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It is our normal routine that before we meet any new people on Fab that we like the 2 ladies to have a chat on the phone .
Recently however we have found this to be the end for many potential meets.
We send our number then they either disappear or find reasons not to text or call.
It is very frustrating and of course slightly concerning that these people have our number.
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We used to worrie about this aswell, but we decided to buy a separate phone just for swinging contacts ect. Now we only give our number out if people are meet verified. Plus These days alot of phones are automatically set up to sync your contact list with facebook, WhatsApp and messaging service's. We like to keep our vanilla life seprate from swinging. We wouldnt want our swinger friends on our facebook some people dont know how to be discreet about things.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"It is our normal routine that before we meet any new people on Fab that we like the 2 ladies to have a chat on the phone .
Recently however we have found this to be the end for many potential meets.
We send our number then they either disappear or find reasons not to text or call.
It is very frustrating and of course slightly concerning that these people have our number.
Any thoughts fabbers ? "
yes get a fab phone |
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We're verified as a couple and always meet socially first so anyone can establish that we are who we say we are and vice versa. We don't ask for a fem to fem phone chat and won't do one either.
It's up to individuals how they establish that people are genuine and if you feel a phone call is the best way to do it get a cheap payg phone. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
If a phone call is an essential part of your pre-meet ritual then stick with it.
Our non-negotiable is that we must have a social first and that often scares others away but we just accept that that is a sign we wouldn't have got on in the first place. |
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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
"My friend does this and she just has a cheap phone that she uses for fab so they don't have her main number some people just don't like talking on phones before they meet hope this helps"
so do we just a fab phone number.works for us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found that asking to speak on the phone is a really good way to get rid of time wasters. Genuine people are almost always happy to chat. Others - less so. Happy not to waste time on time wasters  |
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"What about if you are unable to use a phone would text be acceptable , then again would you meet someone who is deaf ???"
Is this a serious question ? We would never discrimate against anyone. But assume them being deaf would be brought up in chat. |
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"It is our normal routine that before we meet any new people on Fab that we like the 2 ladies to have a chat on the phone .
Recently however we have found this to be the end for many potential meets.
We send our number then they either disappear or find reasons not to text or call.
It is very frustrating and of course slightly concerning that these people have our number.
Any thoughts fabbers ? "
We would want a fem to fem chat too, if they can't do that they won't turn up. We find arranging first meets at socials and clubs is best so if they don't show it's no big deal. Unverifieds leave their number or jog on, we won't make the effort if they can't make that gesture.
We can block numbers after if we want but never had to yet, really what can they do with it? We certainly don't lose sleep over someone having our number, half of Mumbai and Ghana has your number anyway  |
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I hate speaking on the phone,so i would probably go quiet if anyone tried to insist on it.
Maybe they are similar ?or its a man ,who knows op.
If they are pic/meet verified that would be enough for us.
Speaking on the phone doesnt mean they are anymore likely to turn up etc.
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By *cot611Man
over a year ago
carterton |
if, by some chance i find myself in this situation ill get myself a payg phone. keeping the real world physically separated from tending to my hectic swinging schedule. when friendships develop enough to feel safe then hold a little swinging based ceremony and promote them to the real phone... everyone's a winner......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m quite phone shy and would feel extremely uncomfortable having to have a phone chat with the female. I guess if we really wanted to meet them I’d have to suck it up. I would rather not to be put in that situation though. I do think people should look at the bigger picture though. I mean seriously - if in all other respects it’s an ideal match, does me not wanting to talk on the phone make it a deal breaker?
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No way do I give my number out ......
Im.told once they have your number they can.link you to.face book .....there are a lot of horror stories on here from people who have had their pics sent to friends and family
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many people use Kik or some other way of chatting away from here. The majority of people use a 'swinging' phone as others have pointed out.
I've always been happy handing out my number, but only after messaging on here. If a couple, it's usually the male I end up talking with. I've never been caught out. Yet!
I usually am asked to meet for a coffee or such, first too. Not always. Weeds out time wasters.
If you haven't already, buy a cheap PAYG phone and continue to insist on a call first, if that's how you like to operate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t have a problem with given out our numbers. We’re very big on chatting on WhatsApp. I just don’t like talking on the phone. And webcam cam I would totally clam up. I’ve disabled the feature on my phone where my number is linked to contacts, Facebook etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don’t have a problem with given out our numbers. We’re very big on chatting on WhatsApp. I just don’t like talking on the phone. And webcam cam I would totally clam up. I’ve disabled the feature on my phone where my number is linked to contacts, Facebook etc.
Mrs"
I don't have the problem with FB, not on it, never seen the attraction! But have disabled Kik from phone contacts.
Never seen the attraction with webcamming either. I can understand some use it to check that there is actually a female to a couple, but prefer gut instinct. It's something I have ever asked anyone to do. I believe you can get a good 'feel' for someone by messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't send your number?
Plenty of other ways to make contact and determine if they are a real couple."
Rubbish!  Nothing, other than a face to face social, compares with the "gut reaction" you both get and give using a phone . . and with twin SIM phones cheaply available (we use one) and simple mobiles with limited web-access cheap then if somebody doesn't want to agree with this system it's they who will miss out . . .
. . . but then as many using this web-site think it's extremely good value for being a "site supporter" too much to pay in their quest for nothing other than a free lunch . . serious players should avoid these time-wasters.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don’t have a problem with given out our numbers. We’re very big on chatting on WhatsApp. I just don’t like talking on the phone. And webcam cam I would totally clam up. I’ve disabled the feature on my phone where my number is linked to contacts, Facebook etc.
Mrs
I don't have the problem with FB, not on it, never seen the attraction! But have disabled Kik from phone contacts.
Never seen the attraction with webcamming either. I can understand some use it to check that there is actually a female to a couple, but prefer gut instinct. It's something I have ever asked anyone to do. I believe you can get a good 'feel' for someone by messaging."
I think gut instinct is indeed the key. We have an idea of what factors are more likely to be in place with ‘real’ people. Verifications certainly give us comfort, but we don’t have strict formula. I think if we did we would miss out of those who don’t live by our requirements. Certainly never had a problem with timewasters, never had a no show etc. so I know we’re doing something right.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would only meet if spoken on phone .As I bet it's the man on the couples profile and I would want to talk to the women .Too many fake profiles on here with fake pics .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s kick, snapchat, Skype, pay as you go phones and other options. Wouldn’t dream of giving my number out to every tom dick and Harry the searches you can do with someone’s phone number is ridiculous. |
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"Don't send your number?
Plenty of other ways to make contact and determine if they are a real couple.
Rubbish! Nothing, other than a face to face social, compares with the "gut reaction" you both get and give using a phone . . and with twin SIM phones cheaply available (we use one) and simple mobiles with limited web-access cheap then if somebody doesn't want to agree with this system it's they who will miss out . . .
. . . but then as many using this web-site think it's extremely good value for being a "site supporter" too much to pay in their quest for nothing other than a free lunch . . serious players should avoid these time-wasters. "
Hilarious. So if we don't want to talk in the phone we are time wasters? |
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"It is our normal routine that before we meet any new people on Fab that we like the 2 ladies to have a chat on the phone .
Recently however we have found this to be the end for many potential meets.
We send our number then they either disappear or find reasons not to text or call.
It is very frustrating and of course slightly concerning that these people have our number.
Any thoughts fabbers ? "
Timewasters,fakes. Take your pick? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is our normal routine that before we meet any new people on Fab that we like the 2 ladies to have a chat on the phone .
Recently however we have found this to be the end for many potential meets.
We send our number then they either disappear or find reasons not to text or call.
It is very frustrating and of course slightly concerning that these people have our number.
Any thoughts fabbers ? "
Fake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is very frustrating and of course slightly concerning that these people have our number.
Any thoughts fabbers ? "
Even though I am a single, heterosexual woman, hence not a bisexual other half of a couple, I'd like to contribute.
Yes, I easily give out my number, often I give mine first. Shows that I am serious about wanting to meet them.
No, I wouldn't dream of having a telephone conversation first. Text to arrange to meet up are just fine.
No, I don't worry (too much) about them having my number, even if I don't hear from them.
p.s. I've only ever used Fabs as a sex dating site for the last two and a half months. The previous seven years it was only parties and clubs, never from online. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... These days alot of phones are automatically set up to sync your contact list with facebook, WhatsApp and messaging service...
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Would never sync mobile and Facebook nor give Facebook my private number. I'd give Facebook a 'burner phone' number instead.
WhatsApp, very welcome, bring it on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be ready for when friends,family or work colleagues spot your 2nd payg phone...as it will one day happen ..whatever reason you give it will look implausible  |
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By *ostafunMan
over a year ago
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"I have found that asking to speak on the phone is a really good way to get rid of time wasters. Genuine people are almost always happy to chat. Others - less so. Happy not to waste time on time wasters "
me too sorts the time wasters out also I have no problem giving my phone number I've nothing to hide. |
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"Lots won't chat on the phone to strangers from here. Myself included. Doesn't mean they aren't genuine. If that puts people off then that's their problem. "
Serious question why not? If you are potentially going to have sex with someone, why is it a problem talking to them on the phone? |
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Tbh I couldn't be bothered with that, I can't see the fun in talking to someone I barely know. To me I'd rather suck my own toes than do that (I can do, but don't have a foot fetish just hypermobile) it sounds awkward and hard work. There's also the issue of when to do it, not the sort of conversation you can have around kids |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots won't chat on the phone to strangers from here. Myself included. Doesn't mean they aren't genuine. If that puts people off then that's their problem.
Serious question why not? If you are potentially going to have sex with someone, why is it a problem talking to them on the phone? "
Some people (including myself) just feel uncomfortable with it. No logical reason.
Mrs
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"Lots won't chat on the phone to strangers from here. Myself included. Doesn't mean they aren't genuine. If that puts people off then that's their problem.
Serious question why not? If you are potentially going to have sex with someone, why is it a problem talking to them on the phone?
Some people (including myself) just feel uncomfortable with it. No logical reason.
Mrs
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Ok. Just to be clear. No one is asking for an extended conversation. Literally just one minute so all can confirm there are actually real women involved.
As I say, it seems strange that when you are open to engaging with people in far more intimate ways that that should be a problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lots won't chat on the phone to strangers from here. Myself included. Doesn't mean they aren't genuine. If that puts people off then that's their problem.
Serious question why not? If you are potentially going to have sex with someone, why is it a problem talking to them on the phone?
Some people (including myself) just feel uncomfortable with it. No logical reason.
Mrs
Ok. Just to be clear. No one is asking for an extended conversation. Literally just one minute so all can confirm there are actually real women involved.
As I say, it seems strange that when you are open to engaging with people in far more intimate ways that that should be a problem "
I have done phone conversations with men who I’ve got to know first via text. That was fine because I’d already got to know them. I did agree twice to a phone conversation with a couple and with a lady regarding one of our house parties. I accepted that I couldn’t always expect people to come to our house not knowing anyone if they hadn’t spoken to me on the phone, so I had to swallow my discomfort. If we were meeting on neutral territory I might have avoided it though. Have no issues with getting intimate with people who I have got to know face to face. But I’d really rather go from text chat to face to face then intimacy, hence skipping the phone bit. At the end of the day I dislike the phone, and even in normal life I go out of my way to avoid it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The number we send is not connected to anything else. If anyone won't do a call it is likely a guy pretending to be a couple. In three years of swinging have never had a disappearing act from a couple, so you are likely dodging a no-show bullet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh I couldn't be bothered with that, I can't see the fun in talking to someone I barely know. To me I'd rather suck my own toes than do that (I can do, but don't have a foot fetish just hypermobile) it sounds awkward and hard work. There's also the issue of when to do it, not the sort of conversation you can have around kids"
Which is why I always text before ringing. Two reasons, one to make sure I have the right number or/and person, wrong digit entered could make for an embarrassing conversation and two, to make sure that it is also ok for the recipient to talk. But usually this is perhaps to confirm details of a social or occasionally a meet, rather than a discussion of today's hot topic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found that asking to speak on the phone is a really good way to get rid of time wasters. Genuine people are almost always happy to chat. Others - less so. Happy not to waste time on time wasters "
I prefer not to talk on the phone, blokes tend to just want to have a wank |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have found that asking to speak on the phone is a really good way to get rid of time wasters. Genuine people are almost always happy to chat. Others - less so. Happy not to waste time on time wasters
I prefer not to talk on the phone, blokes tend to just want to have a wank"
No doubt lots of those out there - but the OP is talking about couples and the ladies having a chat ... |
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"I have found that asking to speak on the phone is a really good way to get rid of time wasters. Genuine people are almost always happy to chat. Others - less so. Happy not to waste time on time wasters
I prefer not to talk on the phone, blokes tend to just want to have a wank
No doubt lots of those out there - but the OP is talking about couples and the ladies having a chat ..."
Yes ‘couples’ as many have said they end up being wanking blokes |
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