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I was just wondering what people think about single guys with a fair few verifications ?
What I mean is if you see a single guy with, for arguments sake, say 10 verifications would you consider that a positive or a negative ?
And again for arguments sake they have been spread over a couple of years would you consider that a positive ie it makes him look like a nice decent chap who isn't a liar or a time waster or would you think of him in a negative way you would consider him a player ? Only looking for quantity rather than quality no matter what the reason is as to why he has so many ?
I know a lot of users wouldn't entertain any one who isn't verified ( for their own reasons ) but would the same apply to those who have a fair few ? Your put off by that fact and not look at it in a positive way ?
Also be interested in seeing what people think is " too many " ?
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Also be interested in seeing what people think is " too many " ?
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There are people on here who think 2 is too many, there are people on here who think 1,000 is too few. You'll not get a single correct response.
I don't even notice the number of verifications (unless I'm competing). I'll check they do meet, and have met recently, but apart from that, more power to them. |
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I just show a selection of my favourite ones. Frankly I don't care if someone thinks I have too many, I consider that to be their insecurities and I wouldn't want to play with anyone insecure anyway |
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over a year ago
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"I don't care about number but I do care about who they are from!
That's a good point actually  "
I'm glad you agree, as I'm sure any minute now I will get bashed for saying it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always look at peoples veris to make sure they are real and are more likely to turn up for a meet in our experience.
We have never thought they have to many but we look through their "sex tree" and if there are TVs veris and they are "straight" they aren't for us.
Also anyone that has meet BB couples are a no.
Though this is just our preference before I'm slated |
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"I don't care about number but I do care about who they are from!
That's a good point actually
I'm glad you agree, as I'm sure any minute now I will get bashed for saying it "
I totally agree and do the same myself, see the trail and all that. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I prefer less and have met guys with no verfication. But thats just me!  No right or wrong answer to this one.
One of the few who has that opinion  "
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"It shows they turn up. It doesn't verify they are the man in the pics, for me, because they could have uploaded pics since meeting. "
All pics are dated so that doesn't work for a pic dated older than the veri. That said anyone could upload false pics but then surely nobody would verify someone with false pics ?
Sorry I don't understand the logic?
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over a year ago
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When looking at the number of veris someone has I'd be thinking about how long they had got them over, the sort of meets they were from (not really interested in people who only have webcam veris , and have to bear in mind that a meet veri may only have been a social) and who they're meeting. There are a couple of profiles on here that a veri from would mean an instant no from us.
We've met guys who've been on the scene a long time and enjoy clubs and parties so have lots of veris, if the same number had been gathered from bareback gang bangs it would be a different story. |
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I don't judge men on the ammount of verifications they have
If they have none to a hundred,it's how they treat me,and if I enjoy myself with them,good etiquette,safe play and fun is what I'm here for
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over a year ago
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Hey Raggedy. I like to read a veri trail. Like others have said, I wouldn't be put off by the amount but maybe by who. I'm not sure until it happens. Some people would be put off by the fact that we've been here 4 months and got 7 veris but in truth, we've only played with 2 of those! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guys with few verifications are rarely given a look in, it's like going for a job and being told sorry no experience "
Spot on, I couldn't put it any better myself. It's a double edged sword you have no veris and you have no chance yet you have a few and some will say that's too many but with the amount of time wasters and fakes on here it's hard to tell. Especially if people have veris within a couple of hours of joining the site. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't judge men on the ammount of verifications they have
If they have none to a hundred,it's how they treat me,and if I enjoy myself with them,good etiquette,safe play and fun is what I'm here for
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Liking the sound of that Missy..maybe we'll cross paths one day  |
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"I prefer less and have met guys with no verfication. But thats just me! No right or wrong answer to this one.
One of the few who has that opinion
Hit me with a stick hmmm I may like it "
No need to ask moi twice...just say how hard |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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There is also a point that people with few verifications may only be displaying few verifications, and they've actually had multiple meets per day for years. Judging people on information they have volunteered online is bizarre. |
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No matter how good a profile & pic's are, if there are no veri's from meeting then we aren't interested. If only one veri we are only mildly interested (especially an old date), we prefer several at least and ideally some in the past 6 months. We don't object to any volume as you only show the ones you want to, so who knows how many meets someone has had & to be honest who really cares. We use them as a positive assessment of someone or equally a negative one - in many ways we rely on them more than profile or pic's! |
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"I don't care about number but I do care about who they are from!
That's a good point actually
I'm glad you agree, as I'm sure any minute now I will get bashed for saying it "
Totally agree xx |
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As others have said, it's not just the quantity. Are they recent? Are they play meets or only ever socials? Are they 'circular' i.e just 3-4 people verifying each other. Do they imply bareback meets etc.
So for us the number doesn't matter. It's that they show they are real, play and in a way that matches us. |
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"I don't judge men on the ammount of verifications they have
If they have none to a hundred,it's how they treat me,and if I enjoy myself with them,good etiquette,safe play and fun is what I'm here for
Liking the sound of that Missy..maybe we'll cross paths one day "
You say meeting at parties is a challenge,your have to make me your challenge by getting to one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It shows they turn up. It doesn't verify they are the man in the pics, for me, because they could have uploaded pics since meeting.
All pics are dated so that doesn't work for a pic dated older than the veri. That said anyone could upload false pics but then surely nobody would verify someone with false pics ?
Sorry I don't understand the logic?
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They could upload a pic after being verified that is an old one of them or of someone else. My feet pics were taken over a year ago. Ok, they are just feet but they might not look like that now and they will have a recent date on them if I uploaded them now. Get what I mean? |
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Many thanks for all the replies
Some real positive some not, some good some not, some I do and some I don't but hey that's life lol
I must admit that I do hide about 70% of my veris as I think it does look bad especially when there are big gaps between them. I have come and gone from this site which doesn't help, then there's ones that have been deleted cause the member has left due to the sheer weight of ignorant and rude people on here  and let's face it guys it can take months to just to get someone to reply lol Also most of them are social ones as that's something I firmly believe in that you don't really know someone until you have met them and what could be nicer than having a good chin wag over a cup of coffee ? Oh yeah yeah ok ok may be that but you know what I mean lol
The trouble is that there are to many on here who are quick to judge you even before you've even opened your mouth
Even I have a sneaky look at who the person has met as there's more of a chance with me if we are kind of the same you know ? After all I don't just message random ladies as you could almost say I target those who are looking for someone like me and vis versa
And that's the main problem with veris I just feel no matter how many I have I still get treated like I'm a numpty when I'm not lol
Yet I feel like they are not looked at in the positive way that they are meant to be. I can appreciate that they are all subjective but surely they give you the basics like I'm not a time waster or someone who keeps on canceling as I hear all the time.
I do feel like with some people on here if your not verified after a year I think its time to give up or change tact lol
Of course that's all just my opinion lol
Thanks everyone and Happy Fabbing
And yeah I know I've done a lot better than a lot of single guys on here so may be its not all doom and gloom lol so may be what I'm doing is working and that I should just carry on ? It just takes a LOT of time ! Lol
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"It shows they turn up. It doesn't verify they are the man in the pics, for me, because they could have uploaded pics since meeting.
All pics are dated so that doesn't work for a pic dated older than the veri. That said anyone could upload false pics but then surely nobody would verify someone with false pics ?
Sorry I don't understand the logic?
They could upload a pic after being verified that is an old one of them or of someone else. My feet pics were taken over a year ago. Ok, they are just feet but they might not look like that now and they will have a recent date on them if I uploaded them now. Get what I mean?"
I sort of get what you mean but if somebody was verified in August all photos dated before that wouldn't be fake surely ? Nothing to stop then adding fakes after a verification I suppose but why would anyone want to do that ? |
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"There is also a point that people with few verifications may only be displaying few verifications, and they've actually had multiple meets per day for years. Judging people on information they have volunteered online is bizarre."
But they can only select from the veris available to them. Language, tone, level of explicit detail, reference to repeated meets or long-standing friendship, level of clichés used, activities described, whether social or play meets all say something about the person you're researching. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was just wondering what people think about single guys with a fair few verifications ?
What I mean is if you see a single guy with, for arguments sake, say 10 verifications would you consider that a positive or a negative ?
And again for arguments sake they have been spread over a couple of years would you consider that a positive ie it makes him look like a nice decent chap who isn't a liar or a time waster or would you think of him in a negative way you would consider him a player ? Only looking for quantity rather than quality no matter what the reason is as to why he has so many ?
I know a lot of users wouldn't entertain any one who isn't verified ( for their own reasons ) but would the same apply to those who have a fair few ? Your put off by that fact and not look at it in a positive way ?
Also be interested in seeing what people think is " too many " ?
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Someone I met a couple of times (not on my veris before you look) once showed me a message trail with a couple. His meet rate was about the same as mine, active but not excessive (he has a job, evening commitments and kids). They thought his meet rate was excessive and demonstrated 'an obsession '. He said goodbye and wished them success on the site. They told him he'd 'given in too easily'. So perhaps some individuals make these comments to see if people will jump through hoops for them? I suggest viewing comments on veri numbers with a massive pinch of salt. Another agenda is often at play. Power games, discomfort with using the site, a neutral way to dismiss you without saying you're not good-looking enough...could be anything. |
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we find meeting people at clubs helps hugely. On here you are always slightly on the back foot and people can pretend to be anyone & anything they want. Veri's help a lot but dace to face in a safe place like a club is soooo much easier - plus you get to meet ither people too!!  |
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We tend to pursue guys who are well verified. We regard it as fairly normal on the swing scene to have multiple partners therefore it's fairly normal to have fair number of veris for those who choose to display theirs. This 'quality not quantity' thing doesn't wash with us - if we had the time we'd have 'quantity of quality', so good on those guys who get that!
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"I was just wondering what people think about single guys with a fair few verifications ?
What I mean is if you see a single guy with, for arguments sake, say 10 verifications would you consider that a positive or a negative ?
And again for arguments sake they have been spread over a couple of years would you consider that a positive ie it makes him look like a nice decent chap who isn't a liar or a time waster or would you think of him in a negative way you would consider him a player ? Only looking for quantity rather than quality no matter what the reason is as to why he has so many ?
I know a lot of users wouldn't entertain any one who isn't verified ( for their own reasons ) but would the same apply to those who have a fair few ? Your put off by that fact and not look at it in a positive way ?
Also be interested in seeing what people think is " too many " ?
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when we first met Mr had over 100 verifications. It intrigued me.. And well. When he closed his singles account he was close to 300. Didn't seem to do him any harm.. yet my 300 odd verifications on a singles profile meant people told us as a couple they didn't want to meet as I was a slut.. |
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"I was just wondering what people think about single guys with a fair few verifications ?
What I mean is if you see a single guy with, for arguments sake, say 10 verifications would you consider that a positive or a negative ?
And again for arguments sake they have been spread over a couple of years would you consider that a positive ie it makes him look like a nice decent chap who isn't a liar or a time waster or would you think of him in a negative way you would consider him a player ? Only looking for quantity rather than quality no matter what the reason is as to why he has so many ?
I know a lot of users wouldn't entertain any one who isn't verified ( for their own reasons ) but would the same apply to those who have a fair few ? Your put off by that fact and not look at it in a positive way ?
Also be interested in seeing what people think is " too many " ?
when we first met Mr had over 100 verifications. It intrigued me.. And well. When he closed his singles account he was close to 300. Didn't seem to do him any harm.. yet my 300 odd verifications on a singles profile meant people told us as a couple they didn't want to meet as I was a slut.. "
Over 300 ? Would he care to share his secret in private  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I was just wondering what people think about single guys with a fair few verifications ?
What I mean is if you see a single guy with, for arguments sake, say 10 verifications would you consider that a positive or a negative ?
And again for arguments sake they have been spread over a couple of years would you consider that a positive ie it makes him look like a nice decent chap who isn't a liar or a time waster or would you think of him in a negative way you would consider him a player ? Only looking for quantity rather than quality no matter what the reason is as to why he has so many ?
I know a lot of users wouldn't entertain any one who isn't verified ( for their own reasons ) but would the same apply to those who have a fair few ? Your put off by that fact and not look at it in a positive way ?
Also be interested in seeing what people think is " too many " ?
when we first met Mr had over 100 verifications. It intrigued me.. And well. When he closed his singles account he was close to 300. Didn't seem to do him any harm.. yet my 300 odd verifications on a singles profile meant people told us as a couple they didn't want to meet as I was a slut.. "
double standards... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"When looking at the number of veris someone has I'd be thinking about how long they had got them over, the sort of meets they were from (not really interested in people who only have webcam veris , and have to bear in mind that a meet veri may only have been a social) and who they're meeting. There are a couple of profiles on here that a veri from would mean an instant no from us.
We've met guys who've been on the scene a long time and enjoy clubs and parties so have lots of veris, if the same number had been gathered from bareback gang bangs it would be a different story."
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We're not really bothered about the quantity as such but it's the type of verification. Some just have loads by cam or social events with no playing, some have been on for over a year with no veris displayed.
We like to see at least a handful where we can click on to see if those encounters seem plausible, the other profiles seem legit. |
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We're looking for a long term regular 'relationship' so want someone who's seeking the same. We're not going to be interested in anyone who's had or wants loads of different partners all the time or is into a whole lot of stuff we don't like. It'd be a waste of time for everyone concerned. |
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We take verifications with quite a large pinch of salt. The amount can be hidden same as verifications can be hidden too so not really worth much in the scheme of things apart from at one point they had a meet |
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