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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
Usually one chance then out
Although - things can change depending how hot they are  |
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If it was someone I've met before then I would give several chances depending on the circumstances, I won't be taken for an idiot though.
If it is a new person I might give a second chance but they definitely wouldn't get a third. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately there are many people on here playing games. Block her and move on. I love people showing their true colours right in the beginning so as to avoid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup get rid and don't waste anymore of your time. Add a private note to remind not to contact again.
Some people on here really do like to string you along. |
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
Same issue here but on-going. Expe dying a meet tonight but have no contact. Was meant to be yesterday...so I have nearly lost an entire weekend! It's just not good conduct unless it's something unavoidable, but should get a proper explanation as to why. It's our own volition to forgive or forget afterwards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
Unless you have spoken to her on the phone and confirmed it's a genuine reason for cancelling, I'd Move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A second chance is plenty. Then again it depends on how much you want to meet her & whether you're willing to put up with it "
I wouldn't be willing to put up with it. To do so is to undervalue yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't sound like you've met before and if she's leaving it till the last minute I wouldn't be inclined to give it a third go. If you do decide to give it anther go make arrangements that don't put you out if she does it again.
I wouldn't say we'd never give a third chance, but that would only be if it was someone who'd previously been reliable and had legit excuses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
I certainly would, sometimes 'life' happens  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I'm unlikely to give a second chance these days tbh, I don't have time to be messed around. Although it does depend on how much I like them.
Never a third though, that would be an instant block!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I give one chance and then move on.
Third chance starts to make you look desperate IMHO."
Im not desperate but im very easy going, were all different i suppose and luckily enough  |
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I just always thought everyone was worth giving a second chance to,
We had spoken on the phone exchanged photos etc so don't get why she didn't show, ah well, I'm over it now
once bitten twice shy n all that bollocks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two chances then move on buddy.
Without knowing the lady concerned, she could well enjoy the attention.
If anything, play it cool, see how hard she pushes to meet. If she starts clamouring to meet, remain non commital. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet
Same issue here but on-going. Expe dying a meet tonight but have no contact. Was meant to be yesterday...so I have nearly lost an entire weekend! It's just not good conduct unless it's something unavoidable, but should get a proper explanation as to why. It's our own volition to forgive or forget afterwards."
Haha we are local to you and my boyfriend can guess which exact users have been burning holes in your schedule! |
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet
Same issue here but on-going. Expe dying a meet tonight but have no contact. Was meant to be yesterday...so I have nearly lost an entire weekend! It's just not good conduct unless it's something unavoidable, but should get a proper explanation as to why. It's our own volition to forgive or forget afterwards.
Haha we are local to you and my boyfriend can guess which exact users have been burning holes in your schedule!"
Oh really? I may have to bother you later this is getting silly! thanks for the possible assistance :D |
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Maybe it was genuine, at least she told you.Only you can decide if she is, trust your gut instinct. I have arranged two meets with so called friends only for them to stop texting me all together in the run up to our meet. That was after numerous texts and calls before hand  I no longer tolerate this sort of behaviour and have removed and blocked them both.Good luck  |
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I had to cancel two dentist appointments due to going into hospital. I'm just saying shit does happen lump in family kids, visitors feeling sick, work etc etc missing two meets where they did at least let you know can happen. You get a gut instinct if people are genuine. She may reward your patience and understanding. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Would like to think two but those that did cancel and wanted to rearrange we didn't bother and moved on.
Sooo, that is clearly just one chance you give haha :p"
Can't disagree with your observation |
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"Would like to think two but those that did cancel and wanted to rearrange we didn't bother and moved on.
Sooo, that is clearly just one chance you give haha :p
Can't disagree with your observation "
Glad to know I wasn't going mad!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had to cancel two dentist appointments due to going into hospital. I'm just saying shit does happen lump in family kids, visitors feeling sick, work etc etc missing two meets where they did at least let you know can happen. You get a gut instinct if people are genuine. She may reward your patience and understanding. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.
At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"
It isn't like she's 12 or anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.
At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"
It isn't like she's 12 or anything "
if it's family, they would always come first if they needed me...some things are more important than swinging. If someone let us down consistently because their family or real life made too many demands, we'd tell them we'll not make any more arrangements with them, and to let us know when their life calms down... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" if it's family, they would always come first if they needed me...some things are more important than swinging. If someone let us down consistently because their family or real life made too many demands, we'd tell them we'll not make any more arrangements with them, and to let us know when their life calms down..."
My family comes first as well. A drive home from work when they are an adult and can make their own way, however, is a 'want' not a 'need' in my estimation and certainly not something I would let someone down for. I believe that letting adult children know we actually have a life outside of their last minute demands is a healthy life lesson for them.
I get that everyone is different and sees life differently though, but as it's the second time it has happened with him, that's it that's all for this one unfortunately, as tasty as he is.  |
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
Hmm, "3 strikes and your out" I'd say.
Try one more meet.
Fair enough i know stuff happens etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet
Hmm, "3 strikes and your out" I'd say.
Try one more meet.
Fair enough i know stuff happens etc.
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I agree if it's someone you have been chatting to for ages life comes first this is just fun so 3 strikes totally agree |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
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If I have had two meets postponed then its not definately over because they could both have been for very valid and reasonable reasons. However I make it clear that my potential playmate has to arrange the third and keep checking with me instead. I think that's fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.
At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"
It isn't like she's 12 or anything
if it's family, they would always come first if they needed me...some things are more important than swinging. If someone let us down consistently because their family or real life made too many demands, we'd tell them we'll not make any more arrangements with them, and to let us know when their life calms down..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I got stood up for a meet tonight that I was really looking forward to. Something has "come up" - I suspect it's him having to pick up his grown daughter from work but I haven't asked.
At what point do people say to last minute demands "Sorry, you'll have to find another way as I've got plans tonight"
It isn't like she's 12 or anything "
Totally agree. Yes of course family comes first, but we make all our arrangements (whether family, vanilla or swinging) well in advance and carefully juggle everything we want to do. We have a 12 and and 9 year old who require a lot of ferrying around. But we are very organised with their needs and we plans our diaries with military precision. Short of one of our children being sick or my mother being sick and therefore unable to look after them, it's inconceivable that something family related would 'just come up'. And no friend or family member has ever demanded that we drop what we are doing for them. We have a diary and we use it. To us it's not rocket science.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP...your an adult. Do you need others to make desicions for you?
It depends on what you want and how much and who with and if there is any level of trust...
Or if it's just instafuck |
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"Yup get rid and don't waste anymore of your time. Add a private note to remind not to contact again.
Some people on here really do like to string you along. "
No private note needed
Block then the profile won't show on your searches
Dud you speak on the phone at all
Are you sure it's a woman or just someone trying to amuse themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We usually give 2 chances if there is an explanation but with single guys usually they just vanish off the face of the planet, then that's it for them.
Mr can't understand it when a guy just disappears as there is no way he would just disappear half an hour before a meet if a lovely lady was offering herself to him. |
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I was begged for a 3rd wasn't even gonna say yes but within two messages of me saying I'm not sure the mind games started goes with out saying no 3rd chance for her.
Based on people's experiences think im right to not offer a 3rd chance |
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"I was begged for a 3rd wasn't even gonna say yes but within two messages of me saying I'm not sure the mind games started goes with out saying no 3rd chance for her.
Based on people's experiences think im right to not offer a 3rd chance "
There's no right or wrong about it, but by starting this thread I think you knew the answer already |
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I am not very tolerant with rudeness..Unless it's an emergency the block button is used.
I can't even abide lateness unless a very good reason and I am kept informed..
My block list is longer than my friends!!
Fuck 'em I say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never more than a second chance unless it's someone you know rather well and trust them.
Don't waste time on people who let you down. Good luck in finding someone who doesn't mess you about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arranged two meets with same Woman, for her to cancel at last moment both times, frustrating as rearranged days to suit her,
Should I give her a third chance or just move on to next meet"
I smell catfish, you need Nev & Max on the case |
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