It should be very personal to yourselves. It may start off as kissing only, up to anything but full penetration. Just remember to enjoy it, don't just do it to tick a bucket list, do it because it feels right and good for both of you.
Good luck and enjoy.
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Soft swing is what you negotiate with the people you're meeting. For us it's very different to what it would be for another person or couple.
If your partner wants to take it slowly have a chat about what she would be comfortable with and if you're in agreement (never forget this is about both of you) either put it on your profile or tell prospective meets in a preliminary message. That way nobody gets any unwelcome surprises and people can choose whether they want to meet you based on that.
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Like a few others here we are soft swing only and our boundaries are very simple, we go for everything including kissing but not full sex with the other people we are playing with. Setting this limit has restricted who we can play with to some degree but we have had some incredible fun with some amazing people.
It is important you set your boundaries before you go to a club and don't change them in the heat of the moment.
enjoy your first visit and give us a shout if you go to Chams!
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"New to this ? You have been here 'over a year' ?
What's that got to do with anything"
As in their opening post was asking for advice, as they were 'new to all this'. Being a member for over a year, hardly qualifies as 'being new'. Hence my question  |
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Being on the site does not mean you engage fully with other people, it can take people ages to get the nerve to take things beyond talking & reading. We talked, thought about what we wanted, went to a club, realised we didn't really know, talked some more, went to a club and played on our own, then met a couple and guy and fooled around, then talked, met a guy, talked, met a couple and soft swung, talked and met a guy for a 3sum.
It is hard to know what you are comfortable with, some leap in with legs akimbo  others are more tentative. For us stopping when we want more has worked better than doing something we didn't know the other would be happy with.
After a couple of years though we now know that pretty much anything other than bb and seperate rooms works for us 
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"Like a few others here we are soft swing only and our boundaries are very simple, we go for everything including kissing but not full sex with the other people we are playing with. Setting this limit has restricted who we can play with to some degree but we have had some incredible fun with some amazing people.
It is important you set your boundaries before you go to a club and don't change them in the heat of the moment.
enjoy your first visit and give us a shout if you go to Chams!
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Completely agree on it being mildly restrictive but as you say, it seems to enhance the meetings you do have |
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"What is the actual point of soft swing ?
Lol, you do your thing and we will do ours x"
 we normally full swap but have had great fun with fab friends who only soft swap.
Also, although 90% of the time we full swap, we wouldn't meet someone who says they will only full swap, it just looks like they expect and demand full swap.
Have fun however you play x
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"What is the actual point of soft swing ?"
For us there is a great thrill in seeing your other half being pleasured by another person. Not much is really ruled out in terms of what can be done, maybe DP/DVP but it just that when it comes to full sex it will be your partner doing the deed rather than the other person.
There is nothing stopping the female being 'spit roasted' or the male pleasing two women at once or for that matter two women pleasing the male halves. It all comes down to how imaginative you can be. |
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"What is the actual point of soft swing ?"
Serious question? Do you only ever have penetrative sex then and never come in any different ways? We orgasm in many ways, would you still say to us what's the point in oral sex?? |
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