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Refusing to send a face picture

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm getting it more and more that men and some couples are refusing to send face pictures because they are in a high brow jobs that they can't show their faces. I can understand to an extent teachers being like this.

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I'm getting it more and more that men and some couples are refusing to send face pictures because they are in a high brow jobs that they can't show their faces. I can understand to an extent teachers being like this.

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

Then don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't see the harm in sending a pic in a private email attachment!!

Surely everyone on here wants privacy and respect no matter what job they are in??

Everyone is equal no matter what their job!!!

Just an excuse we think and will just avoid such people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Isn't that why there is the auto remove function on pics attached to messages?

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By *DontExistWoman over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

you can't force anyone to send you a pic though so catch 22.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

I would send you pictures of whatever you liked! *swoon*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

must think you wont talk to them till you meet socially,or they are pig ugly lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Isn't that why there is the auto remove function on pics attached to messages?"

I've never used that, it doesn't come up with fabswingers then?

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By *atureandhornyCouple over a year ago

Liverpool

"Isn't that why there is the auto remove function on pics attached to messages?

I've never used that, it doesn't come up with fabswingers then? "

It comes up for us

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "
if they won't send one on here and try to get me off-site it's end of conversation, simple really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use auto remove all the time....but, you they could probably take a screen shot.

You can block screenshots on apps - banking, but I don't FB has that functionality on the website... I doubt it.

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By *assy but classyWoman over a year ago

A world of my own!

"Isn't that why there is the auto remove function on pics attached to messages?

I've never used that, it doesn't come up with fabswingers then?

It comes up for us

Me too

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By *rbean69Man over a year ago

Stroud

What's the problem, OP? Just block them.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Once displayed on screen it's perfectly easy to take a screen shot of any image, including a face showing on webcam.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

A simple question to ask yourself is, if you if they are not willing to send a facepic are they likely to meet in person?

I think it's very unlikely.

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By *egionaireMan over a year ago

ramsey

Hi we stopped sending pictures and have hid our profile after a very unpleasant person sent our photo and details to a local paper.This was because he could not get my Mrs to meet him on his own. Fortunately a friend of ours works at the paper and was able to stop the details from going in the paper

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send face pics if requested but as I work in a "sensitive " occupation I tick the box which clears it when it's been viewed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really dislike the whole I can't because of my job thing. I expect a lot of us have public facing jobs or ones where they would face possible issues if they were outed. Why do they think they're special? In my opinion not an excuse for not sending one at all, although I understand why they might not want to send it via Fab (I'm sure you could screenshot it with the browser name even if it was set to autodelete) If they wouldn't email one or send it on Kik then that would be the end of that.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"I send face pics if requested but as I work in a "sensitive " occupation I tick the box which clears it when it's been viewed."

It can still be copied very easily.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We insist on them now before we meet. Primarily we find that he lends support to the person being genuine and secondly Khaleesi has to feel some attraction to them. We had to turn a guy down because he was almost a spitting image of her father lol.

We have our own face pictures in private pictures which our friends can see. We also send them out once a meet has been agreed in principal. If people don't like what they see or just disappear then fair enough, we don't get offended.

Endless cock pictures with no face picture won't get a meet with us, no matter how big it looks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won't continue conversations with people who won't send face pics. The job excuse is nonsense. I've met high profile people on here and people in sensitive professions who have never had an issue with sending face pics.

People who use the job as an excuse are either far too full of their own importance to make a satisfying experience, and likely fantasists too scared to meet you or married. I feel similarly about people who won't provide evidence of their identity yet expect me to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

Then don't.

Simple enough solution

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send the face pic I have on Facebook profile, it's out in the public domain, they can do what they like with it. I,d rather send a pic than meet them and t reach for a bucket! XXX

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By *reman6976Man over a year ago

Deeping St James

I always send a few face pics. Even though I teach and don't have them in the public gallery it's important to send them so that the person can determine whether or not they're interested. Attraction is important.

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

Put a line on your profile

No face photo, no chat and definitely no meet

That should make your position clear

You're a lady, let them come to you OP - not you chasing after people

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Put a line on your profile

No face photo, no chat and definitely no meet

That should make your position clear

You're a lady, let them come to you OP - not you chasing after people "

No chasing on my part, just an observation from

Messages I've been getting.

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By *ornysxguyMan over a year ago

Maldon, Essex

Some people won't show face pics, but yet happily show tattoos, as everyone k lea, tattoos are pretty distinct, especially arm/leg/back etc, have come across several people who i know on here just through tattoos, no face pics were ever seen exchanged.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I refuse to send a face picture 1st

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't refuse to send one if I was planning to meet, I would just rather send any other part of my body first than my face

I can see the reasoning behind it obvs but it makes me squirm a bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mr here, I work in primary care and always insist on viewing the other persons face pics before I send ours. If your not a patient I'll happily share our pics. In our first couple of weeks on the site we were messaged from a patient I had seen that week

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I send the face pic I have on Facebook profile, it's out in the public domain, they can do what they like with it. I,d rather send a pic than meet them and t reach for a bucket! XXX"

and they can reverse image your picture and find your facebook and any other social media profile that picture is on...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just assume people aren't really up for meeting if they refuse to send face pics. They can't really expect someone to meet them not knowing what they look like, surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

A simple question to ask yourself is, if you if they are not willing to send a facepic are they likely to meet in person?

I think it's very unlikely. "

Quite the opposite, we prefer to meet and never send a face picture. If anyone is confused by this, grab a dictionary and look up, "Discreet".

Anyone who wishes to block us because of this, you're welcome to. We meet singles and couples without seeing their faces, we're more interested in other parts of their body!! Can you see the wheel when you push the wheelbarrow?

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By *ree guyMan over a year ago

Fleetwood

Will send one but expect one in return the automatic delete is great you get one chance to see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

A simple question to ask yourself is, if you if they are not willing to send a facepic are they likely to meet in person?

I think it's very unlikely.

Quite the opposite, we prefer to meet and never send a face picture. If anyone is confused by this, grab a dictionary and look up, "Discreet".

I'm going nowhere near the wheelbarrow if the wheel is wobbly, dented, the paint chipped and it's got shit in the treads...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

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By *est Wales WifeCouple over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

We never send face pics (because once they have been sent to someone else there is no control over their use) but we always meet for socials first so no problem. If people don't like it - well don't contact us.

Meanwhile on a parallel thread (Threats because I wouldn't meet)

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/675549

Someone is advising 'All we can say is never swap face pics'

So there you have it. If you don't want to meet because they won't send face pics; then don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We never send face pics (because once they have been sent to someone else there is no control over their use) but we always meet for socials first so no problem. If people don't like it - well don't contact us.

Meanwhile on a parallel thread (Threats because I wouldn't meet)

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/675549

Someone is advising 'All we can say is never swap face pics'

So there you have it. If you don't want to meet because they won't send face pics; then don't."

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

You're in the lucky situation that finding someone who will send you a pic will be easy to find so I wouldn't waste any more time worrying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?"

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?

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By *anger69104Man over a year ago

Lincoln

I have a face pic on my profile, saves time.

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By *rladytoyMan over a year ago

bournemouth

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

Well then , they are very stupid and it really really is there loss! I would love the oppurtunity to speak and exchange pics with such a beauty

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

That's why I took mine off the friends pic list as when I accepted a friends request I was thinking they would be of faces as mine was but oh no it was more nasty ass pics and skanky looking minge and dicks. I mean surely if you're planning on meeting then a face is mandatory. I won't speak with people without faces now and all mine have gone to private from the pic collecting trolls on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't meet anyone who hadn't sent me a face pic, even for a social. It's not blind date!!!

It's just a chance you take when meeting people via the Internet.

No pic, no meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did a blind date from here once,- we both agreed to meet without asking for a pic of the other.

Was very horny, not knowing who would walk in. But, she was great, and we still chat regularly. Let’s see if she posts on this thread!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?"

I agree, time is precious and it can be hard working out 3 scheduled so we're not taking a chance on meeting someone I wouldn't be attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?"

Erm, because it's a social.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly: saying that they have sensitive jobs !!

No one on here wants their pics plastered on Facebook

Use the automatic removal button z: only available for paid members

We met a couple who would not send pics : never again!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly: saying that they have sensitive jobs !!

No one on here wants their pics plastered on Facebook

Use the automatic removal button z: only available for paid members

We met a couple who would not send pics : never again!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a saying, "Never judge a book by it's cover". Many seem to be asking to see the cover and basing their decision on that, ourselves and some others like to meet socially to base our decision on the contents.

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't have visible facial pictures on here and I never will. But, I wouldn't dream of meeting anyone who I have not seen and likewise if they haven't seen me. I take my privacy seriously which is my choice. Any picture can be copied from this site so I'm careful about who gets to see me. There are many idiots around here not to mention the press.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's a saying, "Never judge a book by it's cover". Many seem to be asking to see the cover and basing their decision on that, ourselves and some others like to meet socially to base our decision on the contents.

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion."

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't have visible facial pictures on here and I never will. But, I wouldn't dream of meeting anyone who I have not seen and likewise if they haven't seen me. I take my privacy seriously which is my choice. Any picture can be copied from this site so I'm careful about who gets to see me. There are many idiots around here not to mention the press. "

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons."

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed."

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time. "

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!"

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!"

If that scenario was to happen then the managed risk would have obviously failed. Risk has multiple possible outcomes therefore doing what you can to avoid a negative outcome is risk management. Of course everyone has to accept that you don't know or can control the actually outcome. That is simply the nature of risk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening. "

You really are an angry person. You need to calm down a little. There is no right or wrong way of meeting someone on here, everyone is different. If we chose to send face pics then guess what's that up to us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening.

I'd like to state for the record that I'm not an angry person lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??"

He didn't, we did.

Let's explain. He doesn't have a pic on his profile because of privacy. But when messaging, he will only meet if they swap photos. So, he sends a face pic and they send one back. So that's him controlling risk.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening.

You're confusing angry with sarcasm

It's very basic stuff so we're a little puzzled by your thought process, that's all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

He didn't, we did.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?"

I refer you to the comment I made earlier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

So sending a face photo to protect your privacy would not and has not controlled any form of risk.

That is why we're happy to meet for a social.

Next question, is she/him/them genuine? We've stated on our profile on how we control this, but they must be a site supporter to have instant photo messaging, and we still don't want a face pic!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening.

You're confusing angry with sarcasm

It's very basic stuff so we're a little puzzled by your thought process, that's all."

I'm always puzzled

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

He didn't, we did.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?

I refer you to the comment I made earlier

No harm in that, but you're not getting anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

He didn't, we did.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?

I refer you to the comment I made earlier

No harm in that, but you're not getting anywhere."

If you say so, I just hope you aren't a gambler lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always puzzled

We gathered that

All we're saying is, if you value discreetness and privacy, as soon as you send a face pic, you just lost your privacy. Anyone can send you a face pic of anyone they choose to copy off the internet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

He didn't, we did.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?

I refer you to the comment I made earlier

No harm in that, but you're not getting anywhere.

If you say so, I just hope you aren't a gambler lol"

I bet you a tenner we're not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

He didn't, we did.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?

I refer you to the comment I made earlier

No harm in that, but you're not getting anywhere.

If you say so, I just hope you aren't a gambler lol

I bet you a tenner we're not

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening.

You're confusing angry with sarcasm

It's very basic stuff so we're a little puzzled by your thought process, that's all."

I think you're confusing sarcasm with being patronising...we all do things differently here. If you have the time to go on socials with the added excitement of them potentially being quasimodo, then crack on...others do it differently and yep, we could still end up with quasi, or no spark, it's part of the risk of this game...but so far, it's pretty much working for us...

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

It does make me smile, demands pictures then block, fantastic filter for not having to waste time.

There are stunning, fun people on here, what's the point in dreaming if it's not turning into reality.

May I salute the dreamers,, and doff my cap to the realists. We/I'm having fun....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Haven't read the blurb before this post. Sorry!

If not happy then block and move on.

It's a load of bollocks re privacy though as I know a few people in senior management roles in the professions youve all talked about and more who send face pics. Ok they may take their time sending them and gauge connection and sanity through conversation but they will send them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't read the blurb before this post. Sorry!

If not happy then block and move on.

Privacy isn't " bollocks" at all. Everyone is entitled to view there own privacy in there own way and that should be respected.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree with person who said a social meet as it's fair as you all see each other at same time plus I say a place of there choice, never works though,they nearly always ask for face pic. My bug bear is then I've sent face pics and never hardly get one back, the usual is your not my type. I'm fine with that but surely only fair for them to show me there face pic, as they then have seen me yet I could be passing anyone on street that's sees me or knows me. So unfair and a worry for my discretion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a teacher. we always send a face pic, but it's on our private pics. If after all you met us you would know what we looked like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't read the blurb before this post. Sorry!

If not happy then block and move on.

Privacy isn't " bollocks" at all. Everyone is entitled to view there own privacy in there own way and that should be respected. "

No I mean each to their own why, re privacy but!!! Using the job as a an excuse is bollocks

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"Will send one but expect one in return the automatic delete is great you get one chance to see

"
7

Not really. That image can easily be copied at the touch of a button and then sent anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't read the blurb before this post. Sorry!

If not happy then block and move on.

Privacy isn't " bollocks" at all. Everyone is entitled to view there own privacy in there own way and that should be respected.

No I mean each to their own why, re privacy but!!! Using the job as a an excuse is bollocks "

I disagree re employment, not all working environments are going to accept this, not by a long chalk.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always puzzled

We gathered that

All we're saying is, if you value discreetness and privacy, as soon as you send a face pic, you just lost your privacy. Anyone can send you a face pic of anyone they choose to copy off the internet."

I don't really get that. I mean there are pictures of my face and my husband's face on social media anyway - Facebook, LinkedIn etc. So if a complete stranger who doesn't know our full name publishes mine or my husband's face on some form of social media, then it's just another random nameless face on the internet that could have been stolen from anywhere.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always puzzled

We gathered that

All we're saying is, if you value discreetness and privacy, as soon as you send a face pic, you just lost your privacy. Anyone can send you a face pic of anyone they choose to copy off the internet.

Mrs"

You are quite right but that is only one of many different scenarios that could be played out with stolen pictures. I would like to say that I would be the first to defend anyone's right to publish any, legal, photo of themselves.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

I think some people are not really aware of how the pictures they send can be copied, misused and even linked via reverse image search with their social media accounts and so on. To some it might not matter but personal circumstances change and you never know when it might start mattering and causing serious embarrassment or worse. There are some very sad people out there who would think nothing of seeking revenge when things go wrong. If you're going to show a face picture it's probably best to make it one which you haven't used anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion.

Why settle for that.

I go for the amazing sex and the amazing sexy guy/woman/couple. No grey area at all.

What if he was ugly and a shit shag! You would have wasted your time.

This is going to blow you away. If on the social, they're ugly, then guess what? Don't shag them !! Fucking rocket science this isn't it.

So enjoy the drink, thank them for meeting, swap a veri and go your separate ways and enjoy the evening. "

That's probably fine for those who are able to get out for a lot of socials. I rembember when I was single and using dating sites it wasn't a big deal if a meet didn't click as I had all the time in the world. But we only get out a couple about once every 2 months. That's basically our playtime. If we get it wrong we will have wasted babysitting which we won't get again for another couple of months. Even for a social it's vital we get it right.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think some people are not really aware of how the pictures they send can be copied, misused and even linked via reverse image search with their social media accounts and so on. To some it might not matter but personal circumstances change and you never know when it might start mattering and causing serious embarrassment or worse. There are some very sad people out there who would think nothing of seeking revenge when things go wrong. If you're going to show a face picture it's probably best to make it one which you haven't used anywhere else."

very sound view and I couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't read the blurb before this post. Sorry!

If not happy then block and move on.

Privacy isn't " bollocks" at all. Everyone is entitled to view there own privacy in there own way and that should be respected.

No I mean each to their own why, re privacy but!!! Using the job as a an excuse is bollocks

I disagree re employment, not all working environments are going to accept this, not by a long chalk. "

Yes but you're sending it to a few people on a timer as what stage do you them tell them all your personal details like where you live, work etc you're just asking for trouble disclosing all that!

Ps if you don't want to send face pics done send them but not many people would do the faceless social

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By *est Wales WifeCouple over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

" Using the job as a an excuse is bollocks "

Most professions have strict guidance about protecting professionalism and reputation. For instance the guidance for nurses includes

"If you are unsure whether something you post online could

compromise your professionalism or your reputation, you should

think about what the information means for you in practice and

how it affects your responsibility to keep to the Code.

It is important to consider who and what you associate with on

social media. For example, acknowledging someone else’s post

can imply that you endorse or support their point of view. You

should consider the possibility of other people mentioning you in

inappropriate posts. If you have used social media for a number of

years, it is important to consider, in relation to the Code, what you

have posted online in the past."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That is true, we only send face pics that are not connected to any other website. That way, if they decide to circulate our pictures it's just a random nameless face.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At the end of the day there's only a few options open...

Don't continue talking to them

Talk to them via FaceTime etc if willing

Or meet them blind date wise

It's not a big deal surely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We don't see the harm in sending a pic in a private email attachment!!

Surely everyone on here wants privacy and respect no matter what job they are in??

Everyone is equal no matter what their job!!!

Just an excuse we think and will just avoid such people "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

Just block and move on, stick to your rules and they can stick to theirs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always puzzled

We gathered that

All we're saying is, if you value discreetness and privacy, as soon as you send a face pic, you just lost your privacy. Anyone can send you a face pic of anyone they choose to copy off the internet.

Mrs"

We'll clarify. If we're chatting to a localish couple, say within a 30 mile radius and we send a face pick but we don't get one back and they go quiet. Are they a customer, an ex work colleague, the local butcher who we buy our sausages off or even a relative!! The ball is in their court, they know our secret!!

Now, say we went on a social and met them. They're a customer that we know, an ex work colleague, the local butcher or a relative. It's now different. They know our secret and we know their's!! Will they blab because we too can blab. We've managed our privacy risk!!

But like we've said, people can manage their privacy any which way they please. We just feel we're one our the very few that have thought it through in detail.

And when it catches up with you, at least we can say, "We told you so"!! So if you get funny looks at work, maybe the person or ou sent a face pic to who went quiet may be a current or ex work colleague, but that's your choice, a one we've accounted for.

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

A simple question to ask yourself is, if you if they are not willing to send a facepic are they likely to meet in person?

I think it's very unlikely.

Quite the opposite, we prefer to meet and never send a face picture. If anyone is confused by this, grab a dictionary and look up, "Discreet".

Same here. That's why we do socials plus face pics don't always show the true potential.

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By *exymidscouple2017Couple over a year ago

Birmingham

we agree totally.

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By *all and ChainWoman over a year ago

Truro

How you determine how great a meet or fuck will be from the cover is anyone's guess. We've met some that haven't been the most fantastic looking but they certainly knew how to fluff the duvet!!

Nothing worse than a models face on a guy or woman and a shit shag, just in our opinion."

Indeed, there appears to be two distinct camps here, porno and personality.

personality I / we dig, porno we don't, because basically the camera usually lies nowadays.

hence the social first, if you don't want to or do want to do anything else, fine, free world, your profile, your rules, our profile, our rules, don't see the point questioning the fact that we are not all the same.

some people only want black cock, some people only want gang bangs, some people only want kink / fetish, some people only want personality.

vive le difference

like us complaining there aren't enough who put personality first, it doesn't change anything so why say it comment on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it was straight swapping, then people are more likely to show face pics. But when you add a kink into it, it does add an extra dimension to it. If you meet face to face for a social first, or even just a coffee with the opportunity to lead on to something else, at least then you see and know who you are talking to. You know it isn't a troll that will plaster your face (along with the rest of your profile pics and tendancies)all over your friends and family.

Regard whatsapp and facebook.

If you message someone using whats app, when facebook does it's -people you may know- you might find them popping up on your feed a lot.

Not good if you want annonimity with your meets. (I don't meet anyone from my town for that reason)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

I've just received a message off of someone, so I replied politely and clearly stating I wasn't interested! He sent me a few very persistent (not particularly polite) messages wanting face pics, I didn't and won't be sending any! Why should I I'm not planning on meeting him so I see no point. On the other hand if there's a potential meet then obviously people should be willing to send face pics privately on HERE, if this site is good enough for them to join and arrange meets then it should be good enough to store a few private pics on! I get annoyed with people that demand app or mob num details because they don't send pics on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm always puzzled

We gathered that

All we're saying is, if you value discreetness and privacy, as soon as you send a face pic, you just lost your privacy. Anyone can send you a face pic of anyone they choose to copy off the internet.

Mrs

But like we've said, people can manage their privacy any which way they please. We just feel we're one our the very few that have thought it through in detail.

Yeah we have thought about stumbling across someone we knew. We concluded that we would rather that situation not lead to a social meet, so we would need to see face pics first to check we don't know them. I'm also not sure that there is less risk of blabbing our secret just because we know they are in the lifestyle too. Their existence on Fab may not be a secret to them, so if they decide to be malicious after a social, I don't think us having knowledge about them will necessarily prevent that. And if we've met face to face then they know for definately it's us, as opposed to a face pic that looks like us but can't be sure. But with regards to risk we have analysed all the 'what ifs' and we concluded that we will take calculated risks in certain areas.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't forget, you can blab in two ways, on purpose or accidently.

On purpose can viewed as spiteful etc.. Who knows, your face pick may have been received by an ex colleague you didn't get on with.

Accidently is when you're chatting to someone and you accidently give out certain info, sometimes without realising, sounds daft, but it happens.

It's a small world.

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By *liceAndBobCouple over a year ago

Lancashire

As someone who has been threatened with being outed for both swinging and BDSM I no longer send face pics.

I would 100% loose my job. My career. While this is a whole load of fun it's not worth destroying my life for. If you work in a sensitive career and take that risk, that is your risk to take, as long as you've informed yourself of the consequences and balanced up how likely it is... Good for you.

For me it's too great a risk so I don't. It is also why I photoshop the hell out of my tattoos (although I do say that I have them and will give general locations in conversations and don't photoshop anything else!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't forget, you can blab in two ways, on purpose or accidently.

On purpose can viewed as spiteful etc.. Who knows, your face pick may have been received by an ex colleague you didn't get on with.

Accidently is when you're chatting to someone and you accidently give out certain info, sometimes without realising, sounds daft, but it happens.

It's a small world."

But surely it would be better for that ex colleague to receive a picture that might be me, than meet us face to face and they definately know it's me. And if they are not bothered about people finding out, then they have nothing to lose by blabbing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As someone who has been threatened with being outed for both swinging and BDSM I no longer send face pics.

I wouldn't do this if I were in your situation. If I felt there was any risk I would lose my job, then I don't think it would be possible to swing. I might be seen at a club, I might have a social meet with someone I know. It takes one person who knows me to see me for blabbing to take place - that's no different from them seeing a picture of my face.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

After that ill-thought-out rant, no face pics on your profile, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't forget, you can blab in two ways, on purpose or accidently.

On purpose can viewed as spiteful etc.. Who knows, your face pick may have been received by an ex colleague you didn't get on with.

Accidently is when you're chatting to someone and you accidently give out certain info, sometimes without realising, sounds daft, but it happens.

It's a small world.

No it wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

After that ill-thought-out rant, no face pics on your profile, lol."

So we never refuse to send them when we send a message isn't that what this Threads about ?? Not having any on your profile !!! Did anybody mention that ??

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

Then you should just move on to someone who fits your needs.

Everyone will manage their profile their own way. For some a facepic within a couple of messages is essential. For others they will prefer a social meet first.

Just a couple of points

The auto delete whilst a good feature, it does not prevent anyone with more than a little knowledge from copying a picture, but it does minimise it.

Not all people send their own face pics. Weird I know but a face pic is only valid once you meet, before then it could be as fake as anything else on a profile.

Because we only have random times to swing we just go to clubs if there are people there we like great, if not well we just have fun together. We tend to use fab for keeping in touch with people we have already meet in the flesh.

But the point is use it your own way.

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By *rnortholtMan over a year ago

Waveney Valley

It's everyone right to show as little or as much as they want, but I guess the bottom line is if you aren't prepared to show your face ahead of a meet, you might be looking forward to some boring nights/days in!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do find it quite strange though when single guys message us and their message or profile says 'face pic available if interested'. We always think 'how do we know we're interested if we don't know what you like?' But we can't ask them for a face pic because we're not interested at that moment in time.

Mrs

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

"I do find it quite strange though when single guys message us and their message or profile says 'face pic available if interested'. We always think 'how do we know we're interested if we don't know what you like?' But we can't ask them for a face pic because we're not interested at that moment in time.

Mrs"

On the rare occasion I send an opening message I always attach one picture. A face picture. As a single it's pointless sending a message in the first place without one.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

" Using the job as a an excuse is bollocks

Most professions have strict guidance about protecting professionalism and reputation. For instance the guidance for nurses includes

"If you are unsure whether something you post online could

compromise your professionalism or your reputation, you should

think about what the information means for you in practice and

how it affects your responsibility to keep to the Code.

It is important to consider who and what you associate with on

social media. For example, acknowledging someone else’s post

can imply that you endorse or support their point of view. You

should consider the possibility of other people mentioning you in

inappropriate posts. If you have used social media for a number of

years, it is important to consider, in relation to the Code, what you

have posted online in the past.""

Good post.

Then there's the part about the ethics of meeting somebody the professional shouldn't. The Doctor meeting a patient, Planning officer meeting a developer, the list goes on.

The majority of meets fall within the "normal" perameters of good position for all concerned, the problem arrises for those that have careers that have socially difficult rules in place that mean that ricky persuits, and without question swinging comes into that sphere. In protecting their careers some come across as evassive, remember they have the same desire to engage in the scene as the majority here, but are hamstrung by rules and restrictions that most here don't.

Stating Professional person in their profile helps, but I accept that this could be used as a smoke-screen to cover a picture collectors intentions of never meeting. IMHO most professional people, can carry themselves in a way that most collectors don't, or certainly don't maintain over a series of posts. They can also be more forensic in the way they read messages, they might for example read lots of CV's so have a "Bullshit mode" way of looking at profiles, and will naturally be looking for inconsistancies in whats been said previously and be switched on to rooting out contridictions.

To a large degree, I totally get this mindset, as once the Genie is out of the Bottle, it ain't going back. If, as like me being a mear mortal you think mud sticks, in many professions, that same mud sticks and becomes a matter of fact on your own suitability when it comes to your judgement, that many of us will never have to answer for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If we don't see a face piccy then even if they say they are Lord and Lady Fauntleroy we say no.

Another dastardly trick by the no piccy brigade is to send you a friend invite with no face pix in their private gallery, just heaving bosoms and cock shots, what's all that about, are we supposed to be tempted by that ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" Using the job as a an excuse is bollocks

Most professions have strict guidance about protecting professionalism and reputation. For instance the guidance for nurses includes

"If you are unsure whether something you post online could

compromise your professionalism or your reputation, you should

think about what the information means for you in practice and

how it affects your responsibility to keep to the Code.

It is important to consider who and what you associate with on

social media. For example, acknowledging someone else’s post

can imply that you endorse or support their point of view. You

should consider the possibility of other people mentioning you in

inappropriate posts. If you have used social media for a number of

years, it is important to consider, in relation to the Code, what you

have posted online in the past."

Good post.

Then there's the part about the ethics of meeting somebody the professional shouldn't. The Doctor meeting a patient, Planning officer meeting a developer, the list goes on.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman over a year ago

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

My policy is not face pic no chat simple!! I block them an move on.. plenty on here who will xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

On the rare occasion I send an opening message I always attach one picture. A face picture. As a single it's pointless sending a message in the first place without one. "

I think that's probably an added extra with you, as you have clear face pics on your public profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How do said person expect to meet if they don't send face pic?

I would never need anyone who refused to do this. But then again I refuse to meet anyone who isn't or will not become photo verified.

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

Mrs

On the rare occasion I send an opening message I always attach one picture. A face picture. As a single it's pointless sending a message in the first place without one.

I think that's probably an added extra with you, as you have clear face pics on your public profile. "

Yes I do and I'm probably unusual in that but I figure most would read the message and look at your picture to decide if it's even worth going to look at my profile in the first place.

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By *uddy and hollyCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

No pic no meet simple we all ways return a pic if we get to see a face pic even if we don't want a meet if someone is prepared to show you there face believe that you should show respect and show yours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do said person expect to meet if they don't send face pic?

I would never need anyone who refused to do this. But then again I refuse to meet anyone who isn't or will not become photo verified."

We would find it an odd request for someone to ask us to get photo verified. I suppose we would if that were a deal breaker, but we've never got round to it and with our extensive meet verifications nobody has ever doubted that we're not what we say we are.

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I wouldn't do this if I were in your situation. If I felt there was any risk I would lose my job, then I don't think it would be possible to swing. I might be seen at a club, I might have a social meet with someone I know. It takes one person who knows me to see me for blabbing to take place - that's no different from them seeing a picture of my face. "

It is a risk yes but an informed and calculated one. A mobile screen shot of a face picture on fab will clearly show the Web address of this site. Meeting me socially or at a club, well clubs have a no phones policy for a reason (bdsm and swingers clubs share this rule generally) and a social meet in a pub or coffee shop isn't something that is going to get me in trouble at work or be easy to link to my fab profile.

I have once or twice bumped into colleagues or work acquaintances in clubs, that is a totally different situation, they are as unable to be open as I am and have as much to loose so they would they not say anything to anyone, it's been a nod in hello and move on situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No pic no meet simple we all ways return a pic if we get to see a face pic even if we don't want a meet if someone is prepared to show you there face believe that you should show respect and show yours"

you send someone you don't want to meet your face picture?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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We have never sent face pics, we used a cam ( or Whatsap if someone doesn't have a cam ) to show face on though. If someone doesn't want that then they are free to move to the next person.

You are free to find someone who matches your requirements if they won't swop pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had a recent bad experience after sending face pics. The guy recognised us and made some veiled threats of outing us. Although we will still send face pics it won't be before we have received them first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

You don't know that a picture can be copied/ saved before the auto remove kicks in ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do said person expect to meet if they don't send face pic?

I would never need anyone who refused to do this. But then again I refuse to meet anyone who isn't or will not become photo verified.

I would never ask someone to be phone verified...I just won't meet people who are not...

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By *est Wales WifeCouple over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

Jeez, is this still going on it's very simple.

1. If you won't meet without a face pic then don't.

2. If you won't send a face pic (for any reason) accept that some people won't meet you.

3. Use your own judgement and criteria as to how you decide to meet others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do said person expect to meet if they don't send face pic?

I would never need anyone who refused to do this. But then again I refuse to meet anyone who isn't or will not become photo verified.

I would never ask someone to be phone verified...I just won't meet people who are not... "

I think a lot of people just wouldn't think to get it done, especially if they are well established and well connected on the swing scene. We'd be happy for someone to ask us, no point in missing out if all other boxes are ticked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez, is this still going on it's very simple.

1. If you won't meet without a face pic then don't.

2. If you won't send a face pic (for any reason) accept that some people won't meet you.

3. Use your own judgement and criteria as to how you decide to meet others. "

Never let details get in the way of a good forum whinge,no matter how many times it's been brought up.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

The very simple reason is that the picture can easily be copied as soon as it appears on someone's screen. Once they have it they can do what they like with it and this will happen before the auto-delete function works. Of course you might not care about it but we've already had a PM from a guy who didn't realise his pics could still be copied in spite of the auto-delete function.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

That is true, we only send face pics that are not connected to any other website. That way, if they decide to circulate our pictures it's just a random nameless face. "

Exactly.

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By *arry WindsorMan over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?"

I thought that if I met them socially, I could then decide if I wanted to fuck them.

Somebody tell me where I got it wrong please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the reason snapchat was invented was to help keep anonymity when sending pictures on mobile phones.

I've only used it once so I'm not sure if it works or if someone has found a way to stop the pics being deleted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?

I thought that if I met them socially, I could then decide if I wanted to fuck them.

Somebody tell me where I got it wrong please.

That's not wrong for you and that's not wrong for many others. That would be wrong for us though, and probably many others. We have to arrange babysitting if we meet someone together. That's a luxury we only get about once every 6 to 8 weeks. That time cannot be wasted. So yes we have a social to get to know them, but the decision for sex is made prior to the social. If we or they have cause to back out after meeting in person, we will take the view that this was a rare occasion that we judged it wrong and we'll have wasted babysitting.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This thread has given me something to think about. Not worried about an anonymous face of mine being circulated on the internet. But it is a good point about screen shots such that the Fab logo etc is included on the picture.

Mrs

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?

I thought that if I met them socially, I could then decide if I wanted to fuck them.

Somebody tell me where I got it wrong please.

You didn't, it's what's right for you and what we do too. I can't tell if I'm going to want to do anything with a guy until we've met him and seen how we all get on. That's why we always have a social meeting first. I don't want anyone turning up expecting to get a fuck no matter what. We make this quite clear and couldn't care less if that puts off a lot of guys. Attraction is based on a number of things and someone's face isn't the most important. There are also simple ways to take or disguise a picture so that it shows enough to give someone a fair impression but not so much that you'd be instantly recognisable to anyone. There are people here who meet to fuck and then there are those who only have sex with someone when they've met them socially and feel comfortable enough to go further. We're in the latter group but other people are free to do what they like.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

So ?? Wtf do you think they will do with your face pic?? Half the people on here or probably more than half will have there pics all over social media anyway

. Pointless argument this anyway if people don't want to send them it's up to them and if people won't meet without seeing one it's up to them as well

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By * and BCouple over a year ago

Durham

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

A simple question to ask yourself is, if you if they are not willing to send a facepic are they likely to meet in person?

I think it's very unlikely.

Quite the opposite, we prefer to meet and never send a face picture. If anyone is confused by this, grab a dictionary and look up, "Discreet".

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"I think the reason snapchat was invented was to help keep anonymity when sending pictures on mobile phones.

I've only used it once so I'm not sure if it works or if someone has found a way to stop the pics being deleted. "

Any picture can be copied no matter what platform it is sent on. There are whole forums where people circulate snapchat selfies that they have captured. Every phone now contains a screen shot ability as does every pc/laptop.

As people have said it is all about risk. Some people see no impact of being outed as swingers others do. So manage the risk to which ever level you are comfortable with.

In my position at work it would not be an issue. For my partner it would make their career difficult if not untenable. It's fine saying there are laws to stop employers acting against employees, but customers can still choose to go elsewhere.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"All bullshit if you ask me knowbody as any reason not to send pics with the auto remove function . My guess if they don't send pics there butt fuck ugly . Delete, block NEXT !!!

So ?? Wtf do you think they will do with your face pic?? Half the people on here or probably more than half will have there pics all over social media anyway

. Pointless argument this anyway if people don't want to send them it's up to them and if people won't meet without seeing one it's up to them as well "

It's not just about the face pic on its own. Face pics on social media are one thing but face pics which clearly link people to a swinging site account accompanied possibly with other more revealing images from that account could cause all sorts of issues depending on their circumstances and how much the person responsible knows about their lives. For example, a previous swinging partner who gets angry or jealous and decides to post these pictures somewhere they know will be highly embarrassing or even worse. If they've been to your house and seen your work van outside or you've told them casually you work in the local school just over the road they can then do some serious damage. At best someone might just find out you're a swinger and that may not matter to you or them. At worst it may mean they send that face pic with the accompanying full page screen shot from here along with more explicit images from that same account. If the face pic comes from a series of images taken at the same time and/or place it's really not difficult for anyone to see that it's the same woman being gang banged on that same sofa even if her face isn't visible in those images. It may not matter much to some people but it'll matter a hell of a lot to others. These images could be put on social media, sent to a work address or to neighbours for example. The really serious risk isn't so much them being randomly misused by a complete stranger for some reason. It's about the risk from people you've met and who've got to know a little about you. These people can really screw up your life and that's why it pays to be careful.

Yes of course there's always a risk and yes it is up to people to decide what they do here but they ought to be doing so based on all the facts and if they don't know or haven't even thought about their pictures being copied etc. then they ought to be told. Then they can decide what the possible risks are and whether it's worth worrying about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I also stopped using cams in chat rooms, I experienced cases of people taking screen shots and pictures of the cam ....sneaky !

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By * and BCouple over a year ago

Durham

You take your privacy seriously so you send them a face pic, assuming theirs is genuine.

We love oxymorons.

As with all things in life there is always a level of risk. The good thing about risk is that it can be managed.

So you sent a face pic and they plastered it on social media. Could you explain how you managed and controlled that risk? We're intrigued on how that is possible!!

When did he say it was plastered over social media??

He didn't, we did.

So just imagine, the face pic he gets is not genuine, the fake he sent his to copies it and plasters it on social media. Ok.

So, if that happened, how did he control risk, his privacy?"
RISK. Reading a profile and making a judgement. Reading Verifications and making a judgement. Having lots of chat and making a judgement. If first two look suspicious wont even lead to chat. If chat all goes well a decision has to be made. If something is not right then its not right and no pictures will be sent. We never message anyone who states in their profile a face picture must be sent with first message. Like someone said, each to their own and all conduct themselves on here as they see fit. Not sending face pics and meeting is a turn on for some. All said if we cant work it out by reading profiles and verifications we should resort to just looking at pictures and no one on fab just does that before contact...... Do they

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Verification are a good risk assessment. Unlikely that someone with 10+ verifications over a series of years is going to be a pic collector.

That is a very long game to play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?

I thought that if I met them socially, I could then decide if I wanted to fuck them.

Somebody tell me where I got it wrong please.

we too are in the latter group but we would never have a social without at least an idea of what people look like. If there is no possibility of wanting to play with someone because we know we don't find them in the least bit attractive, we'd rather spend our time meeting those we do or socialising with our friends...otherwise, it's all just a waste of everyones time including the other people who might think there's going to be a chance of playing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Used to send but not anymore.we also dont do blind dates so rather attend a social /m&g and meet people face to face that way.rather our face pictures arent out there for strangers to do as they please.

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By *all and ChainWoman over a year ago

Truro

"This thread has given me something to think about. Not worried about an anonymous face of mine being circulated on the internet. But it is a good point about screen shots such that the Fab logo etc is included on the picture.

Mrs"

In the world of child pornography the user gets charged with "making" a picture, in effect the web browser downloads the data, stores it in "hidden" areas on the users hard disk, and then displays it on screen.

The technical moral here is that *everything* shown in a browser is also copied to hidden cache files on that computer's hard disk.

While hitting "reload" on that page may them result in a new blank page with certain data or images no longer available to download, since they have already been viewed once, the previous hidden cache files do still exist, and will for many months or years.

There is only one hard and fast rule, once you upload something, it doesn't matter where you uploaded it to, or what rules / promises / policies that site had, you have lost *all* control over that data forever.

That digital photo taken ten years ago hasn't degraded one iota, and ten years ago so cheap as to be free facial recognition (as practiced by fuckbook amongst many others) didn't exist, now it does, so the old digital photo can be facial recog matched and the genie is out of the bottle.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"Sorry for being so frank, what a silly comment.

Have you not heard of a social meet?

why waste your time meeting someone socially that you have no idea whether you'd consider fucking?

I thought that if I met them socially, I could then decide if I wanted to fuck them.

Somebody tell me where I got it wrong please.

Neither do we but we do it on cam so there's no chance of getting someone totally different from that old image they sent. lol

It's perfectly possible to show enough in a picture (or on cam) to establish some sort of attraction without a full clear face image. You can show only part of the face, wear a small mask or just edit the image slightly so it conveys enough but doesn't make your face totally obvious for everyone to see.

Let's face it there are no guarantees when meeting for the first time. You might be attracted by a picture you've been sent but that image might be old or fake or you might just find the real person a complete turnoff and not want to go further. Both have happened to us before. If you've arranged to meet on the basis that the expectation is to have sex though then it's always going to be more awkward to let that person down than would be the case if they knew it was just a social meeting.

Social meetings can be very pleasant even if you find you don't really fancy the other person enough to want to go further. We never meet anyone for sex the first time out, that's our rule and everyone we meet is aware of it. We find it avoids any pressure, tension or misunderstandings. If there is an attraction though the flirting can be highly erotic and arranging the next meeting is all that bit more exciting...

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Mrs

The technical moral here is that *everything* shown in a browser is also copied to hidden cache files on that computer's hard disk.

That is a very good post!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

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with the new direction photo facility on here you don't need to even store it, this site is as secure as Kik WhatsApp etc, so no excuse at all really, they are just trying to get you off site because they don't want to compete with others who may also be messaging

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Interesting post, I agree with the people who do not send face pictures because I believe it is not important , there are loads of single guys who send face photos and they still don't get meets , infact they are even doing worse than the guys who don't send.

I believe you can meet in a pub, club,library, swimming pool, fish and chips shop , supermarket, gym , horse riding school , spa etc wherever you want and chat, if you like them fine , if not you cancel the meet, now if you want to send face pictures that's cool, if not its ok too, it makes no difference to me, I personally don't send face pictures and I still get loads of local meets so for me body pictures and verifications are the important thing, plus if I get to a meet and I don't like the looks of the lady ,I will hang out with her but I will not fuck her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Interesting post, I agree with the people who do not send face pictures because I believe it is not important , there are loads of single guys who send face photos and they still don't get meets , infact they are even doing worse than the guys who don't send.

A sensible post.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Plus a lot of female swingers do key and very sensitive jobs and businesses , I can understand this but this does not mean they cannot swing , infact I think they are better in bed, I have a couple of friends like this, some don't want their partners to know , I can understand this too, I am in it for fun not for a relationship so my lips are sealed, I need them not their face pictures

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "

The answer is very simple and shows just how niave many are here on Fab.

Any picture on your computer can be copied often by simply right clicking on the image.

That includes all photos that are removed after the person has viewed.

We only send face pics to people we trust as there are too many pic collectors on Fab

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

It comes down to personal choice like so many other things on Fab. There are no right or wrong answers: some will meet without pictures and some won't; some think the risks of bareback are worth taking and others don't; some like bi guys and some don't etc, all personal choices to accept and move on.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one.

The answer is very simple and shows just how niave many are here on Fab.

Any picture on your computer can be copied often by simply right clicking on the image.

That includes all photos that are removed after the person has viewed.

We only send face pics to people we trust as there are too many pic collectors on Fab"

Thanks, I agree plus we need people to stop this face picture thing without considering others, e.g your local doctor might not want to send her face pictures , that does not mean she cannot swing, local teachers too etc Simply meet people in a public place and chat if they have verifications that prove they play and are genuine swingers, if you like them ask them, will you like to play, if yes , you can go to the nearest hotel and fuck. If you meet in a spa then the nearest room, if they don't want to play it's cool at least you have made a new friend who might have swinging friends you can fuck.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

"It comes down to personal choice like so many other things on Fab. There are no right or wrong answers: some will meet without pictures and some won't; some think the risks of bareback are worth taking and others don't; some like bi guys and some don't etc, all personal choices to accept and move on.

That's fine providing you're fully aware of the risks. It's clear that many people aren't aware of the risks associated with their private pics. Be aware, do what you reasonably can to minimise the risk and the chances are you'll be safe.

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By *rx1Couple over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

PICTURELESS PROFILES. If you work for MI5 they already know you are on here, if you don't, you are not as important as you think you are.

yes we know .....we are only joking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, a lot of people judging those who won't send face photos! Make half here isn't comfortable doing so because of his job - this isn't because he thinks he's more important than others or anything of the sort. He just isn't comfortable with it, and isn't swinging all about what you're comfortable with? Any time you send a face photo you're putting your privacy at risk, and it's entirely a personal choice whether to do so or not. Our verifications prove that we don't "chicken out" at the last minute, and I can assure you he isn't "pig ugly". If someone is demanding face photos from anyone who isn't comfortable giving them, I hate to think what they'd be like on an actual meet.

Her xx

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By * and BCouple over a year ago

Durham

Pick up a laptop, join any social media site privacy ended.... simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, a lot of people judging those who won't send face photos! Make half here isn't comfortable doing so because of his job - this isn't because he thinks he's more important than others or anything of the sort. He just isn't comfortable with it, and isn't swinging all about what you're comfortable with? Any time you send a face photo you're putting your privacy at risk, and it's entirely a personal choice whether to do so or not. Our verifications prove that we don't "chicken out" at the last minute, and I can assure you he isn't "pig ugly". If someone is demanding face photos from anyone who isn't comfortable giving them, I hate to think what they'd be like on an actual meet.

Her xx"

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By *rx1Couple over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

Her xx"

So do you ever show a picture before you actually meet, ? Or is it guess work all the way..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her xx"

we don't judge...but we use our judgement to make a decision that we don't want to meet them and don't communicate any further...they're not the same thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her xx

we don't judge...but we use our judgement to make a decision that we don't want to meet them and don't communicate any further...they're not the same thing "

and we don't demand. we request them. if none are forthcoming, we move on...if we've approached people we offer ours first, if theyve approached us, we'd ask for theirs...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing would possess me to waste an evening getting ready, to drive for a social, to walk through the door recognising someone I knew, or just no attraction whatsoever. No amount of verifications or assurances how attractive they perceive themselves, will replace a visual photo for initial gauge of any attraction for me. I use my free time on people I really feel may be 'the one'.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

If they won't send a face pic on here then the convo ends.

A faceless guy trying to get my phone number, email address is not something I'd fall for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her xx

So do you ever show a picture before you actually meet, ? Or is it guess work all the way.."

I'll send one of myself. If people don't want to meet us that's fine by us, but it doesn't seem to have held us back so far.

Her xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Her xx

we don't judge...but we use our judgement to make a decision that we don't want to meet them and don't communicate any further...they're not the same thing "

I wasn't talking about people who won't meet without face photos - again, that is entirely your personal choice. I meant those who are assuming anyone who doesn't want to send one must be fake or ugly.

Her xx

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By *dores blackmenWoman over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

"Isn't that why there is the auto remove function on pics attached to messages?"

You can download a pic once opened message,so the auto remove is useless if people are on the ball

Fab should make it impossible to download pics all together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Isn't that why there is the auto remove function on pics attached to messages?

I've never used that, it doesn't come up with fabswingers then?

It comes up for us

Yep standard on both desktop and mobile access

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really dislike the whole I can't because of my job thing. I expect a lot of us have public facing jobs or ones where they would face possible issues if they were outed. Why do they think they're special?. "

Probably because they are also playing away from home without consent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pick up a laptop, join any social media site privacy ended.... simples"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thing is if they dont send you a face pic because they are in important jobs,what are they going to do if or when they meet some one put a bag over their heads ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"thing is if they dont send you a face pic because they are in important jobs,what are they going to do if or when they meet some one put a bag over their heads ??"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I ask for and send s face pic after I've chatted a few times. If they don't want to send a face pic end of convo. Simples

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Probably because they are also playing away from home without consent

I reckon there's a few guys here who are doing just that and will one day regret sending out all those pics of them indulging in all sorts of things with their faces clearly visible. It's easy to be blase about privacy until its abused and people you know in the real world start finding out what you've been up to. Images can be easily copied, searched and used to trace people on social media amongst other things. Stills can easily be obtained from video footage then used the same way. If that worries you, be very careful about the pictures you send and keep faces out of them. If it doesn't then carry on with your fingers crossed.

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By *miler6969696969Man over a year ago

Doncaster/Sheffield

I don't want to talk to the faceless people and I don't want to be giving out email, whatspp etc so they can send me one. "
I use kik messenger. It has the feature to show if picture is from camera of gallery.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This thread sums up why 90% of the people I meet are from socials or clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really agree with sending a pic of face. I say to the men, do as I did and set face to friends and private. I agree we all equal and I say to the ones in high brow jobs maybe you shouldn't play on here if u that worries about your face being seen. We all have to take the plunge of trust on here

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