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 she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this  | |||
"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!! Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this "I dont now either sending you virtual hugs xx | |||
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"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now" Yeah start here. It won't fix your upset and invasion of privacy but she can't be allowed to get away with it. | |||
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"Ouch. I would start by hiding my profile.... Hope it gets better for you though "I did think about that, but they’ve seen it now so I don’t think hiding it would make much of a difference :/ | |||
"Ouch. I would start by hiding my profile.... Hope it gets better for you though
I did think about that, but they’ve seen it now so I don’t think hiding it would make much of a difference :/ "Fair enough. I guess what's happened, happened. At least it can't really get much worse from here if everyone knows now ....  I hope it gets sorted, or at least forgotten, soon. | |||
"It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing. I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn." This for sure. It's her that should be ashamed, not you | |||
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"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now" This | |||
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"Can I still go to the police if she lives in Europe? I had no idea it was an offence. I’m quite lucky, my brother has supported me and threatened her with the police himself but it’s still humiliating none the less" Revenge porn laws are similar in Europe and the US and the judicial systems usually co-operate with each other because they know it would be too big a loophole if they didn't. | |||
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"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!! Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this "I really think you should go to the police. This is a similar thing as revenge porn and is a crime. You're the victim of a crime and you deserve justice and compensation. | |||
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"If anyone gives you shit about it then just invite the one with no sin to cast the first stone... " Exactly .... people in glass Houses shouldnt throw stones ...real friends and family wont give a hoot ... it was two years ago. ..old news..... I know your probably embarrassed but hold your head up high... She has been very childish . | |||
 that’s horrible.
I wouldn’t be to ashamed as you’ve done nothing wrong. Tell them this is like a dating site and you fell for a liar and a cheat. You’re single - youve done nothing wrong !!
Re the police then yeah pretty sure you can still get something done about her.
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"Jeezo that’s horrible.
I wouldn’t be to ashamed as you’ve done nothing wrong. Tell them this is like a dating site and you fell for a liar and a cheat. You’re single - youve done nothing wrong !!
Re the police then yeah pretty sure you can still get something done about her.
Hope you’re ok " | |||
I hid my profile, barely went out the house for a few days! But actually after a little while I thought “fuck it”.
These days it barely enters my consciousness what people may or may not know.
You will be fine when this feeling passes.
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"My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase. Just my opinion." Well consider this, she searched for me on Facebook using only a face pic and my first name. She then connected mutual friends between myself and her boyfriend ( he is military and comes from the same town as me, she is German and lives in Hannover, somehwere I spent a lot of time myself 2 years ago ). She then figured out family members because they had the same surname as me and sent them the screenshots then messaged me to tell me what she had done. I don’t know exactly how many people she has sent them to, I don’t know who else will come forward after having seen the screenshots. They’re meant to be moving to England to live in my town. If she went out of her way to do all of this from Germany, what will she do when they move here? What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it. Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since. Just my opinion | |||
"It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing. I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn." You could always give Karma a nudge, wonder who in their world knew he was on here shagging about as a "Single guy" while she was pregnant? You don't need his profile, how & why after all did she find you on here. Nothing like a little reality check to wake up the morally superior. S | |||
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"My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase. Just my opinion. Well consider this, she searched for me on Facebook using only a face pic and my first name. She then connected mutual friends between myself and her boyfriend ( he is military and comes from the same town as me, she is German and lives in Hannover, somehwere I spent a lot of time myself 2 years ago ). She then figured out family members because they had the same surname as me and sent them the screenshots then messaged me to tell me what she had done. I don’t know exactly how many people she has sent them to, I don’t know who else will come forward after having seen the screenshots. They’re meant to be moving to England to live in my town. If she went out of her way to do all of this from Germany, what will she do when they move here? What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it. Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since. Just my opinion" She absolutely should be held accountable. You did nothing to deserve any of this. Don't be ashamed, this will die down. You've done nothing wrong. | |||
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"1. Hide or rename your profile. 2. Report it to the police. 3. You fiancé supports you so stand together. It was an unintentional affair 2 years ago. It’s her partner and now her who were in the wrong. 4. Toughen up and take a so what, mind your own business, I’m an adult, it’s my sex life, are you jealous? Attitude. 5. Hugs xx I know that feeling in the pit of your stomach from experience. " Can't really add anything to this. As always Rachael, you've put it beautifully simple. | |||
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"I've not used Facebook for years and have deleted my account on it but if I remember correctly if you want to send someone a message don't they have to accept a freind invite first? Don't think people can just send any form of message to all unsundry without the intended recipient accepting an invite first. Have your family members done this? Hey here's an invite from such and such's ex girlfriend Let's chat - hmmm Has anyone apart from your brother actually seen anything on FB? It might not be as bad as you think Just a thought " No, you don’t have to be friends with someone to send them a message, yes it’s not just my brother but he has been the most understanding. It’s definitely as bad as I think | |||
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"I've not used Facebook for years and have deleted my account on it but if I remember correctly if you want to send someone a message don't they have to accept a freind invite first? Don't think people can just send any form of message to all unsundry without the intended recipient accepting an invite first. Have your family members done this? Hey here's an invite from such and such's ex girlfriend Let's chat - hmmm Has anyone apart from your brother actually seen anything on FB? It might not be as bad as you think Just a thought No, you don’t have to be friends with someone to send them a message, yes it’s not just my brother but he has been the most understanding. It’s definitely as bad as I think "Ohh right - in that case I'm glad I'm not on it... I prefer to choose who I want communication from.. That's a serious flaw in Facebooks platform I'd sue Zuckerberg too ?? | |||
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"My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase. Just my opinion. Well consider this, she searched for me on Facebook using only a face pic and my first name. She then connected mutual friends between myself and her boyfriend ( he is military and comes from the same town as me, she is German and lives in Hannover, somehwere I spent a lot of time myself 2 years ago ). She then figured out family members because they had the same surname as me and sent them the screenshots then messaged me to tell me what she had done. I don’t know exactly how many people she has sent them to, I don’t know who else will come forward after having seen the screenshots. They’re meant to be moving to England to live in my town. If she went out of her way to do all of this from Germany, what will she do when they move here? What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it. Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since. Just my opinion" I agree that she should be held accountable but it is worth considering the suggestion that your exposure will increase if there's a court case. | |||
"It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing. I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn. You could always give Karma a nudge, wonder who in their world knew he was on here shagging about as a "Single guy" while she was pregnant? You don't need his profile, how & why after all did she find you on here. Nothing like a little reality check to wake up the morally superior. S" I wouldn't recommend this. You immediately lose any high ground you had. | |||
"Don’t think I’d go so far to sue the owner of Facebook lol" Well at least you had a giggle at the idea lol 
Onwards and upwards, hope you get it sorted whatever you decide to do going forwards.... | |||
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"My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase. Just my opinion. Well consider this, she searched for me on Facebook using only a face pic and my first name. She then connected mutual friends between myself and her boyfriend ( he is military and comes from the same town as me, she is German and lives in Hannover, somehwere I spent a lot of time myself 2 years ago ). She then figured out family members because they had the same surname as me and sent them the screenshots then messaged me to tell me what she had done. I don’t know exactly how many people she has sent them to, I don’t know who else will come forward after having seen the screenshots. They’re meant to be moving to England to live in my town. If she went out of her way to do all of this from Germany, what will she do when they move here? What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it. Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since. Just my opinion" She's a calculating bitch by all accounts. The only other thing I can think to add to all the above is to front it up. Tell people you know that this woman is being vindictive, bullying you & the form it's taking, people may not be as shocked as you think. It's like if you 'out' yourself she has no power left, no control. Good luck x | |||
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" The only other thing I can think to add to all the above is to front it up. Tell people you know that this woman is being vindictive, bullying you & the form it's taking, people may not be as shocked as you think. It's like if you 'out' yourself she has no power left, no control. Good luck x" I think this is absolutely right. I didn't tell anyone I was doing glamour work, but when it came out, people weren't as shocked as I thought they'd be. Fronting it up, laughing about it, helped as well. Your family and friends love you, they'll get over it. She'll be the one looking a twat. | |||
"My first thoughts are these: will this die down? If you don't do anything what is the worse that can happen? You've already said your family know, and remember that theres a lot of porn and stuff out there, whilst i understand your feelings, should you report it, your humiliation and people who know about it will only increase. Just my opinion. Well consider this, she searched for me on Facebook using only a face pic and my first name. She then connected mutual friends between myself and her boyfriend ( he is military and comes from the same town as me, she is German and lives in Hannover, somehwere I spent a lot of time myself 2 years ago ). She then figured out family members because they had the same surname as me and sent them the screenshots then messaged me to tell me what she had done. I don’t know exactly how many people she has sent them to, I don’t know who else will come forward after having seen the screenshots. They’re meant to be moving to England to live in my town. If she went out of her way to do all of this from Germany, what will she do when they move here? What she did was deliberate and calculated, and she even sent them to my daughter, only I found the message request on her phone before her and deleted it. Why shouldn’t she be held accountable for what she’s done? I did nothing wrong, it was 2 years ago and I’ve had zero contact since. Just my opinion She's a calculating bitch by all accounts. The only other thing I can think to add to all the above is to front it up. Tell people you know that this woman is being vindictive, bullying you & the form it's taking, people may not be as shocked as you think. It's like if you 'out' yourself she has no power left, no control. Good luck x" That's a good point. I remember and interviewer asked that girl from the hunger games about her fanny pictures on the interweb and she replied with words to the effect of "i don't see how it's possible you would have seen them? I certainly haven't given my permission for them to be distributed so how is it possible you would have them?" - that shut him up. | |||
like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it | |||
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"It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing. I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn. This for sure. It's her that should be ashamed, not you " definitely hold your head high and don't let peoples judgements effect you and report her to the police regardless of if she is in Europe or not. | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it "She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay. | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it " | |||
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"It can't be 'fixed'.. it's done. In your shoes I think I'd just hold my head high and say to my family that I hadn't done anything illegal and ask for their support against a bitter, twisted woman who did a shitty thing. I'd also consider reporting her to the police - it's illegal to distribute revenge porn." i'd agree with this attitude. you can't change whats here, only deal with it. And this could make things better with family or friends. we can only hope. hold your head high and ride the storm. Contact the police for the other end of your problem, let them sort that bit out. Its harassment. | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it
She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay. "My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it
She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay.
My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol"Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts | |||
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"If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop. It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are." You can change your settings to prevent this though , I have never met anyone from here without exchanging numbers first . | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it
She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay.
My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol
Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts "That too lol | |||
"If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop. It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are." I don't have Facebook, instagram or anything else. I feel no issues with swapping numbers once people are comfortable to do so. You could say the same about real names and sharing photos between the sites. Where do you draw the line? And if you have nothing to hide, then sharing numbers / details want bring up anything out of the ordinary anyway? | |||
"Interestingly.... What has the boyfriend said about all this ?" Weirdly enough I’ve heard nothing from the boyfriend. I still have had no contact with him for 2 years and have been changed my phone number in that time | |||
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"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now" Exactly this hun they deal with lots of these issues. | |||
"It’s not the swinging that is humiliating, it’s my brother being sent sexual pictures of myself by someone who had no right to have them. I learnt my lesson at the time, changed my profile name and my number then haven’t given it out very much since. I’m now extremely picky and have cut out playing with single men altogether " That is really really shitty 
The thing that some people don't grasp is that the person at fault is not the unsuspecting swingee, but the partner who is cheating and playing away. We always try to triple verify that the guys are actually single - and have found a lot of liars. So sorry you met one of them and have been vilified,humiliated and scapegoated by the woman HE wounded. Sending hugs x | |||
"If something is humiliating to you, perhaps don't do it. This is a risk you take Should it be? No...but it is. It bit you on the arse this time " seriously?! Him and his crappy gf are at fault not the OP, what has been done us a criminal offence!  | |||
"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now Exactly this hun they deal with lots of these issues. "
I had too do this as was threatened .Done tolerate it as it's abuse and police take it seriously | |||
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"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it
She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay.
My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol
Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts "Agree but a bit insensitive towards those of us that may suffer | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it
She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay.
My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol
Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts
Agree but a bit insensitive towards those of us that may suffer"It's a generic problem when people take a label that means something and then overuse it to the point it no longer does. | |||
"If something is humiliating to you, perhaps don't do it. This is a risk you take Should it be? No...but it is. It bit you on the arse this time seriously?! Him and his crappy gf are at fault not the OP, what has been done us a criminal offence! "Exactly! Having sexual preferences within the law are not a valid reason to get treated like that over /stalked - even if the lady is in Europe she’s under the jurisdiction of our police via a European arrest warrant - it might make her think twice if she gets a knock on the door by the local police | |||
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Just my 2Ps worth and hope you are alright. Xx | |||
"Thankyou everyone like someone suggested I have wondered if she thinks he’s still talking to me, or if he is talking to someone else and she thinks it’s me prompting what’s gone on recently. Definitely going to keep my head held high. Thanks for letting me rant in a safe space, I really needed it
She might also have mental health issues. When something along these lines happened to me the person concerned had a mental health problem. It doesn't make it easier to bear or limit the damage in any way and it certainly doesn't mean that you shouldn't report it but it might explain the two year delay.
My thoughts exactly, she sounds kinda crazy lol
Mental health issues is such a euphemism. Some of us are just cunts
Agree but a bit insensitive towards those of us that may suffer
It's a generic problem when people take a label that means something and then overuse it to the point it no longer does. "I qualified my statement with "might" and explained that I suggested this as a "possible" reason due to experiences that I've had. That in my opinion isn't overuse. | |||
"Interestingly.... What has the boyfriend said about all this ? Weirdly enough I’ve heard nothing from the boyfriend. I still have had no contact with him for 2 years and have been changed my phone number in that time" He is probably unaware. | |||
"If anyone on here’s gives out their actual phone number then please stop. It can link straight up to Facebook, Instagram etc All you have to do is enter the number in the search bar and there you are." Facebook doesn't have my phone number, my real name, my real D.O.B. My photos there are all hidden from anyone who isn't a friend. This particular issue isn't Facebook or Instagram it's people putting too much personal information online, on any site. As for the OP I think all you can do is hold your head high in the knowledge that you did the right thing at the time and your sexual life is no one else's business and your family will surely accept that after the initial shock. If I were in your shoes I wouldn't want to go through with the extra stress of going to the police, but that's not what I'd let that woman know. I'd tell her she's committed a crime and you're going to report it. | |||
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"P.S. an angry ex threatened one of our kids that they would tell us all about what they got up to. We assured them that there was nothing the ex could tell us that would shock us or make us love them less. You will probably find your family will think the same way." I agree with the above your family will still love you although it could be a little embarrassing but it will soon be forgotten, rise above it and ditch stalker book  | |||
"It’s fucking shit. I was outed in a slightly different way in the village I live in. To go to the police or not is up to you but in terms of how you feel about the “humiliation” I can assure you it wears off in time.
I hid my profile, barely went out the house for a few days! But actually after a little while I thought “fuck it”.
These days it barely enters my consciousness what people may or may not know.
You will be fine when this feeling passes.
V x " | |||
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"Stop faffing around waiting for legal advice. Get in touch with the police / cyber crime dept, get it reported, and get a crime number. When it gets passed onto the German side, they won't fuck around. Believe me. " I’m not faffing, I have a day off tomorrow, I’ll be compiling all the evidence together and making a call | |||
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"P.S. an angry ex threatened one of our kids that they would tell us all about what they got up to. We assured them that there was nothing the ex could tell us that would shock us or make us love them less. You will probably find your family will think the same way. I agree with the above your family will still love you although it could be a little embarrassing but it will soon be forgotten, rise above it and ditch stalker book "This is so true. I had an ex get jealous of my next relationship and she contacted my eldest daughter on faceache to dish the dirt. My daughter ripped her a new arsehole verbally telling her exactly what she thought of her behaviour. She then rang me to let me know, which was great as my ex was still pretending she was a friend and whiter than white. | |||
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"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!! Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this "you can know contact the police, new laws against t his kind of evilness xx | |||
"Can I still go to the police if she lives in Europe? I had no idea it was an offence. I’m quite lucky, my brother has supported me and threatened her with the police himself but it’s still humiliating none the less" Yes you can ... I know he was an arse but clearly she has bigger issues ... just do it | |||
"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!! Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this
you can know contact the police, new laws against t his kind of evilness
xx"Current laws... PROTECTION FROM HARASSMENT ACT 1997 Under the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 it is a criminal offence for a person to pursue a course of conduct which amounts to the harassment of another, which the perpetrator knows or ought to know amounts to harassment. This could include sending a person multiple abusive emails with the intention of causing alarm or distress. A person found guilty of this offence could receive up to six months imprisonment, a financial penalty or both. Section 4 of the Protection from Harassment Act 1997 provides the potential for greater punishment to those found guilty of causing another person to fear, on at least two occasions, that violence will be used against them. A person found guilty of this offence could receive up to 5 years in prison, as well as a fine. The 1997 Act also gives Courts the power to grant restraining orders against those found guilty of an offence in order to protect the victim. MALICIOUS COMMUNICATIONS ACT 1988 Section 1 of the Malicious Communications Act 1988 states that it is an offence for any person to send a communication that is "indecent or grossly offensive" for the purpose of causing "distress or anxiety to the recipient". The Act also extends to threats and information which is false and known or believed to be false by the sender of the communication. A person found guilty of this offence is liable to receive a prison sentence of up to 6 months, a fine (currently of up to £5,000) or even both. COMMUNICATIONS ACT 2003 Section 127 of the Communications Act 2003 makes it a criminal offence to send via any electronic communication network a message or other matter that is deemed "grossly offences or of an indecent, obscene or menacing character". If found guilty of an offence under section 127 of the Communications Act 2003, a person can receive up to six months in prison, a fine or both. OBSCENE PUBLICATIONS ACT 1959 The Obscene Publications Act 1959 makes it an offence to publish an obscene article. An obscene article is classed as one whose effect is to deprave and corrupt persons likely to read, see or hear the matter contained or embodied in the article. Publishing includes circulating, showing, playing or projecting the article or transmitting the data. PUBLIC ORDER ACT 1986 Under section 5 of the Public Order Act 1986, it is an offence to use threatening, abusive or insulting words, behaviour, writing or any visual representations likely to cause harassment, alarm or distress within the hearing or sight of a person. With regards to cyberbullying, this offence could apply where the camera or video functionality now found on the vast majority of mobile phones is used as a way of causing such harassment, alarm or distress. COMPUTER MISUSE ACT 1990 If in the course of cyberbullying a person hacks into the victim's online accounts or personal computer, they may be committing an offence under the Computer Misuse Act 1990. CYBER BULLYING IN THE WORKPLACE Bullying in the workplace is an increasing problem, especially with regards to cyber bullying. One in five employees have experienced some form of workplace bullying, which can result in time off work due to illness and stress. Reports suggest that bullying in the workplace costs UK employers an estimated £2bn a year in lost productivity and sick pay. Under the Health and Safety at Work Act 1974, all employers have a duty of care to provide employees with a safe working environment. If an employee is a victim of cyberbullying at work through the use of the company's computer equipment and infrastructure, the employer may be in breach of their duty to protect employees under the Health and Safety at Work Act. | |||
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"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now Yeah start here. It won't fix your upset and invasion of privacy but she can't be allowed to get away with it." | |||
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"You could go to the police and get her done for this. What she has done is classed as a serious offence now" im with this idea | |||
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"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!! Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this "What an awful thing for her to do. And as was mentioned somewhere above, what she did is indeed a criminal offence. Get her reported asap. | |||
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"Honestly I just need to vent. I’ve had an awful day!! Around 2 years ago I was talking to a single male on here and exchanged numbers. Turned out he wasn’t as single as he said as he had a pregnant girlfriend at home she got in touch and gave me a right ear bashing. I blocked this guy on every platform I could.
Fast forward 2 years to today. Her and this guy have had an argument, so she searches for and finds me on Facebook and realised that my brother and her boyfriend are friends ( I didn’t know this prior ). So what does she do? Bare in mind I blocked him 2 years ago and have had no contact since? Sends my brother and other family members screenshots of my fab profile and the sexual conversations between myself and her boyfriend that she’s obviously kept hold of for 2 years!!!
It’s very rare I swap numbers these days, being more experienced, but I am beyond humiliated. I just want to crawl into a hole and die. I don’t even know how to fix this "Hold your head up high. Ignore them. What you do with your personal ife is your business. | |||
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