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Confused and annoyed lol

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hello to all haha, I'm really starting to get confused and a wee bit annoyed lol. Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol. I've been told I have a polite well written profile, I'm always polite and never rude when messaging or posting in the forums, yet I'm yet to have a proper meet lol. I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets. Just wondering where the hell in going wrong? And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha I'm aware that's how it sounds but I'm just a genuine guy, I don't want to waste anyone's time or mess about lol just want to have the chance for a meet lol any advice would be good right now haha

Happy fabbing XD

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck"
yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol "

Sorry to hear that what happened if you dont mind me asking?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Hi op

Your profile looks good to us

Maybe try a social ,if there are any in or around your area.

Good luck

Miss

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By *aybird69Woman over a year ago

Doncaster

try a club, there will be real people in there looking to meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

Sorry to hear that what happened if you dont mind me asking? "
a user on here arranged to meet me there then just ditched me half way through the night

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol "

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs?"
haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

did you mingle and politely chat to those present, or mulled about in a corner like a lot of single guys do at clubs? haha no I did speek to people haha just confidence isn't my strong point, but as I said above my first visit was ruined lol "

So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone?"
no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

So you went to a swingers club, and didnt talk to anyone? no I went to a club as an arranged social meet and got ditched while I was there which didn't help my confidence on my first ever visit to a club lol"

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest"

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying"

It's the fact that I put time and effort into my profile and how I act on here and message yet got no meets but guys with no picks/ not much content on there profile yet have 6+ plus meets lol so just wondering how to improve things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

There's not really a lot you can do. Your profile is not bad, photos ok and you can accommodate. Maybe you need to improve your confidence and communication skills. And that comes with experience, get out there and socialise. You'll get results eventually.

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By *art123Man over a year ago

Stoke

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Took no offence to it haha cheers though dude haha, I do take part in the forums as often as I can, work and college gets in the way lol. I'm planning to go to a club again just worried with the whole going on my own situation haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get in the chat rooms and on cam and as others have said use the forums.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Get in the chat rooms and on cam and as others have said use the forums.

Good luck OP

Thank you

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By *unandbuckCouple over a year ago

Sheffield

Op, maybe ask for profile advice to help your chances.

Head to an organised social, also put your bad experience behind you and go back to the club wih a relaxed outlook and see who you get to chat to.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest"

Don't let that experience get you down. Maybe she just didn't feel a spark with you. Nothing you can do about that.

But now you've been to a club so the worst bit is out of the way. You know what it's like so next time you'll be more confident.

There's loads more men on here than women. The ones with no profile may have met women in clubs and then got a veri.

Site supporter doesn't guarantee you meets but I'm sure you know that.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. "

He's probably more frustrated than anything.

My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

He's probably more frustrated than anything.

My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it. "

Bend over and let me slap you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

He has tried the forum rooms but got jumped on. If the whole thread was read properly it is clear that he tried a club got let down witch knocked his confidence. Has a fairly good profile. Maybe instead of pulling everything he said to bits and being so critical maybe offer some good positive help.

Op try a club again but on your own approach people and just generally chat don’t expect anything to happen if it does a bonus ask just before your chat ends ask them if they will verify you. Also just remember there’s probably 100s of guys to each women and couple on here so it could take s good long while to get a meet solely from here

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

What is this subscription you speak of?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

He's probably more frustrated than anything.

My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it.

Bend over and let me slap you

Oh go on then...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

Thank you so much XD I'm planning to go to cjs again soon and see how it goes, I'm aware there is a lot single guys on here haha I've seen the forum light up on occasion about it and on profiles I've seen people say about being inundated with messages from single guys ect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

Best thing you can do is be yourself and approach people and don’t go with there thinking your going to get anything then if you do it a bonus. 2 big mistakes guys make in a club are standing around not talking then follow people in play areas thinking they can touch or have there cock out. Or not making proper conversation and jumping straight in with so you want to go and play.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Some good advice here already, try an organised social to get some meet verifications under your belt. What I would say, and it's only a wee thing, but you seem to "lol" a lot, try not to do that in messages because it gets a bit annoying if it's overused. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

You seem a really decent fella. And I wish you the best of luck. It takes time and effort, sometimes its a thankless task, but stick with it, you'll get there buddy.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Sometimes I suspect musth overrides the fun elements.

The word that comes to mind is play... not a desperate fuck...

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Just my thoughts - it can be hard on the forums because you lose that context and tone. But it's worth looking at what you're putting out there and importantly, how you're doing that. Using language like annoyed and spent a fortune can come across as entitled even when, reading the rest of the thread, you're really not.

Others have given great advice. For what it's worth, when I was active on the scene I looked at it as just that - a social circle where, if I was lucky, I also got a damn fine orgasm or two out of the interactions I had with fun people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just my thoughts - it can be hard on the forums because you lose that context and tone. But it's worth looking at what you're putting out there and importantly, how you're doing that. Using language like annoyed and spent a fortune can come across as entitled even when, reading the rest of the thread, you're really not.

Wise words. That's exactly how it should be seen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As others have said, try and find an organised social. Contact the organisers, they're usually happy to meet newcomers and introduce them to a few people. Being in an environment where it's surely social, with no expectation of anything else, can help you relax and just chat to people, without any pressure.

Good luck.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you all so much it's been a real help and yes I will admit my wording could have been better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I honestly believe it’s down to the wallpaper on your 1st pic.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I honestly believe it’s down to the wallpaper on your 1st pic.....

Haha darn it I knew it was a poor choice

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By *c-ukMan over a year ago

Sevenoaks

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

He's probably more frustrated than anything.

My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it.

Bend over and let me slap you

Ganging up, ganging up, ganging up !!!

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

You seem a very polite young man OP.

I hope things get better for you on here.

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By *heekioneMan over a year ago

Finedon

Good luck fella

Keep plugging away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

He's probably more frustrated than anything.

My apologies for using the term, ganging up. I was wrong to say it.

Bend over and let me slap you

Ganging up, ganging up, ganging up !!!

Haha..

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By *idalgo13Man over a year ago

Near York

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is this subscription you speak of?"

And why was it a “fortune”? I thought silver membership was a fiver for three months? Roughly 5 pence a day. Does spending 5p usually get you lots of sexual fun?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What is this subscription you speak of?

And why was it a “fortune”? I thought silver membership was a fiver for three months? Roughly 5 pence a day. Does spending 5p usually get you lots of sexual fun?

no I usually buy the 100 odd day thing lol. I realise my wording was off haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello to all haha, I'm really starting to get confused and a wee bit annoyed lol. Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol. I've been told I have a polite well written profile, I'm always polite and never rude when messaging or posting in the forums, yet I'm yet to have a proper meet lol. I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets. Just wondering where the hell in going wrong? And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha I'm aware that's how it sounds but I'm just a genuine guy, I don't want to waste anyone's time or mess about lol just want to have the chance for a meet lol any advice would be good right now haha

Happy fabbing XD"
You seem to be attempting to disguise your ranting with many haha's and lol's. Comes across as fake and that you are actually an angry person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've no idea if it will turn round for you (it might) or if you will be one of many single guys who never get a meet. But paying a subscription doesn't entitle a man to get a meet, therefore feeling 'annoyed' or 'confused' are not logical emotions to have. Politeness is good, but IMO goes without saying. Politeness is not enough. We find people are polite, but it's sex appeal that generates interest not politeness. That and the ability to offer us what we want. With regards to verified men with minimalist profiles, it's possible they are already well connected on the swing scene therefore don't really need a good profile. Or maybe their private messages or private photos make up for their poor profile. It's great that you are getting out there and trying clubs. Try an organised social too. Don't attend these events with any high expectation of having sex though, as it is very hard for many single guys who are new to the scene. Regard it as a chance to make new friends with sexually liberated people, and if something happens then great.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about. "

Whats your problem? OP is kinda right to be flustered...whats doubly ironic is that you have an absolutely crap profile with no information on it...

Oh the joys of Fab's lopsided gender ratio. Really makes some of u get ahead of yourselves...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

Whats your problem? OP is kinda right to be flustered...whats doubly ironic is that you have an absolutely crap profile with no information on it...

Oh the joys of Fab's lopsided gender ratio. Really makes some of u get ahead of yourselves..."

Given that there are lopsided gender ratios on Fab it does seem a bit odd that any guy would get flustered, annoyed or confused or any other similar emotion. Unless of course they didn't realise there were too many guys to go round when they signed up. Since the dawn of time it has always been easier and less effort for women to get nsa sex than men, and since the dawn of time there has always been more men than women looking for nsa sex. Therefore nobody should really be surprised at the reality on Fab. It's nobody fault, just a fact of life.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you get out , what you put in ...........try harder

you need to send at least 20 messages a day

browser search

user search

read blokes veris that have met couples and ping them a message

you have to work at it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Best advice I can give bud is patience is a virtue. I am yet to attend a club mainly because I don’t think I’m quite ready yet as I don’t want to be the quiet guy that just clutches his drink and ends up throwing off bad vibes by being a little socially awkward. Anyhow I just use this site as a general forum as anyone would with any other hobby or lifestyle. I engage in forums when possible and browse for likeminded people on the side. If you’re a tad apprehensive about clubs and struggle with where to put yourself try being social in the forums here and let that resonate into chats and then in good time, meets too. That’s my approach to this and I’m slowly getting there but it’s all part of the journey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sorry your first time in a club wasnt the best but next time wont be the first time so you have an idea of what to expect - only hearing your side of the story so we dont know why you were 'ditched' half way through the night - did you agree to stay together all night or did she find someone to play with and went and had fun - dont give up

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

Sorry to hear that what happened if you dont mind me asking? a user on here arranged to meet me there then just ditched me half way through the night "

Dont let that stop you going again. Why not go on your own and just build some friendships up on the scene. Get your face seen in clubs with no expectations. Hit a few socials and just get yourself out there. Im sure the rest will follow

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"sorry your first time in a club wasnt the best but next time wont be the first time so you have an idea of what to expect - only hearing your side of the story so we dont know why you were 'ditched' half way through the night - did you agree to stay together all night or did she find someone to play with and went and had fun - dont give up "

I'd have thought arranging to meet at a club allowed both parties to mingle and have sex. As most clubs offer reduced entry for single women whilst charging exorbitant rates for men I think it would have been a win win if the op had put more effort in.

That said I do find the entitlement displayed by some men when they sign up a tad worrying.

Op, if you puncture your messages with "lol" and "haa haa" etc...I would find it annoying.

There are more men than women so it will be harder, but as you've noticed some men do very well on here. You could too...relax, mingle and don't take this too seriously.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "

Well said!!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

I'd say don't try to compete with other men. You have no idea about their profile history.

Pics go up and down, words on profiles change, they may have previously had a couples profile and they could have faked 6 verifications.

You had a meet so you have shown that it is possible, the fact that the chemistry on the night did not work for you should not put you off. We arrange to meet at clubs and sometimes it's great other times after a few minutes you know it's not the right meet and you move on. It's nsa so our expectations always start with it may not happen, everything else is a bonus.

Also it's fab so the ratios are dead against you and I'm not sure how many meetings we've had but what ever the number that is spread over 10 years. So it's not like we are all at it every week or even every month.

I'd say treat Fab as a supplement to a normal dating lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You seem like a nice guy. You come across well. You are however younger than many people look for and the male to female ratio is crazy. That said, keep faith and good luck. XswitchX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him.

I wasnt ganging up on anyone. Just trying to get an idea of what OP is annoyed about.

Whats your problem? OP is kinda right to be flustered...whats doubly ironic is that you have an absolutely crap profile with no information on it...

Oh the joys of Fab's lopsided gender ratio. Really makes some of u get ahead of yourselves..."

There’s always a way to set the odds back onto your favour....

I quickly realised that I was on the wrong side of the lopsided gender ratio.

So; did I sit feeling sorry for myself? Nope.

As you can see I switched sides and now I can sit like a pretentious princess and sift through countless messages looking for that perfect cock pic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

"Ditched while there as in", turned up but wasn't feeling it so played with others, or found out while you were in there she wasn't going to turn up?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Id avoid you as your pictures are poor quality and all 4 are different .your first 2 are very old and small and the other 2 not very clear .maybe some nice new pics of yourself on profile .

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By *niper oneMan over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying"

Read what he is saying rather than jumo ti the conclusion he was annoyed he didnt get sex"he said he went to a ckub on a pre arranged meet and got dumped half way thru...cant be any clearer than that !!!!!!!!

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By *niper oneMan over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"What is this subscription you speak of?"

i was thinking that to...payed iut for what exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck"

you just need to sharpen the needle, iam nothing special , best thing for me was a local social met some very nice couples and single ladies. my tip is not to show veris .Billy

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

But aren't you jumping to the conclusion that his arranged social was going to be at his side in the club all night? Maybe the other person just agreed to meet him there.

If you put yourself up for having sex with strangers then you can't be a shrinking violet.

Expectations of "I've paid my money" now I'm annoyed I haven't had a shag yet aren't going to go down very well. Annoying is when you arrange a meet with a young guy, who you've spoken to for quite some time, made the effort to get ready and make house nice, and sit waiting for him to arrive, then wait half hour more for him not to turn up because he hasn't actually got the balls to meet. That's annoying !

I'd question the actual intent of anyone being prepared to play that couldn't even face walking into a club alone.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

But aren't you jumping to the conclusion that his arranged social was going to be at his side in the club all night? Maybe the other person just agreed to meet him there.

If you put yourself up for having sex with strangers then you can't be a shrinking violet.

I'd question the actual intent of anyone being prepared to play that couldn't even face walking into a club alone."

Couldn't have worded it better!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To the OP, stop saying lol. It makes you look like a 12 yr old.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Where did I jump to conclusions?

Perhaps you can point it out to me

I asked why the OP was annoyed

Where did I say anything about sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

But aren't you jumping to the conclusion that his arranged social was going to be at his side in the club all night? Maybe the other person just agreed to meet him there.

If you put yourself up for having sex with strangers then you can't be a shrinking violet.

I'd question the actual intent of anyone being prepared to play that couldn't even face walking into a club alone."

Indeed. Going to a club and not talking to anyone, strikes me as a very odd thing to do.

In any social environment, if you make no effort to interact, you arent going to get alot back

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Where did I jump to conclusions?

Perhaps you can point it out to me

I asked why the OP was annoyed

Where did I say anything about sex? "

and the club meet isn't clear. We don't even know if it was a man or a woman that he arranged to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What is this subscription you speak of?

i was thinking that to...payed iut for what exactly. "
...hope its not £5 that he found expensive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Thanks OP , you have said exactly what your problem and the problem of a lot single guys who struggle to get meets is "confidence" , now that we have identified the problem we can begin to work on the solution to the lack of confidence problem.

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

fake veri's mate I wouldn't let that worry you. I used to wonder how people can have joined in 1 day and have multiple veri's but they're not real. Here is hit and miss and always quality over quantity is better anyway. good luck

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

A lot of guys are shy about saying that they are afraid of women rejecting them ,basically a woman saying no to you, well what you don't know is that fear turns up in your eyes and in your voice, try looking in a mirror and act as if you are toasting a girl like you would and you will see the fear in your eyes and voice yourself, women look into your eyes and listen to the tone of your voice when you are talking to them ,this is how they determine if you are real or fake so you must overcome the fear of rejection and you can do this by talking confidently to a lot of ladies in the swingers club, if they say no, no problem just move to the next lady so you get comfortable talking to ladies , err long you will begin to get yes and also become a master of the game and be able to teach other guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A lot of guys are shy about saying that they are afraid of women rejecting them ,basically a woman saying no to you, well what you don't know is that fear turns up in your eyes and in your voice, try looking in a mirror and act as if you are toasting a girl like you would and you will see the fear in your eyes and voice yourself, women look into your eyes and listen to the tone of your voice when you are talking to them ,this is how they determine if you are real or fake so you must overcome the fear of rejection and you can do this by talking confidently to a lot of ladies in the swingers club, if they say no, no problem just move to the next lady so you get comfortable talking to ladies , err long you will begin to get yes and also become a master of the game and be able to teach other guys."

James, you need to set up a consultancy service, my lovely

You'd make a killin'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"try a club, there will be real people in there looking to meet "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happy fabbing XD"

Paid out a fortune?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have read this forum thread and havent replied until now.

if i was going to a club on my own 1st time, i wouldnt expect that person i was meeting to stay glued to me all evening,

i would have a wander, talk to people, have a perv and maybe if someone i liked id play with or make a move to converse with

Just the same as when going to a vanilla night club or pub etc.

confidence is great sometimes over confident can work not in your favor

just be you. if you was feeling a tad nervous try a organised social in the area, meet a few likemided people socially before diving into the club scene

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By *alifaxLaD29Man over a year ago

shelf

Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back

What's going on am I wasting my time on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back

What's going on am I wasting my time on here"

How do you mean you've set up over 19 meets? You mean you had them arranged and the other person(s) agreed ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back

What's going on am I wasting my time on here"

u have been on here for over a year and have met people.

maybe try a club or organised social

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back

What's going on am I wasting my time on here"

Perhaps they are put off cos your profile is so shouty?

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By *alifaxLaD29Man over a year ago

shelf

No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out "

Your status update sounds really needy and desperate. Women hate that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im seriously getting really annoyed with this site n people on here ive set up over 19 meets ive sent out over 55 messages and I don't get one single meet or reply back

What's going on am I wasting my time on here

Perhaps they are put off cos your profile is so shouty?"

Agreed with the lady above

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By *alifaxLaD29Man over a year ago

shelf

Look im a horny male with a very high sex drive sob yeah im going to be loud n proud to say I need some action

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, give the guy a break, he's young inexperienced and not very confident, the last thing he needs is you lot ganging up on him. "

Was just going to say this.

I'd be petrified being in a club by myself

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"Look im a horny male with a very high sex drive sob yeah im going to be loud n proud to say I need some action "

Even if being loud and proud stops you getting action?

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By *alifaxLaD29Man over a year ago

shelf

Right ive changed my status from being loud n proud but ut still won't make a difference at all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out "

Nobody has to reply to you or meet you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right ive changed my status from being loud n proud but ut still won't make a difference at all"

and jumping on other threads wont help

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By *reamweaversCouple over a year ago

Manchester

"Like a needle in the haystack mate we are all in the same boat maybe try the club scene get your face known. Good luck yer I tried that haha went to cjs and it didn't go well lol

I went to cj's two weeks ago and had an amazing time

Were you expecting people to approach you and say " do you want to have sex with me?"

No.... I didn't know what to expect to be honest

What is it that you are 'annoyed' about exactly?

Personally, I think the fact that youve used that word is a tad worrying

Perhaps they go to clubs and socialise?

Maybe they join forum debates?

If you want to actually meet people I think looking at the number of people in the forum with veris, that joining debates in here is the last method to use for success.

The majority of people in forums never meet and treat Fab as a naughty Facebook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happy fabbing XD"

Stop paying then. Just because someone pays, doesn't mean they get more sex or more meet opportunities.

Being a site supporter doesn't stop you from acquiring interest from others. I've not paid and nor will I.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Look im a horny male with a very high sex drive sob yeah im going to be loud n proud to say I need some action "

Sorry what did you say? You weren't loud enough.

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By *orthwest_cplCouple over a year ago

Stretford

"fake veri's mate I wouldn't let that worry you. I used to wonder how people can have joined in 1 day and have multiple veri's but they're not real. Here is hit and miss and always quality over quantity is better anyway. good luck"

Swinging existed well before fabswingers and many people manage to swing without signing up to this site. When we joined here we had been in the scene 8 years, going to clubs most weeks. We already knew many, many people that could have verified us on the first day we joined. None of those verifications would have been fake.

As to the OP wondering how guys with little on their profile get meets, they probably do what we do and go to clubs. I think we have had 1 meet via this site and been to a couple of socials. All our other verifications are from clubs and parties.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out "

You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out

You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe??"

i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out

You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe??

i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself "
desparate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Wow sorry for the lack in response work gets it the way

the whole playing money point I made I realise now how stupid that sounded I did Jump the gun on that, my apologies

all of you have given me some sound advice to take forward and given me a bit of boost in trying a club again. I want thank you all so much, fab continues to surprise me with how many lovely people ther are on here

p.s I will now cut out "lol" from all aspects of conversation and profile where possible

Happy fabbing

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Wow sorry for the lack in response work gets it the way

the whole playing money point I made I realise now how stupid that sounded I did Jump the gun on that, my apologies

p.s I will now cut out "lol" from all aspects of conversation and profile where possible

Happy fabbing

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi op profile looks fine, maybe try further a field location wise or visit glasgow or Edinburgh lol

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By *olliPineCouple over a year ago

swingers clubs

"Been on this site for a lil while paid out a fortune in subscribing with no results lol.

I've seen guys with nothing on there profile but 6 plus meets.

And I know this seems like another single banging on about no meets and sounding desperate haha"

Paying a subscription is for your own benefit and does not entitle you to meets.

Perhaps those guys got their arses to clubs to met real people? And didn't rely on the site.

It sounds like it bc it is!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out

You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe??

i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself desparate?"

They seem so Yeah and not fussy

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By *reamweaversCouple over a year ago

Manchester

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out

You've already had two meets, what the problem? Sense of entitlement maybe??

i think "i post a meet everyday" says alot myself desparate?

And can't spell either

They seem so Yeah and not fussy "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No it isn't at all I post a meet up everyday n I get no replies back to messages ive sent out

Nobody has to reply to you or meet you

That's right nobody has to reply no matter how much your desire to kiss them

Paying your site supporter is not a given for a meet or a message

some people want site supporters to show that your serious

Personally OP I think your profile is borrowed - as in you've taken bits from what others say like it's a template - just saying

Try be yourself

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Just read the profile and on the whole it's decent. There are some bits I'd change but others may prefer them.

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