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By *antsbelle OP Woman
over a year ago
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Why is it that guys do most of the messaging on couples profiles! Annoys me and makes me wary of fakes !! Happens all the time, I know they being cautious but would be nice to get a message from female part of couple as well after everyone comfortable  |
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I can't speak for everyone, whilst the messages might be signed by me, they're effectively written by us both. It's one of the reasons why our replies can take awhile - we both have to read ( we both have busy jobs so aren't always together) and then discuss what we think, what we're going to reply, etc, before we even get to decide to messaging. Her calls me her secretary as she tends to ask me to write them!
But we understand your point! As you have no idea who is actually behind the message, we always suggest a quick call between the ladies to reassure us all x
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We do the same as the poster above, both have a look at a profile before sending a message together, and if we get a message from somebody we are interested in either both reply or female reply’s.
Generally I (the guy) would be the one that goes through the inbox, purely to filter out the crazy and then she drives the conversation from there in.
You’re right in saying that there’s so many fakes and dreamers on here though, and it’s so frustrating when a couple suddenly becomes a conversation with a single guy!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same as above, I the guy go through the inbox and filter but that's purely as I have more experience of the site. We both will message and the give away sign is "B" always signs off with a x whereas I don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Same as above, I the guy go through the inbox and filter but that's purely as I have more experience of the site. We both will message and the give away sign is "B" always signs off with a x whereas I don't "
Similar with us although I wouldn't say I'm experienced with the site
I will say though that Mrs probably does 75% of the messaging for us you can tell by the X at the end and the bad spelling lol |
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"Why is it that guys do most of the messaging on couples profiles! Annoys me and makes me wary of fakes !! Happens all the time, I know they being cautious but would be nice to get a message from female part of couple as well after everyone comfortable "
Yeah this has happened to use loads, the amount of time I thought I was talking female to female and it wasn't, it almost feels that they do it for a kick.
We now state clearly in a profile it will be me (Kate) that converses. If it is the other half he will sign off as him on the messages or forums.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Tbh its why we walked away for a while, I'm the one usually on the forum as H isn't into that side of things, We look at profiles together then send a message, but we were just sick of getting messages either from obvious single guys or from couples where it was obvious that a large element of coercion was going on in the relationship so we've had the summer off  H has had her own profile for sometime but is rarely messaged by a female, single or otherwise..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If Tom sends a message I will always follow up the message later and vice versa.
We are pretty distinguishable in text as Tom is Dutch. Easy to tell who's messaging.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it depends on who's not busy working however when it comes to single guys it will be Mrs filth doing all the messaging as I (Mr) have no real interest in them as after all it's her that has to feel some kind of connection and want to fuck them and I trust her judgment.
When it comes to couples and singles women it will be both of us and we nearly always make sure we drop our name at the bottom of the message so whoever it is we're chatting to knows who it is but I agree it gets frustrating when there is no interaction from a female half of a couple and the chat usually fizzles out very quickly as the chances of us wanting to meet them will be slim to none.
We usually find setting up a group chat via Kik helps and makes the conversation flow easier 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We tend to both look at the messages but I male half write the reply’s fem half says she’s no good at writing messages and is much better at face to face |
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Jayne used to be involved in our couples profile, but got fed up with all the "wanna fuck?", cock pics and general lack of respect that she now leaves it to me, she has her own profile for when she wants to go in chat, but its pretty tightly buttoned-up against idiots. I don't commit to anything without passing it past her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jayne used to be involved in our couples profile, but got fed up with all the "wanna fuck?", cock pics and general lack of respect that she now leaves it to me, she has her own profile for when she wants to go in chat, but its pretty tightly buttoned-up against idiots. I don't commit to anything without passing it past her."
Tom will always answer the males that that send vulgar or disrespectful messages, after all he's there to protect me as well as well as explore as a couple. |
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"Maybe we're unusual then as it's me T (the girl) who tends to be the secretary on here! M watching over my shoulder occasionally 
Just tirelessly filtering and lurking..."
Same here, mainly me (Saphire) that does the messaging and main part of being on here, if Daz does or its both then we/he signs at the bottom of every message.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to laugh here as Mrs N like most women on here is very disinterested in going on line and organising stuff, it's just not in her nature. She says she really cannot be bothered with all the faffing around. However when we meet she throws herself into it with Gusto and seldom disappoints. I'm afraid that is our reality and if that seems like time wasting or a bloke doing profile then so be it, there is nothing I can do about it. Sorry  |
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I do most of the messaging on site as i have a lot of free time during the day and when wife home the house is normally full .my wife prefers to speak to people face to face so our couple meets are arranged at the club .she says better that way as if we dont click at least all parties can look elsewhere any solo meets are with previous playmates and just the occassional quickies ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr tends to reply to messages as I am blunt and can kill off any chance of a meet just because of how I am. I don't get into flirty chat on here as found that in my experience that it it gets flirty it doesn't go any where x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this shows the different dynamics within couples. I (mr) tend to filter the messages then we will either answer messages together or individually. the key we find is to communicate between ourselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always me (Bump)in the forums and 9 times out of 10 it's usually me answering messages, although Grind always has a catch up. Only usually receive messages from friends but the rare occasion we get a message from anyone else we usually decide together how we want to respond x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Snow white finds using the site dull and tedious.
But enjoys swinging and having meets
Using ANY website is not her thing..
Especially this one-often full of time wasters and fake couples - so grumpy basically runs the profile with snow white only getting involved if a meet seems likely
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's mostly me (Jane) who does the messaging ect.. on here, hubby just occasionally catches up on messages and helps me choose a meet (albeit with a twisted arm haha) or has a browse.
As long as I'm happy he's happy and visa versa |
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We do it together but also message from both our profiles both know each other's passwords this is the main one but I don't like to share on chat so we have two.
I don't think people use the chat rooms enough tbf ... it's just too hard to get a meet from messages and it's easy to cam from chat too
Fab is for reconnecting with people you chatted to not really for actual meets we find.
That being said we have attended plenty of socials from chat and forums but still not had that many play meets prob only 4-5 off our veris are play meets
Do any other couples find this ?
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"Why is it that guys do most of the messaging on couples profiles! Annoys me and makes me wary of fakes !! Happens all the time, I know they being cautious but would be nice to get a message from female part of couple as well after everyone comfortable "
personally i look for who might intrest us then tell the mrs who then takes over the chat exchanging phone numbers etc |
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"Snow white finds using the site dull and tedious.
But enjoys swinging and having meets
Using ANY website is not her thing..
Especially this one-often full of time wasters and fake couples - so grumpy basically runs the profile with snow white only getting involved if a meet seems likely
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This is exactly us to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We both chat along which can get quite hard to follow if we are in different locations chatting to the same ppl at the same time ?
It's all down to timing with us ? I'm the daytime mainly ( him ) due to work and she normally chats on a night !! So now you know to chat her up talk on a evening lol |
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"Jayne used to be involved in our couples profile, but got fed up with all the "wanna fuck?", cock pics and general lack of respect that she now leaves it to me, she has her own profile for when she wants to go in chat, but its pretty tightly buttoned-up against idiots. I don't commit to anything without passing it past her."
Pretty much the same with us... |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
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In our case the OP is right. It is the male half who deals with all things fab including the forums, chats, messages and pics.
I am happy to administer our profile. This helps protect Coffee from the idiots and time wasters we all know are out there.
If a meet looks likely she will only then check the profile and read the messages. She will then say yes or no. This is explained in our profile text.
We are happy to chat on the phone to those who may still be unsure, but to date we have only had one such request.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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NIckey likes me to do all the messaging she has final say over meets and reads all messages and checks potential meets profile before I send a message so we work as a team. Usually switch to what’s app and then all chat together but she is useless at replying much more of a talker than a texter |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
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We generally have a pretty good mix of who replies, SSS is more experienced in the whole Fab thing so often knows how to write a better message so I often let him get on with it!
From my experience as a single F, I’ve come across a few profiles where the woman was strangely absent from any involvement which certainly starts the alarm bells ringing.
We both dip into the forums and try and remember to make it obvious who is posting
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I(Him) is browsing on here a lot more than Her, shes nit one for forums and just likes to browse and chat.
We send,look at and reply to messages together unless we are apart. If Her is not about I will always state in a message that it is Him messaging as I think its important to be straight up. Her tends to get involved when we are messaging or camming.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually reply to messages (female) on here but he checks them regularly too but leaves the replying to me. We try to sign off with our initials too. Once we have exchanged a few messages we will usually move to Kik as it’s easier to have a four way conversation.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess we are guilty of this basically because I (Vixen) am just not very chatty. He knows what type of guy I like, and I am happy for him to out the ones that he thinks aren't going to do it for me. If there is someone that looks interesting, he'll suggest I have a read through his conversation with the guy and look at the pictures, and if I am interested, at that point I'll get into the conversation. It works for us.
Same thing happens in our couples (for couples) profile - I get bored with all the sexual banter, whereas he enjoys it immensely, so he does most of the writing there as well. I am always up for a social and certainly always willing to do a skype or phone conversation to prove I exist, but I really prefer to meet and chat over a drink than online. I am already on the computer all day long for work, the last thing I want to do is type more.... |
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