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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I see a lot of profiles stating they can't abide bad spelling and I wouldn't usually care, but most computers and smart phones will help you out with spelling at the very least now and I still see some atrociously bad profiles on here.

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope because some people have learning disabilities and dyslexia. People shouldnt judge on peoples spellings and grammar ourselfs have dyslexia and have major problems with spellings an grammar but no where on this site is it a rule nore is it a rule in swinging thats our 2 cents on the matter

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By *DontExistWoman over a year ago

•+• Silicon valley. •+•

doesn't bother me. so many guys haven't either bothered to write a profile so when they have gone to the effort it's good they did that.

my grammar is crap coz i like to chat loads and need to speed up my typing.

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By *reenleavesCouple over a year ago

North Wales

It's usually obvious if it's dyslexia as opposed to poor use of language. Using 'are' instead of 'our' or 'off/ov' instead of 'of' strangely sets my teeth on edge more than a wall of misspelled text with no punctuation.

We're not exactly English phd's but we find it says a lot about a person when they don't take the time to craft a proper message, especially when they're trying to build a rapport. We'll happily chat online with anyone but it can get hard to keep it flowing when you have the buzzer from Operation going off in your head every time you hit an error

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It depends on the reason - dyslexia etc I'll allow, laziness and stupidity then no. Effort in = results out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can cope with lack of grammar and a certain amount of spelling mistakes providing they are genuine. When I read things that have been shortened due to laziness I switch off - things like 'u', '2' and 'ov' are not mistakes. If they can't be bothered writing you instead of u then I find it an automatic turn off.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Dyslexia is very different to people who cannot be bothered to check their grammar and spelling. I find it difficult understanding poor grammar and spelling, the wrong grammar can alter the meaning of a sentence completely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On the whole, yes. Sometimes we've hit 'Post Message' and then noticed a letter missing etc.. but we've noticed some dreadful spellings.

"Your" and "You're" are our pet hate when they're mixed up.

To, too, their, they're and there do your head in when people get those wrong as well.

The funny thing is, they get upset at those that pull them up on poor spelling/grammar. If they got it right, they wouldn't get pulled up.

Also, people using 'Dyslexia' as an excuse just means they're too lazy to use a spell checker.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love the messages with no punctuation at all.. 6/7 lines of one sentence.. they get bollocked!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One or two spelling mistakes I may accept if they are hard words to spell.

Dyslexia is usually easy to spot.

I am a real punctuation Nazi though. If the first letter of a profile is in lower case, I've seen enough already.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On the whole, yes. Sometimes we've hit 'Post Message' and then noticed a letter missing etc.. but we've noticed some dreadful spellings.

"Your" and "You're" are our pet hate when they're mixed up.

To, too, their, they're and there do your head in when people get those wrong as well.

The funny thing is, they get upset at those that pull them up on poor spelling/grammar. If they got it right, they wouldn't get pulled up.

Also, people using 'Dyslexia' as an excuse just means they're too lazy to use a spell checker."
well we genuinely are and this is the issue people just assume your lazy an not bothered which is not true. I myself find those words very hard too put down or too write in messages i get confused 8 times out of 10 people just say your lazy an your grammar is awful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

No I don't because we are all of different intelligence levels, we aren't all in Mensa. I think it's extremely bad manners to keep bringing it up too. There is one lovely Fab forum user who is dyslexic, your comment is a trifle insulting .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have autocorrect and predictive text switched off on my phone, as it keeps changing stuff. In particular it changes I to U, completely changing what I want to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, as long as I can understand what that person is trying to say. It's of no consequence to me if it's misspelled.

When an heggspert comes out with an official study linking poor spelling to crap sex, then I might take notice. I suspect that may take some time to appear though. Somewhere between pigs learning to fly, and Hell freezing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get annoyed with text speak

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get annoyed with text speak"

Me 2, fkin h8 it wen sum1 did it 2 me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get annoyed with text speak

Me 2, fkin h8 it wen sum1 did it 2 me

Sorry but I don't understand what you're saying....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope doesn't bother me at all.

Having Dyslexia myself I completely understand the difficulties. I sympathise with people who are dyslexic and the challenges that they are faced with.

I understand that dyslexia comes in different shapes and sizes for everyone.

I try not to judge people on something they are born with and can not change.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I get annoyed with text speak

Me 2, fkin h8 it wen sum1 did it 2 me

Sorry but I don't understand what you're saying...."

I must be a shit shag then

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By *oiretblancCouple over a year ago

London

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

I am not particularly turned off by poor grammar, bad spelling or dodgy writing skills. We all have different skills after all.

However I am seriously TURNED ON by reading a profile that is well written, interesting to read and well put together.

...and if I receive a beautifully written message and the spelling and grammar are good then I am pretty much theirs!

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

I think any decent human being empathises with anyone who has to deal with dsylexia, so that would never be a negative for me.

That said I do find a well written profile appealing, especially if it comes across as playful and fun.

A turn off would be a profile that comes across as up themselves, chavvy or riddled with text speak.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think spelling and grammar are important.. However as long as someone has obviously made an effort to write more than half a sentence in a message and is obviously struggling with with the written word despite phones etc doing quite a lot of the work for them..

Essentially it's a site for people to meet to have sex, just because they aren't that succinct with the written word doesn't mean they are unable to hold an interesting conversation or indeed are not intelligent..

I have plenty of friends who can't write or spell well but they are damn fine friends and a spell checker is only as good as the person spelling... If you don't know it's spelt incorrectly because you can't spell your no further forward...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nope because some people have learning disabilities and dyslexia. People shouldnt judge on peoples spellings and grammar ourselfs have dyslexia and have major problems with spellings an grammar but no where on this site is it a rule nore is it a rule in swinging thats our 2 cents on the matter

i would agree with thise

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By *cotGirlWoman over a year ago

Manchester

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

Text speak and poor grammar are real bug bears of mine, along with poor punctuation.

An occasional misspelling is one thing, but in the same way that your photos should sell how you look your profile text and messages should sell your mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We joined fab to meet compatible playmates for sex,not to judge others on their spelling and grammar.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We joined fab to meet compatible playmates for sex,not to judge others on their spelling and grammar."

Exactly this.

Do you want me to be a good shag? Or do you want me to spell dickcombob......discocmbu......discomblati.......fuck it, you know the word.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We joined fab to meet compatible playmates for sex,not to judge others on their spelling and grammar.

Exactly this.

Do you want me to be a good shag? Or do you want me to spell dickcombob......discocmbu......discomblati.......fuck it, you know the word.

We would want you to be a good shag, able to spell and make use of grammar to an acceptable level.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

Taking or talking? I love irony

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We tend to be more sexually attracted to people who take pride in themselves, and that includes what they write. Whenever I rewrite our profile I probably read it over a good 10 times and get Mr to double check for grammar. It's important how we present ourselves to others. Realise we're a bit extreme, but given that we are extreme, we're less likely to click with someone who doesn't give a toss how their profile reads. It's just about compatibility really.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, because we are secure enough and confident enough in ourselves not to feel the need to judge or belittle others for their flaws, yet see past them and judge whether they're good people, which is what truly matters to us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am dyslexic and I despise nothing more than text speak, I won't read anything where it's used. I just do not understand a word of it, I did dreadfully at school leaving with an E in English, diagnosed at 28 and gained and A. I have trigger words I will never learn to spell and I Hate having to use easier words because spell checker has no idea what I'm trying to say.

There's no excuse for laziness, you can't make a first impression twice. If you want to meet people then act like it, that's my opinion. The sentences with zero punctuation, seriously wtf is wrong with you? Could at least just bung a few in and hope for the best lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, because we are secure enough and confident enough in ourselves not to feel the need to judge or belittle others for their flaws, yet see past them and judge whether they're good people, which is what truly matters to us."

wow well said

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Dyslexia is very different to people who cannot be bothered to check their grammar and spelling. I find it difficult understanding poor grammar and spelling, the wrong grammar can alter the meaning of a sentence completely.

That!

The dyslexia is usually obvious and can't be helped. However, mostly they couldn't be bothered to string a half decent sentence (or aren't capable of doing so). Either way not a good thing. Yes I can have sex with someone with no higher brain function but I find intellect sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

Taking or talking? I love irony

Run it through an online grammar checker and let us know what it comes back with !! You can have Taking or Talking in the first sentence, reads both ways !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's usually obvious if it's dyslexia as opposed to poor use of language. Using 'are' instead of 'our' or 'off/ov' instead of 'of' strangely sets my teeth on edge more than a wall of misspelled text with no punctuation.

To be fair I think we all have our 'triggers' and alarm bells - and we're all different as human beings - so have to judge on gut instinct prior to any potential meets. We would subscribe to your way of thinking generally to be honest, but would also accept we may well miss out on getting to know some amazing folks. No good or bad, right or wrong, but suspect our own box ticks ensure as much as possible that there's a good chance of being compatible with those we get that instinctive and intuitive feeling about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We tend to be more sexually attracted to people who take pride in themselves, and that includes what they write. Whenever I rewrite our profile I probably read it over a good 10 times and get Mr to double check for grammar. It's important how we present ourselves to others. Realise we're a bit extreme, but given that we are extreme, we're less likely to click with someone who doesn't give a toss how their profile reads. It's just about compatibility really.

Mrs"

Agree with this, although we're not extreme - and are aware of dyslexia etc. we do tend to 'switch on' to a well-written and thoughtful profile, especially one with classy photos, as opposed to more 'graphic' ones. Taking the trouble to try to reflect who you are in writing and pictures goes a long way to attract the kind of people you'd like to get to know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I really hate cacography.It shows a lot about someones lack of interest in you if they cant be bothered to spell simple words like you(u),are (r),anyone(n.e.1) etc.Let alone gorgeous(gawjus)

These are not dyslexic people,their just lazy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nice to see some people in here don't agree with this. I'm dyslexic and yes I had to Google how to spell it. My grammar is poor yes phones spell check. But they don't always help. My poor spelling and grammar has no reflection on me what's so ever. I'm a nice down to earth guy. I'm polite friendly well mannered respect people from all ages shapes sizes backgrounds. One thing life has taught me. Is never judge a book by it's cover. Some people may look down at you and judge. Those people I have no time what's so ever for. There judgement is just as bad as my spelling.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I really hate cacography.It shows a lot about someones lack of interest in you if they cant be bothered to spell simple words like you(u),are (r),anyone(n.e.1) etc.Let alone gorgeous(gawjus)

These are not dyslexic people,their just lazy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree text spelling is lazy and childish in this kind of environment. Ps its can't not cant haha.

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By *ilent.KnightMan over a year ago

Swindon

"I agree text spelling is lazy and childish in this kind of environment. Ps its can't not cant haha. "

It's

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Again many have said if it's laziness then yes it's a turn off and so is text speak.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh..

its another grammar thread...

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

I'd rather have spelling errors ect and decent person ,then perfect and they are a complete arse .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree text spelling is lazy and childish in this kind of environment. Ps its can't not cant haha.

It's"
dam it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I agree text spelling is lazy and childish in this kind of environment. Ps its can't not cant haha. "

Now where YOU being lazy?

Or just not 'perfect'?

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

Totally agree..

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People are usually looking for someone they find attractive and who they are compatible with. I think any reason for that attraction to be missing is fair enough. I don't understand why people get slagged off for finding things unattractive. It's the same as saying people should shag anyone and everyone.

I have many many many reasons I won't fuck someone. Many many. Many.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People are usually looking for someone they find attractive and who they are compatible with. I think any reason for that attraction to be missing is fair enough. I don't understand why people get slagged off for finding things unattractive. It's the same as saying people should shag anyone and everyone.

I have many many many reasons I won't fuck someone. Many many. Many. "

think you missed a comma...lazy as fuck and probably shit in bed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't abide text speak, and cannot for life of me understand the logic of writing wuz instead of was for example. I see this a lot on facebook and the main guilty party is certainly not dyslexic so there is no excuse.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll admit a that a C.V I read a few days ago had "achul" in it instead of 'actual', of course it should have been 'actually'........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have many many many reasons I won't fuck someone. Many many. Many.

think you missed a comma...lazy as fuck and probably shit in bed

Both.

That missing comma cost me a shag the fucker.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have many many many reasons I won't fuck someone. Many many. Many.

think you missed a comma...lazy as fuck and probably shit in bed

Both.

That missing comma cost me a shag the fucker.

lie back and write the sentence 1000 times, while I lick yer lazy fanny!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'd rather have spelling errors ect and decent person ,then perfect and they are a complete arse .

Well of course. But why do people write as if there's a world shortage of full stops?

And if I have to spend more time working out wtf you're trying to say in your random jumble of letters and numbers than you did typing it, then you're not making enough effort for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

thank you, i sadly have dyslexia and i hate being judged by it,

and tbh only reason i spelt dyslexia right is cus you put it in befor lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The one thing that annoys me (and it seems prevalent to people from the west coast) is using 'ave' instead of 'have' and they do it all the bloody time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get embarrassed when I've sent a message, and then read it back only to see that I've made a ton of errors.. I blame my phone

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By *niper oneMan over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam...."

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well said just because some are not good at english or spelling even with phones that give you the spelling i sometimes miss it when posting and to be honest spelling and grammer does not reflect on personality looks sense of humour and charm so could be missing out on a great potential meet because of spelling and grammer xx female replying xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing. "

My spelling and grammar are reasonably good and I'm the laziest fuck going.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How good is your mathematics?

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By *niper oneMan over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing. "

"Think again"

I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.

Bill Gates :Microsoft founder:

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By *ilent.KnightMan over a year ago

Swindon

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

"Think again"

I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.

Bill Gates :Microsoft founder:

I love this quote. Risky to use in a job interview

"What's you're biggest weakness?"

"I'm lazy"

"Next"

"Wait. Bill Gates says it's a good thing ... "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

"Think again"

I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.

Bill Gates :Microsoft founder:

Time and time again we read on these forums how single men can't get meets. We get loads of messages which are either one liners that say nothing and many that don't even make sense! If that's the easy way to get the job done then good luck to those lazy people!

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By *niper oneMan over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

"Think again"

I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.

Bill Gates :Microsoft founder:

And yiu dont get that big from grafting my dear.

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

"How good is your mathematics?"

You just summed it up

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By *andACouple over a year ago

glasgow

I've got to admit any message we receive with the word 'yous' in it has no chance of a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Am dyslexic,people should thnk before you judge

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

"Think again"

I choose a lazy person to do a hard job. Because a lazy person will find an easy way to do it.

Bill Gates :Microsoft founder:

Oooh I like that! *updates cv*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't matter if you're lazy with grammar and spelling or you're dyslexic, we find it very off putting when we consider selecting people to contact or if they messaged first, should we reply.

Some people don't give two hoots.

But our advice is, you want to appeal to the majority of members. If poor grammar and spelling deters people, your target audience is less. It's as simple as that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Text talk really puts me off, it's like I'm chatting to a teenage chav

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Text talk really puts me off, it's like I'm chatting to a teenage chav "

We used to Google some of the text speak to work it out. Now, we just hit block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Text talk really puts me off, it's like I'm chatting to a teenage chav

We used to Google some of the text speak to work it out. Now, we just hit block."

I ain't the grammar police but seriously, how hard is it to to put together a proper sentence! I find it a bit of weird turn on if someone can use grammar correctly haha

Mr.M

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Huge turn-off for me

I just imagine that in real life when we meet for a drink he'll speak like he writes. So won't bother to take it any further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Grammar can be a very sensible basis to judge somebody.

I judge people by how they speak too.

I'm not two bothered buy there spelling

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Yup.. however I like things to be rather precise

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As a dyslexic, no i dont, and spell checkers can sometimes make it harder, word that i cant relate as a picture in my head for example. Where, were ware, there third are all the sane to me, also i may write a word twice, but if i read it i only see the one word.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I'm dyslexic, however I love to write, I have disciplined myself around what and how I write, ''tis not hard, just be willing to put the effort in.. well for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Text talk really puts me off, it's like I'm chatting to a teenage chav "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam...."

You're. Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I was dyslexic, I think I'd pop a little note on my profile. Obviously no one has to disclose that information, but I know on a personal level, I've read some profiles and have been put off by spelling and punctuation errors.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I do not get turned off because I just want the lady to pamper me and make me smile , I would not even care if she did not speak English as long as she can make me laugh and she takes good care of herself

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By *reygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

yo blood whats goin down with them i and es.you striaght talkers tryin to stop my rappin rymin good timin talk

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By *oping for funMan over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

I think thats part of the compatibility test .... unless you dont intend to chat at all and just do it and go ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

not the spelling but what they are trying to convey is important

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By *inkyDragonsCouple over a year ago

Ammanford

Grammar is everything, without it language becomes nothing.. *chuckles*

Yeah, it's a pet hate..

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By *ot40sCouple over a year ago

birmingham

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

Sorry guys but you have a spelling mistake in your last paragraph.

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By *unlinguyMan over a year ago

South Dublin

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

Sorry guys but you have a spelling mistake in your last paragraph."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spelling and grammar mistakes are one of the many ways people can come across completely differently, from when you meet them in person compared to how they come across in their profiles.

If I has a choice I would pic the person who can string a conversation together rather than one who can put punctuation in a sentence.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

It's obvious if someone has dyslexia, they usually say so anyway. Yes it's a massive turn off, adults should be able to spell common words and be able to know the difference between common homophones such as 'there/their'.

If they can't manage to construct sentences using correct common spellings and use grammar they aren't a person I'd be interested in meeting. I enjoy a good conversation too, men need to stimulate my mind too. There's no excuse with phones that have spell checks and internet you can amazingly while it's in your hand go look up a word. No one is perfect, we all make typos or when we're rushing mis spell words but when profiles are littered with bad spelling and grammar it's a no for me. Don't get me started on greengrocers' disease ...stray apostrophes! It's just not a difficult concept and to be fair if you can't remember the rules of apostrophes and pluralisation go look it up, loads of websites that explain it. You have your phone or whatever in your hand anyway! I used to teach so I'm a tad pedantic about spelling and grammar. I can spot dyslexia etc.

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By *ntnCleoCouple over a year ago

Dortmund (Germany) might travel!

Absolutely agree OP. A well written profile shows they take a bit of pride in how they appear, and a well written message shows a bit of respect for the recipient. There are only words and photos here to sift people by, so if you can't be arsed with either then you won't have much luck.

Dyslexia - incidence 10% any form U.K.

Incidence terrible grammar on here is a lot higher!

Want 2 f*k? Cannot be attributed to dyslexia!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Absolutely agree OP. A well written profile shows they take a bit of pride in how they appear, and a well written message shows a bit of respect for the recipient. There are only words and photos here to sift people by, so if you can't be arsed with either then you won't have much luck.

Dyslexia - incidence 10% any form U.K.

Incidence terrible grammar on here is a lot higher!

Want 2 f*k? Cannot be attributed to dyslexia!"

Well said.

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By *ettingdustyMan over a year ago

Warwick

Dyslexia - incidence 10% any form U.K.

Incidence terrible grammar on here is a lot higher!

Want 2 f*k? Cannot be attributed to dyslexia!

Well said. "

Totally agree

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm dyslexic, my most common problem, when writing message or here on the forum is that I'm typing quickly & auto carrot often changes words for me & I don't notice.

On anything else, like my profile or something important, I take way more time, re read it, correct errors etc.

Have to admit it does bug me when I see poorly worded profiles, I can spot the difference between someone who has an issue, and just sheer laziness

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By *ettingdustyMan over a year ago

Warwick

"I'm dyslexic, my most common problem, when writing message or here on the forum is that I'm typing quickly & auto carrot often changes words for me & I don't notice.

On anything else, like my profile or something important, I take way more time, re read it, correct errors etc.

Have to admit it does bug me when I see poorly worded profiles, I can spot the difference between someone who has an issue, and just sheer laziness "

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

Compatible to means means intellectually equal too. I want a man to stimulate my mind too, not interested in one offs. So I expect a man to be able to hold a decent conversation. I made that mistake with my ex!
"We joined fab to meet compatible playmates for sex,not to judge others on their spelling and grammar."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure I'll be corrected by someone, and I admit I'm not an expert. But from dyslexics I knew and school, and dyslexics that I work with, I've been given the impression that they get a bit muddled with letters hence require a bit more time before getting it right. I was always led to believe that dyslexics get given more time in exams, but they are still capable of undertaking that exam to the same standard as long as they are given that extra time. I'm sure there are some who suffer more extreme levels of dyslexia, but for the most I would have thought are capable (if they wanted to) of writing a Fab profile and taking that extra time reading over it a few times to check for accuracy. Dyslexia can excuse some things, but it can't excuse a 'can't be arsed' attitude.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm dyslexic, my most common problem, when writing message or here on the forum is that I'm typing quickly & auto carrot often changes words for me & I don't notice.

On anything else, like my profile or something important, I take way more time, re read it, correct errors etc.

Have to admit it does bug me when I see poorly worded profiles, I can spot the difference between someone who has an issue, and just sheer laziness "

This is exactly how we see it and there are plenty of people in here willing to help with profiles.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple over a year ago

Bexley

Not so bothered about the spelling and grammar although we feel both are important. What matters far more to us is the content and tone of messages. Sadly we get plenty of lazy and frankly rude one liners like 'great tits', 'luv to fuck you', 'what you lookin for?', 'm or f?'... Whether in mailbox messages or chat PM's there's rarely so much as a polite 'hello' first. It's baffling why so many guys seem to think that this technique is going to yield positive results.

Just because we're here on a swinging site doesn't mean we don't treat people with respect and expect the same in return.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is it just me that finds it highly amusing to read the profiles of those who demand the highest levels of spelling, punctuation, and grammar?

If you're going to call out others on it, surely it's in your best interests to make sure that your own written offerings are shit hot.

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By *axandbooCouple over a year ago

Bristol

Anything written in text talk is a no!!!

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By *iberatedPairCouple over a year ago

Suffolk

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing. "

Utter nonsense. I know people who work seven days a week and own their businesses and are most definitely not lazy. Your assumptions of them being lazy is way of the mark just because they cannot spell or read and write properly.

Please have a more open approach to why they cannot write properly an when it come to school education didn't come to them easily.

Yet when it comes to other tasks An skills they excel.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

As long as I can understand, what someone is trying to say, that's fine.

I've found some of the nicest and easiest people to converse with on here, struggle with their spelling and grammar.

Then, I'm far from perfect myself in that department. If someone wants to judge me on it, fine. We all make judgements on things and people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My lap top spell cheeker is not as good so it makers it hard to wright .. I still have a go. Even if my grammar spellings and punctuation are not on point. sorry I now don't care and its taken years to say that .

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By *arry WindsorMan over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

Please have a more open approach to why they cannot write properly an when it come to school education didn't come to them easily.

Yet when it comes to other tasks An skills they excel. "

An??????????????????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"who gives a fuck about bad grammer...unless your taking an exam....

As said before it tends to indicate laziness and is not appealing.

Please have a more open approach to why they cannot write properly an when it come to school education didn't come to them easily.

Yet when it comes to other tasks An skills they excel. "

People who work 7 days a week are obviously not lazy. However as pointed out before on this thread it is lazy not to get a decent profile written. It is very obvious to us when no effort is being made either in the profile or in the message sent. That has nothing to do with being dyslexic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't care about people's spelling, however I'm interested to know how many of the people with dyslexia have actually been diagnosed with such (and how the diagnosis was reached)?

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By *heWolfMan over a year ago

warwickshire

It makes me lament how this country is going to rack and ruin, and how people are allowed to leave school without being able to communicate properly.

Using punctuation properly indicates the difference between knowing your shit, and knowing you're shit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow!!! Some people are well and truly up their own arse's!!

These forums are laughable!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It makes me lament how this country is going to rack and ruin, and how people are allowed to leave school without being able to communicate properly.

Using punctuation properly indicates the difference between knowing your shit, and knowing you're shit."

Eye don't want two no about there shit

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By *reygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

we had lots of meets with lots of folks .never had to fill in a form or any paper work .if you get on you get on .some of posters on here should join a cross word club .happy spelling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's no shortage of cross words on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we had lots of meets with lots of folks .never had to fill in a form or any paper work .if you get on you get on .some of posters on here should join a cross word club .happy spelling"

this!!

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By *arry WindsorMan over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

"Wow!!! Some people are well and truly up their own arse's!!

These forums are laughable!

Up their own arse's what?

Oh! You meant arses!

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"It makes me lament how this country is going to rack and ruin, and how people are allowed to leave school without being able to communicate properly.

Using punctuation properly indicates the difference between knowing your shit, and knowing you're shit."

I like, "lets eat Grandma" and "lets eat, Grandma".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess some people care about accuracy in the English language (whether or not they are dyslexic) and some people regard it as something that only matters for exams and job applications.

Mrs

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

The Mrs tends to find bad spelling and grammar a bit of a turn off.

Thx goD i fund her bfor she relized i cnt spel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The Mrs tends to find bad spelling and grammar a bit of a turn off.

Thx goD i fund her bfor she relized i cnt spel. "

Ha ha all our shortcomings are revealed in the end!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing. "

Well maybe they do have a real life spelling problem, don,t be so fast to judge them. And don,t spout autocorrect becuase i find that can change stuff and make it even worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do any of you get completely turned off by terrible grammar and spelling in profile text?

If so, how many mistakes, or how bad do they need to be before you stop reading and decide the person isn't for you?

I'm not taking the occasional mistype here either. I'm talking the stuff that implies the writer genuinely has trouble writing.

Well maybe they do have a real life spelling problem, don,t be so fast to judge them. And don,t spout autocorrect becuase i find that can change stuff and make it even worse."

But all the dyslexics who have posted here are perfectly understandable. It's the people who just can't be arsed to reread their messages to make sure they are intelligible that I object to. That does come across as laziness and a lack of respect, and implies similar values would apply in a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My lap-top spell cheek is not very good at all not like my last one. Its a acer last one was Toshiba and a lot better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you, I could not have put it better. I'm really dyslexic and writing is not my thing. I try my best with grammar, but I know sometimes it makes me look like an idiot.

I'd doesn't help knowing there are people judging others by there grammar and spelling, but saying that they probably are not the kinda people I want to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I myself when faced with writing a message struggle

on here you want to come across as chatty and when spelling and grammar are correct it's natural to feel that it makes you stand out in a positive way.

However I have genuine problems and reasons that mean writing anything is terrifying and a struggle and therefore leave it to the mr to be the writer .

In person I'm the opposite, I can hold my own in conversation , I've been told I'm eloquent and chatty.

I'd prefer people to judge me by who I am in the real then by the spelling of the message or profile comments

It makes me quite sad that some go by someone's ability to spell or use grammar

It's taken me a while to write this message and the mistakes in this message aren't lazy, my brain just doesn't see them .

People need to remember that everyone has something they struggle with

For myself and many others it's writing and spelling , doesn't make us less interesting to know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I myself when faced with writing a message struggle