not everyone's view point but there's 2 reasons we wouldn't play with a novice

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Some gay or bi guys don’t mind someone experimenting with their sexuality and would take a chance. But an inexperienced guy who may have guilt feelings afterwards, why would you, plenty of experienced guys on here.

Good luck hopefully you’ll get lucky soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn't it be better to try with a guy first, see if you like it before then going with a couple. As has been said, if its you're first time and you hate it, it will be awkward lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd just meet up with a guy on his own first. You should have no trouble finding someone

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By *ree2view2uMan over a year ago

Nr Donny

I had my first sucking experience with a couple, I think I was very lucky. Otherwise message guys that know it is your first time, and will not be offended it you say no to anything. My first I said no to him sucking me after a very nice massage.

Start off slow and build up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I must admit I'd feel a lot more comfortable with a couple too. No doubt about it, I just have it in my head it'll feel a lot more natural of an occurance and heck! I might pick up some tips too!

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By *anielpiercedMan over a year ago

by the seaside

Go to a club on a bi night you should be able to find someone willing to play

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Why is it so hard to find a cpl to give me my first bi experience "

Why do you need a couple? Surely a man can give you your first bi experience

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

Find a local guy and have a wank meet and see how it goes

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By *offee with MilkCouple over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Or go to a gay sauna. Once there you can see what the other guys are doing. If you decide to stay and try things out you may realise you are quite happy with the situation. If not you can just leave. No pressure or expectations.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of people suggesting one on one meets with a guy. Has anyone thought that the op might, and I include myself here, be only fantasising and hoping for a bi 3some. I have no desire to meet a man on my own. Not even if it’s just a ‘try it and see’. Feels a bit like the op is being bashed for NOT wanting what is essentially a gay encounter.

I will stick to my guns and hope to meet an understanding couple one day who will be happy to introduce me to the wonderful (I presume

) world of bi fun.

Tiny rant over

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

From past experience bi curious men have a tendency to be all talk. When it comes to the day you've arranged to meet,surprise surprise they do a disappearing act.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"From past experience bi curious men have a tendency to be all talk. When it comes to the day you've arranged to meet,surprise surprise they do a disappearing act."

Well that’s a real shame. I absolutely get that there are many fantasists and time wasters on here. Ah, just to have the CHANCE to waste somebody’s time ...

Truth is, I have no idea whether I’ll enjoy the reality of it. But I do know that I am very keen to try. And I remain hopeful that one day it will happen

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I think there's a fair number of people who prefer a meet to be as predictable as possible, likely meeting their needs as close to 100%. A person who is inexperienced may not do it, could be unsure about their tastes etc.

Whilst many straight-ish guys don't fancy men, they can also have sex with them, not needing the catalytic presence of a female partner.

If a guy offers himself with some experience under his belt, it can make it easier for others to determine his likely compatibility, as there will be different bi needs amongst men, as well as what their partners may want them to do together.

Club bi nights are possible places to explore more, or singles who fancy good sex.

Public pics are likely needed to move things along on fab.

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By *offee with MilkCouple over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

"Lots of people suggesting one on one meets with a guy. Has anyone thought that the op might, and I include myself here, be only fantasising and hoping for a bi 3some. I have no desire to meet a man on my own. Not even if it’s just a ‘try it and see’. Feels a bit like the op is being bashed for NOT wanting what is essentially a gay encounter.

I will stick to my guns and hope to meet an understanding couple one day who will be happy to introduce me to the wonderful (I presume

) world of bi fun.

Tiny rant over"

I believe you don't fully understand the definitions. So to throw some light on it, here is my understanding of the words:

Gay = only has sex with same gender.

Bi = enjoys sex with either gender.

Straight = only has sex with opposite gender.

Therefore, a male on male encounter would not make the op gay since he clearly likes females too. Nobody is bashing anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will stick to my guns and hope to meet an understanding couple one day who will be happy to introduce me to the wonderful (I presume

) world of bi fun.

Tiny rant over

I believe you don't fully understand the definitions. So to throw some light on it, here is my understanding of the words:

Gay = only has sex with same gender.

Bi = enjoys sex with either gender.

Straight = only has sex with opposite gender.

Therefore, a male on male encounter would not make the op gay since he clearly likes females too. Nobody is bashing anyone. "

That’s why I said “what is essentially a gay encounter”. I didn’t say it would make him an all out gay man. In a one on one situation, two men are only having sex with the same gender. In a bi mmf, sex is had with both. I’m not disputing your post. I’m just saying from my point of view, and maybe the op’s, that the hope is to enjoy a fully bi experience in mmf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi.

Coming from the bi-curious male side of a couple there are lots of single men to choose from as you probably know so you have to stand out, but we are here!, I too want to explore my bi-side but only with my partner joining in and we have different tastes in men so it's trickier than a MF couple. Like others have said, few more public photos and put something in your profile that you would like to explore your bi side with a couple, shame your not nearer. Like yourself I couldn't meet a man one on one, it's just once bodies get all intermingled sucking on a cock does something for me. Good luck in your search, you'll get there.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS over a year ago

Maidstone

All great advice as bisexuality is such a complex area... If you are a bit of a "boobie"man, have you considered meeting a TV/TS who've had the boob job but still got the family-jewels? Would that be bi enough of an experience for you?

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By *heboobieman OP Man over a year ago

aust bristol

"Wouldn't it be better to try with a guy first, see if you like it before then going with a couple. As has been said, if its you're first time and you hate it, it will be awkward lol"
no there would have to be a fem present aswell ive had afew 3sums and had a guy touch me as i fucked his mrs but was just a little stroke and touch of my balls but didnt faze me i just wanna explore more

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By *heboobieman OP Man over a year ago

aust bristol

"Why is it so hard to find a cpl to give me my first bi experience

Why do you need a couple? Surely a man can give you your first bi experience "
just to make me feel more relaxed

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By *heboobieman OP Man over a year ago

aust bristol

I will stick to my guns and hope to meet an understanding couple one day who will be happy to introduce me to the wonderful (I presume

) world of bi fun.

Tiny rant over"
thankyou thats exactly how i feel about it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will stick to my guns and hope to meet an understanding couple one day who will be happy to introduce me to the wonderful (I presume

) world of bi fun.

Tiny rant over thankyou thats exactly how i feel about it"

You’re welcome. And good luck, to both of us

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By *edkent69Man over a year ago

maidstone

"Or go to a gay sauna. Once there you can see what the other guys are doing. If you decide to stay and try things out you may realise you are quite happy with the situation. If not you can just leave. No pressure or expectations.

I started being bi-curious about 4 years ago, and plucked up the courage to go to a local gay sauna. Didn't do anything the first few times, but now I'm quite happy going, and enjoy myself a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would say with a couple, it could be quite difficult to stand out.

You have to appeal to both of them, and when it comes to men, they may both have different tastes.

Personally, i prefer men to be older and unfit, but ladies to be slimish. Finding a couple that meet that is nigh on impossible, then on top of that they both have to like me back.

That's before you even get to the "hello" stage.

As an absolute minimum, you need a body shot in your public profile.

Couples can afford to be very fussy, and if they can't see at least what your body is like, they will quickly move on to find a profile that does.

Single guys are very much the bottom of the pecking order, you can't expect your ideal date to bother finding you, and messaging for some idea of what you look like i'm afraid.

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