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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?"
Thats kinda sexist dont you think ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?"
All of the above and none of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?"
So you think all women are normally sub  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Thats kinda sexist dont you think ?"
Not at all! Women don't have full equality in every day life.. They fight very hard to get the same as we do - in general - take BBC paygaps for example. Why are there any? OK is only commenting on an sensible observation of the real world.
I think you misunderstood what he meant. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Thats kinda sexist dont you think ?"
Nope. It's _very_ sexist.
As a woman with a lot of responsibility at work and home during the day, damn straight I like a role reversal in the bedroom. On my knees quicker than you can say tiddlywinks.
Not that that had anything to do with anything as submissive is just another sexuality like any other. If there seems to be a lot of us on here, it's only cos we loves the Fab dommly types  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Thats kinda sexist dont you think ?
Nope. It's _very_ sexist.
As a woman with a lot of responsibility at work and home during the day, damn straight I like a role reversal in the bedroom. On my knees quicker than you can say tiddlywinks.
Not that that had anything to do with anything as submissive is just another sexuality like any other. If there seems to be a lot of us on here, it's only cos we loves the Fab dommly types "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Thats kinda sexist dont you think ?
Nope. It's _very_ sexist.
As a woman with a lot of responsibility at work and home during the day, damn straight I like a role reversal in the bedroom. On my knees quicker than you can say tiddlywinks.
Not that that had anything to do with anything as submissive is just another sexuality like any other. If there seems to be a lot of us on here, it's only cos we loves the Fab dommly types "
Maybe I misunderstood.. but I'm having trouble understanding what you've just wrote if I'm honest.. So you have a high responsibility job.. when you come home you like to be sub? Aren't you reinforcing the Ops point a bit?
He's asking why most women like sub over dom.. in general.. which in my case I find to be also true.
In an age where they've fought hard to gain equality.
He's asking.. is there a sub/dom connection to the real world and is it possibly reinforced out of the bedroom? If so, why aren't we seeing rising cases of more Somme women?
In all honesty OP... If that's what you were asking... Then I think women are getting much more comfortable taking the lead in sex.. as an equal or in charge. I think its awesome.. the sex is also better for it.. But I've never been with a woman who wants to dominate me.. so I couldn't speak for the sex on that instance. |
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?"
Good luck, You're gonna need it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Good luck, You're gonna need it. "
Ok.. I read that again... I think I may have read too much into what he's said there.. hold my hands up.. he didn't say what I thought he said.. So I apologise to everyone I argued with... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?"
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs "
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you."
It is all about trust. It would always be what you would be comfortable with and those boundaries would be respected and adhered to  . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Thats kinda sexist dont you think ?
Nope. It's _very_ sexist.
As a woman with a lot of responsibility at work and home during the day, damn straight I like a role reversal in the bedroom. On my knees quicker than you can say tiddlywinks.
Not that that had anything to do with anything as submissive is just another sexuality like any other. If there seems to be a lot of us on here, it's only cos we loves the Fab dommly types "
So punish me then  or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you.
It is all about trust. It would always be what you would be comfortable with and those boundaries would be respected and adhered to . "
My only request would be to stop when I ask you to. Other than that I'd be yours to do do with as you will... All or nothing with me Go hard or go home |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you.
It is all about trust. It would always be what you would be comfortable with and those boundaries would be respected and adhered to . "
If the minority of guys who didn't respect this had a change of heart then I'm sure the world would be a better place. Or they could just fall off a cliff maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you.
It is all about trust. It would always be what you would be comfortable with and those boundaries would be respected and adhered to .
My only request would be to stop when I ask you to. Other than that I'd be yours to do do with as you will... All or nothing with me Go hard or go home "
I'd be turned on by knowing you were enjoying it and wanting to do what it is you were doing.. I'd trust you were taking over for your pleasure.. not my own.. and then I think I'd begin to relax mentally enough to enjoy it a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you.
It is all about trust. It would always be what you would be comfortable with and those boundaries would be respected and adhered to .
My only request would be to stop when I ask you to. Other than that I'd be yours to do do with as you will... All or nothing with me Go hard or go home
I'd be turned on by knowing you were enjoying it and wanting to do what it is you were doing.. I'd trust you were taking over for your pleasure.. not my own.. and then I think I'd begin to relax mentally enough to enjoy it a lot."
I couldn't let go like that with a stranger or someone cold. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How relevant is it to be specifying what you are or what you want? (I'm fine with casual but I'm a switch)
Why does it seem like so many women are subs when you'd think they'd enjoy a role reversal on real life?
Put it this way OP.... I'm the one more likely to be holding the handcuffs
If you ever? Ever feel the desire to put them on me, please do so. There aren't many women I've met that I'd trust to take control over me... because it's what they wanted to do. I'd trust you.
It is all about trust. It would always be what you would be comfortable with and those boundaries would be respected and adhered to .
My only request would be to stop when I ask you to. Other than that I'd be yours to do do with as you will... All or nothing with me Go hard or go home
I'd be turned on by knowing you were enjoying it and wanting to do what it is you were doing.. I'd trust you were taking over for your pleasure.. not my own.. and then I think I'd begin to relax mentally enough to enjoy it a lot.
I couldn't let go like that with a stranger or someone cold."
It would be a two way thing. Knowing that you would enjoy it is what turns me on. It's also the element of having someone trust me enough to allow themselves to be vulnerable.... Even though in reality, you would still be the one holding all the cards. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think OP is not on the scene as out in the kink world there are as many sub women as there are domme women. Likewise in terms of men there are even numbers of subs and doms. There also a fair number that switch.
What skewers matters in my view is this: firstly the low ratio of single women to single men on Fab and out and about on the scene. Secondly men on Fab who think dom is the default setting for men.
Thirdly in my experience dommes who like men have more than enough choice. The difficulty for them being men who say they are sub with the hope of getting shagged or do not understand the submission required by that domme, as surprise, not all dommes are identical and want the same thing. Therefore they keep a low profile.
There was a good thread on The kink site about what dommes want.
More important than a label is a specific description of what you are looking for in a relationship/scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just to add to this, MrsPS actually enjoys being in control. What she struggles with like another poster earlier on, is finding inspiration for the scene when she is Dom.
Something I find much easier as I have a kinky mind and have watched a lot of porn and spent far too long on Tumblr  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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i've almost always been dominant in bed, because i have a high sex drive and so want a lot of sex.
i enjoy a guy submitting to me and letting me use him to fulfil myself. i actually love guys who don't have much self confidence and are likely to be shy sexually because they tend to be the ones who let me take the lead.
i find it really hard to be submissive to a guy because the only 'dominant' guys i've found tend to be too controlling and too selfish. but if ever find myself feeling like submitting to a guy i've fallen for him, that's the only time i feel like that.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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I personally love how the verb of Dom or sub behavior is nominalised into noun. Nominalisation are so open to interpretation depending on experiences.
To me, it's a dynamic not a title of identity, a verb, a dance between people.
Then again, that could just be my interpretation....
Just for information, the biggest submissive I ever met, was a barrister in her working world.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Found my perfect sub. He's dominant in all other aspects of life other than with me. It's not easy to totally submit to someone in real life. It works for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to add to this, MrsPS actually enjoys being in control. What she struggles with like another poster earlier on, is finding inspiration for the scene when she is Dom.
Something I find much easier as I have a kinky mind and have watched a lot of porn and spent far too long on Tumblr "
This is why it annoys me when people think it is easy being a dom. Constructing scenes that work for both, and that are different each time is not easy. Because I am into rope and sensation this allows me to bring more to any scene. I think if the domination is more than about sex it widens the scope of the play and brings more connection.
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