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Joined recently and concerned longer I go without more photo's or meet verifications less likely I'll succeed on here.. I've offered a case of wine ( or what ever you demon lol ) for stylish photo's.. I can accommodate or travel.. I'm requesting your advice.. could have a party at mine should a couple or woman assist 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As we women are delicate, fragile creatures, with egos that shatter at rejection  .... it'd be nice to know a little about the type of person you'd like to meet |
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Your profile reads well.
You could attend a local social if there is one in your neck of the woods. It will help you to meet people in an innocent surrounding.
When messaging, message the individual or the couple... Demonstrate that you have read their profile, mention your common interests and say why you want to meet them, in such a way that it does not read as a generic message.
Enjoy the forums... reply privately to forum posts when the people are local to you and to whom you want to meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"time, patience, basic common sense...
everything else you have to work out for yourself otherwise it isn't then you!"
your right to a point but there is a down side to where patience can kill a dream  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As we women are delicate, fragile creatures, with egos that shatter at rejection .... it'd be nice to know a little about the type of person you'd like to meet"
This  always helpful in ruling yourself in or out when reading a profile |
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"Problem with the club scene is that I employ a lot of men some of which brag and tell me of night's out .. sacking would be difficult once they know my pleasure lol xx"
It doesn't need to be the closest club.. many people travel to clubs further away so they don't meet people they know.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A well written profile explaining what you like, what you don't like, when you can meet and any other valuable information.
Photo verified.
Various photos, not just cock photos. so Body photos.
Face photos in private.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As we women are delicate, fragile creatures, with egos that shatter at rejection .... it'd be nice to know a little about the type of person you'd like to meet"
amazing pair of boobies |
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Hello again OP. My advice is the same as was written two weeks ago on your last profile advice thread:
'Pics have been mentioned by the person above already, It's your choice of course, but there are plenty of pics you can post without your face or cock in them. Torso and bum shots would probably go down well, after all you have a nice chest shot so surely the rest will match? Or maybe a nice suited and booted shot with your face obscurred?'. |
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"Hello again OP. My advice is the same as was written two weeks ago on your last profile advice thread:
'Pics have been mentioned by the person above already, It's your choice of course, but there are plenty of pics you can post without your face or cock in them. Torso and bum shots would probably go down well, after all you have a nice chest shot so surely the rest will match? Or maybe a nice suited and booted shot with your face obscurred?'."
Another one! Why ask for advice then ignore it? Lots of people giving up their time, to try to be helpful, then nothing done is so frustrating.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Joined recently and concerned longer I go without more photo's or meet verifications less likely I'll succeed on here.. I've offered a case of wine ( or what ever you demon lol ) for stylish photo's.. I can accommodate or travel.. I'm requesting your advice.. could have a party at mine should a couple or woman assist
NSA Fun,please advise "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?"
this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More pics (which you're working on by the looks of things), preferably no dick pics. And try and be funny in your pm's, don't take all of this too seriously. A guy is far more likely to get a reply from me if he has decent pics and good chat than if he looks gorgeous but has zero personality or shite patter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK
You have said you are working on new pics for the last few times you have posted "advice help etc" Green arrow
some of my photos are selfies and in this day in age most people can take a selfie or ask a friend to take a pic.
and like most people here, a good profile and good photos helps someone from clicking on another profile to messaging them
YOU OP are always asking for help and advice but isn't it time you manned up and did what the advice says or just dont ask no more |
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"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?
this"
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Well written profile, but as others have said very few (well one) photos. No reason why you can’t do photos, plenty of guys on here manage it. Asking for meets to gain photos is a turn off for me. |
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" Joined recently and concerned longer I go without more photo's or meet verifications less likely I'll succeed on here.. I've offered a case of wine ( or what ever you demon lol ) for stylish photo's.. I can accommodate or travel.. I'm requesting your advice.. could have a party at mine should a couple or woman assist
NSA Fun,please advise "
Don't try and please everyone all the time,as that's a sure fire way to please nobody any of the time. Know you intended audience and stick to it. Get out to clubs,socials etc |
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"NSA.. fun up for a laugh and enjoy non complicated sex.. go to parties or distant clubs.. no "I'M word lol.. enjoy the good life.. top hotel's and feel free . .."
But ur offering yr home for a party but not into them.. don’t make sense   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Problem with the club scene is that I employ a lot of men some of which brag and tell me of night's out .. sacking would be difficult once they know my pleasure lol xx"
So don’t tell them if you feel that’s a problem....but why should it be?
Everyone from the cleaner to the managing director knows of my lifestyle. I brought it up at interview several years ago. I’m a single guy following a legal lifestyle....I assume you are too?
Get yourself out to clubs, socials etc....get yourself known! |
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"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?"
It just says the type of people he is looking for.
There is nothing wrong with liking nice things it doesn’t mean he is bragging at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I avoid profiles reading NSA. After posting previously in forum about it it has different meanings to different people. I see it as fuck n chuck so don't entertain it. If you look at single male profiles there's so many reading NSA so your entering a largely populated area already.
Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.
Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X |
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"Personally I avoid profiles reading NSA. After posting previously in forum about it it has different meanings to different people. I see it as fuck n chuck so don't entertain it. If you look at single male profiles there's so many reading NSA so your entering a largely populated area already.
Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.
Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X "
It depends on your interpretation of NSA.
We want NSA but certainly aren't fuck and chuck types.
To us it means we want great repeat meets with people who are swinging friends. That friendship remains within swinging for fun times for all of us together, it just doesn't come out into 'everyday life'.
I can understand your concern about the phrase being used in some contexts to give the feeling you talk about though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I avoid profiles reading NSA. After posting previously in forum about it it has different meanings to different people. I see it as fuck n chuck so don't entertain it. If you look at single male profiles there's so many reading NSA so your entering a largely populated area already.
Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.
Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X
It depends on your interpretation of NSA.
We want NSA but certainly aren't fuck and chuck types.
To us it means we want great repeat meets with people who are swinging friends. That friendship remains within swinging for fun times for all of us together, it just doesn't come out into 'everyday life'.
I can understand your concern about the phrase being used in some contexts to give the feeling you talk about though."
Yeah. As I say I posted a forum about it a while ago and there were many different ideas bouncing around. Some people had my view some had yours. I review profiles and veris to get an understanding generally but NSA in headline text or first line of profile. I do not bother at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The one thing I find a huge put off is wen people put fine wine and posh places ...we on her to furfil needs not brag about our life ...surely im not alone here?
It just says the type of people he is looking for.
There is nothing wrong with liking nice things it doesn’t mean he is bragging at all "
The type of people he's looking for yes women that will jump on his dick and rinse the poor sod ...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do you need someone else to take the pics ? It's easy to do them yourself !
Go to a club , it's the easiest way to meet people and get veris if you chat and show the world of fab you're real ! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
OP you've had a couple of profile advice threads now and yet don't appear to have taken and acted on any of the advice given - your profile currently states pics will be available after 20th November yet it's now 22nd and there's no sign of any new ones.
As others have said, not sure why you need a (bribed) third party to take them either - in this day and age of camera phones and timers it's easy to take them and upload them |
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"Why do you need someone else to take the pics ? It's easy to do them yourself !
Go to a club , it's the easiest way to meet people and get veris if you chat and show the world of fab you're real ! "
I disagree; it’s actually easier to use the chat rooms in here, and be verified by cam, than using a club |
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"Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there "
Great advice. It was the advice I was given and then took.
Went to the VA and put a post on here and then a meet request. Got talking to some people before going to the club and then voila - verifications and proof you are a real boy!
Plus - some people won't talk to you online bit if they meet you in real life then they will. |
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We look at it this way.
Imagine that you are doing a job on your car. Sometimes, although rarely, you will be able to do it with just a screwdriver. Most times however you will need a whole box of tools..
It's just the same in the swinging world. Treat FAB as just another tool in your box. Your profile content and pics are the difference between high quality tools or cheap Chinese shit.
Other tools can be the chat rooms, socials, clubs Etc.
For a single guy swinging is a very complicated job and you need all the high quality tools you can get.
I know that the wording opens me up to a whole stand up routine of jokes but hey ho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I'm requesting your advice..
NSA Fun,please advise..."
Just delete this part,
"Not looking to have sex with 100's, wishing to be more selective as not desperate, yet I'm cursed or maybe blessed with a huge sex drive and an erotic mind.."
Clichéd and stereotyped. The rest is okay, I would meet you had you been local.
No further photos are needed in my opinion, I belong to the forum minority who couldn't care less about photos. Only the person I actually meet in real life counts. |
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"OP you've had a couple of profile advice threads now and yet don't appear to have taken and acted on any of the advice given - your profile currently states pics will be available after 20th November yet it's now 22nd and there's no sign of any new ones.
As others have said, not sure why you need a (bribed) third party to take them either - in this day and age of camera phones and timers it's easy to take them and upload them "
A fraction of these threads result in the poster actually doing something. Waste of time, it's a shame for the people who genuinly want help and will act on advice. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Personally I avoid profiles reading NSA. After posting previously in forum about it it has different meanings to different people. I see it as fuck n chuck so don't entertain it. If you look at single male profiles there's so many reading NSA so your entering a largely populated area already.
Be respectful throughout, there's a lot of rejection on here but staying respectful will increase your chances.
Be thoughtful in your first message, stay classy and include something as to why you are contacting the people. X
It depends on your interpretation of NSA.
We want NSA but certainly aren't fuck and chuck types.
To us it means we want great repeat meets with people who are swinging friends. That friendship remains within swinging for fun times for all of us together, it just doesn't come out into 'everyday life'.
I can understand your concern about the phrase being used in some contexts to give the feeling you talk about though.
Yeah. As I say I posted a forum about it a while ago and there were many different ideas bouncing around. Some people had my view some had yours. I review profiles and veris to get an understanding generally but NSA in headline text or first line of profile. I do not bother at all. "
neither do I as I find it quite off-putting for the fuck and chuck reasons |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do you need someone else to take the pics ? It's easy to do them yourself !
Go to a club , it's the easiest way to meet people and get veris if you chat and show the world of fab you're real !
I disagree; it’s actually easier to use the chat rooms in here, and be verified by cam, than using a club "
exactly I've verified quite a few by fab cams to help them out x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP has taken zero notice of the advice he has been given, it seems
It appears ( from his previous posts) that he seems to think chucking money at the problem will solve it |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"OP has taken zero notice of the advice he has been given, it seems
It appears ( from his previous posts) that he seems to think chucking money at the problem will solve it"
evidently not working then |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"OP has taken zero notice of the advice he has been given, it seems
It appears ( from his previous posts) that he seems to think chucking money at the problem will solve it"
Nail, head, hit there Sappy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would always advise trying a club/social to get your name out there.
Forums are a great way to start as well, just immerse yourself in the swinger life style and it will gradually happen.
The reality is you don't get very far until you build a bit of a rapport, and to build a rapport you need to chat about more than swinging and sex.
Joke, laugh and get yourself out there.
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"Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there
Great advice. It was the advice I was given and then took.
Went to the VA and put a post on here and then a meet request. Got talking to some people before going to the club and then voila - verifications and proof you are a real boy!
Plus - some people won't talk to you online bit if they meet you in real life then they will."
*cough cough * I have to agree....we would never have met otherwise... |
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"Go to a club. Get yourself known in one. Get veris from there
Great advice. It was the advice I was given and then took.
Went to the VA and put a post on here and then a meet request. Got talking to some people before going to the club and then voila - verifications and proof you are a real boy!
Plus - some people won't talk to you online bit if they meet you in real life then they will.
*cough cough * I have to agree....we would never have met otherwise... "
Exactly my point and I am still smiling - looking forward to meeting up with you again |
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" Joined recently and concerned longer I go without more photo's or meet verifications less likely I'll succeed on here.. I've offered a case of wine ( or what ever you demon lol ) for stylish photo's.. I can accommodate or travel.. I'm requesting your advice.. could have a party at mine should a couple or woman assist
NSA Fun,please advise "
Be yourself, don’t be a sycophant lower your standards or lose your self respect just for a shag |
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