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Hi all. First forum post. I'm struggling to replies to messages I send. I know responses are down to preferences. I get that. But i don't get any at all. My messages are always polite and I never send cock pics. Am I wrong in being polite? Any advice you can offer on my profile will be gratefully received? Thanks all. |
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"Could be bad breath ??
Tbh there's that many single guys on here think once you get a verification
Your replies will pick up.
Good luck !"
I'll go do my teeth again, just in case lol And thanks. I hope they will! |
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"Hi all. First forum post. I'm struggling to replies to messages I send. I know responses are down to preferences. I get that. But i don't get any at all. My messages are always polite and I never send cock pics. Am I wrong in being polite? Any advice you can offer on my profile will be gratefully received? Thanks all."
I am also having trouble.
Tbh, there is so much competition here, it's very hard - or I'm a total minger living in denial (not that much denial actually)! 
I have pretty much given up messaging now, but plan to go to some socials with my partner soon. |
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"Hi all. First forum post. I'm struggling to replies to messages I send. I know responses are down to preferences. I get that. But i don't get any at all. My messages are always polite and I never send cock pics. Am I wrong in being polite? Any advice you can offer on my profile will be gratefully received? Thanks all.
I am also having trouble.
Tbh, there is so much competition here, it's very hard - or I'm a total minger living in denial (not that much denial actually)!
I have pretty much given up messaging now, but plan to go to some socials with my partner soon."
You have a partner you are already ahead of the single guys! Get to clubs and socials and meet people get way. It have a couples profile ? |
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A quicker and easier way to get z verification is cam
Be nice and I'm sure someone will help you
But above all before you all do a new "help me post - do a search
The answers are already in the forums (and it really doesn't change) but as usual instead of searching and putting effort in the majority want it to land in their lap
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"You have a partner you are already ahead of the single guys! Get to clubs and socials and meet people get way. It have a couples profile ?"
Lol! I will. My partner is willing to come to socials, but she is not keen on coming on here at this point. |
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Reading the profile properly before sending a message is essential.
Don't do a copy and paste message send out, they stand out like a sore thumb.
Show you have read the profile but using something or more than one thing mentioned found in there as a possible conversation starter.
Ask a question as part of the suggestion
above this one. ( this question probably shouldn't include the phrase can we fuck, or anything similar at this point in the conversation )
Here is a message recieved earlier tonight
hello guys im free now and you free? im male here alone
And due to the small issue of me being d*unk and a bit bored I actually replied instead of just binning it (please excuse any beer based spelling mistakes)
A copy of the reply pasted below.
Sorry I can't put your name at the start of this reply, as you didn't include it in your message and it's not on your profile.
Where shall we begin...
I don't think you could have possibly bothered to read a single word of what we have taken the time to write on our profile before sending your message.
1. It clearly says in the we are not looking for single men in the section called "Looking For" which is prominently displayed in everyone's profile and generally useful information.
2. The first paragraph of the text very clearly states that Adriana is away visiting her mother in Slovakia and has a return date just for clarity.
3. There is a whole paragraph which starts off "Attention another bit for the single guys" which then very politely says we are not looking for a single guy.
4. Your English grammar is horrendous, my partner has made the effort to learn not just English words, but also the correct way to use and write them. I myself have learned to speak and write three languages fluently, which is a bit odd for Brit as we normally just far too lazy and expect everyone else to learn English.
5. If you going to send messages with the intent of getting into someone's wife's underwear then it's generally a good idea to show them that you have made at least some effort in this adventure and that you are not just throwing random messages out and hoping to score a bit of pussy.
I don't know if you realise it or not but silly things like just reading the fucking profile someone bothered to write would be the greatest first move, as most profiles contain good information on the recipient.
Checking out their " looking for " list and age requirements is another absolute fucking winner and generally a good guide to let you know if you should message or not.
Lastly, grammar and manners.
I really don't give a shit what country you originated from, although I suspect somewhere around the Bosnia / Serbia area judging by your written use of English words, maybe even Portugal from the tuga reference you message sucked in every possible way.
Now before you think I just don't like foreign people I have lived and worked all over the world, I have been the foriegn guy living and working in a country that isn't my own and I can say from experience that it really isn't that difficult to learn to communicate properly with the people who's country i am in.
From personal experience I can honestly tell you that I found showing people that respect always gained me positive reactions.
On a slightly hunourous note sometimes a poor attempt backfires, the best (worst) attempt I ever heard was in the Canary Islands, loud and proud a guy with a heavy Brum accent says " Una Pinta of cerveza Por-fa-pleasey".
The real killer barmaid was from Leeds
Or the short version in case are one of life's TLDR people, no thank you.
Have a nice day
Paul
Sorry I can't put your name at the start of this reply, as you didn't include it in your message.
Where shall we begin...
I don't think you could have possibly bothered to read a single word of what we have taken the time to write on our profile before sending your message.
1. It clearly says in the we are not looking for single men in the section called "Looking For" which is prominently displayed in everyone's profile.
2. The first paragraph of the text very clearly states that Adriana is away visiting her mother in Slovakia.
3. There is a whole paragraph which starts off "Attention anther bit for the single guys" which then very politely says we are not looking for a single guy.
4. Your English grammar is horrendous, my partner has made the effort to learn not just English words, but also the correct way to use them. I have learned to speak and write 3 languages fluently.
5. If you going to send messages with the intent of getting into someone's wife's underwear the it's generally good to show them that you have made some effort and that you are not just throwing messages out and hoping to score a bit of pussy. You know just silly things like reading the fucking profile they bothered, having to write would be the first thing as most profiles contain good information. Checking out their " looking for " list and age requirements is another absolute fucking winner and generally a good guide to let you know if you should message.
Lastly, grammar and manners.
I really don't give a shit what country you originated from ( although I suspect somewhere around the Bosnia / Serbia area judging by how you have applied English words or maybe Portugal from the tuga reference).
Now have lived and worked all over the world, I have been the foriegn guy living in a country that isn't my own and I can say from experience that it really isn't that difficult to learn to communicate properly with the people who's country i am in, I found showing people that respect always gained positive reactions.
Or the short version in case are one of life's TLDR people, no thank you.
Have a nice day
Paul |
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"Reading the profile properly before sending a message is essential.
Don't do a copy and paste message send out, they stand out like a sore thumb.
Show you have read the profile but using something or more than one thing mentioned found in there as a possible conversation starter.
Ask a question as part of the suggestion
above this one. ( this question probably shouldn't include the phrase can we fuck, or anything similar at this point in the conversation )"
Thanks for the advice. I do read the profiles and look at the age and what people are looking for. It's completely pointless otherwise. I try and include the persons username in my message and if I'm messaging a couple, I refer to them both. But I am definitely taking your points on board for my future messages so thank you.
Oh and great response to that message by the way lol |
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We would look at your profile and delete any message from you. Drab photos and text
Your profile is your shop window. Would you message someone with a profile like yours |
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and get along to your local socials, the Heathrow one is an absolute blast, no play but great networking and a good laugh 