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Arranged a meet and all is going well up until the last few hours. Then the male starts telling you what you will and will not do on your own meet.
Just had this today. We stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what we were looking to do. One guy stood out and we've been chatting as a build up to the meet this afternoon. He knew exactly what we were looking to do on the meet. Yet earlier today he started telling us that we had to basically change what we had planned from the outset, and if we did that he would still come round.
Excuse us! Are you some kind of God who we should bow down to in order for you to grace us with your presence. That's what we were sat thinking.
Bare faced cheek doesn't cover it. Another meet ruined by a selfish, self centered idiot.
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We have had a guy turn up, knowing full well he is going to be playing with me while hubby watch only. He calls to say he is outside and can I go to greet him. I obliged and hubby stood at the door, he then told me to get in the car and play on the drive as he was not into hubby being present!!! lol he was told to go forth and multiply lol |
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...starts telling you what you will and will not do ON YOUR OWN meet.
... WE stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what WE were looking to do.
...He knew exactly what WE were looking to do on the meet.
Some irony in this no? How dare he stipulate what he would like when it's YOUR meet... not his! And you have already demanded exactly what YOU want. He should be lucky to get it and bow down to you! Now he's spoiled YOUR meet! How dare he.
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"...starts telling you what you will and will not do ON YOUR OWN meet.
... WE stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what WE were looking to do.
...He knew exactly what WE were looking to do on the meet.
Some irony in this no? How dare he stipulate what he would like when it's YOUR meet... not his! And you have already demanded exactly what YOU want. He should be lucky to get it and bow down to you! Now he's spoiled YOUR meet! How dare he.
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lol not sure if your being sarcastic or genuine! Either way, when we arrange a meet, we ensure the guest or guests are aware of what we want from the meet. We will also cater for any requests from our guests as we are all in this together. If we, or they want to alter anything, then we can have a little sit down and talk it through and agree so all parties are happy with the idea and comfortable to proceed.  |
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"...starts telling you what you will and will not do ON YOUR OWN meet.
... WE stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what WE were looking to do.
...He knew exactly what WE were looking to do on the meet.
Some irony in this no? How dare he stipulate what he would like when it's YOUR meet... not his! And you have already demanded exactly what YOU want. He should be lucky to get it and bow down to you! Now he's spoiled YOUR meet! How dare he.
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If he knew what the meet was about and still wanted to be part of it then why is that a problem? He chose to say yes to these things before they chose to say yes to him and all had been discussed beforehand aswell, so ya know. If he had any problems then he should've said before sorting a meet right? Not just before going to one. Personally I would've assumed he was just looking for a way out  |
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"Sounds like the OP wanted it all their way, or no play. Surely that isn't fair to start with."
Anyone is within their right to stipulate the terms of a meet, people either take to it or don't. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
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I think the point is that there are a ton of single guys who will agree to whatever just to get laid so they are annoyed he then moved his goalposts.
In fairness if something is arranged and all agree (no matter whose terms they are) and if was changed last minute it would bug me..... |
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To be fair the OP stipulated from the offset what the arrangements were going to be. If the man didn't like it, that's when he should have walked away. Not pushing his own terms after it had already been discussed and agreed. |
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"...starts telling you what you will and will not do ON YOUR OWN meet.
... WE stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what WE were looking to do.
...He knew exactly what WE were looking to do on the meet.
Some irony in this no? How dare he stipulate what he would like when it's YOUR meet... not his! And you have already demanded exactly what YOU want. He should be lucky to get it and bow down to you! Now he's spoiled YOUR meet! How dare he.
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"Arranged a meet and all is going well up until the last few hours. Then the male starts telling you what you will and will not do on your own meet.
Just had this today. We stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what we were looking to do. One guy stood out and we've been chatting as a build up to the meet this afternoon. He knew exactly what we were looking to do on the meet. Yet earlier today he started telling us that we had to basically change what we had planned from the outset, and if we did that he would still come round.
Excuse us! Are you some kind of God who we should bow down to in order for you to grace us with your presence. That's what we were sat thinking.
Bare faced cheek doesn't cover it. Another meet ruined by a selfish, self centered idiot.
Rant over."
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"I think a meet should be a two way scenario, not one side stipulating what happens. Seems a bit unfair to the man does this OP. "
No it doesn't. The couple simply stated their likes and dislikes first. The guy had the chance to say No Thanks at the beginning.
And vice versa. The guy could have explained his likes and dislikes first and the couple would have had the opportunity to decline at the start. |
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"I think a meet should be a two way scenario, not one side stipulating what happens. Seems a bit unfair to the man does this OP.
No it doesn't. The couple simply stated their likes and dislikes first. The guy had the chance to say No Thanks at the beginning.
And vice versa. The guy could have explained his likes and dislikes first and the couple would have had the opportunity to decline at the start."
A two way scenario then.... |
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"I think a meet should be a two way scenario, not one side stipulating what happens. Seems a bit unfair to the man does this OP.
No it doesn't. The couple simply stated their likes and dislikes first. The guy had the chance to say No Thanks at the beginning.
And vice versa. The guy could have explained his likes and dislikes first and the couple would have had the opportunity to decline at the start.
A two way scenario then...."
Which it was, right up until the 11th hour when the guy decided to try and change the rules to which he had already agreed....
He probably only agreed because he was horny and didn't give a fuck how he got his rocks off.
Then he had a wank thinking about it, Once he'd cum, he suddenly realised he only agreed, because he was really horny and didn't give a fuck how he got his rocks off.  |
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Hi guys.
Thanks to those who are trying to place the blame (or part of) on us for being seemingly selfish in wanting to stick to the original plans of the meet.
We are open to discussing changes with anyone we are meeting. As has been said, a meet is a two way thing. But we posted for a very specific kind of meet, which this guy was all for. No questions, no hangups, no issues at all. This was the case right up until a couple of hours before the time the meet had been arranged. The male then started telling us what he would and would not let us do. That he would not be prepared to adhere to the original conditions of the meet. Not discussing, not coming to a mutual agreement. He was telling us.
We find being told what to do in our own home on a specific type of meet which had been agreed to unacceptable. Especially after he had happily agreed to everything beforehand. Do what I want and I'll still come over and fuck your Mrs doesn't do it for us. But evidently some of you on here find it perfectly acceptable?
Maybe we should have given in to his demands and let him come round anyway. And then when he decided he was going to ignore our boundaries let him carry on for fear of him walking out?
This scenario might sound a little extreme. But looking at some of your replies it will fit right in.
Why continue with a meet where you feel pressured and not 100% happy. From replies some of you seem prepared to do that, but not us. We won't apologise if that makes us black sheep.
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"Arranged a meet and all is going well up until the last few hours. Then the male starts telling you what you will and will not do on your own meet.
Just had this today. We stipulated very clearly when we posted for a meet what we were looking to do. One guy stood out and we've been chatting as a build up to the meet this afternoon. He knew exactly what we were looking to do on the meet. Yet earlier today he started telling us that we had to basically change what we had planned from the outset, and if we did that he would still come round.
Excuse us! Are you some kind of God who we should bow down to in order for you to grace us with your presence. That's what we were sat thinking.
Bare faced cheek doesn't cover it. Another meet ruined by a selfish, self centered idiot.
Rant over."
For me thats why decent single males get a bad rub on here ... surely the objective is for ALL PARTIES to get the pleasure they want from every meeting. If its only what the other person(s) want then why bother.
Mutual and if anything err towards giving more pleasures than receiving and you are likely to get a second invitation
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"Sounds like the OP wanted it all their way, or no play. Surely that isn't fair to start with.
Anyone is within their right to stipulate the terms of a meet, people either take to it or don't. "
Obviously, but the third party isn't there as a 'fuck toy', surely they deserve some say too. Then couples wonder why they don't always get singles. |
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"Hi guys.
Thanks to those who are trying to place the blame (or part of) on us for being seemingly selfish in wanting to stick to the original plans of the meet.
We are open to discussing changes with anyone we are meeting. As has been said, a meet is a two way thing. But we posted for a very specific kind of meet, which this guy was all for. No questions, no hangups, no issues at all. This was the case right up until a couple of hours before the time the meet had been arranged. The male then started telling us what he would and would not let us do. That he would not be prepared to adhere to the original conditions of the meet. Not discussing, not coming to a mutual agreement. He was telling us.
We find being told what to do in our own home on a specific type of meet which had been agreed to unacceptable. Especially after he had happily agreed to everything beforehand. Do what I want and I'll still come over and fuck your Mrs doesn't do it for us. But evidently some of you on here find it perfectly acceptable?
Maybe we should have given in to his demands and let him come round anyway. And then when he decided he was going to ignore our boundaries let him carry on for fear of him walking out?
This scenario might sound a little extreme. But looking at some of your replies it will fit right in.
Why continue with a meet where you feel pressured and not 100% happy. From replies some of you seem prepared to do that, but not us. We won't apologise if that makes us black sheep.
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Really curious. What were the meet roles? |
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"Sounds like the OP wanted it all their way, or no play. Surely that isn't fair to start with.
Anyone is within their right to stipulate the terms of a meet, people either take to it or don't.
Obviously, but the third party isn't there as a 'fuck toy', surely they deserve some say too. Then couples wonder why they don't always get singles."
Don't you think that the third party should make it known early on before agreeing to any specifics? You can't agree then change the terms at the 11th hour on either side, personally I like to know what's expected before agreeing to anything, if they choose to change the terms the. It would be my right as the attendee to cancel the meet based on these new terms, same as vice Verser. Someone being invited into a situation isn't IMO a "fuck-toy", but as a participant in an agreed situation. If the guy attending then decides he'd rather have 1-1 fun an wants hubby to leave, should that be acceptable if that wasn't the "plan"? |
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It sounds like the OP have a particular fetish going on which they advertised for and which the chap in question agreed to take part in. If he then says he won't do that and wants to do something different, they are quite within their rights to be pissed off.
For example, say they advertised for a guy willing to be dominated by them both, the bloke agreed to this and the day before said he wanted to dominate them. Hardly reasonable... |
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"We have had a guy turn up, knowing full well he is going to be playing with me while hubby watch only. He calls to say he is outside and can I go to greet him. I obliged and hubby stood at the door, he then told me to get in the car and play on the drive as he was not into hubby being present!!! lol he was told to go forth and multiply lol"
And this is why we get a bad name, why would someone do that to you?
I'd have no issue hubby watching as that's part of the fun. But to expect you to change last minute is out of order. |
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"I think the point is that there are a ton of single guys who will agree to whatever just to get laid so they are annoyed he then moved his goalposts.
In fairness if something is arranged and all agree (no matter whose terms they are) and if was changed last minute it would bug me....."
Exactly
Ive had woman try and do this to me and i see other peoples points but if he agreed to everything before tue meet amd tryed to change it when he arrives thats bang out of order |
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"I think the point is that there are a ton of single guys who will agree to whatever just to get laid so they are annoyed he then moved his goalposts.
In fairness if something is arranged and all agree (no matter whose terms they are) and if was changed last minute it would bug me.....
Exactly
Ive had woman try and do this to me and i see other peoples points but if he agreed to everything before tue meet amd tryed to change it when he arrives thats bang out of order"
Im only agreeing with the second half of that statement by the way |
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"Sounds like the OP wanted it all their way, or no play. Surely that isn't fair to start with.
Anyone is within their right to stipulate the terms of a meet, people either take to it or don't.
Obviously, but the third party isn't there as a 'fuck toy', surely they deserve some say too. Then couples wonder why they don't always get singles."
I do agree but from what ive read it sounds like all the details of the meet where stipulated and he agreed and then tried to change things once he arrived and that is a dick move
And shit like this is why singles guys get a bad rep |
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"Hi guys.
Thanks to those who are trying to place the blame (or part of) on us for being seemingly selfish in wanting to stick to the original plans of the meet.
We are open to discussing changes with anyone we are meeting. As has been said, a meet is a two way thing. But we posted for a very specific kind of meet, which this guy was all for. No questions, no hangups, no issues at all. This was the case right up until a couple of hours before the time the meet had been arranged. The male then started telling us what he would and would not let us do. That he would not be prepared to adhere to the original conditions of the meet. Not discussing, not coming to a mutual agreement. He was telling us.
We find being told what to do in our own home on a specific type of meet which had been agreed to unacceptable. Especially after he had happily agreed to everything beforehand. Do what I want and I'll still come over and fuck your Mrs doesn't do it for us. But evidently some of you on here find it perfectly acceptable?
Maybe we should have given in to his demands and let him come round anyway. And then when he decided he was going to ignore our boundaries let him carry on for fear of him walking out?
This scenario might sound a little extreme. But looking at some of your replies it will fit right in.
Why continue with a meet where you feel pressured and not 100% happy. From replies some of you seem prepared to do that, but not us. We won't apologise if that makes us black sheep.
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Exactly, your home, your rules. Your right to cancel if things turn a bit nasty.
You have the right to decide what they do and do not do to your body in your own home.
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It's pretty cut and dry. The rules of play had already been established, he knew exactly what they were, and he had the opportunity to agree, or disagree at that point, obviously he had agreed, or the meet would not have been set. No party has the right to change the rules at the last minute, he was totally at fault, in this situation. An oral agreement is still binding in this case, unless all parties concerned agree to change the original oral agreement to a new oral agreement prior to the meet. The couple were completely in their right to refuse to play, and to be upset at his deception. This guy was truly an
untrustworthy jerk, and the couple is much better off that they didn't play with this guy. My advice to the couple, find a "Gentleman" to play with. You can usually tell if a man is a gentleman by the way he speaks. Remember, all gentlemen are men, but all men are not gentlemen !!!!!! |
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"Sounds like the OP wanted it all their way, or no play. Surely that isn't fair to start with.
Anyone is within their right to stipulate the terms of a meet, people either take to it or don't.
Obviously, but the third party isn't there as a 'fuck toy', surely they deserve some say too. Then couples wonder why they don't always get singles."
So you're saying replying to a meet request and agreeing to the wishes of the hosts for that meet, then at the last minute the male saying he's not going to stick to the terms of the meet and laying down his own demands (not requests or discussion) is fine? And if you don't do what he wants he's not coming.
What was that you were saying about having a say so? Because he didn't give us one when he told us what we were and were not going to do on our own meet. |
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"Hi guys.
Thanks to those who are trying to place the blame (or part of) on us for being seemingly selfish in wanting to stick to the original plans of the meet.
We are open to discussing changes with anyone we are meeting. As has been said, a meet is a two way thing. But we posted for a very specific kind of meet, which this guy was all for. No questions, no hangups, no issues at all. This was the case right up until a couple of hours before the time the meet had been arranged. The male then started telling us what he would and would not let us do. That he would not be prepared to adhere to the original conditions of the meet. Not discussing, not coming to a mutual agreement. He was telling us.
We find being told what to do in our own home on a specific type of meet which had been agreed to unacceptable. Especially after he had happily agreed to everything beforehand. Do what I want and I'll still come over and fuck your Mrs doesn't do it for us. But evidently some of you on here find it perfectly acceptable?
Maybe we should have given in to his demands and let him come round anyway. And then when he decided he was going to ignore our boundaries let him carry on for fear of him walking out?
This scenario might sound a little extreme. But looking at some of your replies it will fit right in.
Why continue with a meet where you feel pressured and not 100% happy. From replies some of you seem prepared to do that, but not us. We won't apologise if that makes us black sheep.
Really curious. What were the meet roles? "
With all due respect that's a private matter. |
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