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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are there single men who would be interested in dating a married woman and being her lover, albeit in a non-exclusive arrangement? Husband would be friends with his wife's lover. Realise this is niche but trying to find out if this is the sort of thing some men might be interested in.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is that an offer from you? If so yes from looking at your photos but only on the understanding hubby doesn’t use the riding crops on me!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it's what you're looking for op hope you find this and it works for you, shows a strong couple

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By *odg123Man over a year ago

southampton

I'd be interested

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By *aiseaneyebrowMan over a year ago

Fylde

Op - what an interesting concept. Potentially very fulfilling for all.

Hmm. Mind wanders.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

It's called Polyamory

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are there single men who would be interested in dating a married woman and being her lover, albeit in a non-exclusive arrangement? Husband would be friends with his wife's lover. Realise this is niche but trying to find out if this is the sort of thing some men might be interested in.

Mrs"

Yes I'd be up for that, though depends on the guy in question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id love this arrangement, I think most single guys would, no pressure from anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are plenty of guys out there willing to do something similar to this.

I've had relationships with couples long term. You just need to work out between the three of you how it will work. Do you for instance, want the 'boyfriend' to be seen out and about with you, drinks, meals etc while hubby is sat at home. Is it just a long term lover for the sexual side whether husband is there or not? It can work, whichever way you want it to. Just needs to work for the three of you.

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By *ack_at_the_farm....Man over a year ago

woodhall spa

Isn’t this a Polyamory relationship? This is something i would seriously consider

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. I'd consider it.

As long as everyone is happy go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

what about the hubby taking on a lover too ? cosy foursomes wud become quite special I would think ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hoping you're good a shortlisting for the innundations coming your way

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By *ficouldMan over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Mrs"

I've been asked, not sure if the husband has been approached as yet. Not sure what you mean by the non-exclusive part. (understand that the husband and wife may still be having sex but why take a lover if it's not exclusive beyond that)

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan over a year ago

Sussex

This arrangement is not new to me. So long as there are firm rules set up early on I can understand the appeal for all concerned

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love this type of arrangement.

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By *arehamMan over a year ago

handforth

I did this with a mates wife for a bit it was nice taking her out then going to her home to fuck her nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds good to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is that an offer from you? If so yes from looking at your photos but only on the understanding hubby doesn’t use the riding crops on me!! Lol "

Riding crops are an optional extra

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Isn’t this a Polyamory relationship? This is something i would seriously consider"

Yes maybe it's polyamory that I'm interested in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There are plenty of guys out there willing to do something similar to this.

I would not want to be seen by anybody i know if out with my lover, and it would be predominantly a sexual relationship. But I would like to be treated as a sort of girlfriend. We have tried it a few times by chance, although we have never deliberately pursued it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mrs

Non-exclusive is basically that all parties concerned have the right to pursue sexual interests elsewhere. Nothing would change regarding swing parties or clubs that my husband like to attend. And there is a guy we meet from time to time for threesome fun, so that wouldn't change either. Likewise I have never asked any of my lovers to give up their other partners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"what about the hubby taking on a lover too ? cosy foursomes wud become quite special I would think ? "

Yes my husband has an FB with my permission. He doesn't see her very often and it's only sexual. It's unlikely that I would ever meet her though. I don't think that would interest me.

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By *hinypants77Man over a year ago

Leeds

Sounds like a win win situation for all involved.

If it works for you do it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That would be an ideal relationship for me, a friend and a lover.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Id love this arrangement, I think most single guys would, no pressure from anywhere."

I think the majority of men would not like what I have to offer. Men like to fuck another man's wife but would not be prepared to to put another thing more meaningful into another man's wife. But there are a few men who don't want to get tied down but still want the benefits of a girlfriend. That's what I think I can give. I think most men are too jealous or possessive though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are plenty of guys out there willing to do something similar to this.

I have had a couple of relationships with couples along these lines. One for eight years, sometimes we would meet the three of us, other times, quite often, I would meet the female on her own. We would always take photos for her to show her husband for later. Another couple I would usually meet and the husband would watch or join in.

I'm guessing you want something similar to the first? Someone you can meet long-term, whether husband is there or not? That way you can build the trust and with that the intimacy. Become lovers, (without the emotions) rather than just someone to fuck. If that makes sense?

I've always got on well with the husband, whether the wife and myself were playing alone or not. A cup of tea and a chat, perhaps more relaxed than a 'normal' meet. Birthdays were remembered, as were wedding anniversary and Christmas. It really does come down to what the three of you want. And it should be remembered that it's three!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Polyamorous is the way to go in my opinion

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

An alternative view to the replies given so far. Not a chance.

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By *easing_twoCouple over a year ago

Bristol, Thornbury

Mrs"

This is our ideal situation

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Ok, to open up the discussion more. To those who like this idea, why? What is the point in being the lover of a married woman, when a single lady could probably offer a whole lot more? To those who don't like this idea (only one so far, but I think he's probably more the norm), what is the turn-off with such a arrangement?

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Ok, to open up the discussion more. To those who like this idea, why? What is the point in being the lover of a married woman, when a single lady could probably offer a whole lot more? To those who don't like this idea (only one so far, but I think he's probably more the norm), what is the turn-off with such a arrangement? "

I would only want to date one woman and would want a woman to only date me. I get that some people make this work. It's just not for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, I am only looking for NSA. So it wouldn't matter whether they are single or married. I'm recently out of a similar arrangement with a single female. Until she found a boyfriend. With a female who has a partner already and is on side with what is happening then that isn't going to happen.

But it does allow you to build a relationship with someone who has a similar outlook as myself. To me it isn't about the dynamic of it being a married woman. It's about a sexual relationship between two people, perhaps the intimacy that you wouldn't get from a 'normal' swinging relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me also, it's about taking sex to the next level. One off sex with strangers is exciting and fun, but building a relationship, trust and really getting to know someone's likes and dislikes takes it to a different level, for me. It's about finding someone with a similar outlook as myself.

Perhaps for someone with less experience then the whole married woman comes into play. But for me personally that side of it isn't as important. Although it is important that I get on well with the husband and him me. Just my personal opinion.

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

Yep I guess the que will be long.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes this is something I would be more than happy with. So if there's any couples out there...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Id love this arrangement, I think most single guys would, no pressure from anywhere.

This sounds very much like the relationship I had with a couple last year. I became almost part of the family and good friends with both husband and wife. There was a large age difference between Mr & Mrs and I just happened to speak with them at the right time and we all clicked.

I would certainly be interested in forming a similar relationship with the right couple.

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By *onny MCMan over a year ago

Crawley

I see a married woman quite regularly and get on really well with her husband - and no, that's not because he doesn't know I'm shagging his wife, we started out doing threesomes, now moved on to her wanting to be with just one of us at a time, but the three of us hang out together quite a lot too.

OP, if that's the kind of set up you're looking for and you like what you see, hope you'll come and say "Hi".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Yes, don’t see the issue especially if the extra guy isn’t looking for a relationship it’ll be win win.....would it just be the wife & lover or would the husband want to watch or participate at times?

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

This is something we are very interested in pursuing. Quite happy to be seen out with the other guy as well

Pandora x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Hi classy

I have something similar with the couple i see...been a regular for 3 years now....and would not change it. I m exclusive to them.and dont play with others with out them or her involved. We have even set up a new 3some profile too...but good luck in your search...it is most rewarding...but i think you know that already....happy to discuss privately if you so require.

Take care

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I would not want to be seen by anybody i know if out with my lover But I would like to be treated as a sort of girlfriend. "

How could you be treated as a girlfriend if you never go out in public together?

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care"

Sounds fabulous, lucky you. Hope we get to meet a guy to do the same

. Including having the 3sum profile!!

Pandora x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes!!!sound like a dream come true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care

Sounds fabulous, lucky you. Hope we get to meet a guy to do the same

. Including having the 3sum profile!!

Pandora x"

Thank you pandora....most kind and i realise how lucky i am. They are fabulous friends now as well amd i often play golf with the hubby. He is a great guy. Ultimately about respect and trust...

Btw have sent you a wink fromthe 'other' profile lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I would not want to be seen by anybody i know if out with my lover But I would like to be treated as a sort of girlfriend.

How could you be treated as a girlfriend if you never go out in public together?"

I've been out in public on my own with 3 different guys. I'm always very careful to be somewhere I am not likely to be seen by anyone I know. I.e. Not my local. No I would not want to be someone's proper girlfriend in that it is made public.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess if I got on with both halves of the couple it could be something I'd consider.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes this type of arrangement would certainly work for me.

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By *tripper9Man over a year ago

Blackburn

Yes it would be something I’d consider, if there are any couples in Lancashire that are looking for a similar arrangement let me know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care"

We've had trio arrangements with a number of guys over the years. Most don't stick around, they get girlfriends etc which we accept. We have one that has stuck around for 2 and a half years (no longer on Fab) and I would love to have a bit more from him, but I don't think he wants that. To date our fun has always been with theeesomes in mind, but I have had some lone dates, but it was more circumstantial. So we were thinking about actively pursuing an arrangement where it's more one-to-one as opposed to threesome based. I'm not like you though - excluvity would not be an acceptable option. I like my lovers seeing other people, and if they were to be exclusive to me then they may as well have a girlfriend who can give them so much more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care

I hear you....time is a factor for me. I am exclusive but want to play with others with them though..just me though...but thanks for such a great reply....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care

I have to agree about the exclusivity side. While I think this type of relationship can be more intimate, to be exclusive in a long term relationship wouldn't work for me. In both of the long term couples relationships I have been part of, neither were exclusive. It's kind of fun knowing what others have been upto. I think it keeps a healthy balance too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"
Sounds like an ideal arrangment for a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care

I hear you....time is a factor for me. I am exclusive but want to play with others with them though..just me though...but thanks for such a great reply...."

Of course it's each to his own. If your couple like having a man who is and wants to be exclusive to them they are very lucky to have found that. We don't want that, but if we did I don't believe we would be able to find that. As a norm, I suspect exclusivity usually only happens in regular vanilla relationships, not the swing scene.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care

I think the reason I might pursue having a lover is because I am not naturally monogamous. If I were I would not be here. So if I'm not monogamous with my husband I'm hardly going to be monogamous with my lover. I've also got a bit freaked out when a former lover started to only see me. I did want to be the only one he was sleeping with - that was a level of intimacy to far for my comfort zone. And like you I enjoy hearing about what playmates have been up to.

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By *arry monk40Man over a year ago

Telford

I been looking for this for years

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By *arry monk40Man over a year ago

Telford

Trouble is everyone's a fake

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Trouble is everyone's a fake"

Everyone?!? We've never knowingly come across a fake. All our meets have been real people who are what they say they are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who's fake?

I'm not.

The people I have played with aren't.

A little of people have experiences pre-fab. For example, the couple I played with between 99-07. And others.

The girl I saw between 10/16-6/17. Just not on fab.

People are real. Assuming you can't get a meet? That's down to you, doesn't mean everyone else is a fake.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as the lover and husband get on and their are rules set, I can't see a problem. I would even be interested myself in an arrangement like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As long as the lover and husband get on and their are rules set, I can't see a problem. I would even be interested myself in an arrangement like this"

Have to admit we're not a great fan of 'rules'. However past experience has taught us that if my lover chats to me via text and doesn't chat to hubby, then it won't work. He needs photos sent too. I wouldn't want to put that as a rule though - a man is either able to meet my husband's needs or he's not. So I guess honesty is required from the beginning as to what is realistic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As long as the lover and husband get on and their are rules set, I can't see a problem. I would even be interested myself in an arrangement like this

Totally agree.....welll thought out comments and perspective.. very interesting....love sending pics myself...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think as an older male thats a lovely option ..and realistic as I'm unlikely to find a 'love of my life' a useful road to travel..

Thanks for starting this thread

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By *rbane PlayerMan over a year ago

London

Mrs

Hi classy

Take care

Not sure why you seem to think that what you want is so fanciful, or niche. I for one, would love the same arrangement, especially if all my lovers knew each other.

If your dating a married lady, being non -exclusive may help keep some of the emotions in check, but still I suspect anyone involved will be walking a thin line emotionally, just for the reason that feelings can build up with regular though casual meets.

Yet, regular but causal makes for better sex (I believe), through trust, and the gradual pushing of boundaries. But being able to take the "hot wife" out for dinner is cool too, but doing the same for the hubby is excellent as well, as the single guy is having a relationship with both, giving both want they want.

I have been thinking about this and I believe that the "happy third" is there to add something to the couple's relationship. That depends on the couple obviously, but it is something I now understand is exciting, fulfilling and worth the effort.

Not sure it is niche, but if it is, then hotwifying is something is my niche. I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

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By *.A.MGUY55Man over a year ago

Rochdale

ABI titmus eyes hmmmm where she's looking over your shoulder

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

I did this for a 2 or 3 years. It worked well, and we all got a great deal out of the relationship. We went out socially all together and in different pairs. We played as it suited us.

It was amusing when we went to a pub with friends who knew us all, but not all the details. She and I were at the bar being "affectionate" when her husband came in. One of her friends nearly peed her pants expecting a big bust up.

He came in and bought the drinks for all 3 of us, and she just stood there with her mouth open.

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By *amigos321Couple (MM) over a year ago

leeds

That's definitely what we like.

We have a 2 cples where we got to know..very turning on..become friends with hubby..and lovers to the wife..we get to chat..flirt..text..treat her like a gf with many benefits..there is this exciting ..amazing side to swinging..not just tge sex..but the build up of desire..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Me. But you probably already knew that

I wouldn't call it dating however... I'd call it cheating or having a steamy hot affair... except with your husband very much included in the equation. I'd treat it as similar to cuckolding but without the humiliation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I don’t see a problem in that if the husband is fine with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Fascinating to see my thread revived. So much has happened in 34 weeks !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Me. But you probably already knew that

It's called polyamory.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Me. But you probably already knew that

Or on second thoughts maybe you didn't already know that when you posted this 34 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sounds wonderful ...not sure my fella would let me nut if so, id love it too x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Me. But you probably already knew that

It's called polyamory."

It's not if you're role playing cheating

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"
I would, yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I think that would be a great relationship and I'd be very interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fascinating to see my thread revived. So much has happened in 34 weeks !!"

i think that fella is a lucky man!!

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

Mrs"

Yes. I have been in such a relationship.

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

Mrs"

Actually, I would prefer it. If you are seeing a married/attached woman she could be lying when she says her partner is ok with it. You never know if one day he will turn up very angry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's scary to see how many guys have said yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be up for it

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By *agicman2010Man over a year ago

nottingham

I have been in this situation myself a few years ago having met a couple whist working. The woman clearly had desires on me and was very open about letting me know. Phone numbers were exchanged and it wasn't long before I was picking her up from her home and taking her out at night. Vanilla kind of relationship with her husband's full approval. Both her husband and myself would enjoy a few beers in the pub Sunday lunchtime. Great relationship. It only ended when they moved house due to his work being relocated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's scary to see how many guys have said yes

You scare easierly.

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By *urveLurverMan over a year ago

Skyview

I suspect many of the eager beavers may underestimate the psychological resilience necessary to walk this emotional tightrope of spontaneity and contrivance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Id love this arrangement, I think most single guys would, no pressure from anywhere."

No pressure until you fall for the wife ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I suspect many of the eager beavers may underestimate the psychological resilience necessary to walk this emotional tightrope of spontaneity and contrivance. "

My experience is that men pursuing this experience underestimate whether they really want it. Its a nice fantasy but most find real life gets in the way. Most are men who don’t have time for a normal relationship, so the reality is they often don’t have time for a hotwife relationship either. I don’t think it’s an emotional problem for most men though.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I would not take on a man if he was only seeing me. I think there would be more risk of emotions getting in the way if it were just me.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

Mrs"

Sounds fine with me, down the pub for football with him, have sex with her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect many of the eager beavers may underestimate the psychological resilience necessary to walk this emotional tightrope of spontaneity and contrivance.

Mrs"
I have time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would not take on a man if he was only seeing me. I think there would be more risk of emotions getting in the way if it were just me. "

I think a lot of guys wouldn't realise the nuance of there being three people involved in such a setup. The wife, the lover, and the husband getting off on his wife having a lover. That's why I see it more as being akin to cuckolding without the humiliation. The husband wants to be included in some way that turns him on. That may involve the lover or it may not. That's my take on it anyway

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By *arry monk40Man over a year ago

Telford

I think most would I had this with a couple for over 2years we were social and sexual friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

Me. But you probably already knew that

It's called polyamory."

This.

I'm very surprised no one else said this before. Theres a lot of it on the forum with specific posts on this subject. I'm involved with one albeit no sexual contact with hubby but do meet up as a 3some for lunch/dinner sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be really into that personally. Yes. Sounds like a win/win for all.

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By *losguygl3Man over a year ago

Gloucester

Many years ago my wife had a FWB and I also had a FWB. We had lots of fun with twosomes, threesomes and foursomes. We would meet socially and sexually. It was amazing fun whilst it lasted but sadly life moved on.

All four of us were also free to have fun with others as well.

Sigh... happy days!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op was this thread aimed at something poly... a nice situation where you have a lover and all three of you are friends?

Or were you thinking of something more kinky like I've described... a naughty hot affair except with your husband's approval and him being friends with your lover?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

I've met people that this has worked out for nicely. Definitely a thing, OP. As others have said - file under polyamory.

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By *urveLurverMan over a year ago

Skyview

"I suspect many of the eager beavers may underestimate the psychological resilience necessary to walk this emotional tightrope of spontaneity and contrivance.

Mrs"
Correct. My partner and I have to work hard just to spend time together. We have a date night tonight - if she is not too shattered after her long day in this heat - when we will get out to a country pub for a couple of drinks and no doubt speculate if any of the other customers are swingers!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Both me and my wife are looking for seperate people to occasionally meet for a non-exclusive arrangement, me for a female her for a male and were ok with their partners being aware but we don't want an emotional relationship with anyone just someone nice to spend quality time with sometimes. Still looking though and have been for about 6 months. Keeping trying and smiling I&S

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By *hocko87Man over a year ago

dublin

That would be a very hot scenario for me . Would luv to date a married lady and have lots of fun together. I luv going for coffee and lunches .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I suspect many of the eager beavers may underestimate the psychological resilience necessary to walk this emotional tightrope of spontaneity and contrivance.

MrsI have time

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This is one of those threads where you have to wait a lifetime to find out the answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We do this.

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By *exleyboyMan over a year ago

Erith

Yes, I would be interested in this sort of arrangement. I can see the advantages outweight the disadvantages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We do this. "
do you now

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Op was this thread aimed at something poly... a nice situation where you have a lover and all three of you are friends?

Or were you thinking of something more kinky like I've described... a naughty hot affair except with your husband's approval and him being friends with your lover? "

I think at the time I started this thread back in the autum, I was looking for polyamory. We have from time to time though dabbled with kink in the arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Probably asked this when I first started the thread, but I have a new audience now. Out of curiosity, what is the attraction of dating a hotwife, when a single girlfriend can give so much more?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably asked this when I first started the thread, but I have a new audience now. Out of curiosity, what is the attraction of dating a hotwife, when a single girlfriend can give so much more?"
have you actually looked through this thread?

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By *oungalpha20Man over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

As in a open relationship?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was recently dating a woman who was married she was in a poly type marriage it was a balance but unfortunatly didnt work out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably asked this when I first started the thread, but I have a new audience now. Out of curiosity, what is the attraction of dating a hotwife, when a single girlfriend can give so much more?"

For me it would be the cheating cuckolding kink. Without that... poly... not really interested. It's not something I could invest myself in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Probably asked this when I first started the thread, but I have a new audience now. Out of curiosity, what is the attraction of dating a hotwife, when a single girlfriend can give so much more?

For me it would be the cheating cuckolding kink. Without that... poly... not really interested. It's not something I could invest myself in "

Yes that’s what my husband gets out of it, so it works better with guys who get the psychology and understand how to get include him. Although he’s not a true cuckold as he is switch and has a submissive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Only since it restarted. I haven’t reread what was written after I first started this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be interested in dating a married woman and being her lover, and really like the idea of being friends with the Husband . Sounds hot

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only since it restarted. I haven’t reread what was written after I first started this thread. "
No didn't think so ha oh well I'm out x

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By *illing to please46Man over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes I’d definitely be happy to oblige

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By *lknhungMan over a year ago

Luton

Mrs"

Absolutely interested in this, it’s been a fantasy tat has needed to come to life for a while now

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By *orningtonCroissantMan over a year ago

notts and humberside

You will no doubt get a squillion positive replies but in reality it’s quite a niche and most men will be looking for a quick shag. For my part it sounds like potentially too emotional so it’s unlikeky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would love that scenario but find it difficult to get a meet lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Only since it restarted. I haven’t reread what was written after I first started this thread. No didn't think so ha oh well I'm out x

Think we must have our wires crossed. I don’t recall you being a forum user back in the autumn when I started this thread. I’ve certainly read the whole thread since it restarted. Feel free to PM me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Only since it restarted. I haven’t reread what was written after I first started this thread. No didn't think so ha oh well I'm out x

I’ve now reread the whole thread. I’m afraid I’m not understanding what you were trying to imply. Definitely wires crossed somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That I agree with. I think most men on this site just want nsa sex. Dating a hotwife probably takes it out of the nsa box.

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"You will no doubt get a squillion positive replies but in reality it’s quite a niche and most men will be looking for a quick shag. For my part it sounds like potentially too emotional so it’s unlikeky "
Absolutely but if they do find the right guy it can be great all 3 involved. Here's hoping they find the right guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You will no doubt get a squillion positive replies but in reality it’s quite a niche and most men will be looking for a quick shag. For my part it sounds like potentially too emotional so it’s unlikeky Absolutely but if they do find the right guy it can be great all 3 involved. Here's hoping they find the right guy.

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By *hil39Man over a year ago

Dagenham

Mrs"

I'd be up for it, however in six months I'm beyond your age range

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Sounds like a dream

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"You will no doubt get a squillion positive replies but in reality it’s quite a niche and most men will be looking for a quick shag. For my part it sounds like potentially too emotional so it’s unlikeky Absolutely but if they do find the right guy it can be great all 3 involved. Here's hoping they find the right guy.

I’m not sure that there’s such thing as a ‘right guy’. But we’ve had a number of enjoyable three-way relationships over the years. But if we found ourselves at a loose end, it’s not something we could find in an instant, the way we probably can with nsa sex. But that’s partly because we need to invest the time and effort too. "
What I mean by the right guy, is a guy who is willing to put the time and effort in too. Fir examole a guy who will go for a drink with the hubby to get to know him before any fun starts at all...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes very interested in that type of arrangement. I experienced that for many years until I'll health prevented her playing but I still see them both socially

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Sounds like a plan

Hit me up missus let’s give it a try

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

I don't see why you shouldn't be able to find someone. I see relationships as more of a spectrum than couple of neat little categories. Its ppssible to have one than one relationship but relationships of different status/significance. Maybe one could agrue the set up you propose being a a bit polygamous in flavour? There are some good web sites and forums offering support to polygamous types of relationship.

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By *st timers 2012Couple over a year ago

helmsdale

Such a wonderful fantasy but so difficult to find the third person

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all for the continued interest in this thread that I started back in the autumn. I originally started this thread out of curiosity following my experiences of pursuing the hotwife lifestyle over a number of years and having had a number of lovers in that time. And I’m always interested in what makes people tick. Just to clarify, we are not actively looking for a new lover for me - we find lovers come and go, and that works for us. Besides I wouldn’t start a forum thread for the purposes of meeting people. For those who have mentioned polyamory, yes I am happy exploring it to a certain extent if it lands that way. We have explored various dynamics over the years.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes defo that would be amazing if I found a,couple like that zx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Probably asked this when I first started the thread, but I have a new audience now. Out of curiosity, what is the attraction of dating a hotwife, when a single girlfriend can give so much more?"

Some of the things she can't give you should/could be seen a positives. Secondly not everyone wants the ties that a gf would expect/demands.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Its called hotwife and yes

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By *SophiexCouple over a year ago

Kilmarnock

"...Its called hotwife and yes "

I was seeing a guy off this site for 2 years and only having sex with him... when I went home I would sit on hubby's face and tell him to taste what a real man does to me!

Generally terminology is:-

Wife: hotwife

hubby: Cuckold

The other guy: Bull or Lover or boyfriend maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mrs

Its called hotwife and yes "

I think the term ‘hotwifing’ covers a multitude of scenarios, many of which are relatively easy to come by. Hotwifing that involves dating, or as others have suggested polyamory, i think is rarer.

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By *SophiexCouple over a year ago

Kilmarnock

"...Hotwifing that involves dating, or as others have suggested polyamory... "

Not necessarily... a Cuckold relationship can def bring the option of dating other men or even women... a lot depends on why

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Count me in please ......ready to meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...Hotwifing that involves dating, or as others have suggested polyamory...

Not necessarily... a Cuckold relationship can def bring the option of dating other men or even women... a lot depends on why "

Yes a cuckolding relationship can involve dating too

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By *omwastonMan over a year ago

Galway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah I'd be up for that, if the husband knows and is happy with the arrangement then great, no back of the mind worries also

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Id love this arrangement, I think most single guys would, no pressure from anywhere.

Hit it on the head

Like having the benefits of having a girlfriend but dont like being tied down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are there single men

Why just single men. I have a partner who is also on fab and that arrangement would suit us both.

Hotwifing is what ever suits the couple

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By *rwhite30Man over a year ago

deptford London

this is so sexy, my ex said it would be sexy for her to ahve another lover and i thought it was hot

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM) over a year ago

Reading

Is this post really 35 weeks old

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to answer original question, as a single guy, yes I would be up for this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does mr get to have a girlfriend??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had one guy wanting to do this but he was a nice guy but exceptionally unreliable so we suspected he was married and he was dropped.

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By *arren e treggidenMan over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

Mrs"

It is my belief that that’s what swinging is about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often consider a Polyamory relationship. It suits me as I dont get jealous. All could enjoy what and whom they want. The only previso would be safe sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Does mr get to have a girlfriend??"

He has an FB. He can have a girlfriend if he wants

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By *pun84Man over a year ago

Doncaster

ive done this once before sometime ago and it was great opened up more experiences and was fun id recommend it and would defo do it again.

never found any options to do it afterwards which is a shame cos it does leave quite horny and unfillable mark lol ;p x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've just posted in another forum thread about polygamy and have learnt what I should have said it's polyandry.

I would really love to have two lovers / serious boyfriends who knew about each other and all were happy.

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By *ouchyfeelyMan over a year ago

Liverpool

As long as everyone is happily singing the same song then I don't see a problem. Go for it guys x

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By *cutebum9Couple over a year ago

wallsend

"I've just posted in another forum thread about polygamy and have learnt what I should have said it's polyandry.

I would really love to have two lovers / serious boyfriends who knew about each other and all were happy.

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I’ve got this I’m married and also have a boyfriend both know about each other and all three of us are happy. A great sex life and loads of fun for me mrs cutebum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i wouldn't have a problem with that x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like the perfect relationship, you look gorgeous, so I'm in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

like!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes absolutely

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By *agicman2010Man over a year ago

nottingham

I have been in exactly that situation a few years ago. Her husband and myself would often enjoy a Sunday lunchtime down the local pub. And I'd date his Mrs during the week while he was working. Ideal situation really.

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By *ertsguy2000Man over a year ago

hertford

Yes, something I would definitely be interested in, with the right couple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hell yeah, I would be interested in this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im actually in this situation myself and am finding it very pleasing we all know how it works and we all benefit obviously im not the married man im the lover but it feels very intimate for all people me and the husband are close friends too so this concept really does work well depending on how understanding everyone is

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By *ick71Man over a year ago

Chelmsford

"I have been in exactly that situation a few years ago. Her husband and myself would often enjoy a Sunday lunchtime down the local pub. And I'd date his Mrs during the week while he was working. Ideal situation really."

Would love this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly the kind of scenario I'm interested in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe

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By *ames WhyteMan over a year ago

Near Manchester Airport

Would be happy to help, please pm me.

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By *tevenwantstoMan over a year ago

n dorset

Love too sounds a great mutually satisfying arrangement x

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By *ay000333Man over a year ago

Brighton

Absolutely yes it woud fit well in where I am in life, please message me privately and lets talk about this, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes defo so anyone in the north west lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Absolutely yes it woud fit well in where I am in life, please message me privately and lets talk about this, thanks"
the threads nearly a year old now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes this does interest me

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By *wo Big GuysCouple (MM) over a year ago

Reading

"Absolutely yes it woud fit well in where I am in life, please message me privately and lets talk about this, thanksthe threads nearly a year old now"

Needs to be closed down really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

True

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well they've not been on it for a while

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