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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
it just saves time its rude but that make decisions and block stops several messages asking why ,you will have to get used to it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me.it just saves time its rude but that make decisions and block stops several messages asking why ,you will have to get used to it "
they not that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Coz some people get really abusive if you say you don't want further contact so it saves all the crap. Don't worry about it, total stranger clicking a button, so insignificant. |
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
I do it for one of a few reasons.
1)They've lied to me.
2)They've pestered me (women get inundated on here at times I can reply to someone and they reply straight away, but it might take me ages to get back to them), if I get repeated messages it just pisses me off, I'm here looking for fun and to mooch on the forums, not be at a virtual strangers beck and call and have them expect me to answer for myself.
3)They haven't listened when I have said no to something or to them
4)They slip up and mention a girlfriend/wife |
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me.
I do it for one of a few reasons.
1)They've lied to me.
2)They've pestered me (women get inundated on here at times I can reply to someone and they reply straight away, but it might take me ages to get back to them), if I get repeated messages it just pisses me off, I'm here looking for fun and to mooch on the forums, not be at a virtual strangers beck and call and have them expect me to answer for myself.
3)They haven't listened when I have said no to something or to them
4)They slip up and mention a girlfriend/wife"
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
Because you might have innocently offended
Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
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The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of (not all) guys/girls/couples get abusive when they're rejected. By blocking with no further contact, it's a means of ensuring that abuse doesn't arrive.
You just have to accept it and move on. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department"
it's good manners to tell someone they're boring as fuck?  |
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department"
We get it all the time and usually from couples.. only we usually get a wink then we send a message and we are blocked straight away ..you will get used to xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find if you tell people you don't want to meet they want to know the reason why, but it's nsa not relationships so shouldn't have to give a reason really. The whole point of chatting is to see if you want to meet, socially or sexually. I think saying sorry you're not for me then blocking is ok. They aren't boyfriends or girlfriend's XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department
it's good manners to tell someone they're boring as fuck? "
There's something I need to tell you.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department"
I don't agree, it's not bad manners to tell them. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department
it's good manners to tell someone they're boring as fuck?
There's something I need to tell you..... "
me? i already know i'm boring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department
it's good manners to tell someone they're boring as fuck?
There's something I need to tell you.....
me? i already know i'm boring. "
No.. me really...  |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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Because what's the point in telling someone you no longer wish to chat that they've bored you, you've gone off them etc.
It's not so baffling really
The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department
it's good manners to tell someone they're boring as fuck?
There's something I need to tell you.....
me? i already know i'm boring.
No.. me really... "
their loss. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department"
Its also good manners to read a profile, and to send halfway decent messages, yet so many people can't be bothered.
OP, you'll never know why they blocked you, so forget them and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah unfortunately, few times I had more messages asking why before id finished typing "not interested" .
A feed back system would be good idea?
Maybe to help folk with there messages ect as some, much like myself struggles to message people . |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
Personally, I find it easier to block BEFORE I chat to someone that I don't want to meet.  |
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
Take it you never had a meet where someone's blocked straight after that then if the just chatting and blocking baffles you how would you cope with that?
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"I do it for one of a few reasons."
1)They've lied to me.
2)They've pestered me too much
3)They haven't listened when I have said no to something or to them
4)They slip up and mention a girlfriend/wife
5)The say something really crude/shocking/gross |
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"Yeah unfortunately, few times I had more messages asking why before id finished typing "not interested" .
A feed back system would be good idea?
Maybe to help folk with there messages ect as some, much like myself struggles to message people ."
So not only do we have to deal with all the unwanted messages, we have to give feedback on them? 
A very high proportion of the time it's not the message but the profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah unfortunately, few times I had more messages asking why before id finished typing "not interested" .
A feed back system would be good idea?
Maybe to help folk with there messages ect as some, much like myself struggles to message people .
So not only do we have to deal with all the unwanted messages, we have to give feedback on them?
A very high proportion of the time it's not the message but the profile "
like an optional anonymous feedback |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The point in telling someone is that it's basically good manners, but there's many on here who are sadly lacking in that department
Its also good manners to read a profile, and to send halfway decent messages, yet so many people can't be bothered.
OP, you'll never know why they blocked you, so forget them and move on."
I wanna know why they blocked him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
We've been talking to a couple on here for a few days swapped numbers arranged a meet for Saturday. They even sent a screen shot of the hotel they booked (witch we were going to give half to) last few messages on WhatsApp was us all flirting then nothing they've blocked us on here and on WhatsApp. They were verified by a few people so everything seemed genuine. Nothing was said that could of upset them. Baffles us what goes on in people's mines |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
The block is all the feedback you need fella. Consider it, recalibrate and move on.
Put another way what good would them saying "I don't want to chat anymore" do for you?
If you messaged them back the outcome wouldn't change so it's the same outcome both ways.
It's strangers, accept, consider and move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We chatted and blocked a guy yesterday. Our profile states 3 dates when we can meet, we can't meet short notice and we don't accept friend requests unless we've met.
So the messages started and the guy wanted to meet tonight. So we asked him to read our profile for what we had in mind. We asked him if he read our he profile and he said yes and sent a friend request. So we deleted his request, told him why and the 3 dates. Asked him which of the he 3 dates and he said, "Tonight". Then another friend request came through.
So we deleted every message and blocked him. So he either did it as a wind up he's lost touch with the mothership.
There's a real life example on why we chat and block because the guy deserved it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me."
I blocked a guy this morning,yes we were chatting away,and yes, someone we may have been interested n meeting ,then next thing he sends a friend invite.our profile tells people we won't accept unless we have met.no exceptions.if they can't respect a few words on our profile, how would we expect any form of respect should we meet? All they want is to nosey private pics, no intention of taking things further.some people are best just ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually explain politely they are not for me, I wish them well then block them. That way I'm explaining, being polite but stopping any abuse. "
Surely this is the best way, yesterday I was in an in depth conversation with someone messages going back and forth, no unintentional insults and then all of a sudden........blocked. I personally believe in polite explanation then move on, then block if said person gets abusive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me.
I blocked a guy this morning,yes we were chatting away,and yes, someone we may have been interested n meeting ,then next thing he sends a friend invite.our profile tells people we won't accept unless we have met.no exceptions.if they can't respect a few words on our profile, how would we expect any form of respect should we meet? All they want is to nosey private pics, no intention of taking things further.some people are best just ignored."
It's an innocent mistake. We've made that mistake a few times too. We thought we'd read the profile, but guess we'd missed the sentence that said don't send friend requests. We just apologised when our error was pointed out, and we were a lot more careful once we learnt that some people have this rule. We'd have been mortified if anybody had thought we were disrespectful.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The reading profiles is a good point. Maybe the other read the bottom of OPs profile, where he is honest about being married. Maybe not for them, but hadn't realised in earlier messages etc?
Whatever reason...they decided you were not actually for them...so best to move on. (Could have even been a guy/fake profile just stringing you along).
Start again.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me.
I blocked a guy this morning,yes we were chatting away,and yes, someone we may have been interested n meeting ,then next thing he sends a friend invite.our profile tells people we won't accept unless we have met.no exceptions.if they can't respect a few words on our profile, how would we expect any form of respect should we meet? All they want is to nosey private pics, no intention of taking things further.some people are best just ignored.
It's an innocent mistake. We've made that mistake a few times too. We thought we'd read the profile, but guess we'd missed the sentence that said don't send friend requests. We just apologised when our error was pointed out, and we were a lot more careful once we learnt that some people have this rule. We'd have been mortified if anybody had thought we were disrespectful.
Mrs"
He had looked at the profile many times during the conversation.I've sent friend invites myself by accident,stubby fingers on touchscreen,it happens,but always messaged the person afterwards once i made my mistake.
No,this guy was yr typical male on fab,doesn't care for the wishes of others.it's all about him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people on here chat and then block.
If you don't want to chat any more then just say so.
The people on here baffle me.
I blocked a guy this morning,yes we were chatting away,and yes, someone we may have been interested n meeting ,then next thing he sends a friend invite.our profile tells people we won't accept unless we have met.no exceptions.if they can't respect a few words on our profile, how would we expect any form of respect should we meet? All they want is to nosey private pics, no intention of taking things further.some people are best just ignored.
It's an innocent mistake. We've made that mistake a few times too. We thought we'd read the profile, but guess we'd missed the sentence that said don't send friend requests. We just apologised when our error was pointed out, and we were a lot more careful once we learnt that some people have this rule. We'd have been mortified if anybody had thought we were disrespectful.
Mrs
He had looked at the profile many times during the conversation.I've sent friend invites myself by accident,stubby fingers on touchscreen,it happens,but always messaged the person afterwards once i made my mistake.
No,this guy was yr typical male on fab,doesn't care for the wishes of others.it's all about him."
That's true, it's usually obvious if a man is disrespectful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What we find is -
1) Those who don't read your profile. Their message becomes a list of stupid questions.
2) One liners. "Thought I would say hi". Could take 6 years tohave a meaningful conversation at that rate.
3) The copy and pasters. They turn into our "immediate block candidate"
4) The "up themselvers". You just know straight away who these are.
We make full use of the block option. So when we do searches in the future, these characters don't reappear. |
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