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over a year ago
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So I've always fancied the thought of my partner being admired or flirted with since my first sort of serious relationship in high school. We would talk about other people we found attractive but she's sort of seemed to be a bit withheld. We never had an actual experience. But I met who would become my daughters mother, the first time I saw her I was head over heels. Short blonde with an amazing smile. She had quite large breasts for her small frame, being 5 foot and 105 pounds she had D cups. Which I would find people looking at and my friends would ask about or comment about which got me to bring up the idea of her ever being interested in another guy about 3 months into our relationship. She denied it and I told her how I feel about honesty, it's the purest feeling to have with and for someone in my opinion. Well the first time we actually had sex, we were driving her Neighbor to his house and she pulled over so we could, relax a bit more. One thing led to another and she was in my lap in the passenger seat pulling off her pants with our friend in the back. We continued without him getting involved but he got quite the show. After this we began to have the hottest most intimate sex I'd had. And I was seasoned for my age, always enjoying sex as any young man does. But when we were around 3 years in our relationship we had juggled ideas and she enjoyed me showing photos of her to some of my friends or older men that I'd work with that seen and hit on her. I loved the feeling of being with such an amazingly attractive person. We Chose to bring one of her female friends into our bed one night but only for her. Rules were made and followed, we had fantasised about a man joining us but never did. We were always honest with one another no matter what, well so I thought. Eventually I found out she was enjoying herself elsewhere for some time. I'm sure this kind of scenario is likely especially because after we broke up I met another woman and the same kind of thing happen where they couldn't be honest about sexual things when I'm nothing but understanding... I'm now Almost 3 years without sex, because I've longed for a connection with a partner but haven't found it. Am I chasing stars or is if just too early in my life to expect this kind of honesty or lifestyle for a relationship?  |
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"So I've always fancied the thought of my partner being admired or flirted with since my first sort of serious relationship in high school. We would talk about other people we found attractive but she's sort of seemed to be a bit withheld. We never had an actual experience. But I met who would become my daughters mother, the first time I saw her I was head over heels. Short blonde with an amazing smile. She had quite large breasts for her small frame, being 5 foot and 105 pounds she had D cups. Which I would find people looking at and my friends would ask about or comment about which got me to bring up the idea of her ever being interested in another guy about 3 months into our relationship. She denied it and I told her how I feel about honesty, it's the purest feeling to have with and for someone in my opinion. Well the first time we actually had sex, we were driving her Neighbor to his house and she pulled over so we could, relax a bit more. One thing led to another and she was in my lap in the passenger seat pulling off her pants with our friend in the back. We continued without him getting involved but he got quite the show. After this we began to have the hottest most intimate sex I'd had. And I was seasoned for my age, always enjoying sex as any young man does. But when we were around 3 years in our relationship we had juggled ideas and she enjoyed me showing photos of her to some of my friends or older men that I'd work with that seen and hit on her. I loved the feeling of being with such an amazingly attractive person. We Chose to bring one of her female friends into our bed one night but only for her. Rules were made and followed, we had fantasised about a man joining us but never did. We were always honest with one another no matter what, well so I thought. Eventually I found out she was enjoying herself elsewhere for some time. I'm sure this kind of scenario is likely especially because after we broke up I met another woman and the same kind of thing happen where they couldn't be honest about sexual things when I'm nothing but understanding... I'm now Almost 3 years without sex, because I've longed for a connection with a partner but haven't found it. Am I chasing stars or is if just too early in my life to expect this kind of honesty or lifestyle for a relationship? "
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At 25 am I too young to be searching for someone to be open with in the lifestyle, I'm just a lil discouraged because it's been a deal breaker for quite a few... Or they have a hard time being honest about it. And I don't though know if older women take me serious.... |
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"At 25 am I too young to be searching for someone to be open with in the lifestyle, I'm just a lil discouraged because it's been a deal breaker for quite a few... Or they have a hard time being honest about it. And I don't though know if older women take me serious.... "
No, you're not too young.
Try going to clubs and socials to network and meet people.
Try actually having a relationship first and build upon the love and trust of it.
Don't age categorise women, we are all just humans looking for contact and for most of us, being found attractive just because of how many years we've been alive is very, very sad. |
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"At 25 am I too young to be searching for someone to be open with in the lifestyle, I'm just a lil discouraged because it's been a deal breaker for quite a few... Or they have a hard time being honest about it. And I don't though know if older women take me serious.... "
The struggle is real mate
And some will..some wont the ones worth having will at least give you a chance |
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"At 25 am I too young to be searching for someone to be open with in the lifestyle, I'm just a lil discouraged because it's been a deal breaker for quite a few... Or they have a hard time being honest about it. And I don't though know if older women take me serious.... "
i guess the hardest part is, if you find someone you're up for a relationship with, then they might not take you seriously, for age reasons or whatever (probably coz they've been bullshitted so many times before it won't help.
another thing to consider is a lot of people are already in relationships and are not poly so won't be up for anything like that for that reason. |
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I'd say build up some confidence..
Don't take that as insult please, it's not intended that way.
Visit a club on your own. Online date, try and arrange meets on here as best as you're able. If honesty is important to you and you're unsure about what you want at times. Have flings, sleep around.. but carry on with the honesty.. to yourself and to everyone you meet. At least don't lie.
If you do this.. you'll be more than ready for your next REAL relationship. You'll have learned how to build and maintain trust, dabbled in seduction and intrigue, taken a few knocks and gotten stronger, developed a good sense of humour and a keen eye for Trouble.
By that point Your Mrs Right may have jumped right into your arms, or you into Hers... and you live Happily Ever After.. |
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