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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi!  myself and Charlie have been on the site for over a year now and are still struggling to arrange a meet! Does anyone have any tips?
We are still very new to all of this so not quite at the stage of wanting to go to clubs as we don't really have the confidence yet!!
All advice would be much appreciated! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi! myself and Charlie have been on the site for over a year now and are still struggling to arrange a meet! Does anyone have any tips?
We are still very new to all of this so not quite at the stage of wanting to go to clubs as we don't really have the confidence yet!!
All advice would be much appreciated! "
Am I right in thinking you are looking for a female?
Firstly if you are you are looking for them along with many other couples and single males!
You have great photos, you could include some of the male. People want to see both.
Do you send messages out? |
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Are you contacting women or waiting for them to contact you? You're asking for someone to show you what you're missing but not saying what you can offer in return. Maybe add something into your profile that tells prospective meets what they have to look forward to.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hi! myself and Charlie have been on the site for over a year now and are still struggling to arrange a meet! Does anyone have any tips?
We are still very new to all of this so not quite at the stage of wanting to go to clubs as we don't really have the confidence yet!!
All advice would be much appreciated! Am I right in thinking you are looking for a female?
Firstly if you are you are looking for them along with many other couples and single males!
You have great photos, you could include some of the male. People want to see both.
Do you send messages out? "
Yes we would love to meet a nice female!
Thankyou! Ok maybe that's something we should change! We do have private photos of Charlie just not on the viewable part!
We send messages out quite a lot but don't receive many! Well of any! We used to have a lot of messages from males but that's just not what we are looking for unfortunately xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Looking for a single female and being fairly young are your obstacles, you need to be very pro active, update your profile to be more single girl friendly, network a bit more, maybe go to a club x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looking for a single female and being fairly young are your obstacles, you need to be very pro active, update your profile to be more single girl friendly, network a bit more, maybe go to a club x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option."
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Looking for a single female and being fairly young are your obstacles, you need to be very pro active, update your profile to be more single girl friendly, network a bit more, maybe go to a club x"
Thankyou! I just feel like we arent getting anywhere :[ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi! myself and Charlie have been on the site for over a year now and are still struggling to arrange a meet! Does anyone have any tips?
We are still very new to all of this so not quite at the stage of wanting to go to clubs as we don't really have the confidence yet!!
All advice would be much appreciated! "
You've blocked all men, that's why. 
If you've also blocked couples, then you are looking at a very narrow strip of land to descent.
Meet some couples first. You can also meet a man or two - someone with contacts who can introduce you to females .
Stay away from clubs. It's a filthy business there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option.
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x "
Meet me for a massage ( a pro masseur here), no obligation to play,and I'll verify you at once.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option.
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x
Meet me for a massage ( a pro masseur here), no obligation to play,and I'll verify you at once. "
Thankyou for your offer but the reason why we have blocked men is becuase we where receiving inappropriate messages from men when our profile does say we only want to meet women! So sorry but your just not what we are looking for! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Stay away from clubs. It's a filthy business there.
Is thst supposed to be tongue in cheek?"
I did think this although I can't comment as I've not been to clubs! But I've never heard anything bad about them?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option.
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x
Meet me for a massage ( a pro masseur here), no obligation to play,and I'll verify you at once.
Thankyou for your offer but the reason why we have blocked men is becuase we where receiving inappropriate messages from men when our profile does say we only want to meet women! So sorry but your just not what we are looking for! X "
But you've not blocked couples and you are not looking for them, maybe you think a couple may lend you the lady to play with? X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option.
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x
Meet me for a massage ( a pro masseur here), no obligation to play,and I'll verify you at once.
Thankyou for your offer but the reason why we have blocked men is becuase we where receiving inappropriate messages from men when our profile does say we only want to meet women! So sorry but your just not what we are looking for! X
But you've not blocked couples and you are not looking for them, maybe you think a couple may lend you the lady to play with? X"
We don't receive messages from couples though just men and the majority of them used to be crude and unnessercary that's the only reason why we blocked them and not couples
As I said we are still new to this so I appreciate your comments! Every little tip helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option.
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x
Meet me for a massage ( a pro masseur here), no obligation to play,and I'll verify you at once.
Thankyou for your offer but the reason why we have blocked men is becuase we where receiving inappropriate messages from men when our profile does say we only want to meet women! So sorry but your just not what we are looking for! X
But you've not blocked couples and you are not looking for them, maybe you think a couple may lend you the lady to play with? X
We don't receive messages from couples though just men and the majority of them used to be crude and unnessercary that's the only reason why we blocked them and not couples
As I said we are still new to this so I appreciate your comments! Every little tip helps "
As in life in general, there will always be people who would behave inappropriately.
But just because some men have been crass,don't assume we are all the same. You are married to a man after all. Surely, he isn't an exception for good manners and gentleness and whatever you like about him.
Fair enough, I know that "men" on here a pest. I receive messages from men even though I'm straight so I can understand how couples and single ladies feel.
As I said, meet a couple first. Set the boundaries that girl on girl only. You'll get your first veri + build contacts.
Best of luck!
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"You've been on a year and not got meet verified. Plus only looking for single ladies and it's going to be hard.
Head to a club asap is the best option.
That's the issue we can't get meet verified if we haven't found someone to meet! that's why I was asking for a little advice as I spose we have to start somewhere!, we aren't quite ready for the club scene yet, thankyou for your reply x
Meet me for a massage ( a pro masseur here), no obligation to play,and I'll verify you at once.
Thankyou for your offer but the reason why we have blocked men is becuase we where receiving inappropriate messages from men when our profile does say we only want to meet women! So sorry but your just not what we are looking for! X
But you've not blocked couples and you are not looking for them, maybe you think a couple may lend you the lady to play with? X
We don't receive messages from couples though just men and the majority of them used to be crude and unnessercary that's the only reason why we blocked them and not couples
As I said we are still new to this so I appreciate your comments! Every little tip helps "
You should try a club, but be prepared to keep trying. Unicorns are called unicorns for a reason. We've been lucky twice in the last 16 months and both times was through random chance while out.
So be open to striking out more than a few times. At the very least you'll get all fluffed up during the evening and fuck each other's brains out when you get home.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you find the notion of clubs daunting, and they really aren't at all be the way, maybe look for a fab organised social nearby - they are a great way to mix and get to know people on the scene.
I don't know many bi females who play with couples who go for profiles with no public pictures of the male half.
The 'show us what we're missing' comment would put me off - I don't really relish the notion of being someone's experiment.
Best of luck. HHx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you send out messages but don't receive replies you need to improve the content of your messages. I've recently started my solo profile again and the messages from couples made me weep - more so than the ones from men. Very unfeeling and "down to business", and generally writing as if I am interchangeable (they want a woman and any woman would do). There are so few single women willing to meet couples, you can afford to be personal - so leave the stock messages aside.
On the same vein you can expand your profile to say how you've arrived at wanting a mff, especially from the point of view of your lady. You are only bi-curious, I assume without experience and wanting to experiment? Tell your story and show your enthusiasm. My guess is that right now women read you as one of the many couples where the man is doing the driving, and the woman is not that interested or even entirely absent.
Pics of your man - as mentioned above, very very important. Do put some on public view, clothed/headless is fine if he's too conscious. Also pictures of you together - you are a couple after all and meeting together, and it's hot to see! Also freely sharing pics of the guy shows there's a woman in the couple, cos most men-led or male poser accounts only use the fem pictures as a bait.
You sound very sweet and look nice (she does at least - see what I mean?), open up a little bit and good luck.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you send out messages but don't receive replies you need to improve the content of your messages. I've recently started my solo profile again and the messages from couples made me weep - more so than the ones from men. Very unfeeling and "down to business", and generally writing as if I am interchangeable (they want a woman and any woman would do). There are so few single women willing to meet couples, you can afford to be personal - so leave the stock messages aside.
On the same vein you can expand your profile to say how you've arrived at wanting a mff, especially from the point of view of your lady. You are only bi-curious, I assume without experience and wanting to experiment? Tell your story and show your enthusiasm. My guess is that right now women read you as one of the many couples where the man is doing the driving, and the woman is not that interested or even entirely absent.
Pics of your man - as mentioned above, very very important. Do put some on public view, clothed/headless is fine if he's too conscious. Also pictures of you together - you are a couple after all and meeting together, and it's hot to see! Also freely sharing pics of the guy shows there's a woman in the couple, cos most men-led or male poser accounts only use the fem pictures as a bait.
You sound very sweet and look nice (she does at least - see what I mean?), open up a little bit and good luck.
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Thankyou for your reply! I will take all comments on board I think just becuase we are so new we don't know what people want unless it's trial and error! lol I see what you mean about the man driving it but to be honest it's mostly me (kate) as it's more my fantasy so I will deffo change they way we word things and our profile! Thanks again xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi! myself and Charlie have been on the site for over a year now and are still struggling to arrange a meet! Does anyone have any tips?
We are still very new to all of this so not quite at the stage of wanting to go to clubs as we don't really have the confidence yet!!
All advice would be much appreciated!
You've blocked all men, that's why.
If you've also blocked couples, then you are looking at a very narrow strip of land to descent.
Meet some couples first. You can also meet a man or two - someone with contacts who can introduce you to females .
Stay away from clubs. It's a filthy business there. "
Rubbish comment about clubs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know it sounds silly on a stingers site but take sextet of the table get to socials and clubs for the social aspects talk to people get your confidence up and then go for it x |
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A good idea if you want a female is to have a social with female part of couple, that way you can verify as genuine female. You could always try soft play with a couple and you only fuck your own partners. There are quite a few couple profiles where the guy just likes to watch and that may be another way! You could also arrange Skype with a voyeur male half of couple and have fun with the female.
You do not need to play if you attend a club, you can play privately in a room and be watched, you may find a female wanting to join. When couples only want female on female fun with your other half watching you are reducing the amount of people willing to play. Is your other half going to play with female too or just yourself?
Jayne xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I see it took a year for you guys to just get photo Verified
That's slow in anyone's book tbh!
People tend to think others are fake until there not!
Your getting good advise, but lots of your replys are, it's not for us or our thing,
Either change it up or Be very specific on what you like & put 100% into finding it!
It's up to you both to get what you like out of swinging,
Just my view! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I see it took a year for you guys to just get photo Verified
That's slow in anyone's book tbh!
People tend to think others are fake until there not!
Your getting good advise, but lots of your replys are, it's not for us or our thing,
Either change it up or Be very specific on what you like & put 100% into finding it!
It's up to you both to get what you like out of swinging,
Just my view! "
We have our reasons for not being verified as for a good nearly 7 months we did not see each other due to work reasons and Charlie being abroad! So something that couldn't be helped!
And I think we are allowed to be specific in what we like as like I would expect everyone on the site to have things they will or won't do or are still nervous about trying!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A good idea if you want a female is to have a social with female part of couple, that way you can verify as genuine female. You could always try soft play with a couple and you only fuck your own partners. There are quite a few couple profiles where the guy just likes to watch and that may be another way! You could also arrange Skype with a voyeur male half of couple and have fun with the female.
You do not need to play if you attend a club, you can play privately in a room and be watched, you may find a female wanting to join. When couples only want female on female fun with your other half watching you are reducing the amount of people willing to play. Is your other half going to play with female too or just yourself?
Jayne xx"
Thankyou for your reply! Your comments are really valid! I spose as we have never done this before we still don't really know what we want untill we try but we do want to start off slow with doing thing we definitely know we will enjoy! It's more my fantasy to be with a woman and my other half be watching but if we both feel comfortable I'm sure he will join in!
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By (user no longer on site)
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We just posted a very similar topic, most of the answers we were looking for have been listed in this one. It's not just us then! seems to be a challenge finding a lady to play. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We just posted a very similar topic, most of the answers we were looking for have been listed in this one. It's not just us then! seems to be a challenge finding a lady to play. "
Looking at your profile it's not clear what you want to do with couples, we kinda get the just swapping partners (it's boring most of the time) so we are assuming you want spit roast, DP, 2 girl one cock, girls in 69 while the guys fuck etc etc, imaginative play is that what you want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi! myself and Charlie have been on the site for over a year now and are still struggling to arrange a meet! Does anyone have any tips?
We are still very new to all of this so not quite at the stage of wanting to go to clubs as we don't really have the confidence yet!!
All advice would be much appreciated! "
try VA over the weekend , its a festival |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Try to attend a social of some sort. They happen quite frequently and will allow people to verify you as genuine and give their thoughts on you as a couple. That will allow single females to make their mind up about you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try to attend a social of some sort. They happen quite frequently and will allow people to verify you as genuine and give their thoughts on you as a couple. That will allow single females to make their mind up about you "
It's risky for a single fem to meet a profile that could potentially be anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would say you definitely need some pics of Mr if you want to meet as a threesome. Single girls want to see both halves of a couple!"
Otherwise it's a blind date! |
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On one of my first club visits I didn't play with anyone, just chatted and watched, and I wasn't drinking as I was driving. It was still an incredible night. The people there make it and there is never any pressure to do anything.
Just 2 months ago I started going to clubs and I was a shy nervous guy who would sit in the corner and stress about what ifs. NOW, well, im a fairly confident member who will chat with anyone and importantly for your case I have made a lot of friends with a lot of experience/advice.
My point is, clubs are daunting, however they are the most chilled out, friendly place I know.
Get yourself along. And good luck x |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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My advice would be to go to clubs and use that as a way to meet like mided potnetile meets (every Single man is now harrowing and standing at my door with a pitchfolk)
Clubs offer safe enviorments for couples and singles to play and get used to the scene, each club has different focus, vibe and atmosphere.
I have made some good even life freinds from clubs and private parties that I then have been subsiquently been invited too.
moral of the storey Do not feel like you have to fuck a stranger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It is very difficult more difficult than I imagined. Funnily I do ok as a single guy, it actually seems more difficult trying to find couples to meet with my fwb. I don't really have any tips as such because we struggle too but the thing that might put us off would be lack of pics of the guy. My fwb is straight so it's pretty important she fancies the male half of a couple! Good luck. |
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