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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting "
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting "
but then people will assume you're hiding something and pass you by.
in the end, are you ashamed of the people you've met? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all "
Not if you display your verification summary you won't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all
Not if you display your verification summary you won't "
Still get asked why hide your verifications |
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"Is this true I have made mine private but someone said I won't get meets because I have been with loose women"
try not to believe too much of what people tell you especially if its unsolicited. The best way to enjoy fab is to do what you want to do, have your profile how you want it and ignore people who try to tell you you're doing it wrong. |
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We have had both negative, and positive messages about our veries.
Its true we've probably missed out on a few meets because they take one look, go "Holy shit!", and run... but if you drill down, you'll find most are from socials and other events.
Personally, if someone judges us on them, they are probably people we wouldn't want to meet anyway, I mean, its a swingers site ffs... what did you expect us to do?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all
Not if you display your verification summary you won't
Still get asked why hide your verifications"
To which you reply "It's got fuck all to do with you how I run my profile  " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all
Not if you display your verification summary you won't
Still get asked why hide your verifications
To which you reply "It's got fuck all to do with you how I run my profile " "
I wouldn't even do that. Just block. They only go and tell there friends and club friends that you're abusive then |
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Judgement is a stupid word in this context. It's not about judgement it's about risk of STDs. If you fucked certain site members then you increased your risk, simple as. By all means reassure people with a clean test though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Judgement is a stupid word in this context. It's not about judgement it's about risk of STDs. If you fucked certain site members then you increased your risk, simple as. By all means reassure people with a clean test though. "
You obviously have never come across the well you met so and so. I don't like her so you're not meeting me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all
Not if you display your verification summary you won't
Still get asked why hide your verifications
To which you reply "It's got fuck all to do with you how I run my profile "
I wouldn't even do that. Just block. They only go and tell there friends and club friends that you're abusive then "
And if she's that petty and her club friends too? Then you've dodged a barrage of bullets my friend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all
Not if you display your verification summary you won't
Still get asked why hide your verifications
To which you reply "It's got fuck all to do with you how I run my profile "
I wouldn't even do that. Just block. They only go and tell there friends and club friends that you're abusive then
And if she's that petty and her club friends too? Then you've dodged a barrage of bullets my friend "
Many a time |
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"Judgement is a stupid word in this context. It's not about judgement it's about risk of STDs. If you fucked certain site members then you increased your risk, simple as. By all means reassure people with a clean test though.
You obviously have never come across the well you met so and so. I don't like her so you're not meeting me. "
If so and so did a bareback gangbang in a south african prison then i don't blame them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally true. Judge Dredd, Judge John Deed, Judge Judy, even Rumpole of the bloody Bailey.
you forgot Judge Rinder! he's not a proper judge!  "
He actually is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Judgement is a stupid word in this context. It's not about judgement it's about risk of STDs. If you fucked certain site members then you increased your risk, simple as. By all means reassure people with a clean test though.
You obviously have never come across the well you met so and so. I don't like her so you're not meeting me.
If so and so did a bareback gangbang in a south african prison then i don't blame them. "
Nothing to do with sex. More to do with being bitchy. Your soon learn |
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"Judgement is a stupid word in this context. It's not about judgement it's about risk of STDs. If you fucked certain site members then you increased your risk, simple as. By all means reassure people with a clean test though.
You obviously have never come across the well you met so and so. I don't like her so you're not meeting me.
If so and so did a bareback gangbang in a south african prison then i don't blame them.
Nothing to do with sex. More to do with being bitchy. Your soon learn "
Ok but if you are best mates with Jeremey Corbyn then you aren't really likely to get along with Theresa Mays best mate. |
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting "
It's more 'off putting' to us as it looks like they have something to hide. We look at lots of things when deciding to meet someone and veris are one of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do what suits you, those that judge are not worth worrying about, remember most on here don't actually swing anyway, they are far too good for that  "
Some people say that they only meet people who meet other people who the first people mentioned in this sentence find attractive.
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I don't mind hidden verifcations x I do like to see summarys so know they meet
I don't show play verifications it's my business who I play with,I've past the judgement stage,I couldn't care less what others think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this true I have made mine private but someone said I won't get meets because I have been with loose women"
You chose to meet these women so you must have thought they were ok. If some people now refuse to see you or reject you because of who you have chosen to see in the past, do you really want to meet such biggoted and judgemental people?
This is meant to be a Swingers site. Those who would criticise you also criticise the majority of members. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Ok I will keep my verificstions private then as was told it is off putting
You will still get shit. You must be ashamed then. You must have met men etc. I've heard it all "
I was thinking the same as you.  |
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I havn't published all mine, couple have been from just social meets, and another couple from same person.
I do like to read someone's Veris though, then I'm nosey & check out the poster.
Think it just gives me a sense of the person while deciding whether to reply or not.
Completely hidden Veris would make me wonder why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can hide your veris, but might be a bit redundant if you should have verified the person you are trying to hide and your veri is visible to whoever may look at said profile, might just have been good advice you were given this time... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people find lots of veris a turn off. Others like lots of veris. Some won't care. We only meet guys who are well verified and we have our reasons for that. We would be unlikely to meet a guy who hides his verifications.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you should display your verifications and if the other people don't like who you've met then they aren't the right people for you.
I think it's better to be open and transparent for all involved |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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maybe it's just me but i always find a bit contradictory when people claim to be discreet and then show off many, many, many verifications ultimately looking like they had sex with half of the internet
They help and I see their value but I prefer consistency with what people say in their profile too
Still, I'll use them once I'll have some but I think they shouldn't be discriminatory items in either way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"maybe it's just me but i always find a bit contradictory when people claim to be discreet and then show off many, many, many verifications ultimately looking like they had sex with half of the internet
They help and I see their value but I prefer consistency with what people say in their profile too
Still, I'll use them once I'll have some but I think they shouldn't be discriminatory items in either way. "
When people say they are discreet it tends to be with regards to vanilla life i.e. they won't blab to someone's wife, kids or boss. The displaying of verifications is consentual therefore is not betraying anyone's privacy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a direct link between people allowing others to dictate to them how profile should be used and how happy they are on Fab.
You can't please everyone, you will never tick all the boxes all the time. Always be yourself and be proud of your profile.
If you're happy and having fun that is all that matters. If not then only then make changes.
Wanted to add something else, but can't remember the correct wording/phrase...
If it aint broken don't change it... or is it fix it...
You know what I mean ffs!
My posts never seem to come out the way I want these days... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I like to read what your last sexual partner(s) had to say about your performance and general demeanour... It's a factor in me deciding to have sex with someone I'm flirting with.
I'm not too up for reading about the last 100 people you had... though that's very hypocritical if me as I've had ruck loads of great sex with awesome people lol (that's as much as I'm willing to say on the matter!... tho I have also recently had my annual all clear health check too which helps me remain happy about my active sex life in general) |
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