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"Everything but penatraion of foo foo or butt 
We also agree with that standard. However, we find it useful to discuss boundaries before anything gets too steamy!  "
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By *iercedCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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There seems to be a general consensus, which is good to know, and it sounds like boundaries should be set at the start.
We think soft swing is a good way in as we are just starting out, but we will have to see where it goes from there. 
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"Hi,
This appears to be somewhat of a grey area, we've read many varying definitions of what soft swinging is.
So we were wondering. How would you define Soft Swinging?
J&A x"
For us soft swap is anything apart from full sex and is something we are definitely looking for at the mo, as we've decided to take the step from just playing together to involving others, so have had some really good chats about what we both want for now and how to go forward.
We know soft swap isn't what everyone is looking for, and that's cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There seems to be a general consensus, which is good to know, and it sounds like boundaries should be set at the start.
We think soft swing is a good way in as we are just starting out, but we will have to see where it goes from there.
J&A x "
We were/are exactly the same. On a meet in either s hotel or club most of the fun comes from the flirting then touching then maybe a bit more than touching. The act of full sex is just a small part of the experience. We've met and enjoyed time with a few couples now but only gone full swap the once. This was after numerous meets and lots of soft swing with that same couple. We said we were never interested in full but I guess after meeting up time after time it was always going to be on the cards. We had no regrets and hopefully we will meet them again for another great evening. I suppose any planned meets we have are never expected to be anything other than a good time with others. |
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By *iercedCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi,
This appears to be somewhat of a grey area, we've read many varying definitions of what soft swinging is.
So we were wondering. How would you define Soft Swinging?
J&A x
For us soft swap is anything apart from full sex and is something we are definitely looking for at the mo, as we've decided to take the step from just playing together to involving others, so have had some really good chats about what we both want for now and how to go forward.
We know soft swap isn't what everyone is looking for, and that's cool "
Are you quite new to the scene as well?
We've decided our next club visit will involve a couples room in some way, but we don't quite know what that is yet.
A&J x |
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By *iercedCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"There seems to be a general consensus, which is good to know, and it sounds like boundaries should be set at the start.
We think soft swing is a good way in as we are just starting out, but we will have to see where it goes from there.
J&A x
We were/are exactly the same. On a meet in either s hotel or club most of the fun comes from the flirting then touching then maybe a bit more than touching. The act of full sex is just a small part of the experience. We've met and enjoyed time with a few couples now but only gone full swap the once. This was after numerous meets and lots of soft swing with that same couple. We said we were never interested in full but I guess after meeting up time after time it was always going to be on the cards. We had no regrets and hopefully we will meet them again for another great evening. I suppose any planned meets we have are never expected to be anything other than a good time with others. "
I think we are on a similar wavelength, the fun for us is the entire experience, on our last (only) visit we didn't swap in anyway, but just had fun in the hot tub, sauna, etc.
We'll definitely take it a bit further next time.
A&J x |
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"Hi,
This appears to be somewhat of a grey area, we've read many varying definitions of what soft swinging is.
So we were wondering. How would you define Soft Swinging?
J&A x
For us soft swap is anything apart from full sex and is something we are definitely looking for at the mo, as we've decided to take the step from just playing together to involving others, so have had some really good chats about what we both want for now and how to go forward.
We know soft swap isn't what everyone is looking for, and that's cool
Are you quite new to the scene as well?
We've decided our next club visit will involve a couples room in some way, but we don't quite know what that is yet.
A&J x"
Not new as singles and we played together for 18 months before circumstances changed, but recently decided To get back together and involve others, hence a couples profile.
We've discussed a few things and so far and are happy to just explore and see where things go x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There seems to be a general consensus, which is good to know, and it sounds like boundaries should be set at the start.
We think soft swing is a good way in as we are just starting out, but we will have to see where it goes from there.
J&A x
We were/are exactly the same. On a meet in either s hotel or club most of the fun comes from the flirting then touching then maybe a bit more than touching. The act of full sex is just a small part of the experience. We've met and enjoyed time with a few couples now but only gone full swap the once. This was after numerous meets and lots of soft swing with that same couple. We said we were never interested in full but I guess after meeting up time after time it was always going to be on the cards. We had no regrets and hopefully we will meet them again for another great evening. I suppose any planned meets we have are never expected to be anything other than a good time with others.
I think we are on a similar wavelength, the fun for us is the entire experience, on our last (only) visit we didn't swap in anyway, but just had fun in the hot tub, sauna, etc.
We'll definitely take it a bit further next time.
A&J x"
We go to clubs with no expectations at all. We communicate easily with each other without having to say anything. If we're approached by couples we can easily let each other know if we're happy to go further. To be honest it's MrsJ that is in control and this seems to be the norm. Having said that I certainly wouldn't "take one for the team" either. Finding common ground and attraction between two couples can be difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds dull whatever it is"
good sex is not just penetration
talking touching and teasing are the main thing to get everyone horny and excited, we love erotica and we do have penetration with own partner so you don't miss out on that much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds dull whatever it is
good sex is not just penetration
talking touching and teasing are the main thing to get everyone horny and excited, we love erotica and we do have penetration with own partner so you don't miss out on that much"
Which reminds me.. we need to get that social sorted out with you guys! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds dull whatever it is
good sex is not just penetration
talking touching and teasing are the main thing to get everyone horny and excited, we love erotica and we do have penetration with own partner so you don't miss out on that much
Which reminds me.. we need to get that social sorted out with you guys!"
hi guys yes sounds good to us
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Sounds dull whatever it is
good sex is not just penetration
talking touching and teasing are the main thing to get everyone horny and excited, we love erotica and we do have penetration with own partner so you don't miss out on that much"
We couldn't have put it better/ We have played with couples who full swap and are respectful of our boundaries, they more than often tell us its more relaxed and less pressure fun for them and are left more than fulfilled |
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"We have not heard it put any better than the above full is when a relationship and trust has developed its not all about the sex.
Russ Sue"
Unfortunately there is a hard element within the lifestyle who regard those of us who are a little more "selective" when it comes to fun partners as "fumbling amateurs"! We despise that attitude! Soft swing can be as enchanting as any sexual experience. Those who regard soft swing as "dull" or "boring" are missing out on the finer elements and the heights of eroticism that foreplay can bring to all involved.
Or is it a fact that they are just looking for notches on a totem pole, that they are simply not expert at tease and tantalise, or are they more for the concept of "in and out" if you will forgive the analagy? |
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"Hi,
This appears to be somewhat of a grey area, we've read many varying definitions of what soft swinging is.
So we were wondering. How would you define Soft Swinging?
J&A x"
Personally I would consider it oral and sensual play between others but returning to own partner for the penetrative side of things. Can be highly sensual and very erotic if done with enoigh passion between players. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have not heard it put any better than the above full is when a relationship and trust has developed its not all about the sex.
Russ Sue
Unfortunately there is a hard element within the lifestyle who regard those of us who are a little more "selective" when it comes to fun partners as "fumbling amateurs"! We despise that attitude! Soft swing can be as enchanting as any sexual experience. Those who regard soft swing as "dull" or "boring" are missing out on the finer elements and the heights of eroticism that foreplay can bring to all involved.
Or is it a fact that they are just looking for notches on a totem pole, that they are simply not expert at tease and tantalise, or are they more for the concept of "in and out" if you will forgive the analagy?"
Totally agree we started out as soft swing then full swap and we are still happy to soft swing which we do with some regulars, there is a hardcore element that would never do soft swing, that's there choice, but we are open to all types of play with the right people x |
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"We have not heard it put any better than the above full is when a relationship and trust has developed its not all about the sex.
Russ Sue
Unfortunately there is a hard element within the lifestyle who regard those of us who are a little more "selective" when it comes to fun partners as "fumbling amateurs"! We despise that attitude! Soft swing can be as enchanting as any sexual experience. Those who regard soft swing as "dull" or "boring" are missing out on the finer elements and the heights of eroticism that foreplay can bring to all involved.
Or is it a fact that they are just looking for notches on a totem pole, that they are simply not expert at tease and tantalise, or are they more for the concept of "in and out" if you will forgive the analagy?"
A couple of people have defined soft swing as dull and boring but I don't think they've implied any of the above. The op did ask for people's definitions after all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would define it as a boring time "
Foreplay? Boring? .... you may not be doing it right! ....
That is because 'soft swing' to me, is sharing foreplay with others but having full penetration with your partner...
it's hot!
In some ways it's much more intimate than
'full swap' partners.... because your sharing the build up together.... rather than having separate sexual encounters
Ava x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us soft swing is everything but penetrative.
We find the whole build up and play very erotic and teasing, very enjoyable. "
This works for us too.....we have been swinging for a while now and have very erotic soft swing meets m x |
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By *iercedCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Haha! Sounds fun, maybe when we get a child free night J xWe are to old 
Hadn't noticed. We are too old also
Hooray for the oldies lol  "
Aww, I literally had no idea what you meant for a minute then. We hadn't really thought much about ages, hopeless newbies.
Duly noted and age limits changed! We'll chat etc to anyone, as long as there's a good connection J x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha! Sounds fun, maybe when we get a child free night J xWe are to old
Hadn't noticed. We are too old also
Hooray for the oldies lol
Aww, I literally had no idea what you meant for a minute then. We hadn't really thought much about ages, hopeless newbies.
Duly noted and age limits changed! We'll chat etc to anyone, as long as there's a good connection J x "
Loads of very sexy older couples on this thread it has to be said. |
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By *iercedCpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Haha! Sounds fun, maybe when we get a child free night J xWe are to old
Hadn't noticed. We are too old also
Hooray for the oldies lol
Aww, I literally had no idea what you meant for a minute then. We hadn't really thought much about ages, hopeless newbies.
Duly noted and age limits changed! We'll chat etc to anyone, as long as there's a good connection J x
Loads of very sexy older couples on this thread it has to be said. "
There absolutely is!! We definitely needed to update our profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha! Sounds fun, maybe when we get a child free night J xWe are to old
Hadn't noticed. We are too old also "
We hope you guys are not too old that would make us past it.
Yay for the oldies |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Haha! Sounds fun, maybe when we get a child free night J xWe are to old
Hadn't noticed. We are too old also
Hooray for the oldies lol
Aww, I literally had no idea what you meant for a minute then. We hadn't really thought much about ages, hopeless newbies.
Duly noted and age limits changed! We'll chat etc to anyone, as long as there's a good connection J x "
Hooray we feel young again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Haha! Sounds fun, maybe when we get a child free night J xWe are to old
Hadn't noticed. We are too old also
Hooray for the oldies lol
Aww, I literally had no idea what you meant for a minute then. We hadn't really thought much about ages, hopeless newbies.
Duly noted and age limits changed! We'll chat etc to anyone, as long as there's a good connection J x Hooray we feel young again "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To many people in this lifestyle just want f##k n go and don't know the meaning of sensual and erotic. The most sexual organ we all have is the mind."
100% correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To many people in this lifestyle just want f##k n go and don't know the meaning of sensual and erotic. The most sexual organ we all have is the mind."
Indeed it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For us soft swing is this, everything apart from penis in unusual vagina
Girl on girl includes strap on etc if wanted but we only do full (real)penetration with own partner.
We find it highly erotic with so much foreplay etc, what's not to love |
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I don't agree, vanilla people soft swing in vanilla clubs so what is the difference between swingers and vanilla people, to enjoy swinging you must conquer or control emotions, if you can't do this, you cannot swing, I think the whole idea of fuck and go is fantastic but there are other departments within the swinging world that would give you all the mental stimulation you need but the first stage is conquer or control those jealous emotions and then the fun will begin |
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Soft swing can be exquisite foreplay, using the whole skin area, Tantric massage, eye gazing, the mind on fire as all the erogenous zones are aroused, using tongue, lips, hands, fingertips, before even touching the genitals, taking it in turns to be the Centre of attention. Then everybody's whole skin rubs against each other. Then moving to genital massage, oral teasing, and finally blissful joy, lots of body orgasms, for all, before the climax..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't agree, vanilla people soft swing in vanilla clubs so what is the difference between swingers and vanilla people, to enjoy swinging you must conquer or control emotions, if you can't do this, you cannot swing, I think the whole idea of fuck and go is fantastic but there are other departments within the swinging world that would give you all the mental stimulation you need but the first stage is conquer or control those jealous emotions and then the fun will begin"
Twice you say "conquer or control jealous feelings". That is just not going on for us at all. If either if us felt jealousy we would stop, not try and conquer or control it.
That's so far from what it feels like to swing for us its like you're not even talking of the same activity. |
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"I don't agree, vanilla people soft swing in vanilla clubs so what is the difference between swingers and vanilla people, to enjoy swinging you must conquer or control emotions, if you can't do this, you cannot swing, I think the whole idea of fuck and go is fantastic but there are other departments within the swinging world that would give you all the mental stimulation you need but the first stage is conquer or control those jealous emotions and then the fun will begin"
No conquering or controlling emotions going on here.
Do people really soft swing in vanilla clubs? Blimey! |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't agree, vanilla people soft swing in vanilla clubs so what is the difference between swingers and vanilla people, to enjoy swinging you must conquer or control emotions, if you can't do this, you cannot swing, I think the whole idea of fuck and go is fantastic but there are other departments within the swinging world that would give you all the mental stimulation you need but the first stage is conquer or control those jealous emotions and then the fun will begin
Twice you say "conquer or control jealous feelings". That is just not going on for us at all. If either if us felt jealousy we would stop, not try and conquer or control it.
That's so far from what it feels like to swing for us its like you're not even talking of the same activity. "
totally agree with this. Jealousy is an emotion both of us don't have. Like you say if any of us showed this we wouldn't be in this lifestyle. Really don't understand why people think as we do soft swing we have jealousy issues. Our relationship is based on trust, honesty and respect. I feel so angry people can judge without even knowing the people who soft swing. There are numerous people who are in this lifestyle who have jealous issues, soft and full swap so labeling all soft swap jealous people is small minded in my opinion. |
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"Soft swing can be exquisite foreplay, using the whole skin area, Tantric massage, eye gazing, the mind on fire as all the erogenous zones are aroused, using tongue, lips, hands, fingertips, before even touching the genitals, taking it in turns to be the Centre of attention. Then everybody's whole skin rubs against each other. Then moving to genital massage, oral teasing, and finally blissful joy, lots of body orgasms, for all, before the climax..
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Did I miss an election?
Who appointed this new arbiter of the swinging community?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Soft swing can be exquisite foreplay, using the whole skin area, Tantric massage, eye gazing, the mind on fire as all the erogenous zones are aroused, using tongue, lips, hands, fingertips, before even touching the genitals, taking it in turns to be the Centre of attention. Then everybody's whole skin rubs against each other. Then moving to genital massage, oral teasing, and finally blissful joy, lots of body orgasms, for all, before the climax..
Did I miss an election?
Who appointed this new arbiter of the swinging community?
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He's just describing it. He didn't say people have to do it. He said it "can be..." |
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"Soft swing can be exquisite foreplay, using the whole skin area, Tantric massage, eye gazing, the mind on fire as all the erogenous zones are aroused, using tongue, lips, hands, fingertips, before even touching the genitals, taking it in turns to be the Centre of attention. Then everybody's whole skin rubs against each other. Then moving to genital massage, oral teasing, and finally blissful joy, lots of body orgasms, for all, before the climax..
Did I miss an election?
Who appointed this new arbiter of the swinging community?
He's just describing it. He didn't say people have to do it. He said it "can be...""
Thanks Steelheels, it's just one of many ways soft swing can play out, lots of variety, it appeals to my sensual nature and helps keep within some of my friends boundaries. |
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By *tryxxCouple
over a year ago
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"For us soft swing is this, everything apart from penis in unusual vagina
Girl on girl includes strap on etc if wanted but we only do full (real)penetration with own partner.
We find it highly erotic with so much foreplay etc, what's not to love "
thats us down to a tee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't agree, vanilla people soft swing in vanilla clubs so what is the difference between swingers and vanilla people, to enjoy swinging you must conquer or control emotions, if you can't do this, you cannot swing, I think the whole idea of fuck and go is fantastic but there are other departments within the swinging world that would give you all the mental stimulation you need but the first stage is conquer or control those jealous emotions and then the fun will begin"
Riiiight jealous.....
Neither of us are jealous of anyone playing with either of us, we just prefer our way of playing, each to there own. Mr is quite voyeuristic and I enjoy him watching  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't opt for soft swing because of jealous feelings - we love to watch each other give and receive sensual pleasure - such a wonderful turn-on with lots of variations available to us, mfm, fmf, mmfmm etc etc.....
Soft swing is one of a range of preferences available - a preference is a choice, there is no need to defend, explain or justify the choice - each swinger whether single or couple will have their own preferences. We find that respect, trust and honesty are important in order to maintain a loving relationship whilst enjoying lots of sexy fun. M x |
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"Soft swing can be exquisite foreplay, using the whole skin area, Tantric massage, eye gazing, the mind on fire as all the erogenous zones are aroused, using tongue, lips, hands, fingertips, before even touching the genitals, taking it in turns to be the Centre of attention. Then everybody's whole skin rubs against each other. Then moving to genital massage, oral teasing, and finally blissful joy, lots of body orgasms, for all, before the climax..
Did I miss an election?
Who appointed this new arbiter of the swinging community?
He's just describing it. He didn't say people have to do it. He said it "can be...""
LOL, just realised I quoted the wrong post, it was supposed to be the jealousy post.
My bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is no full swap but lots of soft swing is about women, I've not braved it coz I don't no how it would pan out my man sat next to a man wanking over the show hahaassaa |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So here's my problem, I want to c my man fuck a girl, I'd be happy to watch but he says he wants me to join in, it's hard to find so we turned to couples. My problem is I'd struggle to have fun with any man so it would all go tits up ?? This swinging lark is hard work lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is very hard work...finding others to fulfill your fantasies is difficult...soft can be ok but if you want to watch him have full sex another lady, that's like finding a Unicorn "
or rocking horse shit!!!!!! |
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"It is very hard work...finding others to fulfill your fantasies is difficult...soft can be ok but if you want to watch him have full sex another lady, that's like finding a Unicorn or rocking horse shit!!!!!!"
So I expect you've tried advertising for single ladies ?? X |
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"No but think it's gonna be our best hope, lots round here xx"
Yes there are...Cupids on a Wednesday is couples and single ladies.....they also have ladies only nights....you could go and find a lady there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So here's my problem, I want to c my man fuck a girl, I'd be happy to watch but he says he wants me to join in, it's hard to find so we turned to couples. My problem is I'd struggle to have fun with any man so it would all go tits up ?? This swinging lark is hard work lol"
oh been there we still struggling to get the balance too xx female replying
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always thought it was the men watching women play but,,,, has anyone done this? Do the men wank?? Is it not strange???"
Mandy here - having an audience of men, seeing their cocks growing hard at the sight and sounds around them is a real turn on for me.....that's why I class myself as an exhibitionist and a voyeur |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have had some wonderful fmf soft swing meets .....
Cupids have a great policy in place for their JUGS - just us girls nights - they keep the social area and the playrooms on the 1st floor open to all (males/females/singles/couples) then have the ground floor for ladies only -
this works well because it allows for many variations whilst still preserving a female only play space |
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By *istalloverCouple
over a year ago
Pays de la Loire -Normandie -Brittany borderFrance |
Its all about having fun and being comfortable, as long as everybody is happy and comfort zones are respected ,whats the problem .
If somebody is not happy to meet you because they need to be assured of full penetration before meeting up
perhaps they are night the right people in the first place. |
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Its all about having fun and being comfortable, as long as everybody is happy and comfort zones are respected ,whats the problem .
If somebody is not happy to meet you because they need to be assured of full penetration before meeting up
perhaps they are night the right people in the first place."
couldnt agree more several friends are into full swap but play with us as softswap respect and mutual enjoyment is the key we think. |
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I like being real and I love facing the truth, however, I understand that truth depends on who is looking at the problem.
A skilled eye looks at a problem as an opportunity, an unskilled eye looks at a problem as a problem but I digress.
When it comes to jealous feelings when a partner is fucking someone else even the most experienced of swingers have them, they only convert those jealous feelings to joy, knowing their partner is having fun.
Most people within the swinging lifestyle at some point feel like fucking someone other than their partner, it does not mean they don't like their partner, it is just a feeling the majority of people have in my opinion.
The question is how are you going to handle it? Are you going to let them be happy to have fun and be happy yourself or are you going to keep carving out departments like soft swing and no further knowing you are keeping them frustrated, the choice is yours. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"I like being real and I love facing the truth, however, I understand that truth depends on who is looking at the problem.
A skilled eye looks at a problem as an opportunity, an unskilled eye looks at a problem as a problem but I digress.
When it comes to jealous feelings when a partner is fucking someone else even the most experienced of swingers have them, they only convert those jealous feelings to joy, knowing their partner is having fun.
Most people within the swinging lifestyle at some point feel like fucking someone other than their partner, it does not mean they don't like their partner, it is just a feeling the majority of people have in my opinion.
The question is how are you going to handle it? Are you going to let them be happy to have fun and be happy yourself or are you going to keep carving out departments like soft swing and no further knowing you are keeping them frustrated, the choice is yours. "
We love how we swing. If either of us full swap at any point it's due to wanting to do that at the time and we would both be enjoying the moment. No need to be carving anything out. It's not an issue but a preference to soft swing. Some people don't want Anal sex would people say they are not fulfilling a Swingers lifestyle due to a preference |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't agree at all because it is just not true but each to their own
What's not true?"
If when you reply press +quote from the persons post and then we'll know who's post you are referring to, so whats not true?? |
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It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine |
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over a year ago
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine"
If people get into swinging to strengthen their relationship our opinion is their relationship is not strong enough to get into swinging. Soft swing is a preference within swinging, as is bi, separate rooms and all other aspects of swinging. Soft swing for us is to swing within our own boundaries which one of the boundaries are penetration with own partner prodominantly |
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine
If people get into swinging to strengthen their relationship our opinion is their relationship is not strong enough to get into swinging. Soft swing is a preference within swinging, as is bi, separate rooms and all other aspects of swinging. Soft swing for us is to swing within our own boundaries which one of the boundaries are penetration with own partner prodominantly"
That's cool, as I said each to their own , it is not for me and I don't need to understand it, we are not on the same track , there are people who like it, there is always a department for everbody, I have no interest in this department but those who like it can go for it, each to their own. |
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine"
Can I declare bollocks?
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine"
You have no fucking clue. |
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine
Can I declare bollocks?
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"I don't do arguements but if you feel am wrong prove me wrong, don't just say am wrong or no have no clue, prove it . I know what am saying and you all know I speak the truth, look yourselves in the eye and have this conversation with each other.
Just like I met a couple of chics who wanted to chat all night, I got up after 3 minutes and told them, there are too many beautiful ladies in the party who want me, for me to sit and chat all night, 3 minutes of my time is all you get, if what I say in 3minutes is not cool to close the deal, thats cool, me ,am gone to the next beautiful girl."
Sorry you have to prove you are psychic to claim to know what other peoples thoughts and motivations are.
If you can't prove that then quite obviously you have no clue why people soft swing.
We have soft swung and done full swap which completely disproves your theory.
We choose to soft swing. Other times we don't.
Now prove you are psychic! |
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I don't do arguements but if you feel am wrong prove me wrong, don't just say am wrong or have no clue, prove it .
I know what am saying and you all know I speak the truth, however, you might be correct, this category is not for me but I will accept it might be a genuine category, I have met a beautiful lady who does not fuck but she comes from getting tiny currents ran through her body, it is a category and I accept that.
Just like I met a couple of chics who wanted to chat all night, I got up after 3 minutes and told them politely, there are too many beautiful ladies in the party who want me, for me to sit and chat all night, 3 minutes of my time is all you get, if what I say in 3 minutes is not cool to close the deal, thats cool, me ,am gone to the next beautiful girl. Chatting all night and going home with a guy might be a category, it is just not for me and looks too much like vanilla to me. |
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"Hi,
This appears to be somewhat of a grey area, we've read many varying definitions of what soft swinging is.
So we were wondering. How would you define Soft Swinging?
J&A x"
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"I don't do arguements but if you feel am wrong prove me wrong, don't just say am wrong or no have no clue, prove it . I know what am saying and you all know I speak the truth, look yourselves in the eye and have this conversation with each other.
Just like I met a couple of chics who wanted to chat all night, I got up after 3 minutes and told them, there are too many beautiful ladies in the party who want me, for me to sit and chat all night, 3 minutes of my time is all you get, if what I say in 3minutes is not cool to close the deal, thats cool, me ,am gone to the next beautiful girl.
Sorry you have to prove you are psychic to claim to know what other peoples thoughts and motivations are.
If you can't prove that then quite obviously you have no clue why people soft swing.
We have soft swung and done full swap which completely disproves your theory.
We choose to soft swing. Other times we don't.
Now prove you are psychic! "
I accept what you are saying because you have done the full swap , so it might be that you really enjoy soft swing , I will take that, but if you have not done full swap I find it hard to understand that |
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine"
You're single, so how can you judge what is or isn't right for someone in a relationship? I could say you aren't a swinger, because you are a single bloke. |
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"It could be that you are not swingers, then that would make sense but I don't agree that true swingers do not want to full swap if there is no issue from their partners.
I have never heard of it because it does not exist, maybe the guys don't want it or maybe the ladies don't want the guys to reciprocate or maybe both parties are not swingers whichever it is, your choice is perfectly fine in my opinion.We accept your position whatever you choose.
Swinging in my opinion helps to strengthen relationships but some people can't swing , which is fine
You're single, so how can you judge what is or isn't right for someone in a relationship? I could say you aren't a swinger, because you are a single bloke."
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