Hi. I had a fb who I've been seeing for a few months. He had split up from his wife before we met. She has found out about me and got hold of my phone number. She is now messaging me and sending me pics of my hubby(she doesn't know of our lifestyle)and my children off Facebook. Even worse sending messages to my children and other family members and friends that I'm sleeping with her 'husband'. Hubby and I have blocked her off Facebook. Has this happened to anyone else? Any advise as to what to do? Thank you |
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"Hi. I had a fb who I've been seeing for a few months. He had split up from his wife before we met. She has found out about me and got hold of my phone number. She is now messaging me and sending me pics of my hubby(she doesn't know of our lifestyle)and my children off Facebook. Even worse sending messages to my children and other family members and friends that I'm sleeping with her 'husband'. Hubby and I have blocked her off Facebook. Has this happened to anyone else? Any advise as to what to do? Thank you"
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Harrassement is a weired one.... ie how long has it been going on for? Needs to be for a good period of time to constitute as such.
Police involvement yes, but you will find there probably no criminal offence committed if it hasnt been continued over a lengthly period of time.
Police would happily go have a word with her to resolve matters prior to the possibility of matters progressing any further.
Difficult to fully advise without all the facts.
Currently it sounds more like a generic scored wife having a tantrum.
Ie more civil matter... take to court and gain a restraining order type of route.
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"Harrassement is a weired one.... ie how long has it been going on for? Needs to be for a good period of time to constitute as such.
Police involvement yes, but you will find there probably no criminal offence committed if it hasnt been continued over a lengthly period of time.
Police would happily go have a word with her to resolve matters prior to the possibility of matters progressing any further.
Difficult to fully advise without all the facts.
Currently it sounds more like a generic scored wife having a tantrum.
Ie more civil matter... take to court and gain a restraining order type of route.
X"
Im sorry but thats all completely wrong. To commit a basic sec 2 Harassment offence there basically has to be a course of conduct that knowingly causes harassment alarm or distress. The course of conduct is 2 or more incidents towards the victim - so does not need to be lengthy at all.
OP - speak to the police as they often issue a first instance informal warning - to basically say stop as you are causing distress and if you carry on you are committing an offence and will be arrested. This often has the desired effect |
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"Hi. I had a fb who I've been seeing for a few months. He had split up from his wife before we met. She has found out about me and got hold of my phone number. She is now messaging me and sending me pics of my hubby(she doesn't know of our lifestyle)and my children off Facebook. Even worse sending messages to my children and other family members and friends that I'm sleeping with her 'husband'. Hubby and I have blocked her off Facebook. Has this happened to anyone else? Any advise as to what to do? Thank you"
I think your FB has been lying to you about having split up with his wife otherwise how else did she find out about you or get your phone number? You were sleeping with her husband but you didn't know that.
Get your fuck buddy to sort it with his wife or say you'll take legal action against them. |
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"Harrassement is a weired one.... ie how long has it been going on for? Needs to be for a good period of time to constitute as such.
Police involvement yes, but you will find there probably no criminal offence committed if it hasnt been continued over a lengthly period of time.
Police would happily go have a word with her to resolve matters prior to the possibility of matters progressing any further.
Difficult to fully advise without all the facts.
Currently it sounds more like a generic scored wife having a tantrum.
Ie more civil matter... take to court and gain a restraining order type of route.
X
Im sorry but thats all completely wrong. To commit a basic sec 2 Harassment offence there basically has to be a course of conduct that knowingly causes harassment alarm or distress. The course of conduct is 2 or more incidents towards the victim - so does not need to be lengthy at all.
OP - speak to the police as they often issue a first instance informal warning - to basically say stop as you are causing distress and if you carry on you are committing an offence and will be arrested. This often has the desired effect "
Whilst you quote sections of legislation well.
Im legally trained also. What im saying is not wrong atall. Im just not trying to be a Lawyer about it . |
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Thank you everyone. Yes I'm under a massive amount of stress. Every time anyone's phone goes or someone knocks on the door I'm a nervous wreck. If it was just me getting it I'd be fine but again not my children  |
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"Harrassement is a weired one.... ie how long has it been going on for? Needs to be for a good period of time to constitute as such.
Police involvement yes, but you will find there probably no criminal offence committed if it hasnt been continued over a lengthly period of time.
Police would happily go have a word with her to resolve matters prior to the possibility of matters progressing any further.
Difficult to fully advise without all the facts.
Currently it sounds more like a generic scored wife having a tantrum.
Ie more civil matter... take to court and gain a restraining order type of route.
X
Im sorry but thats all completely wrong. To commit a basic sec 2 Harassment offence there basically has to be a course of conduct that knowingly causes harassment alarm or distress. The course of conduct is 2 or more incidents towards the victim - so does not need to be lengthy at all.
OP - speak to the police as they often issue a first instance informal warning - to basically say stop as you are causing distress and if you carry on you are committing an offence and will be arrested. This often has the desired effect
Whilst you quote sections of legislation well.
Im legally trained also. What im saying is not wrong atall. Im just not trying to be a Lawyer about it ."
Im not trying - Im 25 years qualified defence and then prosecution solicitor - now retired |
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"Thank you everyone. Yes I'm under a massive amount of stress. Every time anyone's phone goes or someone knocks on the door I'm a nervous wreck. If it was just me getting it I'd be fine but again not my children "
Go to the police and gain their advice. Dependant on the specifics they will advice if an actual criminal offence has taken place. If not? Then seek a Solicitors advice on any civil actions available to you.
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"Harrassement is a weired one.... ie how long has it been going on for? Needs to be for a good period of time to constitute as such.
Police involvement yes, but you will find there probably no criminal offence committed if it hasnt been continued over a lengthly period of time.
Police would happily go have a word with her to resolve matters prior to the possibility of matters progressing any further.
Difficult to fully advise without all the facts.
Currently it sounds more like a generic scored wife having a tantrum.
Ie more civil matter... take to court and gain a restraining order type of route.
X
Im sorry but thats all completely wrong. To commit a basic sec 2 Harassment offence there basically has to be a course of conduct that knowingly causes harassment alarm or distress. The course of conduct is 2 or more incidents towards the victim - so does not need to be lengthy at all.
OP - speak to the police as they often issue a first instance informal warning - to basically say stop as you are causing distress and if you carry on you are committing an offence and will be arrested. This often has the desired effect
Whilst you quote sections of legislation well.
Im legally trained also. What im saying is not wrong atall. Im just not trying to be a Lawyer about it .
Im not trying - Im 25 years qualified defence and then prosecution solicitor - now retired "
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"Hi. I had a fb who I've been seeing for a few months. He had split up from his wife before we met. She has found out about me and got hold of my phone number. She is now messaging me and sending me pics of my hubby(she doesn't know of our lifestyle)and my children off Facebook. Even worse sending messages to my children and other family members and friends that I'm sleeping with her 'husband'. Hubby and I have blocked her off Facebook. Has this happened to anyone else? Any advise as to what to do? Thank you
I think your FB has been lying to you about having split up with his wife otherwise how else did she find out about you or get your phone number? You were sleeping with her husband but you didn't know that.
Get your fuck buddy to sort it with his wife or say you'll take legal action against them. "
They aren't living together and I know that because I spoke to a member of his family when he moved in with his sister
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