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"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." Your turning them on too much!  | |||
"Each guy knows their tolerance to this with a new partner. This is always psychological and has happened on a meet with me, so very frustrating. Blue pills are freely available and a small price to pay for disappointment. Guys need to take responsibility. Mr" Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings? | |||
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"Each guy knows their tolerance to this with a new partner. This is always psychological and has happened on a meet with me, so very frustrating. Blue pills are freely available and a small price to pay for disappointment. Guys need to take responsibility. Mr Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings?" Gee thanks! You don't spare anyone's feelings do you!! | |||
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" Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings?" And it seems to me that's the point of phone calls and socials, so that we have established whether the connection is there before the clothes come off... | |||
"I've only had this happen twice in my life and both times it was with two of the hottest women I've ever been with. With one I just flipped her over and ate her ass for half an hour and then suddenly it happened. The other time she got all weird about it. Usually I'm worried about cumming to quick, pills aren't always the answer" That's why I like to continue to play, because it can come back if everyone relaxes. What could she have done for you that would have helped you out? | |||
"Viagra all the way..... Mr tends to over do it though (sometimes) randy fooker then ends up going for days "Haha! Do you have to phone in sick? | |||
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"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." Watching with interest x | |||
"Viagra all the way..... Mr tends to over do it though (sometimes) randy fooker then ends up going for days
Haha! Do you have to phone in sick?"No... but i tend to waddle like a duck at work after x | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." Exactly as you put in the last paragraph. Nerves can strike at any time. Relaxing is the best way to overcome them. I'ts happened to me on one occasion even though I was riduculously horny. Occasionally ones chap just refuses to play ball. | |||
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"I understand it can happen, I am lucky, what happens with me sometimes is I keep erect but can't Cum I explain and keep going and let them enjoy only thing is you have to be fit lol" Yeah - see I'm not fit, but that's what the social is for..a chance to say 'thanks but no thanks'. | |||
"Each guy knows their tolerance to this with a new partner. This is always psychological and has happened on a meet with me, so very frustrating. Blue pills are freely available and a small price to pay for disappointment. Guys need to take responsibility. Mr Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings?" Judging by her photos I don’t think she’s any worries on that count. My point remains though that guys have to take responsibility and if they don’t think someone is for them then they can choose not to play. It’s usually the situation rather than anything else. Thanks for your valuable contribution though  | |||
"I understand it can happen, I am lucky, what happens with me sometimes is I keep erect but can't Cum I explain and keep going and let them enjoy only thing is you have to be fit lol Yeah - see I'm not fit, but that's what the social is for..a chance to say 'thanks but no thanks'." I think he meant physically fit (to be able to keep going with his erection, for longer periods because he struggles to climax), rather than you being attractive  | |||
"These are really helpful perspectives, thank you, and making me feel a little less crappy about my 'allure'." I don't think you have anything to worry about yourself at all ! You look a very sexy lady I'd defo put it down to performance anxiety as some have said ........ men can get so turned on so quick at times and this can have the opposite effect to what both parties want !!! probably sub consciously intimidated their manhood This happened to me before and the guy was really embarrassed I assured him it was ok x He has still messages me several times apologising and wanted to meet again ! | |||
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"I understand it can happen, I am lucky, what happens with me sometimes is I keep erect but can't Cum I explain and keep going and let them enjoy only thing is you have to be fit lol Yeah - see I'm not fit, but that's what the social is for..a chance to say 'thanks but no thanks'. I think he meant physically fit (to be able to keep going with his erection, for longer periods because he struggles to climax), rather than you being attractive "Oh! No worries on that score!! All this is obvs hypothetical anyway.... | |||
"If they don't want to meet again then you have to accept that and respect their decision. I don't see it any party doing anything wrong. Sometimes people just don't have sexual chemistry or something isn't quite working on the day. Who knows? Maybe they are too embarrassed to meet again and chance it happening again. I would have thought that's the great thing about sex and no relationship?" There's no suggestion that anyone is doing anything wrong. I'm looking for suggestions as to what would help guys get past it. If they've jumped through all my hoops to get to the point of meeting I feel we're both pretty committed to the idea, so what might help a guy play on? | |||
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"Each guy knows their tolerance to this with a new partner. This is always psychological and has happened on a meet with me, so very frustrating. Blue pills are freely available and a small price to pay for disappointment. Guys need to take responsibility. Mr Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings? Judging by her photos I don’t think she’s any worries on that count. My point remains though that guys have to take responsibility and if they don’t think someone is for them then they can choose not to play. It’s usually the situation rather than anything else. Thanks for your valuable contribution though "You think photos can tell if you'll find someone attractive in the flesh? My point is, it doesn't always work out how we want it to. It could be a mental block because he's nervous, which means she should try to help ease his nerves, without the pressure to perform. | |||
"Relax him. Don't put pressure on him to get hard. Leave his cock alone for a while and concentrate on the rest of his body. " I'd NEVER pressure someone. That would be a terrible thing to do. | |||
"If they don't want to meet again then you have to accept that and respect their decision. I don't see it any party doing anything wrong. Sometimes people just don't have sexual chemistry or something isn't quite working on the day. Who knows? Maybe they are too embarrassed to meet again and chance it happening again. I would have thought that's the great thing about sex and no relationship? There's no suggestion that anyone is doing anything wrong. I'm looking for suggestions as to what would help guys get past it. If they've jumped through all my hoops to get to the point of meeting I feel we're both pretty committed to the idea, so what might help a guy play on?" Take the pressure off. Move the focus of the meet away from sex. Have a drink and a laugh. Let him know you're keen to try more intimate if he wants and feels ready. | |||
"Relax him. Don't put pressure on him to get hard. Leave his cock alone for a while and concentrate on the rest of his body. I'd NEVER pressure someone. That would be a terrible thing to do. " Get out a pack of cards and play rummy until his nerves subside. I had a friend who pre-warned me he struggles to stay erect with a new woman. It took a few times of seeing him for it to not happen. Anxiety is a bastard to get over. | |||
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"Relax him. Don't put pressure on him to get hard. Leave his cock alone for a while and concentrate on the rest of his body. I'd NEVER pressure someone. That would be a terrible thing to do. Get out a pack of cards and play rummy until his nerves subside. I had a friend who pre-warned me he struggles to stay erect with a new woman. It took a few times of seeing him for it to not happen. Anxiety is a bastard to get over. " I'm shit hot at crib. But what if I beat him?? Would that make it worse? The attitude of your friend sounds great. That's why repeat meets can be so helpful.. | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." Ok, it's time to fess up... With me, it's sometimes a case of first time nerves .But after the 2nd time Im usually fine once I'm familiar with the person I'm with and feel more relaxed and comfortable with the situation and the environment. It's annoying... but its how I am sometimes. | |||
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" Ok, it's time to fess up... With me, it's sometimes a case of first time nerves .But after the 2nd time Im usually fine once I'm familiar with the person I'm with and feel more relaxed and comfortable with the situation and the environment. It's annoying... but its how I am sometimes." But you use the experience and meet again, that's the cool thing.. | |||
"OP, it's nothing to do with what you are doing or sexiness etc. From your description, you've handled the situation exactly like you should do. It happens to lots of guys, some more than others. It doesn't really have anything to do with the looks of the woman, or horniness of the situation. It's just an internal pressure to perform. Some guys wind themselves up about it and it gets worse. You've done what you can and acted very sympathetically. Certainly don't take it as anything to do with you." Thank you. You two always speak so much sense. | |||
"I find this happens a lot to me on first meets but I always seem to be able to make my partner comfortable and assures it's no biggie as we have hours of playtime ahead and lots of body parts that need attention if he continues to apologise and is upset I find sitting on their face generally works " And in one of the cases I am thinking of we were up against time pressures, which REALLY didn't help. I do think that the socials, clearing enough time for a decent length meet (3hrs at least is my preference), chatting beforehand, exchanging ideas, bringing toys, discussing outfits etc all help. | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." As a single guy who is still fairly new to the swinging lifestyle I sometimes feel I have to get an erection and "perform" on demand. I recently experienced the problem of not being able to stay hard for the woman's enjoyment,so we continued to enjoy each other's company and played in other ways without penetration. She was very understanding and we still had a great time. I only felt like crap because I felt like I hadn't been able to give her everything she desired,which for me was slightly hard to deal with as I love nothing more than to fully please a woman. Thankfully I have bounced back and we are planning to meet again. And yes, the little blue pill does help. So my advice to guys is don't worry too much, it happens to us all and please don't just blank the woman as it can also make her feel inadequate as well. | |||
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"I find this happens a lot to me on first meets but I always seem to be able to make my partner comfortable and assures it's no biggie as we have hours of playtime ahead and lots of body parts that need attention if he continues to apologise and is upset I find sitting on their face generally works " Face sitting is always good! If an erection fails to happen, then I find taking the focus away from my willy for a while really helps - spending time getting your partner turned on, listening to her, tasting her, usually leads to pretty strong erections it can happen to any guy, so just change the focus, so much more can happen without a cock and that is such a turn on, so usually leads to everything else!  | |||
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"I understand it can happen, I am lucky, what happens with me sometimes is I keep erect but can't Cum I explain and keep going and let them enjoy only thing is you have to be fit lol Yeah - see I'm not fit, but that's what the social is for..a chance to say 'thanks but no thanks'. I think he meant physically fit (to be able to keep going with his erection, for longer periods because he struggles to climax), rather than you being attractive " | |||
" Ok, it's time to fess up... With me, it's sometimes a case of first time nerves .But after the 2nd time Im usually fine once I'm familiar with the person I'm with and feel more relaxed and comfortable with the situation and the environment. It's annoying... but its how I am sometimes. But you use the experience and meet again, that's the cool thing.." Yes I do. It always gets better with each meet. | |||
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"I think lots of people think an erection is something you switch on and off and that men are ready to go 100% if the time but actually, I think if time is spent figuring out what works for that person and turns them on they're likely to be less anxious and not have erection issues. Because I think it could mostly be down to performance anxiety (personally) " | |||
"These are really helpful perspectives, thank you, and making me feel a little less crappy about my 'allure'." Don't think you are lacking in the allure dept.....but hey...sometimes these things happen to the best of us... As others have said....sometimes the little guy just refuses to play ball! | |||
"I've only had this happen twice in my life and both times it was with two of the hottest women I've ever been with. With one I just flipped her over and ate her ass for half an hour and then suddenly it happened. The other time she got all weird about it. Usually I'm worried about cumming to quick, pills aren't always the answer That's why I like to continue to play, because it can come back if everyone relaxes. What could she have done for you that would have helped you out?" If I recall it just took some dirty talk from her? But I'm really into that so it depends what turns the guy on | |||
"assure it's no biggie as we have hours of playtime ahead and lots of body parts that need attention if he continues to apologise and is upset I find sitting on their face generally works " This. Face sitting is a cure-all. | |||
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"Each guy knows their tolerance to this with a new partner. This is always psychological and has happened on a meet with me, so very frustrating. Blue pills are freely available and a small price to pay for disappointment. Guys need to take responsibility. Unfortunately not everyone can take the magic blue pills due to medical problems x Mr" | |||
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Also noting the suggestion to get him to focus on me.
As for talking it thro - If I was in a relationship I'd do it, but it feels a bit heavy handed for fab meets and in my experience guys are reluctant to engage at more than the lightest level.
Really, really useful thread thank you. | |||
"Such helpful contributions thank you. I'm not a great fan of face sitting, but I'll take one for the team if helps ease the situation..
Also noting the suggestion to get him to focus on me.
As for talking it thro - If I was in a relationship I'd do it, but it feels a bit heavy handed for fab meets and in my experience guys are reluctant to engage at more than the lightest level.
Really, really useful thread thank you."Sounds like you are putting alot of effort into this guy though. There must be more to it than just a Fab meet aspect? Your desire to try to help the guy out and facilitate additional meets to overcome such issues etc Its nice and good of you, just go for it and have a open honest talk with him about it, what do you have to lose? All the best x | |||
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"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." some guys sometimes suffer from stage fright, they over think things and get over excited, it happened to me once in a club, room full of couples naked and playing, mildred naked and spread beckoning for me to fuck her, what guy wouldn't be excited and hard , little man went soft, so layed down and started pleasing mildred in other ways, ten mins later and he was back ready to go, don't worry about it just relax and enjoy each other in different ways, theres more to good sex than just penetration, foreplay can be very enjoyable and erotic | |||
" Sounds like you are putting alot of effort into this guy though. There must be more to it than just a Fab meet aspect? Your desire to try to help the guy out and facilitate additional meets to overcome such issues etc Its nice and good of you, just go for it and have a open honest talk with him about it, what do you have to lose? All the best x" Thanks for the post, but this isn't a question about one guy. It's happened a couple of times and they've not been up for trying again, which was a shame because they *were* doing it for me. Just looking for ideas if it crops up (or not ) again... | |||
"Oh I forgot to say that it's never been down to the attractiveness of a partner , the times I've experienced this problem have been with my wife who I find irresistible, beer doesn't help though lol Sometimes I get it if I get very close to orgasm a few times without going over the edge (usually by thinking of something boring to delay myself) so it's quite possible that the guys you mention were very much into you but may feel like they can't offer what you want" That's interesting. Thank you. | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing. some guys sometimes suffer from stage fright, they over think things and get over excited, it happened to me once in a club, room full of couples naked and playing, mildred naked and spread beckoning for me to fuck her, what guy wouldn't be excited and hard , little man went soft, so layed down and started pleasing mildred in other ways, ten mins later and he was back ready to go, don't worry about it just relax and enjoy each other in different ways, theres more to good sex than just penetration, foreplay can be very enjoyable and erotic" See you know this, I know this, why don't they? In one case I had genuinely forgotten about the erection issues because they were a minor part of the whole meet, had had a great time and thought he had too, but he let it get to him, deleted his account and wouldn't meet to play again. | |||
Once it's happened, it does become the elephant in the room. As guys are very aware on Fab, if you can't perform on the night then there are a queue of willing blokes behind you ready to step up! So it very much becomes a mind fuck and something that can cause problems even when the original cause of the launch failure has passed.
As to how to deal with it from a woman's standpoint .... Step out of the situation. Go have a beer together or get in the hot tub. Make it clear that it's just you having a break and that you're not put off. When you get back to it, have him focus on things other than penetrate play. Get him to massage you or play with you. If it doesn't come back then you can end it there. | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing. some guys sometimes suffer from stage fright, they over think things and get over excited, it happened to me once in a club, room full of couples naked and playing, mildred naked and spread beckoning for me to fuck her, what guy wouldn't be excited and hard , little man went soft, so layed down and started pleasing mildred in other ways, ten mins later and he was back ready to go, don't worry about it just relax and enjoy each other in different ways, theres more to good sex than just penetration, foreplay can be very enjoyable and erotic See you know this, I know this, why don't they? In one case I had genuinely forgotten about the erection issues because they were a minor part of the whole meet, had had a great time and thought he had too, but he let it get to him, deleted his account and wouldn't meet to play again." unfortunately some guys seem to take it harder than others, some can brush it off others feel like its the end of their world, having a good lady with you to reasure him he is not a failure, maybe show him this post so he can see it is more common than he thinks and you can get over it,,also get him a cock ring they help keep you hard when your mind wanders | |||
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"As has been said, stress is a major factor in this happening. It's happened to me before when I was going through a rough patch of anxiety issues and that was me having sex at home with Steph. So stage fright isn't always the culprit
Once it's happened, it does become the elephant in the room. As guys are very aware on Fab, if you can't perform on the night then there are a queue of willing blokes behind you ready to step up! So it very much becomes a mind fuck and something that can cause problems even when the original cause of the launch failure has passed.
As to how to deal with it from a woman's standpoint .... Step out of the situation. Go have a beer together or get in the hot tub. Make it clear that it's just you having a break and that you're not put off. When you get back to it, have him focus on things other than penetrate play. Get him to massage you or play with you. If it doesn't come back then you can end it there."Nods in agreement. | |||
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" Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings? And it seems to me that's the point of phone calls and socials, so that we have established whether the connection is there before the clothes come off..." | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." This absolutely....I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing. | |||
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"As has been said, stress is a major factor in this happening. It's happened to me before when I was going through a rough patch of anxiety issues and that was me having sex at home with Steph. So stage fright isn't always the culprit
Once it's happened, it does become the elephant in the room. As guys are very aware on Fab, if you can't perform on the night then there are a queue of willing blokes behind you ready to step up! So it very much becomes a mind fuck and something that can cause problems even when the original cause of the launch failure has passed.
As to how to deal with it from a woman's standpoint .... Step out of the situation. Go have a beer together or get in the hot tub. Make it clear that it's just you having a break and that you're not put off. When you get back to it, have him focus on things other than penetrate play. Get him to massage you or play with you. If it doesn't come back then you can end it there."Yep, really like this advice. | |||
"I like it when guys cum quick. Love it when we're fucking and they have to stop for a few seconds or even pull their willy out for a moment to have a breather!" That's me when I get too excited by a situation. However once I cum I'm back up right away and then fucking for an hour before I can cum again | |||
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"Just tell me any of the following.. I am seeing another guy.. oooh !! I am seeing a few other guys.. oh wow !! Could you pick me up after.. mmmmmm !! You can only go down on me after I have seen him... Shating !!!! "  | |||
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"It's only happened on a few occasions but for me tiredness is the biggest erection killer. If it does happen I'll just stop let her know I need some time and usually have a good spoon, chat about anything and everything. Hands will start wandering and it will return soon enough ready to again. Just don't make a fuss, that's the worst possible thing as it then becomes a mental issue." Thats reassuring, thank you. It's just how ive handled it | |||
" Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings? And it seems to me that's the point of phone calls and socials, so that we have established whether the connection is there before the clothes come off..." it's most likely nerves, the fact that they aren't coming back may be just embarrassment. Either way, you need to move on from this.. erectile dysfunction happens to all men at some point and it's mostly psychological. Don't take it personally is the best way to deal with it. X | |||
"These are really helpful perspectives, thank you, and making me feel a little less crappy about my 'allure'." you have plenty of allure,I'm glad this thread has helped you understand this issue that all guys have at some point | |||
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"Each guy knows their tolerance to this with a new partner. This is always psychological and has happened on a meet with me, so very frustrating. Blue pills are freely available and a small price to pay for disappointment. Guys need to take responsibility. Mr Not by taking pills. What if she wasn't doing it for him/them? Should they meet her again out of pity, to save her feelings?" I don’t think it’s any fault of the woman actually I know it isn’t. It’s a mixture of everything nerves anxiety the works or even medical. Viagra also isn’t the answer it doesn’t always work. I think it’s best just to try and get as relaxed as possible and not rush. Well that’s how it is for me anyway x | |||
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"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: Being brutally honest, I've had a few meets where the guy's erection has been short lived and elusive. In some cases we've played past it and continued to have a lot of fun, met again and it hasn't been an issue. In other cases, despite me wanting to continue play, it has become a 'thing' resulting in us not meeting again. In almost every one of those cases I would very much have liked to see the person again and it has left me feeling crappy that they wouldn't give it another go, using the benefits of the knowledge gained during the first meet. Whilst I appreciate they didn't feel great about it, it leaves me feeling unsexy and like I really didn't do it for them. So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." I think if it happened and god forbid it doesn't what you're doing to carry it on is perfect | |||
"Struggling to phrase this question so bear with me: ....... So, guys, my question is: if it happened to you, how would you like a partner to handle it? I tend to increase kissing, closeness and oral attention and make it clear I'd like to continue playing." The more you focus on my cock the more I would feel under pressure to perform. If I want to get turned on, I like to stroke and caress stroke and lick your pussy and worry about your enjoyment. Then hey presto .... very soon I have a hard on without even having thought about it and I'll soon be flipping you over and giving you what you want. You do sound too good to be true by the way !! Have fun out there | |||
"Nerves is the main thing I've found and especially in a MMF scenario or playing in a club. Some guys just can't perform in front of others. Others will walk around all night with a hard Cock. Every guy is different and so is every situation x" I agree with this, some just get overwhelmed and can't perform in certain situations. Maybe you are too much woman for some x Intimacy does help in my experience but not always... | |||
"These are really helpful perspectives, thank you, and making me feel a little less crappy about my 'allure'." find your pictures very attractive also very impressed with your compassion for those two situations that you were put in. Definitely notice a change as one gets older used to walk around as a kid with a hard on all the time now might take a little bit of kissing and some cuddling at first for $0.01 / watch out game is on. | |||
"The title of this post makes me smile each time I see it. kid gloves comes to mind... don't think they cost that much.... "I see it and think "put some viniger on it pet" a La Keith Lemon | |||
"pause, start again- and usually its actually always been a good meet when this has happened... I get double time of him teasing me, playing with me which gets him ready again... plus there are many more things than penetration..." I always have some "Chill Out" music playing when I'm having sex. So I whack up the music and give him a bit of a strip tease... Turn your bum towards his cock (face away from him) and rub down on his crotch. Then crawl between his legs (stare at his eyes, not his cock) and start a gentle tease blow job... lightly flick the underside of his head with your tongue... Then hopefully Mister Winky will turn to Mister Woody. Humour helps too. | |||
"Who uses Vigar to keep going off to a party next week and thinking of trying it what Dose 100 MG or 50MG?" Seriously - if you've never taken them before, start with 50mg or your head will feel like exploding. Then after half an hour and you're still ok, you can take another 50mg. If you've bought the 100mg, cut the pill in half and do it gradually. | |||
