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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered? |
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"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"
I always like to know who the message has come from, so a sign off from mr or Mrs is always appreciated
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The majority of messages we get are addressed to me (f), that's followed by the ones addressed to Mr N and finally the least are addressed to us both.
As far as the forum goes I don't think it matters who's posting, my answers wouldn't change if it was the man or the woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.
Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.
Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply. |
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"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.
Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.
Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply."
Yup steer clear of them, they will have to satisfy me both of them are into the scene, have been messed around and led up the garden path by male parts of a 'couple' before, positive the women never exist or if they do they have no idea what's going on behind their back!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.
Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.
Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply
Yup steer clear of them, they will have to satisfy me both of them are into the scene, have been messed around and led up the garden path by male parts of a 'couple' before, positive the women never exist or if they do they have no idea what's going on behind their back!!
HG"
I think the 50 odd veris should confirm we are both happy in the scene
Mr P |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"
We will usually make it clear if it from both of us or one of us. However we do find it hard writing a message from both of us because we are different people with different personalities. We tend to move to Whatsapp quite promptly then it becomes obvious who is behind the message. That gives us a better chance to get our individual personalities and interests across.
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"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.
Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.
Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply
Yup steer clear of them, they will have to satisfy me both of them are into the scene, have been messed around and led up the garden path by male parts of a 'couple' before, positive the women never exist or if they do they have no idea what's going on behind their back!!
HG
I think the 50 odd veris should confirm we are both happy in the scene
Mr P"
My message certainly wasn't aimed at you
HG
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple
Mr P"
As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way. |
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"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple
Mr P
As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way. "
If you assume you're talking to both of them you can't go far wrong. If you were in a pub with a couple would you only talk to one of them and ignore the other?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple
Mr P
As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way.
If you assume you're talking to both of them you can't go far wrong. If you were in a pub with a couple would you only talk to one of them and ignore the other? "
No but some couples would have for example the male in control of the account so speaking towards the female would indicate you haven't read the profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are more careful nowadays as to who we are talking to in a couple after an incident in a club where the guy knew who we were but the lady certainly had no clue! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I like to know, if nothing else to show that both parties exist and are on board"
We fell for that nearly with a single guy "claiming" to be the other half by sending messages, he even went as far as changing the way he punctuated etc. Thing is in messaging you really don't have a clue, who wrote this message him or her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We started off looking on fabs, messaging and responding only together, but quickly realised this didn't work for us. If one of was at work while the other had time to perve, it was frustrating when either of us wanted to chat but had to wait for the other to come home. We've found that we have things to talk about when the other half gets back. We also feel that our trust and knowledge of each other has intensified and being so open means we don't feel there are any secrets between us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.
Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.
Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply."
The majority, if not most of the messages from us is by Mr because when we tried both using the site, we crossed messages. Due to work rotas, to confirm what to say, we would have to text each other thus doubling the work so she is happy to let Mr do the work. Plus, she's hopeless with checking the site.
Sometimes we arrange blokes for her to play solo so it looks like you would miss out !!!! |
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"I think from now on we will sign off although we obviously never hide anything from each other and if someone's messaged it's because we have both spoke about it and have both got an attraction or interest in whoever we are messaging be that a single or couple
Mr P
As a single male this is something I stuble across alot. I take time to read profiles but sometimes it's so awkward to bite the bullet and send a message to a couple as it's going to be one of hundreds and difficult to stand out. That being said knowing who is generally in charge of the profile is difficult if it's not clearly expressed as I like to direct my message to whoever is reading the profile as oppose to messaging as if it were a single female which i believe is probably rather common. As I'd be joining in their fun it's somewhat essential to be speaking in the correct way.
If you assume you're talking to both of them you can't go far wrong. If you were in a pub with a couple would you only talk to one of them and ignore the other?
No but some couples would have for example the male in control of the account so speaking towards the female would indicate you haven't read the profile"
Of course if the profile says address the male only then that's what you do. I just meant if it isn't clear address both |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I receive an initial message from a couple, I treat it as coming from them both, so my response is to both.
Although once we have started a proper conversation, it is helpful to be clear who I'm chatting with.
Sometimes you'll see a 'couples' profile, where only the male manages the account and does all the messaging. Those are the ones which won't get a reply.
The majority, if not most of the messages from us is by Mr because when we tried both using the site, we crossed messages. Due to work rotas, to confirm what to say, we would have to text each other thus doubling the work so she is happy to let Mr do the work. Plus, she's hopeless with checking the site.
Sometimes we arrange blokes for her to play solo so it looks like you would miss out !!!!"
We get round this by Peach deals with the single guys and girls, I deal with the couples and TV/TS. Then we have a fab meeting to discuss the days interactions.
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We put Jayne and Jon if female answering and Jon and Jayne if male answering as thought recipient would realise who is answering but would also remember we are a couple as some single guys seen to think messaging Jon about wanting to smash my back doors in whilst he watches is what I am looking for, it isn't 
....... Well it is but be polite about it! Ha!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we send a message it's normally from us both and signed off accordingly. Occasionally it will be from one or t'other so would sign that off from either Mr or Mrs. |
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It states clearly in our profile that I manage the account. First messages/replies that we send will be from both of us and sign off as such. once contact is established though I will deal with all messages and sign off as myself.
We're not huge chatters on here though, usually just prefer to establish contact and make arrangements to meet as soon as we can.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It states clearly in our profile that I manage the account. First messages/replies that we send will be from both of us and sign off as such. once contact is established though I will deal with all messages and sign off as myself.
We're not huge chatters on here though, usually just prefer to establish contact and make arrangements to meet as soon as we can.
Mr"
Same here, but weve found most people want to chat every night on here, then on kik, then on......... so on and so on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"
Do whatever you want, I do.
If people care that much they can always ask
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"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"
I always think it is best to let the other person know who they are chatting with. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
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We, yes we, are on here as a couple, yes couple. We, yes we, always message folk as a couple. A message is sent on behalf of both of us and if we, yes we, message a couple we address them as both, never, either or
Enjoying life, F and B |
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Not a huge problem, we tend to still be dressed and in a safe place before meeting people, so no point in them pretending to be what they are not.
Always nice to know exactly who you're chatting with though (and I wouldnt hide/pretend) from my point of view.
Mr Ppa and D |
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"We are both very active on our account with sending messages and replying to others, do people prefer it when a message is signed off by either Mrs P or Mr P so they know who sent the message or are people not bothered?"
We always message together, but if getting a message from a couple and it's just one half then would be nice to know! |
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