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"If we're doing profile reviews could we maybe give mine a going over as well? " I suggest starting your own post, not hijacking someone else's | |||
"If we're doing profile reviews could we maybe give mine a going over as well? I suggest starting your own post, not hijacking someone else's " Sorry. First time forum poster, didn't know the proper etiquette  | |||
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"Can anyone shed any light on what I'm doing wrong on this site? I've been on it for over a year and not had one meet. I'm only ever nice to people when I message them and think my profile is ok. I've been single for ages and am after fun but it seems I get no interest. Am I that unattractive? Is my profile dull or just not engaging the women? Any help much appreciated seeing as I'm a site supporter" Do you read profiles before messaging? Your status is very negative I wouldn't meet you after reading that! Also, does being a site supporter entitle you to meets? I don't think so! | |||
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"What if you're unfortunate enough to still live at home? Lol" Maybe Its time to fly the nest you won't be everyones cup of tea and there are a lot of males on here good luck female replying x | |||
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"What if you're unfortunate enough to still live at home? Lol" Why view it like that? Turn it around, you love mum's cooking but happy to dine out. In theory living with parents is cheaper than lodging elsewhere, renting or paying the mortgage. If you have disposable income allowing you the odd night away in a hotel, tell the ladies you can book a room, or share costs. You mention your body, instead of saying it's not perfect, turn it around, eg it's built for comfort so let's get comfortable together  . | |||
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"If we're doing profile reviews could we maybe give mine a going over as well? I suggest starting your own post, not hijacking someone else's Sorry. First time forum poster, didn't know the proper etiquette "Don't worry, everyone was new once. 
Welcome to the forums. | |||
"What if you're unfortunate enough to still live at home? Lol Why view it like that? Turn it around, you love mum's cooking but happy to dine out. In theory living with parents is cheaper than lodging elsewhere, renting or paying the mortgage. If you have disposable income allowing you the odd night away in a hotel, tell the ladies you can book a room, or share costs. You mention your body, instead of saying it's not perfect, turn it around, eg it's built for comfort so let's get comfortable together ."Great, honest advice there. Hope OP takes note. My advice is not to sound desperate but think about clubs and organised socials. Follow up on advertised parties and ask if you would be considered for the quest list. | |||
"First answer every time.... Put up a face pic." why i dont x | |||
"If we're doing profile reviews could we maybe give mine a going over as well? I suggest starting your own post, not hijacking someone else's Sorry. First time forum poster, didn't know the proper etiquette
Don't worry, everyone was new once.
Welcome to the forums. "Yes welcome to the forums | |||
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Back to your profile blurb, try and get some personality across and talk about what you're looking for and more importantly can offer - it's your shop window if you fill it with enticing things people may want to take a closer look
Good luck | |||
"Ok, I usually leave posts like this for a day or so before replying to see how well the OP responds to criticism (constructive or otherwise *laughs*) This is my journey as a single female upon receiving a message from a single male (and bear in mind that it’s only my journey - others may disagree as we’re not all alike): 1) The first line of the message. That’s all I can see in my inbox, in the sea of yellow, unread messages. Is it interesting? Does it make me grin? Does it pique my interest? ‘Hey there, how’s it going? My name’s...’. Yawn. Not going to get anywhere with me. Delete unread. Catches my eye? Then... 2) Click through to the profile (in stealth ninja mode, obviously, so you can’t see I’m looking at you). Note, I’ve not actually read your message yet. I’m doing my due diligence first. 3) First off - pictures. Are they well taken? Is there a preponderence of cock shots? Am I turned off? (I can take ambivalence, but if I’m actively turned off there’s no point) No, yes, yes? Delete unread. Looking good?.. 4) The blurb. Grammar and spelling. Done badly, and I’m not going to be attracted to you (harsh but true). Two or three lines? I’m not going to be attracted to you. Doesn’t make me laugh? I’m not going to be attracted to you. Doesn't give me a sense of who you are as a person, your interests and passions? I’m not goi...oh, you get the picture. Delete unread. But if I’ve grinned, and thought ‘well, we’ll have plenty to chat about...I’m curious to know more about this dude’... 5) Veris. Tricky as you’ve been on here a year and don’t even have a cam veri. Get a cam veri. That’s nice and easy and you can wait until your parents are out and get one down. If I’m still liking what I’ve seen or read... 6) The message. Huzzah! You’ve made it through. I read the message. Now if it makes me giggle, shows that we have stuff in common and makes me think, ‘sure, I want to get to know this guy better’, then you’re quids in. I’ll reply. If it doesn’t really say that much or make me want to respond, then I’ll mark it as unread and delete. This is my journey, so you have to make sure that your profile and message hits every single one of those points. Think about what you want out of this, and tailor your message to that specific audience (can you tell I work in comms). You’re trying to sell yourself on here, we all are, so figure out your USP, build your brand and sell it. You get out what you put in. Good luck! "Great post but I would have stuck with your original plan! | |||
"Ok, I usually leave posts like this for a day or so before replying to see how well the OP responds to criticism (constructive or otherwise *laughs*) **Edited out to save space**
You’re trying to sell yourself on here, we all are, so figure out your USP, build your brand and sell it. You get out what you put in. Good luck! "Sheesh Elcee...you could have told me you were going to post such an eloquent bang on the nail post while I was composing my bumble - would have saved me a whole heap of time!! | |||
