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Most women read the profile before even opening the message. If the profile is boring, shows no personality or originality then the chances are the guy is boring and uninspired between the sheets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's real
You've got to learn to pander, beg and generally do exactly what you are told on here, don't expect any response from messages and remember you are one of literally hundreds chasing 1 lady, if you think it will be easy, better think again, however you may increase your 1% chance of meeting to 2% by taking better pictures, adding more text to your profile and generally making it lady friendly, if you think it's worth the effort then go for it...... |
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely "
You need to outline in your profile what you want and what you have to offer and engage your target audience.
It works fine for me |
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It's very real though it might have a warped perception to someone that using a can of carling as a mobile phone 
Seriously and being straight to the point the few words you've used in you're profile just says to me I'm that desperate for sex I'll fuck anything so you messaging wouldn't be seen as a compliment
Try to think about what really attracts you to someone and put that in your profile as what you're looking for in a play partner, then think about what you have have to offer your meets that sets you apart from the hundreds of other men that's possibly messaged her that day and word that in There as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most women read the profile before even opening the message. If the profile is boring, shows no personality or originality then the chances are the guy is boring and uninspired between the sheets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely "
Women are still women, regardless of being on this site. We're not going to contact or meet a man who gives us nothing to work with, in terms of photos and profile text. Sell yourself. Don't leave it up to ladies; we have too much choice.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy "
You need to stand out from the 1000s of other guys
At the moment you don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely "
it comes across as 'any hole will do' major put off to loads of fems... casual sex it may be, but no-one wants to feel as if they could be just anyone..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy
You need to stand out from the 1000s of other guys
At the moment you don't "
He does but maybe not for the reasons he would think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely "
In what way . . . well, it is boring, says nothing different from what 10,000 other single guys' profiles say. If you want to stand out from the crowd, inject a little personality into it? More photos as well - good luck x |
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely
It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know."
Exactly, can't see why you're not inundated with requests to meet up.
After all, your profile clearly lets us all know you have a sense of humor, a personality, and are someone who would go that extra mile to make us smile langourously after each orgasm.
I'm sure that you would never fuck and run, have lots to talk and laugh about between sessions in bed, and would be a delight to spend time with.
Or not.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely
It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely
It's perfect, tells me everything I need to know.
Exactly, can't see why you're not inundated with requests to meet up.
After all, your profile clearly lets us all know you have a sense of humor, a personality, and are someone who would go that extra mile to make us smile langourously after each orgasm.
I'm sure that you would never fuck and run, have lots to talk and laugh about between sessions in bed, and would be a delight to spend time with.
Or not.
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"It's real
You've got to learn to pander, beg and generally do exactly what you are told on here, don't expect any response from messages and remember you are one of literally hundreds chasing 1 lady, if you think it will be easy, better think again, however you may increase your 1% chance of meeting to 2% by taking better pictures, adding more text to your profile and generally making it lady friendly, if you think it's worth the effort then go for it......"
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely "
if that is how you truely feel.... i would suggest you are probably on the wrong site....
brutal but honest....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks to everyone for the advice had a rewrite I was misinformed about this site will do some more pictures in a bit thanks "
How were you misinformed? I'm curious about that. |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
"Thanks to everyone for the advice had a rewrite I was misinformed about this site will do some more pictures in a bit thanks "
The person who "misinformed" you, are they very successful on here? If they are it may be worth looking at their profile to see how well they stand out from the thousands of other men and how well they sell themselves as someone worth meeting instead of just using a dildo (that's all your competition too).
If you were expecting a site full of women with their knickers dropped ready for any man to come and use them, this isn't the site for you. Here you actually have to make some effort to attract women to talk to you let alone anywhere near them, and you have a *lot* of competition! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As I said I've had a rewrite I was misinformed by a non memeber was just told it's like other sites was clearly wrong anyways thanks for the information |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you haven't specifically asked for a profile critique, I can not give one.
That said, whereas you think your profile is brief and to the point, others may feel that it lacks effort, originality and anything that makes you stand out from the thousands of other guys on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I said I've had a rewrite I was misinformed by a non memeber was just told it's like other sites was clearly wrong anyways thanks for the information "
'just like other sites' - tbf.. this is just like a lot of other sites.. its also like real life... few women drop their knix at a 1 liner or 2..... there usually needs to be some sort of connection.......
also as pointed out by others, punctuation needed in profile text.. gave up reading after 2nd line of re-write.... couldnt breathe...... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
the culture seems to be minimum effort for maximum rewards.... but when that doesn't work, and you point out said "minimum effort".. its like its being used as some sort of cheap alternative to a brothel or the cards in the telephone box.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks"
You have to learn what a full stop "." is and use them accordingly.
Your profile is painful to read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try putting what you have to offer a single woman or a couple. I would maybe paragraph a little too as some people simply want to skim read and currently it looks unorganised and quite rambly |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Milton Keynes and Northampton has lots to offer chap. I am from Norh Bucks and love it on here. "
sweet point me In the right direction then gone way off course I think
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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at the moment your profile is almost unreadable..i'd give up 2 lines in im afraid..try taking a very deep breath and reading it aloud to yourself, and see how far you get..it will give you an idea of how hard it is to read.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be yourself OP if you feel the need to write a huge essay about yourself that most women wont even bother to read but expect you to read theirs then do.
Or you could play it how YOU want to it's your profile.
I have only a few lines on mine and do ok so take no notice most are not looking for a husband of this. |
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"Milton Keynes and Northampton has lots to offer chap. I am from Norh Bucks and love it on here. sweet point me In the right direction then gone way off course I think"
Don't send out loads of messages. Take some time to look for someone who you believe is looking for the same thing as you.
If you meet their requirements and like the look of them send them a tailored message with an injection of humour.
Then delete the sent message so you don't get hung up on them reading and deleting it.
Sit back relax and if you don't get a reply move on.
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks"
Aim your profile at the ladies and what you can offer to give them a great time in bed with you
Think of your self as a salesman and what you are selling is yourself, what are the benefits of meeting you that the other 100 guys don't have,
If you concentrate on the ladies pleasure you will get your fun as a result  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences "
What if he doesn't mind what age or size someone is? That doesn't make him desperate, just not bothered by age or size of someone. People drone on about liking peoples' personalities being important on here, and not the looks or age, yet he's being told he should be bothered by someone's size or age. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences
What if he doesn't mind what age or size someone is? That doesn't make him desperate, just not bothered by age or size of someone. People drone on about liking peoples' personalities being important on here, and not the looks or age, yet he's being told he should be bothered by someone's size or age."
Exactly I don't care what they look like or there size doesn't make me desperate if I and the person meet have the desire to fuck each other senseless then so be it be they big small medium whatever doesn't matter |
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We only message people we find utterly and severely attractive, but also only if the profile text is interesting to us and matches our wants.
But we don't always get responses either. It doesn't mean the site isn't real and it sure doesn't reflect directly on you (unless your messages are horrifically insulting which I'm sure they aren't). What it does reflect is that you're a single guy looking for women and those women get hundreds of messages a week and can't reply to everyone all the time, and also perhaps are more interested in other things.
If you're truly invested in the idea of playing freely, you have to take the bad times with the good. It's not all naked fun all the time. Sometimes a little patience is all you need. There are some people here who have had years worth of patience. But in the meantime, be active on the forums, go into the chat rooms, go to some socials/meets/clubs and enjoy the atmosphere of what is one of the best scene's we've ever been a part of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences
What if he doesn't mind what age or size someone is? That doesn't make him desperate, just not bothered by age or size of someone. People drone on about liking peoples' personalities being important on here, and not the looks or age, yet he's being told he should be bothered by someone's size or age."
Good point. As with these sorts of threads, there's always going to be contradictory 'advice' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe lose a few of the 'j
Jokey' pics too
I have no jokey pics in there I had to cover the faces on my newest as that's what the rules state"
why not try cropping your mates out then?  |
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks"
I don't know what the problem is either - you had a very polite response and thanks. What more could you ask for?
I'm guessing sex with a variety of ladies......ah now, that's the crux of the issue really, ain't it just?
"How do I get lots of sex with lots of ladies?"
Don't know. I don't know you. I for one when I read someone is 'ace in bed' I think "why the need to say it then?" - confident people don't brag - they have no need.
Photos......profile.......messaging - thems the clues. Timing......location.......audience - thems more clues.
Have a think. |
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy "
This is the problem with some men on here, I said some!
There are some really lovely polite non pressuring men on here. Men like OP give the good ones better opportunities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy
This is the problem with some men on here, I said some!
There are some really lovely polite non pressuring men on here. Men like OP give the good ones better opportunities. "
Someone isn't getting a Xmas card  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just be yourself OP if you feel the need to write a huge essay about yourself that most women wont even bother to read but expect you to read theirs then do.
Or you could play it how YOU want to it's your profile.
I have only a few lines on mine and do ok so take no notice most are not looking for a husband of this. "
from the guy who loves himself so much he has to hide his profile lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Treat your profile as your shop window. Would you want to go into your shop based on what is in your window?
PTU xxx "
I would, my shop is sexy! Even if I do say so myself.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure if you've read through your profile OP, but it reads incredibly badly. Your photos are ok. Nice face. Doesn't really show sex appeal though, and coming across as sexy is very important. Not sure in what way you were misinformed about this site and why you were told it was similar to other site. Other swing site probably yes. Dating sites, probably not similar. I'm suspecting you are more interested in one-to-one sex with women, than swinging. That's probably going to be quite hard on a swingers site, as there are about 10 times as many women looking for this than there are men. If however, you are interested in swinging, then you've come to the right place, but I would make that more obvious on your profile and maybe get to some clubs. It's quite hard for single guys to get established on the swing scene as couples can be quite mistrusting about single guys. But to answer your question, yes the site is real.
Mrs
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"You asked what the problem is but you argue with what people suggest
Maybe there's no problem with the site ? Just saying"
Nah! Don't be stooopid, it must be the site as the OP is never at fault |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're one guy amongst many. Your profile is all the opportunity you have to make you stand out. If you can't be arsed to make that sound interesting then people will pass you by and find someone who is a more enticing option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In what way though it's straight to the point what I'm looking for that's it don't need great detail surely "
But if you arent getting much luck here then clearly your profile and pics arnt working well for you are they ?
More info in the profile text and interesting photos would help.
Single guys are in abundance here so you need to make a bigger effort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks"
i do not think it real but it just full of pick people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pander and beg? Hahaha sorry but I'm a straight talking guy never begged for anything in my life is it being suggested I lie in my profile not much more to add I'm looking for nsa meet up can accom or travel what else I'm ace in the sack would make me sound big headed I'm not I'm just a normal honest single guy "
Think what others are saying is that what little you do have on your profile suggest laziness due to lack of effort - hardly likely to attract swathes of females. You don't make yourself sound like an attractive proposition, therefore you get exactly what you (appear to) deserve. You might be a really great person to know, but clearly the ladies aren't finding your anonymous self attractive. You are the only person who can change that. Your call. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks i do not think it real but it just full of pick people "
so people should just fuck anyone that asks them? thats really what you think?
Just another man that thinks it's a free hooker site then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The bottom line is that no one who has replied here is correct and yet everyone is.
What I'm trying to say is everyone is different and very few will agree to what is right and what is wrong.
The crux of the problem is there is an imbalance of men to women. For every one message you send, there are likely another 20, 30, 50 or more guys messaging that same person (women on here can no doubt testify to that and give a more accurate count on the messages). Swing sites are all the same. Its a buyers market.
I've been doing this for so many years and tried all sorts of wording on my profile but nothing seems to work.
I've had more meets from chatting in chat rooms than from messages.
Just keep your profile honest and put any cock pics in a private folder. Lots of women get put off by them.
Replying to forum topics and using the chat rooms will get you noticed and give people and idea of what your like.
So...
Don't lie
Don't appear big headed
Don't be pushy
Do be polite
Do be complimentary
And if you do get a meet......DON'T DO A NO SHOW!!
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth
i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here "
Yeah, you rock that bitterness. It's such an attractive look. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here "
what do you think they are lying about exactly? what is this 'truth' you mention, what do you mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks"
Sorry OP pica aren't good. Not enough content in profile. Good luck |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here "
Why not come out and say exactly what you mean for a change, or is bitterness now your best friend? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately mate us single men have very slim chance of meeting single woman on here. You can have the most convincing profile and send tons of respectful messages but will probably only ever hear back from a thew. |
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here "
Actually, I missed out a comma, which changes the emphasis of what I said.
"I'm frankly astonished, to tell the truth"
About what you'll have to enquire. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it....."
is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!"..........
oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here "
Oh for goodness sake, this is a swinger site, not 'find-a-husband.com. What does it matter if a man I'm having a bit of light hearted fun with tells me a few porky pies? That is if they even need to lie to get me into bed! I either like their company and find them sexy or I don't - in short, what's important to me can't really be lied about
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"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it.....
is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!"..........
oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!!"
Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?"
It's tres amusing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's hard finding people you are attracted to on here unless you are an 'any hole/poles a goal' type of person  "
Yes, because people who have fun on here have no standards |
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By *irimusMan
over a year ago
Burnley |
Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it.....
is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!"..........
oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!!
Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?"
It's tres amusing. "
I have had to go on youtube to look at that...... it is my new favourite song!!!!
the anthem for all those people "punching well above our weight"...... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there."
Although a lot of women don't need to check their 'looked at me' page, as there are plenty of men who actually message. However I wouldn't even be tempted by people who look at me and move on if they are nowhere near me. That's the main problem - men are more random in who they message, without actually reading the profile and working out whether they are what the messagee is looking for. |
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"There's a song for this sort of situation and I'll sing it if anyone requests it.....
is it "i've got a song that will get on your nerves!!!!"..........
oh you mean the "carly simon" one? with ya now!!!
Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?"
It's tres amusing.
I have had to go on youtube to look at that...... it is my new favourite song!!!!
the anthem for all those people "punching well above our weight"...... "
It's the theme tune for the losers club
As an added bonus they can watch the vid and wank in timing to the ukulele strumming..... |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there."
What a heap of shite
I hope your not relying on that basis to find your conquests |
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here "
youve been given fantastic advice on other threads and chose to do the oppositem what do you expect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there."
sorry but thats cobblers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm frankly astonished to tell the truth i think most other men lie and do not have a back bone to tell the truth here youve been given fantastic advice on other threads and chose to do the oppositem what do you expect"
some people just enjoy the whining,prefer to do that than doing anything to change what they are whining about.. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
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Nah......it's a song by George Formby from 1933 called 'why don't women like me like me?"
It's tres amusing.
I have had to go on youtube to look at that...... it is my new favourite song!!!!
the anthem for all those people "punching well above our weight"......
It's the theme tune for the losers club
As an added bonus they can watch the vid and wank in timing to the ukulele strumming....."
that song is going to be in my head now.... converting it to see if i can use any of it as my ring tone.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there."
Nah that wouldn't work for us. We get somewhere between 50 and 80 views per day, but most, if not all don't message us. We're not going to wonder why 50 to 80 people didn't message us - we can't possibly even remember that many people!
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
sorry but thats cobblers!"
If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. |
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Op depending on how much time you spend on the site if I was you I would spend more time on the forums/chat rooms and less time sending messages to Women, Or try some clubs,
In most cases its all about physical attraction and getting your personality across, That's a lot harder to do in your profile and a few pictures or sending a message to someone who has never chatted with you, read your comments in the forums or seen you in the chat room |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there."
Work well does it?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
sorry but thats cobblers!
If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. "
Agreed, plus if they read my profile they'd see that I'm happy to receive mails and I try to put my outlook on messaging and winks etc on my profile for clarity so "who's looked at me" suggests one of a few things to me, either they haven't read my bio, don't like the look/sound of me or may have hotlisted for the future... you just don't know but personally I'd say if they view you the etiquette is on them to make that first move. |
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
What a heap of shite
I hope your not relying on that basis to find your conquests "
Also there's plenty on here who looking at them....they won't see who looks at them due to filters |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
Nah that wouldn't work for us. We get somewhere between 50 and 80 views per day, but most, if not all don't message us. We're not going to wonder why 50 to 80 people didn't message us - we can't possibly even remember that many people!
Mrs"
Especially because I used to find it intensely creepy if I looked at a guy (before I moved to stealth mode) and he messaged me with 'You just ,looked at me, did you like what you saw?' Well no, else I would have messaged you!
If someone looks as me but doesn't message, it means they don't want to message, not that they're playing some kind of Neil Strauss type manoeuvre. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"It's hard finding people you are attracted to on here unless you are an 'any hole/poles a goal' type of person
Yes, because people who have fun on here have no standards "
What's with the rolly eyes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile may help others... in that it's a proven example of what doesn't work so check it out to see what not to do.
I get next to no replies, only one or two gay men Fab my pics and even people who winked at me don't want to chat. I'd change it but I don't feel it would be honest to. I am what I am and nobody is interested so I'm not going to pretend to be something I'm not.
I'd of deleted my account by now but I like reading the strange shit in these forums. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
"My profile may help others... in that it's a proven example of what doesn't work so check it out to see what not to do.
I get next to no replies, only one or two gay men Fab my pics and even people who winked at me don't want to chat. I'd change it but I don't feel it would be honest to. I am what I am and nobody is interested so I'm not going to pretend to be something I'm not.
I'd of deleted my account by now but I like reading the strange shit in these forums."
That *must* be a joke, right?? |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
Best Greggs in Cheshire East |
This thread is a perfect example that people have very different opinions with regards to profiles and messages. It is a numbers game thats for sure but i would make a profile that your happy with is ny advice. You'll be forever changing it if you listen to the forum advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This thread is a perfect example that people have very different opinions with regards to profiles and messages. It is a numbers game thats for sure but i would make a profile that your happy with is ny advice. You'll be forever changing it if you listen to the forum advice."
Exactly
The day I listen to advice on the forums is the day I check myself into the mental hospital |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ok few things
1st your profile picture in the bottom right corner is a that a small child's head partially cropped out?
2nd pictures in general are boring and unappealing, get some better poses, bit of black an white arty stuff etc.
3 text, paragraphs and formating a block of text is difficult to read especially on a phone so people just won't.
You have to remeber being "normal" is not a selling point it's the bar basic minium. People are here for fantasy not drudgery.
Think of it as if your selling a product atm you're a tin if "tesco value beans" sat on the shelf plain and boring.
Right next to you there are lots of tins with beautiful art work and sumptuous descriptions of Thier tasty contents.
As you're a straight man you're effectively targeting the high end customers, the type who are unlikely to pick the basic value product when there's so many more appealing tins available.
(Tin metaphor works well cause no one knows what you're really like inside until they get you home and open you up) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
Nah that wouldn't work for us. We get somewhere between 50 and 80 views per day, but most, if not all don't message us. We're not going to wonder why 50 to 80 people didn't message us - we can't possibly even remember that many people!
Mrs
Especially because I used to find it intensely creepy if I looked at a guy (before I moved to stealth mode) and he messaged me with 'You just ,looked at me, did you like what you saw?' Well no, else I would have messaged you!
If someone looks as me but doesn't message, it means they don't want to message, not that they're playing some kind of Neil Strauss type manoeuvre. "
It does actually work though.
Just quickly scrolling through a search for who's in that area, and either change location or putting a status up saying your going there, and opening up any profiles you like the look off usually results in 5+ messages from people.
St his approach is niche though relies on you having a good profile picture as that's all they see at first.
It's shallow sure but for a one off meet it does work well |
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
sorry but thats cobblers!
If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences. "
There are many people who are more sexual lying agressive than yourself.
They check thier who's looked at me out of boredom see somone they fancy and go "I like the look of them I'll message"
Which is handy as it acts as a filter as I prefer sexual agressive women lol |
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So basically your friend told you that the reason you can't find thousands of women begging for cock on any other sites is because they are all on here just fighting over each other for average guys? And you believed that?
Forget messaging people, join the forums and if you have an interesting personality then you're more likely to hit it off with someone here. Our best meet came from forum interactions. |
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"Here's a useful trick of the trade:
Instead of messaged people straight away, just look at their profile. You don't have to read it, just click on it then move on to the next one. Click every one on your search list, regardless.
Why? Psychology.
A lot of people check their "who looked at me" list and will see you, and the fact you haven't messaged them will make them wonder why. That tiny little bit of paranoia will provoke a few people to message or wink at you, and you can go from there.
sorry but thats cobblers!
If someone looks at me and doesn't message me I assume it's because they don't like the look of me, or they don't fit my preferences.
There are many people who are more sexual lying agressive than yourself.
They check thier who's looked at me out of boredom see somone they fancy and go "I like the look of them I'll message"
Which is handy as it acts as a filter as I prefer sexual agressive women lol"
That is true, there is probably a handful of times we have winked at someone as a result of them looking at our profile. However that doesn't work for most profiles. It has to be a bloody good profile with pictures that I fancy.
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"This thread is a perfect example that people have very different opinions with regards to profiles and messages. It is a numbers game thats for sure but i would make a profile that your happy with is ny advice. You'll be forever changing it if you listen to the forum advice."
He's already made a profile that he is happy with, but so far it hasn't worked. Some men don't want to play the numbers game, they would rather have some fun. And the numbers game doesn't work for all men anyway - there are simply too many men on Fab to go round, unless the women were meeting someone new every day. There are men who will never get a meet because of these ratios. But there are men who have a monopoly on getting meets, whilst the rest get very few. There will be a selection of reasons why these guys do well, but I don't think it's coincidence that they tend to have meaningful well written profiles, and good photos.
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"The "don't mind age or size" bit makes it seem as though you will pretty much fuck anyone who offers. Desperation is not alluring. You are allowed to express your preferences "
Fully agree for us, but not everyone is the same. I don't know if it's desperation or just the knowledge that some people can enjoy the time without the same specific needs. We will only have sex with people we find really sexy and get on with. |
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"So basically your friend told you that the reason you can't find thousands of women begging for cock on any other sites is because they are all on here just fighting over each other for average guys? And you believed that?
Forget messaging people, join the forums and if you have an interesting personality then you're more likely to hit it off with someone here. Our best meet came from forum interactions. "
This is good advice, if, as you do, live in the South/London commuter belt. Meeting people via the forums does not work for country bumpkins, but it's still good for banter |
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If your on s mobike do a search for whoes near by... its probably 90% single males wanting thecsame asyou
Sell your self better, connect with those that you're messaging, make your message unique and especially for them (common interests, similar fantasies) and make them feel special by telling tgem their attributes that you like |
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Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease |
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"Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease "
You're damn right I tease
I fuck like a train too
If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up
A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest |
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"Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease
You're damn right I tease
I fuck like a train too
If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up
A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest"
What about 3 out of 4 |
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"If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up
A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest
What about 3 out of 4 "
That's me out then... |
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"Most of the messages I've send gets deleted so I've learnt to not send any I also remember it's a site not everyone is gona be straight most women are here to tease
You're damn right I tease
I fuck like a train too
If my suitor has a brain, and behaves like a grown up
A million quid in his bank account would also keep my interest"
I'm a millionaire just ain't collected in all my money yet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see the people who can't get meets are blaming everything outside their control again."
Tis the way of Fab
*adopts Zenlike state*
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By (user no longer on site)
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Real?! Are *you* real? Could this all be in your imagination and you don't realise you're sat in a padded cell constantly banging your head against the soft walls?
Fab is a great place, and I've met people I now count as friends. I've been introduced to whole different sides of life. I have put effort in, been polite and sociable, been to clubs, etc. I have never once expected anything, and would never hold an opinion that you should expect something. If you're not having luck, reassess what you are doing and offering. Make honest comparisons between yourself and the other single men in your area, especially the ones who appear successful on here. Most importantly, stop it with the assumption that the system is broke or fake and start questioning why *you* are being unsuccessful. |
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks"
Profile is a bit boring, not sure what the talking to beer cans about either |
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"Dunno what the problem on here is I have messaged alot of ladies on here always been polite etc had one very polite response and thanks
Profile is a bit boring, not sure what the talking to beer cans about either "
Poor guy is lonely! |
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