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How to "introduce" friends to swinging???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi
We have friends (married couple)whom we had not seen for ages until last week as they moved abroad. He is very outgoing, she is rather modest (but little devil in bed  . So my hubby and the friend got d*unk and he said he would love to do the orgy (in general). So hubby gave him a piece of advice, one thing to another, friend said he would be happy to play with us but I need to initiate it as he is not sure about his wife. Now the thing is I like them both very much, I would hate to loose a friend and on top of it all, he was always my type. I know the girl is in my hubby type, not sure about the other side as we never discussed attraction with each other.
I cant say to her : your man has so much stronger libido then you and he wants to fuck me and my hubby.
There is always a chance boys were so d*unk they misunderstood each other.
Thing is now when I got my mind going I cant stop thinking about it.!
So how to test the waters in alcohol free way? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Friends you say?
Stay well clear...she might not be into sharing her husband and then all of a sudden your a weirdo and talk of your other mainstream friends |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Well one way would be to be open and honest and tell them of your experiences and membership here and see how they react and take it from there.
Another way would be to make a jokey reference to a magazine article or TV programme about swinging you saw (fictional or otherwise) and again see how they react.
Although to be honest the best way would be for the male half of the other couple to discuss it with his wife off the back of the conversation he had with your husband and let them come back to you.
It's not worth losing a friendship over though so whatever you do tread carefully  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No, I would never meet up just with him (3 of us), perhaps you are right, he should ask her. Thing is, the way guys see it, if they play with us it will have no bearing on both of our relations. Or may be they just talk nonsense  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"No, I would never meet up just with him (3 of us), perhaps you are right, he should ask her. Thing is, the way guys see it, if they play with us it will have no bearing on both of our relations. Or may be they just talk nonsense "
How can they KNOW that though - it's one thing having a d*unken conversation about it, totally something else when putting that into reality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, I would never meet up just with him (3 of us), perhaps you are right, he should ask her. Thing is, the way guys see it, if they play with us it will have no bearing on both of our relations. Or may be they just talk nonsense "
She knows nothing about he, he thought it was a plan when he was so pissed you think he may have misunderstood it.
And you think it will have no bearing on your relationships? I realise on a swinging site people lose site of 'normality' but most people don't swing, most people don;t want see their husband shag their friend. What happens when his wife falls in to that category and discovers her husband and friends were all planning this? |
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"No, I would never meet up just with him (3 of us), perhaps you are right, he should ask her. Thing is, the way guys see it, if they play with us it will have no bearing on both of our relations. Or may be they just talk nonsense "
Hes saying you should initiate it because he's to scared to ask her himself. So if her reaction is bad you get the blame and he's avoided an awkward conversation.
Never get involved with a couple who can't communicate with each other.
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"No, I would never meet up just with him (3 of us), perhaps you are right, he should ask her. Thing is, the way guys see it, if they play with us it will have no bearing on both of our relations. Or may be they just talk nonsense "
He needs to talk to his wife and then they both need to come to you guys with open eyes.
Trying to trick someone into it is a recipe for disaster.
Oh and when you swing with friends you put that friendship on the line for it. When you add sex into any friendship all kinds of things can go wrong. It's not a simple choice and in our experience what the guys think in this case has every chance of being wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, I would never meet up just with him (3 of us), perhaps you are right, he should ask her. Thing is, the way guys see it, if they play with us it will have no bearing on both of our relations. Or may be they just talk nonsense
She knows nothing about he, he thought it was a plan when he was so pissed you think he may have misunderstood it.
And you think it will have no bearing on your relationships? I realise on a swinging site people lose site of 'normality' but most people don't swing, most people don;t want see their husband shag their friend. What happens when his wife falls in to that category and discovers her husband and friends were all planning this? "
Poor woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like old style swinging where the men folk make plans to swap their women without their knowledge.
Get the women pissed and they'll be right up for it.  |
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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago
South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire |
The only thing you can do is after a few drinks and everyone is a bit tipsy drop into conversation that while they have been away you have become swingers and loving the life style. If you get asked loads of questions answer them honestly with the never thought we would do that sort of thing but so glad we got an invertation to a party where it all kicked off. After the initial shock it was very horny. Might be more suttle if the lady half of your relationship lets it slip. Leave it there and don't expect anything to happen that night. Let curiosity get the better of them because that will be the catalyst that gets them talking about it when you have gone. You could also let slip that you are also going to a party soon. As that will also give them something to ask you about when they next see you. But make sure you arrange another get together as friends. In the meantime you will find out through the blokes chating how their discussions went.
But don't make a play for them.
If they are friends then they will still be friends.. |
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