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Why is it that people don't want to meet people like us all we ever get is couples and single females blocking us we don't even get a chance we have had one couple who put a comment up to try and help us out to get meets even tho they never met us but that didn't work just cos we are a large couple there isn't anything wrong with us all we want is a for people to give us a chance |
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So What your saying is you cant get meets and got a fake verification?
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"Why is it that people don't want to meet people like us all we ever get is couples and single females blocking us we don't even get a chance we have had one couple who put a comment up to try and help us out to get meets even tho they never met us but that didn't work just cos we are a large couple there isn't anything wrong with us all we want is a for people to give us a chance"
You've got 5 different meets, newest 4 days ago. Um. What more do you want? |
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The couple we met only her hubby played we didn't she wasn't interested in me |
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And all the other meets were just one one with the guy and my wife they didn't want me involved so I don't get any action only wife does cos know one likes me |
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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago
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"And all the other meets were just one one with the guy and my wife they didn't want me involved so I don't get any action only wife does cos know one likes me"
So why agree to meets like that if you don't enjoy them? |
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My wife wants enjoyment and she says its not fare on her not to have fun and cos I'm a large guy all I get is I could hurt or kill someone if I get on top of them that's why I'm hated and people like my wife she sets up the meets I dont |
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"The couple we met only her hubby played we didn't she wasn't interested in me"
I can't possibly comment on who you choose to meet or for what, but obviously, you are meeting people, which is more than many. Why whine? If you don't like what you meet for, only meet those who are up for what you want? |
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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago
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"My wife wants enjoyment and she says its not fare on her not to have fun and cos I'm a large guy all I get is I could hurt or kill someone if I get on top of them that's why I'm hated and people like my wife she sets up the meets I dont"
Then you need to discuss this with your wife as you are obviously not happy with the situation
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Which is no one as I'm to big for people or couples |
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"Which is no one as I'm to big for people or couples"
Seems to me you have a few options. If you are happy with your size, don't meet anyone who isn't. If you aren't, change it. Many of us on here are large. Some appreciate it, some don't.
As stated by another poster above, sounds like you need to talk to your wife about what you BOTH want and act accordingly.
My hint would be to stop the whinging. It's not a very attractive look. |
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"Which is no one as I'm to big for people or couples"
then do something about it op and stop whining about it  |
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"Which is no one as I'm to big for people or couples"
This is a tough one , you are obviously feeling left out and are clearly not happy .
Well I'm gonna say this , and no doubt will get flack for saying it , but here goes . Your wife will get meets as she is a female , and as most people know women will always get someone to service their needs on a site like this .
Men on the other hand will always find it harder . It doesn't mean women find you too large or not good looking enough , it just means that they have such a choice on here and you aren't very high on their list of desires .
If you were a woman you'd be getting plenty of attention , you only need to look at the attention your wife is getting to see that .
So stop feeling sorry for yourself , it's destructive and can only hurt you . Look at the positives , you have your wife and that's more than lots of guys have .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a serious thread?!"
I was thinking the same, it's all a wind up surely. |
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"My wife wants enjoyment and she says its not fare on her not to have fun and cos I'm a large guy all I get is I could hurt or kill someone if I get on top of them that's why I'm hated and people like my wife she sets up the meets I dont"
Who the hell said that ?? Yes you are a large guy but so is my man at 19 stone ... I'm half his weight and he doesn't 'hurt or kill me' ..
You and your wife are both large so why would you be hated and not her ?
Seems to me that you are really unhappy with the way you are meeting and maybe you need to have a bit more input Hun ... it's supposed to be something you BOTH want and BOTH enjoy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And all the other meets were just one one with the guy and my wife they didn't want me involved so I don't get any action only wife does cos know one likes me"
My advice... leave Fab and stop swinging for a few months. Then take a deep long think about whether you'd rather not swing ever again or if you're ok with the idea of watching your wife with another man. It may be that with a little distance the thought of a little kink is far preferable to none. Or it may not... in which case swinging probably isn't going to do your relationship any good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put 9st on in under a year. It affected my health and interfered with my sex life.
I decided to do something about it and have lost half the 9st so far. I explain that there are some things I can't do now, when I talk to someone. I don't blame them for not wanting me.
On another note, I have noted that a lot of people only want a woman to join them. It could be more than your size putting people off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And all the other meets were just one one with the guy and my wife they didn't want me involved so I don't get any action only wife does cos know one likes me
My advice... leave Fab and stop swinging for a few months. Then take a deep long think about whether you'd rather not swing ever again or if you're ok with the idea of watching your wife with another man. It may be that with a little distance the thought of a little kink is far preferable to none. Or it may not... in which case swinging probably isn't going to do your relationship any good "
Agree with this |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I put 9st on in under a year. It affected my health and interfered with my sex life.
I decided to do something about it and have lost half the 9st so far. I explain that there are some things I can't do now, when I talk to someone. I don't blame them for not wanting me.
On another note, I have noted that a lot of people only want a woman to join them. It could be more than your size putting people off. "
the fact that OP isn't female, for example |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
Best Greggs in Cheshire East |
"Which is no one as I'm to big for people or couples
This is a tough one , you are obviously feeling left out and are clearly not happy .
Well I'm gonna say this , and no doubt will get flack for saying it , but here goes . Your wife will get meets as she is a female , and as most people know women will always get someone to service their needs on a site like this .
Men on the other hand will always find it harder . It doesn't mean women find you too large or not good looking enough , it just means that they have such a choice on here and you aren't very high on their list of desires .
If you were a woman you'd be getting plenty of attention , you only need to look at the attention your wife is getting to see that .
So stop feeling sorry for yourself , it's destructive and can only hurt you . Look at the positives , you have your wife and that's more than lots of guys have .
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Wise words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like to say this but there's a darn site more men looking for pussy than women looking for cock. You say you can't meet as your too fat but your wife is quite a large lady so that blows that argument out of the window. X |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
This doesn't sound like a particularly healthy dynamic at all.
Any time I've felt as though our open relationship may be hurting rather than adding to our relationship, I've stopped for a short while and discussed it with my partner.
You two need to discuss it properly. Coming on the forums in an effort to garner sympathy from strangers that you can show your wife, which appears to be the end game here, seems a tad manipulative to me personally but then it's also very understandable considering your situation.
So yeah, talk to her, not to us as only you two can work your way through this issue.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This doesn't sound like a particularly healthy dynamic at all.
Any time I've felt as though our open relationship may be hurting rather than adding to our relationship, I've stopped for a short while and discussed it with my partner.
You two need to discuss it properly. Coming on the forums in an effort to garner sympathy from strangers that you can show your wife, which appears to be the end game here, seems a tad manipulative to me personally but then it's also very understandable considering your situation.
So yeah, talk to her, not to us as only you two can work your way through this issue.
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Bravo. Nicely put. |
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"Why is it that people don't want to meet people like us all we ever get is couples and single females blocking us we don't even get a chance we have had one couple who put a comment up to try and help us out to get meets even tho they never met us but that didn't work just cos we are a large couple there isn't anything wrong with us all we want is a for people to give us a chance"
because you have a hidden profile!!!!  |
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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"Why is it that people don't want to meet people like us all we ever get is couples and single females blocking us we don't even get a chance we have had one couple who put a comment up to try and help us out to get meets even tho they never met us but that didn't work just cos we are a large couple there isn't anything wrong with us all we want is a for people to give us a chance because you have a hidden profile!!!! "
They've only just hidden it then |
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"I don't like to say this but there's a darn site more men looking for pussy than women looking for cock. You say you can't meet as your too fat but your wife is quite a large lady so that blows that argument out of the window. X"
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e have decided to leave the site as we r getting more abuse saying that my hubby needs to leave the site and leave me on here only as he is a fat tub of lard and I can do better than be with him |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"e have decided to leave the site as we r getting more abuse saying that my hubby needs to leave the site and leave me on here only as he is a fat tub of lard and I can do better than be with him"
it's your call do what you want
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whine, moan, whinge, complain, bleat. 'Oh woe is me, nobody wil meet me cos I'm fat'
Get a fucking grip!
I'm fat. As a couple that play together and separately, I get meets with single women and as a couple with other couples. So I might suggest that it's not your physical stature that's the problem. It's the attitude. |
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"e have decided to leave the site as we r getting more abuse saying that my hubby needs to leave the site and leave me on here only as he is a fat tub of lard and I can do better than be with him"
I'm struggling with all this now ... I am dumbfounded as to why as his wife you would take to a public forum and say such things ? If you are trying to big yourself up and make him think he's lucky to have you then that's just cruel. To repeat he's a 'tub of lard' !!!! C'mon really ????
I'm smelling a bit of a rat here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's all made up to be fair. If you had the 'pleasure' of viewing the profile....
No, I'll stop. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"e have decided to leave the site as we r getting more abuse saying that my hubby needs to leave the site and leave me on here only as he is a fat tub of lard and I can do better than be with him
I'm struggling with all this now ... I am dumbfounded as to why as his wife you would take to a public forum and say such things ? If you are trying to big yourself up and make him think he's lucky to have you then that's just cruel. To repeat he's a 'tub of lard' !!!! C'mon really ????
I'm smelling a bit of a rat here "
fake profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great story |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Great story "
should be stories and fantasies then
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"e have decided to leave the site as we r getting more abuse saying that my hubby needs to leave the site and leave me on here only as he is a fat tub of lard and I can do better than be with him"
This is going beyond a joke now ...
Seriously ?
He is well matched for you , and maybe you should both concentrate on each other for a while before swinging again .
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is definitely a wind up! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"This is definitely a wind up!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is definitely not right, look at the picture's thay look to much alike as I see it, and the way he is going on is like a young teenager no body likes me I never get anything??? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"This is definitely not right, look at the picture's thay look to much alike as I see it, and the way he is going on is like a young teenager no body likes me I never get anything??? "
I also did a double take, when I saw how closely alike they look |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It a stuck on wily |
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Omg another veri has gone up !! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Omg another veri has gone up !! "
yep I'm thinking it's a fake profile and have reported as such
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is definitely not right, look at the picture's thay look to much alike as I see it, and the way he is going on is like a young teenager no body likes me I never get anything???
I also did a double take, when I saw how closely alike they look "
Very glad it wasn't just me who noticed that |
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R profile isn't fake and we r 2 different people so how dare u |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Erm...doesn't explain the difference in bellybuttons guys. She's an inny and he's an outie.
That takes some dedication if they're not real. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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You have to understand that people need (well me at least) need to feel attracted to someone) and sorry to say that some large people are just too large, maybe if it is getting you down, you should make some positive changes in your life? Just an observation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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their hair styles and faces are almost identical  |
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Well we r 2 different people we r not fake check out our profile pics |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
I am a little confused about something...given that you have face lics *and* nuddy pics on your front page...what on earth is in the private gallery?! |
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U can now see all r pics and then u can see we r 2 different people we have taken our pics out of private to public |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hope you find some of these answers given to you constructive
Personally the site can be harsh and tough and if you are feeling insecure maybe this site may not suit your requirements as it can bring them out far worse.
Have fun. |
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Thank u for that but also we wish now people would stop saying we r the same person as we r not and we r not alike at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank u for that but also we wish now people would stop saying we r the same person as we r not and we r not alike at all"
I haven't said that.
Take the negative away from the positive comments and focus on that  |
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I know u haven't said that but everyone else has we have been reported 45 times now saying r profile is fake we r trying to be positive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simple solution put a face pic of you both together then that will hush the haters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ever considered an escort OP?? |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"Simple solution put a face pic of you both together then that will hush the haters.
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Good call |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I know u haven't said that but everyone else has we have been reported 45 times now saying r profile is fake we r trying to be positive"
how do you know it's 45 times OP
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"I know u haven't said that but everyone else has we have been reported 45 times now saying r profile is fake we r trying to be positive"
How do you know you've been reported 45 times? |
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Cos people tell us and so far the count is up to 45 |
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