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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Perhaps a confidence issue on their part, or perhaps just rudeness or idiocy.
Either way, their loss!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
how are you bad?
and if they choose to ignore you after all those hours off talking then defiantly shows true colours. common courtesy is to to say hello to one another and have basic manners.
thier loss! |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Maybe they were just busy or didn't recognise you it does happen in clubs unfortunately.
Either way don't put yourself down over it. Chin up and boobie hugs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me.
Maybe they were just busy or didn't recognise you it does happen in clubs unfortunately.
Either way don't put yourself down over it. Chin up and boobie hugs "
They where not busy and they new it was me, I introduced myself to them. Just feel a bit sad atm |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Please fill the gaps. Did you speak with them in the club? Did they know who you were? Have they ever say they would play with you? Were they already meeting someone else? "
Yes, we’d spoken that day about both going to the club.
Yes, I introduced myself.
I was never expecting to play (way out of my league)
I expect so, I was never looking to play with them. But just a chat. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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Don't feel bad. It's not you, it's them. They obviously don't have any manners at all to behave like that after months of chat.
I'd block them and move on and find some new friends  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't feel bad. It's not you, it's them. They obviously don't have any manners at all to behave like that after months of chat.
I'd block them and move on and find some new friends "
Great minds think alike, I’m sure they won’t even notice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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u chatted them for months n when u met them u never want play with them so I don't know y u surprised by the outcome maybe they were looking to play they don't want chat hung around with u n miss others who would like to play that's what happens when you throw ur self on the market |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me.
Maybe they were just busy or didn't recognise you it does happen in clubs unfortunately.
Either way don't put yourself down over it. Chin up and boobie hugs
They where not busy and they new it was me, I introduced myself to them. Just feel a bit sad atm "
Don't feel sad it's not worth your time or effort.
Keep your chin up, I fully understand why you feel sad but move on and let it go.. Best for you.
They obviously aren't worth it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im sure you didnt do anything wrong, its so easy to become dissalusioned on here, when poeple ignore you, or treat you like that, it can very easily dent your self confidence, .....i never thought id see the day i quoted taylor swift, shake it off , xxx |
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Its just part of meeting people face to face. Sometimes you hit it off other times it doesn't work out.
We tend to assume people will not show or not like us in the flesh. That way everything else is a bonus. |
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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago
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That’s awful !
Don’t feel bad you’ve done nothing wrong xx
Just move on and find new friends
they obviously weren’t worth talking to.
I find that god dam rude especially as you’ve talked a lot , play or no play a conversation would of been polite x
There’s lots of friendly people at clubs to talk to don’t waste precious time.
Good Luck
next time you attend a club jusy have fun and enjoy x |
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"Ps ... most sites have forums and little clicks of forumites that dominate the forums, just the way it is hunny, dont worry about it and get out there and meet us nice folk 
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The op hasn't mentioned anywhere that these people were from the forums. |
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"Ps ... most sites have forums and little clicks of forumites that dominate the forums, just the way it is hunny, dont worry about it and get out there and meet us nice folk
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The op hasn't mentioned anywhere that these people were from the forums."
To us it sounds like it though... entitled to our opinion surely? |
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"Ps ... most sites have forums and little clicks of forumites that dominate the forums, just the way it is hunny, dont worry about it and get out there and meet us nice folk
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The op hasn't mentioned anywhere that these people were from the forums.
To us it sounds like it though... entitled to our opinion surely?"
Yes, just as I'm entitled to mine.
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"Ps ... most sites have forums and little clicks of forumites that dominate the forums, just the way it is hunny, dont worry about it and get out there and meet us nice folk
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The op hasn't mentioned anywhere that these people were from the forums.
To us it sounds like it though... entitled to our opinion surely?
Yes, just as I'm entitled to mine.
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Of course.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ps ... most sites have forums and little clicks of forumites that dominate the forums, just the way it is hunny, dont worry about it and get out there and meet us nice folk
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The op hasn't mentioned anywhere that these people were from the forums.
To us it sounds like it though... entitled to our opinion surely?"
You are indeed and probably 100% correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
People ignore me too (all the time) and it annoys me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
sadly some people can be like this. my advice next time find someone to go with ( a friend) and a better club or event
hugs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sadly this website is full of people who don't show up, cancel last minute or just ignore you if you actually make it face to face. But then again that's the same for any dating website because some people act different in person as it's easier to talk yourself up online than in real life. But don't give up or let it knock you down because it happens to everyone no matter how good looking you are! Just wait till you meet the right one, I'm talking to a girl and we get on so great but I've had my fair share of dead end conversations or last minute cancellations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sadly this website is full of people who don't show up, cancel last minute or just ignore you if you actually make it face to face. But then again that's the same for any dating website because some people act different in person as it's easier to talk yourself up online than in real life. But don't give up or let it knock you down because it happens to everyone no matter how good looking you are! Just wait till you meet the right one, I'm talking to a girl and we get on so great but I've had my fair share of dead end conversations or last minute cancellations."
have faith x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sadly this website is full of people who don't show up, cancel last minute or just ignore you if you actually make it face to face. But then again that's the same for any dating website because some people act different in person as it's easier to talk yourself up online than in real life. But don't give up or let it knock you down because it happens to everyone no matter how good looking you are! Just wait till you meet the right one, I'm talking to a girl and we get on so great but I've had my fair share of dead end conversations or last minute cancellations.
have faith x"
Ah I have I've met a girl off here and it's awesome! We get on so great and talk everyday since we've swapped numbers. I was just letting her know that she shouldn't give up because she can have a successful story like mine and others on here but there will a lot of dead end convos x |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
If they have the cheek to message you again I would ignore them and block for their rudeness, but that's me x |
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Are you saying you approached them and said hello and they ignored You?. Or are you saying that they know what you look like,you know what they look like and neither of you approached one another? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
If I was lucky enough to meet you in person, I certainly wouldn’t ignore you!!!!!!!
Their loss, idiots! |
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maybe it was one of those off evenings but it would be sad if this tainted your view of clubs. sure your next time will be positive. also at least you went. am somewhat of a misanthrope and imagine as a single guy it being arkward and exclutionary which puts me off. |
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It's important to feel good about yourself when it becomes clear that others aren't right for you - they may try to push their issues and baggage on to you, but ensure you stay clear of it.
Those inadequate for you at least help you to open up your options again, so you waste no further time.
If you can learn anything about how you got mistaken about them, even better, so you are able to avoid similar in future.
Lots of people are skilled at inadequate relationship formation and partly survive by dumping their emotional baggage that result upon the people that they start their weak attempts with.
The internet can open people up to being ensnared by these self-limited people but you have potentially got off easier than if they strung you along further.
Take care of yourself |
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Sounds like they’ve shown their true colours, in various shades of grey. Balls to them. I’ve received similar treatment in clubs, been ignored, had people look the other way when I approached etc, but thought that was just because I was a single guy. Whatever, I’m still drawing breath, and do very well for meets outside of clubs, it’s their loss |
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Dicks! But we've had this too, you're not alone and many here will have had something similar. Yeah it's a bit shit but it often turns out they're not so popular, usually for good reason.
Just try to move on swiftly ever looking forwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Did they know it was you? I'm notoriously bad at recognising people I've been talking to in clubs, luckily I seem to talk to people with better memories than me |
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"I went to a club this week and people I have been chatting to for months and for hours online completely ignored me, should I feel bad or glad that they have shown there true colours.
My current feeling is sad, and a little confused because I am so bad they can’t be seen talking to me."
Do you mean after you've made your introductions face to face in a club?
We often trade messages ahead of going to a club but more often than not don't end up chatting face to face with people we've messages beforehand.
This is never intentional. Just we are rubbish at recognising people even when we've seen face pics. And I'm even more rubbish with names....
It's always a relief when someone comes up to us and asks who we are...cos quite frankly we are rubbish at it!
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