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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forum only accounts for a small percentage of members. Perhaps state something on your profile about the disability so that people can make an informed decision. |
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There are many other disabled swingers so you are not alone and they do get meets.
Pop something about it on your profile. That way it won't come as a shock to anyone if/when you meet them. If your disability makes some kinds of play or some positions more difficult then say so.
For many people there has to be a certain degree of honesty and trust for them to meet you. If you don't say anything and you have obvious difficulties with some things it may mean they will be a bit miffed to find out at the first meet and not know beforehand so keeping quiet about it may work against you. |
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head"
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too. |
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From my experience no it's not to much of an issue, that said I had a meet with an ex a couple if years ago where we knew the female was disabled the problem was we wasn't exactly told how disabled she was, we still had some fun but I was a little weirded out by the whole thing and the final straw was the suggestion to use her hoist as a sex swing. |
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too."
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x |
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too.
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x"
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too.
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x
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Although we see your point, advertising some things on your profile can make you a target for a particular type of arsehole, of which there are many. We would always bring the issue up in one of our first messages, not after a week of conversation. |
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too.
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too.
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x
Although we see your point, advertising some things on your profile can make you a target for a particular type of arsehole, of which there are many. We would always bring the issue up in one of our first messages, not after a week of conversation."
Well like I say each to their own.
Putting anything on your profile can make you a target. Although I have never come across that.
And I'm not hiding it away like I should be embarrassed. Because that's what it sounds like to me |
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too.
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x
Although we see your point, advertising some things on your profile can make you a target for a particular type of arsehole, of which there are many. We would always bring the issue up in one of our first messages, not after a week of conversation.
Well like I say each to their own.
Putting anything on your profile can make you a target. Although I have never come across that.
And I'm not hiding it away like I should be embarrassed. Because that's what it sounds like to me"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I look after a disabled family member on and off and wouldn’t bat an eyelid to it.
Used to certain areas not working properly and helping with other stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone prepared to try and enjoy a liitle fun with a couple who has one of the couple with a few problems but sex mad in the head
Don't mention this on your profile as suggested above, that's a terrible idea for reasons obviously oblivious to those who have little experience with disability, you should however mention it to potential meets when messaging them once the conversation has moved along, obviously you wouldn't leave it until the meet. Profiles are just a starting point for contact and nobody 'tells all' on their page, those parts are for private conversations with interested parties.
We can say with much experience that most people can be very accommodating when it comes to these matters once they are informed.
There are many thousands of people with issues of all kinds on Fab and we all manage to get some fun, no reason why you can't too.
See I disagree with this, but each to their own.
For me, being open and honest from the start, before having a conversation and then having to drop the disability bomb in works better for me. Nothing worse than getting on with someone, only for them to go silent because they had no idea.
At least by putting it on my profile it gives the other person a heads up and time to decide whether or not they want to meet me x
Although we see your point, advertising some things on your profile can make you a target for a particular type of arsehole, of which there are many. We would always bring the issue up in one of our first messages, not after a week of conversation.
Well like I say each to their own.
Putting anything on your profile can make you a target. Although I have never come across that.
And I'm not hiding it away like I should be embarrassed. Because that's what it sounds like to me
Guess we must agree that we disagree then "
Well that we can at least agree on x |
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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago
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We would be up to meet a disabled Couple. Wouldn’t phase us or put us off even if it was on a profile. But agree with above that it’s best to mention it in first exchange of mails rather then have it on your profile as you have done. I would like to hope if we was in the same boat others would still want to play with us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have some mobility problems, pain and amazing scars. I don't put it in my profile even when my profile is completley filled out however i do mention it when talking to potential play mates. It's never been a problem. |
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You'll find if you're upfront and open about disability you'll get a better response. I've been on the site over 7 years and have always had it written on my profile that I'm an amputee. Guys I meet don't give two hoots about it. |
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"You'll find if you're upfront and open about disability you'll get a better response. I've been on the site over 7 years and have always had it written on my profile that I'm an amputee. Guys I meet don't give two hoots about it."
Amputees are a fetish for some people, it probably gets you more attention than if you removed it from your profile, it makes you special.
Look, we do see things from both sides about putting it on profiles. Will you see it from our point of view. Mrs is a dwarf, every day we leave the house we get shit, people, staring, pointing, laughing, getting their mobile phones out to record the 'spectacle' or driving by shouting abuse. Can you imagine the kind of wankers it would attract if we declared it on our profile? It'd be like saying 'hey creeps of the internet, come and abuse me' There are a people who put a lot of effort into being an arsehole and we have dwarf friends who have been seriously stalked that aren't even on the net. Sorry but it'll be a cold day in hell before that happens. |
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"You'll find if you're upfront and open about disability you'll get a better response. I've been on the site over 7 years and have always had it written on my profile that I'm an amputee. Guys I meet don't give two hoots about it.
Amputees are a fetish for some people, it probably gets you more attention than if you removed it from your profile, it makes you special.
Look, we do see things from both sides about putting it on profiles. Will you see it from our point of view. Mrs is a dwarf, every day we leave the house we get shit, people, staring, pointing, laughing, getting their mobile phones out to record the 'spectacle' or driving by shouting abuse. Can you imagine the kind of wankers it would attract if we declared it on our profile? It'd be like saying 'hey creeps of the internet, come and abuse me' There are a people who put a lot of effort into being an arsehole and we have dwarf friends who have been seriously stalked that aren't even on the net. Sorry but it'll be a cold day in hell before that happens."
That's why the delete and block option is available, easier to do that then take things to heart. Yes Amputees are a fetish for some, so are BBWs, so are people with ink, tall, short, slim, big build, we all have different tastes. If you're going to be on a site like this then you have to have a tough skin and accept that not eveyone is going to be polite and think before they speak. It comes with the territory.
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"You'll find if you're upfront and open about disability you'll get a better response. I've been on the site over 7 years and have always had it written on my profile that I'm an amputee. Guys I meet don't give two hoots about it.
Amputees are a fetish for some people, it probably gets you more attention than if you removed it from your profile, it makes you special.
Look, we do see things from both sides about putting it on profiles. Will you see it from our point of view. Mrs is a dwarf, every day we leave the house we get shit, people, staring, pointing, laughing, getting their mobile phones out to record the 'spectacle' or driving by shouting abuse. Can you imagine the kind of wankers it would attract if we declared it on our profile? It'd be like saying 'hey creeps of the internet, come and abuse me' There are a people who put a lot of effort into being an arsehole and we have dwarf friends who have been seriously stalked that aren't even on the net. Sorry but it'll be a cold day in hell before that happens.
That's why the delete and block option is available, easier to do that then take things to heart. Yes Amputees are a fetish for some, so are BBWs, so are people with ink, tall, short, slim, big build, we all have different tastes. If you're going to be on a site like this then you have to have a tough skin and accept that not eveyone is going to be polite and think before they speak. It comes with the territory.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You'll find if you're upfront and open about disability you'll get a better response. I've been on the site over 7 years and have always had it written on my profile that I'm an amputee. Guys I meet don't give two hoots about it.
Amputees are a fetish for some people, it probably gets you more attention than if you removed it from your profile, it makes you special.
Look, we do see things from both sides about putting it on profiles. Will you see it from our point of view. Mrs is a dwarf, every day we leave the house we get shit, people, staring, pointing, laughing, getting their mobile phones out to record the 'spectacle' or driving by shouting abuse. Can you imagine the kind of wankers it would attract if we declared it on our profile? It'd be like saying 'hey creeps of the internet, come and abuse me' There are a people who put a lot of effort into being an arsehole and we have dwarf friends who have been seriously stalked that aren't even on the net. Sorry but it'll be a cold day in hell before that happens.
That's why the delete and block option is available, easier to do that then take things to heart. Yes Amputees are a fetish for some, so are BBWs, so are people with ink, tall, short, slim, big build, we all have different tastes. If you're going to be on a site like this then you have to have a tough skin and accept that not eveyone is going to be polite and think before they speak. It comes with the territory.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm disabled and had to remove the info from my profile due to the horrendous messages I was getting.
I have a thick skin, I'm often fat shamed, but I won't stand for something that I have no control over.
I'm proactive in sending messages out first, so I'll mention my disabilities then. On the rare occasion I get a message, I'll reply with pics and info on my size and disabilities and how the affect me. Not had a nasty message since, just polite 'you're not for me/us' messages and I'm more than happy with that reply. |
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"I'm disabled and had to remove the info from my profile due to the horrendous messages I was getting.
I have a thick skin, I'm often fat shamed, but I won't stand for something that I have no control over.
I'm proactive in sending messages out first, so I'll mention my disabilities then. On the rare occasion I get a message, I'll reply with pics and info on my size and disabilities and how the affect me. Not had a nasty message since, just polite 'you're not for me/us' messages and I'm more than happy with that reply."
This is precisely the point we were trying to make |
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People with physical disabilities go to Kestrels Spa and are welcome.
We have "helped out" with people we know with disabilities - help a damsel in distress (sexual distress!) and all that. Going for private visits.
You need to be up-front about what the situation is.
As others say, no mention on your profile. Introducing new circumstances once the conversation has already progressed some way is a bit of a no-no. That's the way for instance that the entitlement to go bareback (sic.) with female _abcouple11 is introduced... The same as others experience and have to deal with.
Shifting ground is never a good thing. Straighten-up your profile and see how you get on?
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By *ojo1964Man
over a year ago
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Beginning to lose the will to live here, let me explain, I have Cerebral Palsy and I'm in a wheelchair, I live on my own independently been driving over 30 years and recently finish full time employment after 27yrs.
Yet when I write to someone I get my message deleted even when I send a picture for response....nothing not even a look a my profile, which is funny.
Perhaps people are frightened by what they don't understand? Where do I go wrong. Time for a reboot? |
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Yet when I write to someone I get my message deleted even when I send a picture for response....nothing not even a look a my profile, which is funny.
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They either don't find you attractive, you aren't what they are looking for, or your message is off-putting.
The first and second thing aren't things you have any control over. All you can do is write decent messages, make sure you read profiles, and keep trying. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Beginning to lose the will to live here, let me explain, I have Cerebral Palsy and I'm in a wheelchair, I live on my own independently been driving over 30 years and recently finish full time employment after 27yrs.
Yet when I write to someone I get my message deleted even when I send a picture for response....nothing not even a look a my profile, which is funny.
Perhaps people are frightened by what they don't understand? Where do I go wrong. Time for a reboot?"
They probably just don't find you physically attractive or compatible with them, but good luck to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Beginning to lose the will to live here, let me explain, I have Cerebral Palsy and I'm in a wheelchair, I live on my own independently been driving over 30 years and recently finish full time employment after 27yrs.
Yet when I write to someone I get my message deleted even when I send a picture for response....nothing not even a look a my profile, which is funny.
Perhaps people are frightened by what they don't understand? Where do I go wrong. Time for a reboot?"
I used to look after a serverly Disabled family member occasionally and he got the odd fuck but as much as he was like Einstein in his brain his body wasn’t and that’s what people looked at I’m afraid.
I will see you differently to people who are not around ‘disabled’ people a lot but others aren’t and although you see yourself as ‘normal’ others won’t.
You probably don’t help yourself with you ‘will to live’ post and ‘ I will prove you all wrong’ status.
Many many many people will be put off with your disability rather then you and I’m adraid you will have to learn to be patient and accept it mate.
Good luck tho
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"Beginning to lose the will to live here, let me explain, I have Cerebral Palsy and I'm in a wheelchair, I live on my own independently been driving over 30 years and recently finish full time employment after 27yrs.
Yet when I write to someone I get my message deleted even when I send a picture for response....nothing not even a look a my profile, which is funny.
Perhaps people are frightened by what they don't understand? Where do I go wrong. Time for a reboot?"
I would not meet you because I live in a three storey house, my play room is on the third floor and I like to hang my playmates in brackets.
That doesn't mean I think you're less of a person but you don't meet what I'm looking for.
Conversely, if someone wants a petite woman to throw around the bedroom I wouldn't lose the will because that excludes me.
We will NEVER have universal appeal. I think some people take Fab far too seriously. |
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"Beginning to lose the will to live here, let me explain, I have Cerebral Palsy and I'm in a wheelchair, I live on my own independently been driving over 30 years and recently finish full time employment after 27yrs.
Yet when I write to someone I get my message deleted even when I send a picture for response....nothing not even a look a my profile, which is funny.
Perhaps people are frightened by what they don't understand? Where do I go wrong. Time for a reboot?"
If they don't look at your profile it's not your disability that's putting them off x |
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