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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I got chatting to a couple who ate unverified after over a year of being on here... would you trust an unverified member, especially if they have been in here for so long? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got chatting to a couple who ate unverified after over a year of being on here... would you trust an unverified member, especially if they have been in here for so long?"
in a nutshell !! Would we fuck pmsl
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
A year without a veri can seem like a long time. That said there could be numerous reasons for that. I.e they joined the site but haven't used it. Or maybe they have just been looking trying to decide if they want to explore the swinging lifestyle.
You could always ask them to cam with you so that you can verify that they are actually a couple. Saves you time rather than meeting up and finding it's just a bloke pretending to be a couple.
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I'd be very wary, maybe lots of reasons, but a year is still along time to have not met anyone, even if just for a social.
As said, ask for cam (personally I hate cam) or a phone call, photo taken both of them with today's newspaper
But if it doesn't feel right, trust your gut xx |
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"I'd be very wary, maybe lots of reasons, but a year is still along time to have not met anyone, even if just for a social.
As said, ask for cam (personally I hate cam) or a phone call, photo taken both of them with today's newspaper
But if it doesn't feel right, trust your gut xx"
Exactly. It's very likely this is a bloke. Ask for a phone call or cam. If they make excuses it's definitely a bloke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications on here are not the be all and end all - neither is this site. Plenty of people meet other people via other means so just because they aren't verified on here, doesn't mean they aren't real.
It's a popular misconception that Fabswingers is the centre of the recreational sex world. I have sex with people via numerous other sources - and they aren't all on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try and get em on Kik video... no personal details given out so no real excuse...
But watch the excuses fly in...
Our first veri was via cam in the chat thingy on here within a few days of joining... easy peasy...
no veri after ages on site and looking to meet?... you gotta be kidding..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From personal experience, couples are the worst ones for timewasting on here so be cautious "
It feels like this is true, but in reality it's more likely dow to the volume of people they talk to - they get let down a lot by men, so often will make arrangements with several in the hope that one with come through for them......you're bottom of the pool as a guy remember. |
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"I got chatting to a couple who ate unverified after over a year of being on here... would you trust an unverified member, especially if they have been in here for so long?"
Not a chance !
We wouldn’t even get to the point of chatting with a couple with no veris after a year . |
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We had to overcome our fear of appearing transactional post play by asking for people for their usually daft fab name to put veris against when we woke the next day.
- "Sorry mate you just fucked my wife into oblivion whats your fab name?"...
- "Destroyerofpussy2005"
- "Ta" (scribbles down name on pad and pen).
C |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
I had several meets in my first year without getting a single veri (despite leaving them) I was starting to get paranoid.
With life and work and children and stress there are month that go by without logging onto fab for me, let alone actually arranging meets. If it’s a couple that were originally just looking for a unicorn then understandably they wouldn’t find it easy to get a veri. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I had several meets in my first year without getting a single veri (despite leaving them) I was starting to get paranoid.
With life and work and children and stress there are month that go by without logging onto fab for me, let alone actually arranging meets. If it’s a couple that were originally just looking for a unicorn then understandably they wouldn’t find it easy to get a veri. "
Possibly because they don't want others to find 'their' unicorn, I've had this before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have known couples go that long, trouble for some is that they do have meets, but being with other non verified people that's how they stay, after a period of time others avoid them as they are not verified, so the circle goes on.
No meets because not verified, and not verified because no meets. |
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By *azz26Woman
over a year ago
wrexham |
Been on here both as part of a couple and single female.
As a couple we met but profile was never verified as always tended to meet new or other unverified people.
As mentioned above go with your gut and if it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We joined and didn't play for around year as we were unsure whether it was right for us. So our first veri didnt come for a full 12 months after joining. Asking for cam / kik etc is good. My personal favorite is the long game where you try to figure out if a couple or girl is a bloke via messaging then get them to slip up. I would let you know my secret questioning techniques but I'd have to kill you  |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
Shepton Mallet |
It does seem a bit odd, as couples don't have the reasons that might apply to single males (too numerous for all of them to get meets) or single women (too shy/nervous about meeting a strange man while alone).
But there could be numerous reasons for it, including "taking a break". You could just arrange a social meet and see how that goes.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would make me suspicious, but people move at different speeds. Maybe they have just been chatting, building up the courage to meet.
I don't trust cam veris. If that's all they have, then the chance of a meet is less than those without a verification, (meet in person).
I'm recently back after taking a break, around 18 months. So my last verification was probably two years ago. Many find that suspicious too. |
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Op, I'd be very cautious. They might be real but they haven't had a verified meet.
You have to ask why are things going to be different all of a sudden, compared to the last year or more. Have they suddenly decided to go for it?
Proceed with caution. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Verifications on here are not the be all and end all - neither is this site. Plenty of people meet other people via other means so just because they aren't verified on here, doesn't mean they aren't real.
It's a popular misconception that Fabswingers is the centre of the recreational sex world. I have sex with people via numerous other sources - and they aren't all on here."
I agree I have been on here for well over a year and as yet have not managed to meet any one. Cannot seem to get over the no meet without a verification cannot get a verification without a meet senario. However I have verification on another site. |
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When we first joined we didn’t get verified for around 18 months to 2 years because we hadn’t met any site members.
Still be cautious but don’t rule them out completely, make sure you do the checks |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
It wouldn’t bother me that much, as long as you do the usual checks before meeting like cam or phone. Loads of reasons why they might not have any veris - they may just choose not to show them, or they spent their time looking into the lifestyle. |
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The best 'verification' that people are genuine is to ask to see them on cam. They don't need to show their faces or be naked but that s out a lot of the fake or misleading profiles. We're looking for guys and whenever the male half of a supposed couple tells us he has his partner's permission to play alone we ask them to briefly go on cam together so we can all see eachother. Unsurprisingly they never seem keen to do so... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we never meet non verified couples we always ask to see them on cam 9 times out of ten they never prove there genuine so we just guess there another fake couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we never meet non verified couples we always ask to see them on cam 9 times out of ten they never prove there genuine so we just guess there another fake couple"
I'm a fake couple |
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As a couple profile without a verification, we can only comment on our situation.
We are both a little intimidated by the idea of clubs. And even though we have spoken to some couples, we haven't really found anybody that we have clicked with yet.
We have also found veri or non veri users can be timewasters too. So we don't feel like this makes much of a difference
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By *tew2009Man
over a year ago
wakefield |
Over a year is a long time to have no meets and, let's face it, a girl or a couple on here could get a fuck every hour of the day if they wanted....if they've met no one in a year they're unlikely to meet you!
Does anyone else think it's a good idea to have a section on here where fakes and timewasters can be named and shamed? Would save a lot of wasted time and effort! |
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"Over a year is a long time to have no meets and, let's face it, a girl or a couple on here could get a fuck every hour of the day if they wanted....if they've met no one in a year they're unlikely to meet you!
Does anyone else think it's a good idea to have a section on here where fakes and timewasters can be named and shamed? Would save a lot of wasted time and effort!"
Yeah and that wouldn't be open to abuse at all would it lol. Who'd be the arbiter?
It may have escaped some people but being here isn't all about meeting. Sorry but we don't want a series of random fucks to prove how 'genuine' we are. People have all sorts of reasons for not meeting whether temporary or otherwise. Are we going to start punishing people who someone somewhere says hasn't slept with enough people? We don't meet frequently because we're very selective and when we do find the right person we are exclusive to them. It takes time to find a good match and we accept that but are we to be punished for it?
We chat to people we'll never meet for all sorts of reasons, often because they're just too far away or don't match what we're looking for in other respects but are still nice to talk to. Does that make us fake or timewasters?
Seriously, if more guys bothered to read profiles before contacting others, maybe they'd realise that they're the ones who are wasting their own time approaching people who won't be interested in them. How's about that for an idea? We get this every day of the week and why should we waste our time replying to hundreds of people who message us when they haven't even checked what we're looking for first? They're the real timewasters, not us.
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