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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks |
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over a year ago
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involve her lots - let it all be on her terms if you want a repeat performance - if shes been wary in the past and is giving it a go type of thing it wont take much to make her never want to go there again - meet the guy first and see how you get on socially - always leave wanting i say |
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Take your time choosing the right guy. You increase your chances of getting what you want by describing in your profile. It might be an idea to get the wife to write this, then she can have a good think about the man she'd like you to meet, with your input too. Likewise whatever photos you choose will attract certain types, so be mindful on what you show.
Have you discussed a location? Home or hotel or club maybe?
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Have some basic rules set, even go as far as having password in case it's not working for either of you at any time.
May not be what either of you expected and need an easy out or you'll end up going through with it for wrong reasons |
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"Actually I'd love to try a mfm  "
I'd love to be your male number 1
Plus my good friend would happily join us to make your mfm fantasy a reality ..how's that for an idea? Xx   |
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"Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks"
Let her set up her own singles profile here and find men she wants to meet. Let her meet them one on one to get to know them and feel comfortable having sex with them |
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"Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks
Let her set up her own singles profile here and find men she wants to meet. Let her meet them one on one to get to know them and feel comfortable having sex with them"
This is an excellent approach! Each time I've joined a couple as the extra M, the Female approached and we talked beforehand.
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"Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks
Let her set up her own singles profile here and find men she wants to meet. Let her meet them one on one to get to know them and feel comfortable having sex with them"
That's a very different scenario to a couple meeting  |
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There lots of advice on the 'for' camp already, so I'll offer a balance... once you've been there, you can't undo what happens. If one of you isn't sure, maybe let the single guy know the first meet won't go all the way. I've never yet met a bloke who won't come back to seal the deal. Good luck  |
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"Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks
Let her set up her own singles profile here and find men she wants to meet. Let her meet them one on one to get to know them and feel comfortable having sex with them
That's a very different scenario to a couple meeting "
Given that the initial pushing for an mfm has come from the male of the couple, he should then back off and allow the female to explore what she wants in another man. Once she does this she cant undo it and it sounds like on some level she has been talked into it.
If he isnt secure enough to do this is an mfm really something that he really wants to add to their relationship?
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We started off by going to a club and got to know some of the guys socially first.
Once Frisky was comfortable with one of the guys we accepted his invitation to join him in a room.
First couple of times was soft play only before going the whole way.
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"involve her lots - let it all be on her terms if you want a repeat performance - if shes been wary in the past and is giving it a go type of thing it wont take much to make her never want to go there again - meet the guy first and see how you get on socially - always leave wanting i say "
This
She will no doubt have worries
I have always said take things slow , could even have a soft play MFM first .. obv with a social before. Make sure the person you are meeting knows its your first time and be firm with your rules.
I always say to new couples at clubs when they are nervous that things can seem really hot talking about but once you actually see it with your own eyes it might not be and you can never erase that image from your mind
That said , have fun
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had several mfm parties and its great to be spoilt but having the right man makes all the difference so choose careful "
wow yes so I see by your pics amazingly so hot xx. Defo luv an invite x
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"Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks"
Choose a guy who has done MFM thressomes before. Look at his verifications. Make sure he is not a selfish guy sexually. MFM is about the woman having 2 guys to pleasure HER (of course the 2 guys get pleasure as well). Build her up to the meet. Tell her things like "I am going to lick your clit as he fucks you from behind", I am going to watch you suck his cock as I fuck you from behind", etc. Use your imagination and think of things to do that you couldn't do if it was just a MF and not a MFM situation.
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I've been the extra guy in quite a few mfm threesomes. I would say that you should meet up for a social first and make sure the guy is communicating effectively with both of you. After the social go home and have a good chat with each other about whether you think he's right for you. If he is then have a go. And remember, either of you can withdraw consent at any time and the guy should be totally cool with that. Having spelled that out first and knowing that you can get off the ride if you want to should help you both feel comfortable with the situation, that it won't get out of control.
Btw, I am available! |
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"Hi there ,
After quite a few long conversations (instigated by me) the mrs has agreed to a MFM threesome. Would love any advice on how to make it as good an experience for her as possible. Many thanks
Let her set up her own singles profile here and find men she wants to meet. Let her meet them one on one to get to know them and feel comfortable having sex with them
That's a very different scenario to a couple meeting
Given that the initial pushing for an mfm has come from the male of the couple, he should then back off and allow the female to explore what she wants in another man. Once she does this she cant undo it and it sounds like on some level she has been talked into it.
If he isnt secure enough to do this is an mfm really something that he really wants to add to their relationship?
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playing seperate is totally different from a mfm and 121 with someone other than your partner a whole different thing. Mfm is a shared experience not sure why someone would do a 121 first. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the advice. However I don't think playing alone is part of our plans at the moment,this is something we have discussed at length and plan to do as a couple |
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"There lots of advice on the 'for' camp already, so I'll offer a balance... once you've been there, you can't undo what happens. If one of you isn't sure, maybe let the single guy know the first meet won't go all the way. I've never yet met a bloke who won't come back to seal the deal. Good luck "
This. If you're even 1% unsure, make your first meeting a social. If you don't get along, you can go your separate ways with no damage being done through a bad experience. Make sure you're all right for each other |
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Let your wife pick the guy but meet first for a social and see how you get on . No pressure of playing until a later date . Maybe meet a few guys first and then pick the best guy . Ooh make sure he is up for being naked with other guys and being with a couple . You can be let down and lots of guys say they are OK but can loose it . Good luck to you guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have a social first.
Consider a softer play meet if that goes well.
You have plenty time to go the full way in time.
You wouldn't jump in a car first time and slam your foot on the accelerator right away because you'd inevitably crash. This scenario can be as risky for your relationship. |
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