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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hi guys thought id post here see if anybody has any advice.

Been on here around 9 months now on and off and have sent many messages to both single women and couples, each one I do change to suit what is on their profile.

Out of all of them I have probably had a few replies all saying sorry the rest are just deleted.

I can only think of it being down to one thing and thats my age, I do have pics which I always attach to emails so could be that im just an ugly git lol.

Not sure what else to say so hope someone has some advice out there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We are just too young and maybe they dont fancy you. Yes, you would like a no rather than seeing delete but women get hundreds of messages a day. Get yourself into chat rooms .

All the best

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By *evilwolfCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

or keep plugging away on the forums cos others will notice you and get in touch once they have had chance to suss you out a bit

take a long term view and dig in

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" have sent many messages to both single women and couples, each one I do change to suit what is on their profile.

Very honest of you to admit that..So are you tailoring your mails to tell the recipients what you think they want to hear whilst pushing your own likes and preferences to one side in then chance of a meet?

It's a bit disingenuous if you are...I dunno,maybe you ain't

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple over a year ago

Manchester

"Hi guys thought id post here see if anybody has any advice.

Been on here around 9 months now on and off and have sent many messages to both single women and couples, each one I do change to suit what is on their profile.

Out of all of them I have probably had a few replies all saying sorry the rest are just deleted.

I can only think of it being down to one thing and thats my age, I do have pics which I always attach to emails so could be that im just an ugly git lol.

Not sure what else to say so hope someone has some advice out there.

get some pics for your profile, fix the typo's, get yourself a webcam, they are under £10 nowadays so no excuses. Comment in forums too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Socials, clubs, forums and chat just enjoy the site the more you chat to people the better it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Socials, clubs, forums and chat just enjoy the site the more you chat to people the better it is."

Spot on there. Enjoy yourself !!

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

There is a lot of competition on here although quite a few are not actually intending to meet. Its not always easy to spot which are which initally. All you can do is be laid back about it. This is def not an easy way to meet women for sex. You may have have more luck on dating sites. We actually meet, dont mess people around and reply to messages but are constantly told we are unusual because of it.

Cant comment on face pic as havent seen it! You are a little young for a lot of here so you are swimming against the tide a little. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate its hard for every man on fabs, more so if your fussy and wont just shag anything!

you just have to stand out. Dont think age makes much difference theres blokes of all ages that have not had a meet. take some of the advice above get on the forums more (not that iv met anyone from the forums lol but its fun) parties and clubs are your best bet I think.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Mixed responses then.

Yeah try and send emails tailored to suit the person but havnt included any likes of dislikes of mine suppose that might help slightly.

Hadnt noticed the couple of typos on the profile and yeah I could easily get a webcam but not going to waste little money on one when I will never use it (plus only put that on my profile recently).

Ill try browsing the forums more and pop on chat for a few more weeks see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And also in your own admittance you are rarely around so if someone sends you a message or replies to a message, they will eventually delete their message to you

And yes your age gets in the way, for me anyway, oh yes and the distance

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

"Mate its hard for every man on fabs, more so if your fussy and wont just shag anything!

good luck

YET

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mate its hard for every man on fabs, more so if your fussy and wont just shag anything!

good luck

YET

ha ha your all talk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi guys thought id post here see if anybody has any advice.

Been on here around 9 months now on and off and have sent many messages to both single women and couples, each one I do change to suit what is on their profile.

Out of all of them I have probably had a few replies all saying sorry the rest are just deleted.

I can only think of it being down to one thing and thats my age, I do have pics which I always attach to emails so could be that im just an ugly git lol.

Not sure what else to say so hope someone has some advice out there.

Same here....don't worry about it. It just means when you do finally have a meet you'll fully appreciate it & love every second of it.

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By *irtyduckMan over a year ago

peterborough

as a single man who has been on this site for some time I also find it very dificult to get a meet.

Clubs are so much easier. You are face to face and the socialising helps. My first time at a club and it was a shag fest! On here nothing but I still enjoy the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All men and some couples have the same problem on this site. Women have massive power with the delete key and enjoy using it!

Keep trying though as there are some nice people on this site that will have the decency to reply and you will eventually get a meet!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

believe it or not

some women have problems x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"All men and some couples have the same problem on this site. Women have massive power with the delete key and enjoy using it!

Keep trying though as there are some nice people on this site that will have the decency to reply and you will eventually get a meet!

Its not about power its getting 50plus emails all reading pretty much the same. And those 50plus emails we ladies are supposed to drop everything for every single message how would that be possible. I reply to the ones that appeal to me and stand out.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Since i reset my filters i probley only get 8-12 messages aday now, the quality has gone up but i still only reply to those i choose to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the filters work wonders

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The filters are fab.

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By *ravellingAndyMan over a year ago

Brandon

ok, dumb ass question but what do the filters do for you? Being a bloke I would hate to miss out on ANY mail coming my way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i'm having the same problem, only difference is "I must be OLD and ugly", so keep your pecker up, at least you are young !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you tried club f in stanley mate? Its a good way to meet people in a totally relaxed way, thats how i started to get more meets just chat to as many people as you can and get yourself known. As long as your not a total dingbat you shud be fine, i know it can be frustrating sending the nicest message u can and having it deleted but the fact is the ladies here have so much choice and patients is a virtue. ive not had a meet in nearly a year but u gotta Just wait it out. Long story short try club f have a few beers nd a chin wag, if nothin else you'll meet some nice likeminded peeps and get d*unk

all the best mate

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By *andy muncherMan over a year ago

Nottingham

i say stick at it i could tell you to do this and do that ,in the end just keep trying good luck .

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By *o 1Man over a year ago

Ponteland / London

Aye...get yourself along to club f mate, if youve got no standards you'll love the cattle yard. If the sites in there are to painfull on the eyes just sink afew more beers and bobs your uncle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol...No.1, your not painting a good picture of club f....

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"lol...No.1, your not painting a good picture of club f....

he isn't....

I think it sounds extremely bitter and doesn't show the poster in a good light either....

anyway for the OP... the club has an "over 25" rule... so it isn't an option at this stage anyway.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ah shit i forgot about that over 25 rule lol ah well just be urself and be patient things will happen for you but always remember, dont be a dingbat!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

how about some pics in public gallery that may tempt a few ? x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Aye...get yourself along to club f mate, if youve got no standards you'll love the cattle yard. If the sites in there are to painfull on the eyes just sink afew more beers and bobs your uncle

Nice of you to help the ladies sort the wheat from the chaff! What a charmer you are!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv been on here for a couple of months now and find it good. You should not keep changing your profile as people do read it and can see that you are changing it all the time. You are what you are and it's best to be truefull as when you meet up you must back up what you have said.

Take your time and enjoy the social side of it as well. Most men think hello and bed, NO there needs to be that spark of intreeg for a woman first.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Aye...get yourself along to club f mate, if youve got no standards you'll love the cattle yard. If the sites in there are to painfull on the eyes just sink afew more beers and bobs your uncle

And this is why the management are careful about which single men they let in.I take it you are one of the ones who got knocked back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously,I am trying to give this guy some advice and my post gets removed!!

Hard facts,there are 500 guys on here for every single woman.

Women get inundated with mail from single guys to the point of being driven insane.

You can keep slogging away in here but it's not really worth the effort.

I stand by my other post that dating sites are where you get to meet attractive independant women.

Not to say there aren't any here but the odds are stacked against you.

Feel free to delete this post!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Discreetguy, you're right that men outnumber women on this site, but that is a result of 'life' - i.e. more men than women are interested in NSA sex. If a man is looking for NSA sex, then this IS the right website for him to use.

Attractive independent women use dating websites if they are looking for love/partnership etc. Any man who uses a dating website looking for NSA sex is lying to the ladies they meet.

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