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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is down to you whether you do or not. Personally I think that if you and someone have been chatting and struck up a rapport any disability you have should not matter as it does not define the person that you are. Just my opinion. Xx |
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By *ot40sCouple
over a year ago
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Having a disability is nothing to be ashamed about and it's down to how comfortable you are with the person you are meeting before you tell them personal info so only share if your comfortable!
It's their problem not yours if they have an issue with it
Personally it wouldn't bother us
So good luck |
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I think if you feel it needs to be mentioned, or if it's something mega obvious like missing a limb, then go ahead. If it's something subtle then you don't need to unless it will affect play.
That being said, don't let it define you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "
I think they do on here it a real shame..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. I think they do on here it a real shame.. "
This place is full of narrow mindedness. Laughable. |
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"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "
its nothing to do with acceptance. If it was a disability that would affect a meet then you have a right to know beforehand. If its something not obvious or likely to affect a meet then there is no need to mention it
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. its nothing to do with acceptance. If it was a disability that would affect a meet then you have a right to know beforehand. If its something not obvious or likely to affect a meet then there is no need to mention it"
Maybe you have a point, but I still feel people will make false preconceptions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lack of honesty is most fabbers pet hate so not mentioning your disability might end up backfiring on you if they find out when u meet its not like you can get naked and say by the way you should know I,m...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for your honest opinion. I have spina bifida and walk with crutches"
I'm curious- you don't have to answer. But why not put that in your profile? It says 'disabled' but that could mean anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for your honest opinion. I have spina bifida and walk with crutches"
If I were you, I'd say I walk with crutches. Or have a photo of you using crutches. *Why* you use them is no one's business and completely irrelevant to having a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. I think they do on here it a real shame..
This place is full of narrow mindedness. Laughable."
Why is not wanting to meet a disabled person 'laughable' or 'narrow-minded'?
I wouldn't meet a short, fat, old man; is that too 'laughable' or 'narrow-minded'?
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Unless it affects your sexual performance I wouldn't mention it.
There are some shallow minded people on this site and it's nothing to do with them if it does not affect your sexual performance.
Good luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless it affects your sexual performance I wouldn't mention it.
There are some shallow minded people on this site and it's nothing to do with them if it does not affect your sexual performance.
Good luck OP "
Is not wanting to meet Asians broad-minded?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All mute points if we don't know the disability! Don't you think? "
He already said it's spina bifida. You are are right in that it can vary on a case by case basis. An it would make it a 'moot point' but that's a completely different discussion. |
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"You shouldn't have to disclose it. People should accept you the way you are. If they have an issue with it, then that's them with the problem. "
They might have the problem, but people meet or don't meet for all manner of subtle reasons.
I'm 48 and so wouldnt get meets with lots of 25 year olds. I can't say they should just accept me as I am and not disclose my age.
I'm sure the op has lots going for him that others don't, hiding something of significant relevance to a meet isn't right on anyone. |
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"Unless it affects your sexual performance I wouldn't mention it.
There are some shallow minded people on this site and it's nothing to do with them if it does not affect your sexual performance.
Good luck OP
Is not wanting to meet Asians broad-minded?
- Mrs. J -"
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