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over a year ago
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"Would you take on a Domme, I kind of find it sexy....
It the challenge, sexuality challenges where are yours?
i have a few times  and failed 
Can I ask if you're Domme or switch? "
bottom in the scene x
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"Would you take on a Domme, I kind of find it sexy....
It the challenge, sexuality challenges where are yours?
i have a few times and failed
Can I ask if you're Domme or switch?
bottom in the scene x
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Yes I expected that and think that's why the fail and I don't mean that disrespectfully. I think it fails unless you're Dominant only or a strong D focused switch.
I'm switch and on the D side I'm happy to take on switches but the role/needs/dynamic will be well defined as I don't switch with the same person. My head doesn't work like that. I tried it once, he said he was Dom but turned out switch so trying to dominate me other than physically didn't work. I find satisfaction with head space at the ends of the dom or sub spectrum and not mixing.
S side I'm happy to get topped by a switch, help them learn a technique or be a demo model for someone. For mind fucks and submission though I wouldn't consider a switch, someone who is Dominant only is capable of taking me on. And many Dominant only are still not strong enough for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you take on a Domme, I kind of find it sexy....
It the challenge, sexuality challenges where are yours?
i have a few times and failed
Can I ask if you're Domme or switch?
bottom in the scene x
Yes I expected that and think that's why the fail and I don't mean that disrespectfully. I think it fails unless you're Dominant only or a strong D focused switch.
I'm switch and on the D side I'm happy to take on switches but the role/needs/dynamic will be well defined as I don't switch with the same person. My head doesn't work like that. I tried it once, he said he was Dom but turned out switch so trying to dominate me other than physically didn't work. I find satisfaction with head space at the ends of the dom or sub spectrum and not mixing.
S side I'm happy to get topped by a switch, help them learn a technique or be a demo model for someone. For mind fucks and submission though I wouldn't consider a switch, someone who is Dominant only is capable of taking me on. And many Dominant only are still not strong enough for me. "
Im also a brat so when occasionally i get bratty i always sdo get cocky lol
i dont play with switches on the scene either |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
The North / Party Hard Everywhere |
"Would you take on a Domme, I kind of find it sexy....
It the challenge, sexuality challenges where are yours?
i have a few times and failed
Can I ask if you're Domme or switch?
bottom in the scene x
Yes I expected that and think that's why the fail and I don't mean that disrespectfully. I think it fails unless you're Dominant only or a strong D focused switch.
I'm switch and on the D side I'm happy to take on switches but the role/needs/dynamic will be well defined as I don't switch with the same person. My head doesn't work like that. I tried it once, he said he was Dom but turned out switch so trying to dominate me other than physically didn't work. I find satisfaction with head space at the ends of the dom or sub spectrum and not mixing.
S side I'm happy to get topped by a switch, help them learn a technique or be a demo model for someone. For mind fucks and submission though I wouldn't consider a switch, someone who is Dominant only is capable of taking me on. And many Dominant only are still not strong enough for me.
Im also a brat so when occasionally i get bratty i always sdo get cocky lol
i dont play with switches on the scene either "
I'm not a brat. Really fucking awkward bitch maybe...  |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?"
Depends on the person but for me yes absolutely I can be fully at either side. For the guy I mentioned I met he was more middling. Do people naturally default to one side, of course everyone has preferences. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Depends on the person but for me yes absolutely I can be fully at either side. For the guy I mentioned I met he was more middling. Do people naturally default to one side, of course everyone has preferences. "
Interesting, where does where you are on the spectrum come from? A cognitive thought, or is it a subconscious response to a person initially. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Depends on the person but for me yes absolutely I can be fully at either side. For the guy I mentioned I met he was more middling. Do people naturally default to one side, of course everyone has preferences.
Interesting, where does where you are on the spectrum come from? A cognitive thought, or is it a subconscious response to a person initially."
Naturally I'm a dominant person. Submission and utter surrender is a desire, a deep need, a choice and a gift for someone who deserves it. A man once showed me a possibility that they deserved it with a simple touch. It was profound. Others I may see something in their writing or something they say. Until I unlock that gate consciously I don't and can't go to the sub end of the spectrum. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Depends on the person but for me yes absolutely I can be fully at either side. For the guy I mentioned I met he was more middling. Do people naturally default to one side, of course everyone has preferences.
Interesting, where does where you are on the spectrum come from? A cognitive thought, or is it a subconscious response to a person initially.
Naturally I'm a dominant person. Submission and utter surrender is a desire, a deep need, a choice and a gift for someone who deserves it. A man once showed me a possibility that they deserved it with a simple touch. It was profound. Others I may see something in their writing or something they say. Until I unlock that gate consciously I don't and can't go to the sub end of the spectrum. "
Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?"
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it. "
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person  |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it.
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person "
Your profile did hint bi  |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it.
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person
Your profile did hint bi "
Seriously, I envy the flexibility it creates so many opportunities. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
The North / Party Hard Everywhere |
"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it.
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person
Your profile did hint bi
Seriously, I envy the flexibility it creates so many opportunities."
So many opportunities I'll never get bored |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it.
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person
Your profile did hint bi
Seriously, I envy the flexibility it creates so many opportunities.
So many opportunities I'll never get bored "
Unless you find yourself in need of that special touch, then what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it.
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person "
Where I am on the spectrum depends on: where my life is at, my stress levels, my experience levels with something new and above all that, how I react to a particular person. Some people I simply cannot switch with. Some I can. Some I am very deeply at one end of the spectrum, some, I am part way across.
It depends is the answer - which won't suit anyone who wants a definite box in which to put a particular label and predict behaviour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m naturally submissive in the bedroom, I’m little and bratty and throw tantrums. However that is only one aspect of me, it doesn’t define me, submission is a gift and not many get that gift from myself.
But outside the bedroom, I’m nothing like that. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?
Speaking as a switch who knows other switches who are similar, yes we can be fully at one end of the spectrum or play along it.
Are you happiest at any particular place/s on the spectrum? I like the ends, I'm a polar kinda person
Where I am on the spectrum depends on: where my life is at, my stress levels, my experience levels with something new and above all that, how I react to a particular person. Some people I simply cannot switch with. Some I can. Some I am very deeply at one end of the spectrum, some, I am part way across.
It depends is the answer - which won't suit anyone who wants a definite box in which to put a particular label and predict behaviour. "
Behaviour should never be predictable, if it was, life would be oh so domestic. |
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I can switch easily .its easy when you have two personalities .
Stace is my v sub side a lovely girl
Then there is MIRCALLA my dark sadistic side mysterious and ,brooding. V demanding ...a bitch . a chasm of chaos x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can be very submissive in the right hands, would love another dom friend but as others have said it needs to be psychological rather than just pain and punishment. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I can be very submissive in the right hands, would love another dom friend but as others have said it needs to be psychological rather than just pain and punishment. "
Ain’t that the truth, with all the by-products it produces. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can be very submissive in the right hands, would love another dom friend but as others have said it needs to be psychological rather than just pain and punishment.
Ain’t that the truth, with all the by-products it produces."
By-products? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Where I am on the spectrum depends on: where my life is at, my stress levels, my experience levels with something new and above all that, how I react to a particular person. Some people I simply cannot switch with. Some I can. Some I am very deeply at one end of the spectrum, some, I am part way across.
It depends is the answer - which won't suit anyone who wants a definite box in which to put a particular label and predict behaviour.
Behaviour should never be predictable, if it was, life would be oh so domestic."
Some behaviours are predictable even in strangers if you have a little cultural context, but it means fun can be had with them then. |
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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago
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Where I am on the spectrum depends on: where my life is at, my stress levels, my experience levels with something new and above all that, how I react to a particular person. Some people I simply cannot switch with. Some I can. Some I am very deeply at one end of the spectrum, some, I am part way across.
It depends is the answer - which won't suit anyone who wants a definite box in which to put a particular label and predict behaviour.
Behaviour should never be predictable, if it was, life would be oh so domestic.
Some behaviours are predictable even in strangers if you have a little cultural context, but it means fun can be had with them then. "
Awareness, to sensuality, totally agree, as is repetitive behaviour pattern, they are fun, domestic energy put to one side and real sexual energy set free.
Thank you lady |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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Are there any other men up to domming a Domme? The search to satisfy my sub side continues as I’ve still not met anyone with the right mix of capability, judgement and respect for the D/s dynamic
I need deep connection so looking for a D/s relationship rather than topping/sceneing (I have enough friends who can do that for me). A very loyal and adoring sub awaits the right person. PM me for a chat  |
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"Question is, can a switch actually be fully at either side of the spectrum, do they naturally default to one side or the other, do they just play in the middle?"
I can easily play at both ends of the spectrum .my motto ...if you can't take it don't dish it out
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