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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I split up with my long term female partner a couple of years ago. I'm now a crossdresser, for lack of a better description, and bi-curious (on my profile also!)
I was told that you can catch oral herpes and maybe hepatitis from kissing and condoms are supposedly also not completely effective at preventing STDs. So what is playing safe?
Am I supposed to get checked at a sexual health clinic and ask for the same from anyone interested in me? It seems very impersonal and unlikely to make meeting someone any easier given that I'm already not really "mainstream". So how do people protect themselves? |
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By *eek12Man
over a year ago
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Perk of being military I get checked every 6 months, or more if I think something is wrong. I expect people to take a conscious role in making sure our community is as safe as it can be. I wouldn't ask for more than I expect from myself, that being said we all make decisions we might regret in the moment. |
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The only completely safe option is celibacy, so we generally choose a level of risk that we can deal with.
Statistically, the chances of contracting any type of STI from kissing is minute, and not much higher from oral. We are perfectly happy to accept the very small risks involved with unprotected kissing and oral... but only you can decide what level of risk you are happy with.
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"I split up with my long term female partner a couple of years ago. I'm now a crossdresser, for lack of a better description, and bi-curious (on my profile also!)
I was told that you can catch oral herpes and maybe hepatitis from kissing and condoms are supposedly also not completely effective at preventing STDs. So what is playing safe?
Am I supposed to get checked at a sexual health clinic and ask for the same from anyone interested in me? It seems very impersonal and unlikely to make meeting someone any easier given that I'm already not really "mainstream". So how do people protect themselves?"
I keep safe on fab by being male. |
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"condoms are supposedly also not completely effective at preventing STDs. So what is playing safe?"
They are the only thing we've got outside of abstinence, unless you demand a current STI test certificate from every meet you have and those are only accurate for 3-4weeks before the test-pretty impractical, don't you agree.
As the other poster said it up to you to decide the acceptable level of risk your prepared to accept.
Discuss it with the EXPERTS at the GUM clinic -they are nice and friendly. |
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""condoms are supposedly also not completely effective at preventing STDs. So what is playing safe?"
They are the only thing we've got outside of abstinence, unless you demand a current STI test certificate from every meet you have and those are only accurate for 3-4weeks before the test-pretty impractical, don't you agree.
As the other poster said it up to you to decide the acceptable level of risk your prepared to accept.
Discuss it with the EXPERTS at the GUM clinic -they are nice and friendly. "
2 condoms... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""condoms are supposedly also not completely effective at preventing STDs. So what is playing safe?"
They are the only thing we've got outside of abstinence, unless you demand a current STI test certificate from every meet you have and those are only accurate for 3-4weeks before the test-pretty impractical, don't you agree.
As the other poster said it up to you to decide the acceptable level of risk your prepared to accept.
Discuss it with the EXPERTS at the GUM clinic -they are nice and friendly.
2 condoms..."
and barrier cream lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perk of being military I get checked every 6 months, or more if I think something is wrong. I expect people to take a conscious role in making sure our community is as safe as it can be. I wouldn't ask for more than I expect from myself, that being said we all make decisions we might regret in the moment."
I do ask about tests with everyone I play with as I'd also expect them to ask me. I'll show them my txt results. If they take offence then they're probably not going to be meeting me further. Everyone has their own risk level with which they are happy with. This is mine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Thanks for the replies: certainly some food for thought in there. It's been a long time since I was "looking" and a lot has changed for me too I guess. I think I've just gotten a little overly paranoid! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perk of being military I get checked every 6 months, or more if I think something is wrong. I expect people to take a conscious role in making sure our community is as safe as it can be. I wouldn't ask for more than I expect from myself, that being said we all make decisions we might regret in the moment.
I do ask about tests with everyone I play with as I'd also expect them to ask me. I'll show them my txt results. If they take offence then they're probably not going to be meeting me further. Everyone has their own risk level with which they are happy with. This is mine."
I dont ask people about tests ... waste of my time ... test only guarantees someone was std free at the point of the test ... depending on when they had sex before / after its probably already out of date on the day they got the results ... also my clinic don't send texts you get a number to call with a pin to put in along with date of birth ... would i hell be giving that out to people
Much prefer to rely on myself for my sexual health by using protection and having regular check ups if i have been playing
Its a bit like tooth decay really ... if you eat sweets you increased your chances ... but you dont just avoid sweets forever ... you do what you can to minimise chance of damage |
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"Thanks for the replies: certainly some food for thought in there. It's been a long time since I was "looking" and a lot has changed for me too I guess. I think I've just gotten a little overly paranoid! "
Yeah I think you have too .
If you're seriously concerned about kissing then maybe you should look at a more discerning site than this ?
We play bare with kissing / oral etc..... and only use condoms for penetration . We share cum , and enjoy full on uninhibited play . Especially with TVs as they are generally more on our level - very naughty and filthy which we love .
We get checked ever 6 to 8'weeks , have had the hep jabs and look after our own sexual health .
So far with hundreds of meets under our belts , we've been clear .
No point doing this if you're gonna be worrying about catching sti's every time you play . |
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