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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location 
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hotel or Club. Both so easy and are probably the most common meeting places... Have fun"
Nice one thanks 
...How about when time is of the essence (if an all day/night get together isn't on the cards)? |
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"Hotel or Club. Both so easy and are probably the most common meeting places... Have fun
Nice one thanks
...How about when time is of the essence (if an all day/night get together isn't on the cards)?"
makes no difference. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"One of the first things I check before chatting is if they can accomadate or not.
I guess you're solution is meeting at a club or getting a hotel room "
I can, just not always. 
Hence the query |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can, just not always.
Hence the query
Wait until you can? Or pay money for somewhere to fuck."
Patience is a virtue indeed! But sometimes waiting isn't what you want.
As for paying; not a problem. Have, and will gladly, when circumstance allows. It was more an opportunistic ideas thing...
Thanks for input though, appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've lost me. You say 'align timing' are you talking about same-day now? Because outside of same day, if you are able to pay for a hotel, it's always possible???"
Fair point!  |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
Been there ourselves. We don’t accom. A lot of the people we chat to can’t. Club is out if you are not comfortable or want privacy. Hotels are expensive. So think about hotels but share costs. Too many are happy for me (Mrs) to pay and I’m on part time wages. Be considerate and go halves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Day hotels? Some hotels do daytime use. As a single I used these, they provide use for a set amount of hours and are much cheaper. Perfect if you don't want to stay the night
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First thing I do is check they accommodate. If they don't I say no thank you.
If I like the look of them I say I'm looking for someone who can accommodate, sorry. This is because some people say they can't accommodate, but sometimes do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Day hotels? Some hotels do daytime use. As a single I used these, they provide use for a set amount of hours and are much cheaper. Perfect if you don't want to stay the night
Mrs "
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"Been there ourselves. We don’t accom. A lot of the people we chat to can’t. Club is out if you are not comfortable or want privacy. Hotels are expensive. So think about hotels but share costs. Too many are happy for me (Mrs) to pay and I’m on part time wages. Be considerate and go halves. "
Too many are happy for you to pay (alone)? Where have I been? I struggle to get someone to go halves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hotel or Club. Both so easy and are probably the most common meeting places... Have fun
Nice one thanks
...How about when time is of the essence (if an all day/night get together isn't on the cards)?"
Bullet point 4 |
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It’s one of the first things I check. Depends on what you want with the person but options include club hotel or Car. Hotels and clubs are fun but not ideal with regular. I’m unlikely except in the rarest of cases to consider someone who doesn’t accomodate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Been there ourselves. We don’t accom. A lot of the people we chat to can’t. Club is out if you are not comfortable or want privacy. Hotels are expensive. So think about hotels but share costs. Too many are happy for me (Mrs) to pay and I’m on part time wages. Be considerate and go halves. "
Most definitely. Wouldn't dream of expecting it without contributing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Day hotels? Some hotels do daytime use. As a single I used these, they provide use for a set amount of hours and are much cheaper. Perfect if you don't want to stay the night
Mrs "
Interesting. This will be looked into further |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Been there ourselves. We don’t accom. A lot of the people we chat to can’t. Club is out if you are not comfortable or want privacy. Hotels are expensive. So think about hotels but share costs. Too many are happy for me (Mrs) to pay and I’m on part time wages. Be considerate and go halves.
Most definitely. Wouldn't dream of expecting it without contributing."
a lot wouldn’t offer. Honestly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have a look on 9 to 5 day rate hotels
Another option is when the travelodge has a sale book a load of rooms to use throughout the months "
Good stuff!! Will do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hotel or Club. Both so easy and are probably the most common meeting places... Have fun
Nice one thanks
...How about when time is of the essence (if an all day/night get together isn't on the cards)?
Bullet point 4 "
I laughed, thanks!! 
Think I should have put 'spontanious' and 'short notice' in there somewhere!! |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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If neither of us can accommodate then we would look to meet in a club or go half on a hotel.
If we are on a weekend away and put up a meet then we would not expect the other couple to contribute. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't you read the other persons profile before deciding to meet??
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Of course!! Have you not read my profile? It actually says "I read your profile"!!
As for before deciding to meet, I put the question out there because it's a meet that has already happened, but was seeking suggestions for future repeats... |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas.... "
We put the location tick box nearer the top.
1. Which club are you likely to be attending on Friday nights?
2. Are you into the scenarios we're into?
3. Do we like each others' face pics?
Job's a good'un |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Get a van put cushions in the back , problem solved,  
Done!
Could u park said van anywhere and get on with stuff?"
Nah, the same secluded spots I would in a car, just less likely to be seen/caught by passers by! Although it is 4x4 so off the beaten track is more likely too! Just too close to the idea dogging for me. Each to their own and all that, I'm not judging - but that's just not for me.
Ideally looking for indoor ideas! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas.... "
I agree cos accommodating in a box would be difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been there ourselves. We don’t accom. A lot of the people we chat to can’t. Club is out if you are not comfortable or want privacy. Hotels are expensive. So think about hotels but share costs. Too many are happy for me (Mrs) to pay and I’m on part time wages. Be considerate and go halves. "
Joint household income? I'm just pointing out you're in a different position to single people on a low income.
I won't pay as i have no income . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Op your profile says you can accommodate.
Have you been caught out?"
Not quite.
I can accomodate, but only once in a blue moon (you've seen my profile so will know why) so have to find alternate locations. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas....
I agree cos accommodating in a box would be difficult."
There's a kink for everyone mind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas....
I agree cos accommodating in a box would be difficult.
There's a kink for everyone mind! "
I stated difficult, not impossible |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas....
I agree cos accommodating in a box would be difficult.
There's a kink for everyone mind!
I stated difficult, not impossible "
Now that is outside the box!! (Fuck me, the irony!! ) |
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OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
This is completely untrue. Of the meets I’ve had in hotels I have paid, every single time with only one offer for going halves (and unfortunately I wasn’t able to meet that time so wouldn’t accept it). |
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
This is completely untrue. Of the meets I’ve had in hotels I have paid, every single time with only one offer for going halves (and unfortunately I wasn’t able to meet that time so wouldn’t accept it). "
You are not part of the sample group my post wanted. Your view is yours, of course. Can't argue with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
This is completely untrue. Of the meets I’ve had in hotels I have paid, every single time with only one offer for going halves (and unfortunately I wasn’t able to meet that time so wouldn’t accept it).
You are not part of the sample group my post wanted. Your view is yours, of course. Can't argue with that."
Hardly an opinion of its fact though... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends how quick you need it, ie just fallen out a pub together with the horn. Off to the woods, up an alley, behind a tree in the park? If a hotel is beyond reach, it's dark and you can avoid police |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I,'ve done it many times in the FWB s car, these days it's the first thing i look on a profile (after perving on the cock fest pics of course). If they can't host, I will politely point out that I don't either. I,m not into hotels and am very time limited. So it's car sex with a trusted horny individual or there place. XXX |
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"Are you trying to pick a quarrel? I have accepted your version. I have gone ahead to tell you the post was targeted at 10 random single guys.
What more do u want?"
Why won’t you accept a woman’s view? I always pay my share of a hotel bill if a man can’t accommodate for some reason - always. I don’t do Travelodge and prefer something more upmarket which split costs can usually afford. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is peoples experience of this....
* Messages exchanged.
* Raport built.
* Agree a meet is possible.
* Align timing.
* Agree a location
Fuck, neither of us can accomodate...
What have you done to overcome this (and I'm looking for outside the box!)
Ideas....
I agree cos accommodating in a box would be difficult.
There's a kink for everyone mind!
I stated difficult, not impossible
Now that is outside the box!! (Fuck me, the irony!! )"
Fuck you, isn't that the point?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you trying to pick a quarrel? I have accepted your version. I have gone ahead to tell you the post was targeted at 10 random single guys.
What more do u want?"
Her experience is valid and she is welcome to relay it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I,'ve done it many times in the FWB s car, these days it's the first thing i look on a profile (after perving on the cock fest pics of course). If they can't host, I will politely point out that I don't either. I,m not into hotels and am very time limited. So it's car sex with a trusted horny individual or there place. XXX"
What is is about a hotel you don't like? asking out of curiosity x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
That is nonsense. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
I have always paid my half of a room bill. In fact I've covered the whole bill a few times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
If I had the money I'd be happy to go halves. Have done in the past
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"First thing I do is check they accommodate. If they don't I say no thank you.
If I like the look of them I say I'm looking for someone who can accommodate, sorry. This is because some people say they can't accommodate, but sometimes do. "
Also other way round,some put can accom to increase chance of meeting ,but in reality can't. |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
This is completely untrue. Of the meets I’ve had in hotels I have paid, every single time with only one offer for going halves (and unfortunately I wasn’t able to meet that time so wouldn’t accept it). "
ive had one meet where the guy paid. None paid half. So my meets are limited cos I can’t afford to keep paying for hotels. I’m on part time money. And this is Mrs. NOT Mr. So a lot of guys are happy to let the woman pay it seems. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"Are you trying to pick a quarrel? I have accepted your version. I have gone ahead to tell you the post was targeted at 10 random single guys.
What more do u want?"
. I have to agree with _lacksausage I have always been expected to pay for a hotel.Thats how it goes if you can't accommodate.Plenty of travelodge in the North London area. |
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
This is completely untrue. Of the meets I’ve had in hotels I have paid, every single time with only one offer for going halves (and unfortunately I wasn’t able to meet that time so wouldn’t accept it). "
Same with me too when I used to meet in hotels, only ever had one man offer to go halves! |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"It’s one of the first things I check. Depends on what you want with the person but options include club hotel or Car. Hotels and clubs are fun but not ideal with regular. I’m unlikely except in the rarest of cases to consider someone who doesn’t accomodate. "
You accommodate? |
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"It’s one of the first things I check. Depends on what you want with the person but options include club hotel or Car. Hotels and clubs are fun but not ideal with regular. I’m unlikely except in the rarest of cases to consider someone who doesn’t accomodate.
You accommodate?"
It’s a hard limit for me. However for very special people once trust and the relationship is built I’d consider it. Something I offered, along with the other usual hard limit, maybe that was a misunderstanding/miscommunication too huh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
More fool them if they agree to pay & don't think they should cover the whole cost, sort the details out beforehand |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
Best Greggs in Cheshire East |
"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
My view is we wan't to shag each other. So it should be halves. My experience so far is that has been the case. I might offer to pay full if I am flush but it should never be expected of me. If that is ever the case it will be tara. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel.
So the woman doesn't shag the man as well? "
No, she lies back and contemplates what she's cooking for dinner |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
My view is we wan't to shag each other. So it should be halves. My experience so far is that has been the case. I might offer to pay full if I am flush but it should never be expected of me. If that is ever the case it will be tara."
Perhaps it should be based on salary. Add your salary totals together, get a percentage, you each pay that percentage of the room fee. It's only fair.
Or perhaps you could take into account outgoings as well - that would be super fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
My view is we wan't to shag each other. So it should be halves. My experience so far is that has been the case. I might offer to pay full if I am flush but it should never be expected of me. If that is ever the case it will be tara.
Perhaps it should be based on salary. Add your salary totals together, get a percentage, you each pay that percentage of the room fee. It's only fair.
Or perhaps you could take into account outgoings as well - that would be super fair."
Whose calculator should you use? His? Hers? Oh god this is too complicated for me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10.
My view is we wan't to shag each other. So it should be halves. My experience so far is that has been the case. I might offer to pay full if I am flush but it should never be expected of me. If that is ever the case it will be tara.
Perhaps it should be based on salary. Add your salary totals together, get a percentage, you each pay that percentage of the room fee. It's only fair.
Or perhaps you could take into account outgoings as well - that would be super fair.
Whose calculator should you use? His? Hers? Oh god this is too complicated for me! "
It would depend who had the most orgasms, they get to choose which calculator they use. |
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
You’re wrong. Of the times I have had hotel meets with single women, I have never asked or expected the woman to pay, but have accepted either half cost or “I’ll book the room next time”. Couples I have always met in their homes. |
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"First thing I do is check they accommodate. If they don't I say no thank you.
If I like the look of them I say I'm looking for someone who can accommodate, sorry. This is because some people say they can't accommodate, but sometimes do.
Also other way round,some put can accom to increase chance of meeting ,but in reality can't."
That sounds more like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK,single guys please get used to this idea:
Single FEMS do not wish to pay for hotels. Only a tiny number will opt for splits.
Couples sometimes share costs. More that single FEMS.
Its a woman thing. You want to shag me so you, the man have to pay for the hotel. My source is unscientific but I dare 10 guys on this thread to say I am wrong. Just 10."
Bullshit. All my hotel meets I've always paid with the men making excuses as to why they can't afford to pay half. A few have agreed they would contribute, but once at the hotel, they've accidently left their wallet at home. |
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