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over a year ago
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Me and a Fwb were thinking of heading out to a 'normal club' as seeing her get hit on and dancing/getting groped/ kissing other guys but ultimately going home with me at the end of the night really turns us on.
Just wondered if any couples had done this before and how it went? were you honest with any guys up front about what was going on or just pretend to be single? Main concern is leading people on for our own benefit |
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Some clubs have social areas that are pretty much like normal nightclubs. Everyone is well dressed, there's a bar, dance floor, etc. Play areas are set away from this, so you needn't feel too out of place. Do a little research on clubs nearby and I'm sure you'll turn something up. It isn't half as scary as it first seems, the biggest hurdle is getting through that door. You'll soon wonder why you were so worried about it. |
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"Me and a Fwb were thinking of heading out to a 'normal club' as seeing her get hit on and dancing/getting groped/ kissing other guys but ultimately going home with me at the end of the night really turns us on.
Just wondered if any couples had done this before and how it went? were you honest with any guys up front about what was going on or just pretend to be single? Main concern is leading people on for our own benefit "
I'm not sure I would risk this x |
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Thanks all for your help and advice. I didn't realise some clubs had nightclub style areas but you are right, the biggest hurdle is us both getting through the door haha |
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"Thanks all for your help and advice. I didn't realise some clubs had nightclub style areas but you are right, the biggest hurdle is us both getting through the door haha"
If yous are considering this type of play but arent confident enough to go to a swingers club, are yous sure yous are ready to play such games? Just seems a tad odd to us! |
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We tried this when we were first started thinking about swinging. We were at horse races with my husband’s clients and colleagues and there was a disco at night. He suggested I go off on the pull and tell him all about. I walked round the room a few times, but didn’t have the nerve. It’s funny cos, when I was young and single, I’d have had no trouble picking a guy up in a club for a snog and a grope. Then there was another time we went to a City Slickers social in a London night club. Again we liked the idea of picking someone up from the vanilla world. Again didn’t have the nerve. It’s a lot more of a horny idea though - sometimes find it’s all too obvious in swingers clubs.
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I can see the attraction, at a swing club it would be a certainty if you wanted it to, but at a vanilla club it would be not the certainty and more of a turn on, should you 'pull'.
You just need to weigh up the pros and cons for yourselves and those you are trying to involve. While for some, should they find out it could cause aggravation, for others it may just be their usual evening at a club, dance, snog and a grope before heading home empty handed. We don't know how others will react should they find out it was nothing more than a wind up. |
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"I can see the attraction, at a swing club it would be a certainty if you wanted it to, but at a vanilla club it would be not the certainty and more of a turn on, should you 'pull'.
You just need to weigh up the pros and cons for yourselves and those you are trying to involve. While for some, should they find out it could cause aggravation, for others it may just be their usual evening at a club, dance, snog and a grope before heading home empty handed. We don't know how others will react should they find out it was nothing more than a wind up. "
It’s not a wind up. It’s woman going on the pull. That woman just so happens to have a partner, and it’s a good point that the situation may make the guy feel uncomfortable. But that doesn’t make it a wind up.
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"I can see the attraction, at a swing club it would be a certainty if you wanted it to, but at a vanilla club it would be not the certainty and more of a turn on, should you 'pull'.
You just need to weigh up the pros and cons for yourselves and those you are trying to involve. While for some, should they find out it could cause aggravation, for others it may just be their usual evening at a club, dance, snog and a grope before heading home empty handed. We don't know how others will react should they find out it was nothing more than a wind up.
It’s not a wind up. It’s woman going on the pull. That woman just so happens to have a partner, and it’s a good point that the situation may make the guy feel uncomfortable. But that doesn’t make it a wind up.
Mrs"
No, it's not a wind up. But that's not necessarily how someone outside of the situation might view it. I'm sure many would welcome the interest or opportunity provided. But there is always the possibility, after spending an hour or two flirting, kissing and groping, they may think they are onto a sure thing, then see the girl walking off with another guy at the end of the evening. Especially if alcohol is involved.
As I said I can see the attraction for the op. Just playing devils advocate. |
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"I can see the attraction, at a swing club it would be a certainty if you wanted it to, but at a vanilla club it would be not the certainty and more of a turn on, should you 'pull'.
You just need to weigh up the pros and cons for yourselves and those you are trying to involve. While for some, should they find out it could cause aggravation, for others it may just be their usual evening at a club, dance, snog and a grope before heading home empty handed. We don't know how others will react should they find out it was nothing more than a wind up.
It’s not a wind up. It’s woman going on the pull. That woman just so happens to have a partner, and it’s a good point that the situation may make the guy feel uncomfortable. But that doesn’t make it a wind up.
Mrs
No, it's not a wind up. But that's not necessarily how someone outside of the situation might view it. I'm sure many would welcome the interest or opportunity provided. But there is always the possibility, after spending an hour or two flirting, kissing and groping, they may think they are onto a sure thing, then see the girl walking off with another guy at the end of the evening. Especially if alcohol is involved.
As I said I can see the attraction for the op. Just playing devils advocate."
If I were in that situation, I’d probably just say I was with my husband when I first got talking to the guy. They can then do with that information what they wish. |
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"Thanks all for your help and advice. I didn't realise some clubs had nightclub style areas but you are right, the biggest hurdle is us both getting through the door haha"
Did you ever sneak in for an underage drink? It's like that. Heart may race a bit as you approach the event horizon, but in retrospect it isn't a big deal. You can do this.
If you do take it to vanilla world, the above is good advice. Be up front that you are in a relationship and just having fun. You may want to define some limits, you may want to leave it looser, it will depend on the situation/guy. Personally, in my youth, playing with forbidden fruit in any form was exciting and fun. To an extent it is why we're here now. Breaking those taboos. |
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