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Verification - useful?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I went to a social and got verified. Some others there said they would verify me too. So I am waiting on whether they do.
Being verified doesn't change my profile text, my photos or the pizazz of a first message.
It also doesn't change the fact a lot of people didn't reply to me as I stumbled through my comms just after I joined and if i try to message those people again, fab tells that "this person didn't reply so they probably don't like you, move along"
So what does being verified mean to people? |
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We will meet unverified people, but understand why others won't.
Verifications are not the be all and end all, but they do give an indication of how reliable the person is. They can also show the profile owner in a different light, for example a social meet verification can give an idea about their personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications just give me an insight sometimes as to what the person is like to meet with. I have taken the risk and met some none verified users but I'm more cautious, and tend to look at how long they have been on, and chat alot first. Sometimes it's worked. Sometimes it's not. You just move on and don't let it get you down. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"This has just appeared on my local area news updates...'on cam someone veri me ?' From a pictureless profile that joined just 24mins ago   "
I'll help with cam veris occasionally ONLY if they are verified by photo have public pics and have filled out their bio, also I chat to them for a while first. |
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It will help you. I'd suggest displaying it.
Also now you're a veri'd, do one for the other people you chatted to, they'll likely do one in return.
It's a really useful first step. It guarantees nothing, but removes some roadblocks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I went to a social and got verified. Some others there said they would verify me too. So I am waiting on whether they do.
Being verified doesn't change my profile text, my photos or the pizazz of a first message.
It also doesn't change the fact a lot of people didn't reply to me as I stumbled through my comms just after I joined and if i try to message those people again, fab tells that "this person didn't reply so they probably don't like you, move along"
So what does being verified mean to people?"
meeting verified people is my preference when looking for a play meet i admit that.
but i would meet someone who was unverified also if they ticked my boxes.
we all have to start somewhere |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Yes and no, I was due to meet a verified lady today (hidden) and photo verified, what a surprise, complete silence despite her being online and reading my message, she asked for a selfie over Kik but didn't get that far, a simple can't make it would have been fine! Maybe time to start meeting unverified shadow people lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m happy to meet men who are unverified and haven’t been on the site for that long but I am hesitant about meeting an unverified person who’s been on here over a year because I think they could have made the effort to have been verified in that time, even if it’s just from an organised social. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I've said in a previous thread that a person's veris are more likely to put me off meeting them for various reasons.
I'd never put that much stock in what others say of someone, so I do my own sussing out, and if I get it wrong I've only my own due diligence and judgement to blame. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many folk send varis just to be polite .....
Some sound a bit ....forced .... like "carnt wait for the next time "
And "ladies dont let this one pass you by " makes my toes curl. "
i find some made me go ewwwww or a tad desprate |
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"Many folk send varis just to be polite .....
Some sound a bit ....forced .... like "carnt wait for the next time "
And "ladies dont let this one pass you by " makes my toes curl.
i find some made me go ewwwww or a tad desprate "
That's why I think they are useful, helps form a picture good or bad |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"A lot simply won't meet unverified people. Not all but a good proportion I would guess.
Did it help you?"
I met 3 people whilst unverified. I met one more after i was verified. Then left the site. So hard to say. My main interaction has been using the forum. That has got me a lot of interest. Conversely it's got me a a block or two  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we find them a useful part of an overall toolkit we use to decide if someone is for us. Meet veris do nothing more than indicate someone has gotten out from behind a keyboard on that occasion and that they are generally the gender they represent themselves as...other than that, we use lots of other criteria to make our judgement... |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"we find them a useful part of an overall toolkit we use to decide if someone is for us. Meet veris do nothing more than indicate someone has gotten out from behind a keyboard on that occasion and that they are generally the gender they represent themselves as...other than that, we use lots of other criteria to make our judgement..."
Spot on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A lot simply won't meet unverified people. Not all but a good proportion I would guess.
Did it help you?
I met 3 people whilst unverified. I met one more after i was verified. Then left the site. So hard to say. My main interaction has been using the forum. That has got me a lot of interest. Conversely it's got me a a block or two "
Oh no. Can you find a person's forum posts  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the point is a veri is only good
it never says
he/she
had bo.
dirty teeth
dirty finger nails
bad breath
didnt dress smartly
etc etc etc
so are they really useful?
apart from the fact theyve met? |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"A lot simply won't meet unverified people. Not all but a good proportion I would guess.
Did it help you?
I met 3 people whilst unverified. I met one more after i was verified. Then left the site. So hard to say. My main interaction has been using the forum. That has got me a lot of interest. Conversely it's got me a a block or two
Oh no. Can you find a person's forum posts "
Yeah the block doesnt block the forum. This is a massive source of amusement to me. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"the point is a veri is only good
it never says
he/she
had bo.
dirty teeth
dirty finger nails
bad breath
didnt dress smartly
etc etc etc
so are they really useful?
apart from the fact theyve met?"
I think a bad veri would be like a bad job reference.
Hes male. He turned up.
Something like that. |
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"the point is a veri is only good
it never says
he/she
had bo.
dirty teeth
dirty finger nails
bad breath
didnt dress smartly
etc etc etc
so are they really useful?
apart from the fact theyve met?
I think a bad veri would be like a bad job reference.
Hes male. He turned up.
Something like that."
Or:
This person is indeed a carbon life form, possibly human, with a pulse |
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I think a bad veri would be like a bad job reference.
Hes male. He turned up.
Something like that.
Or:
This person is indeed a carbon life form, possibly human, with a pulse "
When the going gets tough, any two of those are ok for some |
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It's a safety thing for me. If a guy has met a dozen women who all say he's nice, not-pushy, chatty... then I know he's probably got some social skills and, crucially, that he's probably not a serial killer! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the point is a veri is only good
it never says
he/she
had bo.
dirty teeth
dirty finger nails
bad breath
didnt dress smartly
etc etc etc
so are they really useful?
apart from the fact theyve met?"
Yes they are useful. They tell me the guy looks like his pics. Alot of men on here have old pics of themselves on their profile. Also tells me whether the guy is safe to be alone with and that he's a decent down to earth genuine chap.
The list you mentioned above could very well of been left. However, the person who recieved the verification, has the choice whether to display or even reject that veri. Which obviously means no one else will ever get to read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the point is a veri is only good
it never says
he/she
had bo.
dirty teeth
dirty finger nails
bad breath
didnt dress smartly
etc etc etc
so are they really useful?
apart from the fact theyve met?
Yes they are useful. They tell me the guy looks like his pics. Alot of men on here have old pics of themselves on their profile. Also tells me whether the guy is safe to be alone with and that he's a decent down to earth genuine chap.
The list you mentioned above could very well of been left. However, the person who recieved the verification, has the choice whether to display or even reject that veri. Which obviously means no one else will ever get to read it."
well i dont recall seeing a veri that starts ................looks like his pic
or
this guys safe to be alone with .....
so not sure on that one , wouldnt take it as a guarantee |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I like veri trailing. Seeing what someone chooses to display, what someone else picks out as being stand out about the person, the kind of person they go for, all give me an idea of what someone is like. It's not a hard and fast rule, I'll meet unverified people - have done recently and it was fantastic. They didn't want a veri from me, despite now having had multiple meets. It's all personal choice. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I like veri trailing. Seeing what someone chooses to display, what someone else picks out as being stand out about the person, the kind of person they go for, all give me an idea of what someone is like. It's not a hard and fast rule, I'll meet unverified people - have done recently and it was fantastic. They didn't want a veri from me, despite now having had multiple meets. It's all personal choice."
I prefer to check veris, but not always possible, most of the time mine are hidden but I'm happy to send a screenshot of the summary or display a few so people know I'm real. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a safety thing for me. If a guy has met a dozen women who all say he's nice, not-pushy, chatty... then I know he's probably got some social skills and, crucially, that he's probably not a serial killer! "
I'm not a serialist killer ha ha
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It's a safety thing for me. If a guy has met a dozen women who all say he's nice, not-pushy, chatty... then I know he's probably got some social skills and, crucially, that he's probably not a serial killer! I'm not a serialist killer ha ha"
really? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us they are just one part of it. Something to consider, but not the only thing.
The one guy who wasted our time (arranged to meet, he didn't turn up and then blocked us) had three or four veris. Another guy had a lot of positive ones, but we had a social meet with him and just found him really standoffish and difficult to talk to. Just the way of things.
On the other hand, recently we got a message from a guy who ticked all our boxes, then looked at his verifications and several mentioned him playing bareback with different women - which is an absolute no-go for us. So in that case, they were very useful for ing out someone we were incompatible with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For us they are just one part of it. Something to consider, but not the only thing.
The one guy who wasted our time (arranged to meet, he didn't turn up and then blocked us) had three or four veris. Another guy had a lot of positive ones, but we had a social meet with him and just found him really standoffish and difficult to talk to. Just the way of things.
On the other hand, recently we got a message from a guy who ticked all our boxes, then looked at his verifications and several mentioned him playing bareback with different women - which is an absolute no-go for us. So in that case, they were very useful for ing out someone we were incompatible with. "
Must admit, I've blocked women with great reviews but who BB. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Each veri proves that one other person survived one encounter with that person.
Doesn't mean that everyone did, or that they survived the next one.
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'Caught him trying to stuff his previous meet in a duffle bag. But he had a cock to die for' |
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Some verifications put me off "best shag I've ever had so please meet him/her". "met him/her last year best shag I've ever had, if you don't meet them you're a fool". "wow best fuck I've ever had, can't wait to meet again so if you don't meet them it's your loss" I mean if they are that good 1 why would you want to share them and 2 who gives a shit and 3 why do you need to pimp them out, can't they find it themselves?. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well i dnt think you can pay attention to veris considering aguy claiming to only do safe sex has left a bb veri for someone his defense 'its what her partner wanted it to say'.... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Well i dnt think you can pay attention to veris considering aguy claiming to only do safe sex has left a bb veri for someone his defense 'its what her partner wanted it to say'...."
if anyone tried to tell me what to leave I'd just ignore them
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well i dnt think you can pay attention to veris considering aguy claiming to only do safe sex has left a bb veri for someone his defense 'its what her partner wanted it to say'....if anyone tried to tell me what to leave I'd just ignore them"
Apparently he wanted to respect their wishes he claims her partners yet shes on here as attatched but her partner doesnt know..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well i dnt think you can pay attention to veris considering aguy claiming to only do safe sex has left a bb veri for someone his defense 'its what her partner wanted it to say'...."
What an idiot!
Are they a factor in helping you agree to meet a guy on here? More important than the photos, profile or message? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veris are helpful in helping you suss out the other person but can only ever form part of the picture. It is useful learning to read between the lines in what is said in veris too. Saying all that it is the feeling you get directly chatting to someone that utimately helps you decide whether to take it further. |
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