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Not much interest lately
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Hi guys and girls,
Quick background, we've been on here around 3 years now, had plenty of meets and made some good friends however, we've found lately that there doesn't seem to be many couples around and if there are we don't really seem to hit it off with them, I understand everyone has tastes and preferences and not all will want to talk to us but we used to get alot more luck.
Can anyone see anything that stands out on our profile that would make you not interested in us? Brutally honest please as we're getting ready to give it all up but couldn't imagine going back to a 'normal' relationship.
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Just had a read at your profile
And you both sound friendly and fun
And your pics are smoking hot I can’t see anything that would put people off
Only a fool would pass chance up to have fun
With you guys |
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over a year ago
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It's been getting harder and harder for the last year. We can't remember the last time we had a meet directly from fab.. mostly just use it to find out what's on and for events.
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Your profile text looks great to me.
The only suggestion I could make is to consider having more pictures of the male half as you do seem to focus very much on the lady.
In recent weeks I've seen quite a few forum posts where couples are bemoaning the fact others don't have pictures of the men on their profiles so this may be putting people off. |
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over a year ago
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"It's been getting harder and harder for the last year. We can't remember the last time we had a meet directly from fab.. mostly just use it to find out what's on and for events.
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I have found the same and read lots of similar posts and chatted with people who have said similar.
The site seems to be more of a social site now and people wanting to chat or post in the forum but not meet. |
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"It is not an issue for us, but smoking is a big thing for some couples. That would reduce the number of hits you'll get particularly as its a filter box choice."
Yes we get that but it didn't seem to affect us say last year. There was a time we could put a meet up and pretty much guaranteed something would come of it, nowadays we're lucky if we get one (unless you count guys then we get about 100000)  |
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All looks fine to me
You maybe aware that people (normally single guys)often posts similiar threads.
My advice is always the same rather than spending time on your profile spend time on attending socials and good club nights.Wether it's single ladies couples or men the people attending clubs have plenty of meets so have no need to use the site for any other purpose than to keep in touch with friends
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"All looks fine to me
You maybe aware that people (normally single guys)often posts similiar threads.
My advice is always the same rather than spending time on your profile spend time on attending socials and good club nights.Wether it's single ladies couples or men the people attending clubs have plenty of meets so have no need to use the site for any other purpose than to keep in touch with friends
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Yes we have seen the other posts and we do attend socials and clubs as often as we can however with childcare we don't get out half as much as we would like so sometimes we have to rely on the site |
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over a year ago
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"All looks fine to me
You maybe aware that people (normally single guys)often posts similiar threads.
My advice is always the same rather than spending time on your profile spend time on attending socials and good club nights.Wether it's single ladies couples or men the people attending clubs have plenty of meets so have no need to use the site for any other purpose than to keep in touch with friends
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"All looks fine to me
You maybe aware that people (normally single guys)often posts similiar threads.
My advice is always the same rather than spending time on your profile spend time on attending socials and good club nights.Wether it's single ladies couples or men the people attending clubs have plenty of meets so have no need to use the site for any other purpose than to keep in touch with friends
This "
As said in an ideal world this would be the best option, however because of childcare we very rarely get chance to have a club night so we have to rely on the site for meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks fine.
My only criticism is I'd want to see more pics of the male half. Our couples profile has pretty much an even split of us, so people can see exactly what they're getting. I think I saw maybe 2 pics of the male half and they were both cock pics. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All looks fine to me
You maybe aware that people (normally single guys)often posts similiar threads.
My advice is always the same rather than spending time on your profile spend time on attending socials and good club nights.Wether it's single ladies couples or men the people attending clubs have plenty of meets so have no need to use the site for any other purpose than to keep in touch with friends
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As said in an ideal world this would be the best option, however because of childcare we very rarely get chance to have a club night so we have to rely on the site for meets. "
Surely you need childcare for any meet? |
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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago
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We can't see anything wrong.
We have come to the conclusion that the site has kind of become a victim of it's own success.
This has centralised a lot of single males in one place. This forces competition and a cascade effect
Couples now mostly search for themselves, the sites search criteria capabilities are poor to say the least so you have to wade through a mountain of profiles, most either give up or don't feel they match based on the reasons mentioned in earlier replies.
Until the site improves, things will continue as is. It will work for some but if you are selective your options are seriously marginalised, the knock on effect is people often feel ignored.
But we could be wrong  |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain |
Unusual to see a couple starting a thread like this, but 2017 has been a weird year on Fab. I’m not sure if it’s down to your profile specifically, & possibly more to do with people just tired of timewasters, press intrusion (The McKeague case & “outing” certain members in various areas), or just how things can be on Fab (everyone gets quite periods or hide their profile). It might be that other swingers are looking for older (40+) age groups. Who knows? I’d advise you just keep plugging away & hopefully there’s an upswing in interest. Good luck. |
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" because of childcare we very rarely get chance to have a club night so we have to rely on the site for meets.
Surely you need childcare for any meet? "
That's what I thought too. Are you inviting meets to your home while your children are there? This would be offputting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your not alone OP we have posted several meetings of late to little or no response unless you count those that don’t read profile or those that agree to meet then don’t show up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profile looks great too us as well like a few other posts have said more pics of the male.
Lots of couples mainly have female pics which is great but come on the ladies want to see the guys as well. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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u don't see anything wrong with the profile but it could be the verification 51 is a lot so get new a acount n make a fresh start with different pics people like new people specially couple n single ladies |
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over a year ago
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"u don't see anything wrong with the profile but it could be the verification 51 is a lot so get new a acount n make a fresh start with different pics people like new people specially couple n single ladies "
really.... why should they.. we used to have well over 200 and never had a issue. If that matters to someone then maybe the op wont be compatible. It's a swinging site. 51 is hardly a lot.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't see anything wrong with your profile as others have said.
I think it's other things. I've recently come back after taking 18 months out and was supposed at how many new people were in my search are. But, having said that, when you take out those that don't match your age or you theirs, for me couples with bi males, etc, etc you are left with quite a small pool to 'fish' from. Because it is a pond or pool you find that it takes time for someone new to find there way in. You end up looking at the same old, same old, who either don't interest you or you them. In fact so much so, I wonder why I came back sometimes. I also agree with a previous poster, there are far too many on here that have no intention of meeting, whether male, female or couples. Using the site as soshul meja. Perhaps fab could counteract this by putting another category in? Do you intend to meet people or just use the site as a social platform. Not that, that would make any difference. |
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"u don't see anything wrong with the profile but it could be the verification 51 is a lot so get new a acount n make a fresh start with different pics people like new people specially couple n single ladies "
A lot of verification's to us shows they are genuine, reliable and are here to actually meet.
We've often had the same response with regards to too many verification's. But say someone has been on here 5 years, 51 is nothing, that's just 10 meets a year! Plus not everyone leaves a verification so the number could be higher anyway. |
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"It's been getting harder and harder for the last year. We can't remember the last time we had a meet directly from fab.. mostly just use it to find out what's on and for events.
X"
We've been on the site for over 5 years and have also found this. We have given up posting meets as get no response. We use the site now to keep in touch with people we've met and to find out if there are any events happening.
We live quite local to a club and find it so much easier going there to meet new people as there is no time wasting and we always have a good night even though we don't play everytime we go |
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We have noticed the same, we put it down to several factors. Our age may have tipped a magic number, and as we have been on a while everyone who we might be compatible with we have already had contact with. And fine tuning our profile preferences may have ed many out. Still get a bit of interest but nothing comparable to 12 months ago. X |
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"We have noticed the same, we put it down to several factors. Our age may have tipped a magic number, and as we have been on a while everyone who we might be compatible with we have already had contact with. And fine tuning our profile preferences may have ed many out. Still get a bit of interest but nothing comparable to 12 months ago. X"
We've noticed this with ourselves also, although with us we're aware what we are seeking is not for everyone which makes it harder and definitely with filters in place messages/offers compared to when we joined are a lot less. |
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We have also noticed this,as a straight couple its getting harder to find couples who want to play straight and then all be attracteded to each other.
We are using this profile for clubs/socials and the forum.
We both have our own single profiles and meet seperately now .
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Nothing wrong with your profile that I can see. It says what you are looking for etc.
Maybe you have met the people you need to meet for a while.
Stick with it things will pick up again.
It get yourselves out and about saying hi to people rather than waiting for them to contact you |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
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Well can't be doing three bad, you had a meet a couple of weeks back.... Some poor blighters get none.. 
Profile looks cool to me.. Maybe hit one of the many clubs up in the midlands if you're wanting more?!
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I think there are fewer couples joining FAB at the moment or lots have left so the ratios have got misaligned. I don’t know what the reason for this is? Maybe Brexit (blame everything on that don’t they?).
I think FAB has had plenty of warnings about getting rid of time wasters, duplicate profiles etc. It can’t be easy for them but let’s hope the site doesn’t fold or just get so rubbish nobody uses it anymore.
Good luck in your searching OP. Plenty of good advise given. |
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"Hi guys and girls,
Quick background, we've been on here around 3 years now, had plenty of meets and made some good friends however, we've found lately that there doesn't seem to be many couples around and if there are we don't really seem to hit it off with them, I understand everyone has tastes and preferences and not all will want to talk to us but we used to get alot more luck.
Can anyone see anything that stands out on our profile that would make you not interested in us? Brutally honest please as we're getting ready to give it all up but couldn't imagine going back to a 'normal' relationship.
Any criticism welcomed "
Simple. Look for who you want and don't wait for them to come to you. Just bcz you're a couple doesn't give you more right to be able to get a meet. I haven't read or looked at your profile though so can't make any other comments |
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Some couples might be put off by the suggestion of single meets without their partner. Trust is a big thing and jealousy destructive in a relationship. We would always want to be near and participating rather than wondering what is going on.
Couples that play together stay together |
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