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I dunno, a not very funny comedy of errors.
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 keep hold of the mallet though unless a bit of face tenderising is required  . I'd guess all mouth though, most people are. | |||
"Sounds like a fake and most probably never turned up in the first place. But if he did it sounds like you had a lucky escape personally it sounds to me like he is just fucking with your head." Yes it sounds like he never turned up to me, just a nasty piss take. I would just put it down to experience OP, so he may have your address, might be worth pointing out to him he is easily traceable by the police. Sending threatening messages is a criminal offence and he could get in the Shit for sending them if you reported him. | |||
"Oh and keep the mallet handy just in case,but if the dumb idiot couldn't find the address in the first place hopefully he wouldn't a second time... " This! 
OP report abusive mail to Admin. They'll sort it. Be glad he didn't show up. He sounds insane. | |||
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"Report his messages. Think about this logically. You went to look for him in two places and he wasn't there. Its highly probable that he was never there, there was no mate giving him a lift and he never left his house. Keep his messages in case you need to take them to the police." He never turned up simple as that | |||
"Report his messages. Think about this logically. You went to look for him in two places and he wasn't there. Its highly probable that he was never there, there was no mate giving him a lift and he never left his house. Keep his messages in case you need to take them to the police." Exactly what I was thinking. Seems to me he was a timewaster who was trying to pre-empt getting kicked of the site for a no-show by blaming you. With Sat Nav apps available for phones etc, there should be no excuse for not being able to find you. Question, when he was sending these abusive messages, did you think to click on his profile to see if he was showing up as being nearby? That usually catches them out | |||
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"Hm. I'm working on the assumption that my address is of no use to him. I think it's ok... the last thing he said to me was that he told everyone what I am and everybody on fab hates me :p He doesn't have any friends here. I said I don't care about fab, you boy. That exchange saps a lot of the menace out of the situation for me. Ya never know though, kids be crazy. I was pretty unpredictable at his age." Weren't we all. Probably empty threats but it's never nice. | |||
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"Report his messages. Think about this logically. You went to look for him in two places and he wasn't there. Its highly probable that he was never there, there was no mate giving him a lift and he never left his house. Keep his messages in case you need to take them to the police. Exactly what I was thinking. Seems to me he was a timewaster who was trying to pre-empt getting kicked of the site for a no-show by blaming you. With Sat Nav apps available for phones etc, there should be no excuse for not being able to find you. Question, when he was sending these abusive messages, did you think to click on his profile to see if he was showing up as being nearby? That usually catches them out" I did not think of that. I dunno. Are people that worried about lookin' like a jerk? Like, if he didn't show, that'd be less hassel than I got, don't think I'de pursue the issue either. File under meh, I suppose. I don't really but that he just made it all up either... that's too weird of a crazy plan to be true. People do attempt really weird plans and all, but the sociopath whisperer isn't tickled. Meh, fuck it. I will carry the mallet for a while, though. | |||
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"I would email/text him and say you have/will report him to the police under the Malicious communciations act and will provide them with his phone number and fab profile and that you are happy pressing charges. That usually shuts people up if they think you are serious." Good advice this... | |||
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"Exactly the reason we don't accommodate. It's just too risky unless you know and trust the people concerned. Even then it can backfire badly..." I don't wanna lose that trust in people though. People improve when they're expected to be better. I think treating every stranger like a bonafide rapist is counterproductive, that attitude would destroy this scene and the adjacent, let's call 'em sister scenes. I really think that the ability to hold out an open hand or an unenclosed bosom to a complete stranger is a large part of what makes this scene tick. Concensus rules though as well, if someone has an established reputation for being a piece of shit, you can't assume they're nice. But you can't just work with what you hear either, that kid from today has been runnin' around telling people I'm a massive wallet thief. I'm not, by the way. But it's hard to fuck with an established reputation. Excuse me, just thinking aloud. | |||
"Exactly the reason we don't accommodate. It's just too risky unless you know and trust the people concerned. Even then it can backfire badly... I don't wanna lose that trust in people though. People improve when they're expected to be better. I think treating every stranger like a bonafide rapist is counterproductive, that attitude would destroy this scene and the adjacent, let's call 'em sister scenes. I really think that the ability to hold out an open hand or an unenclosed bosom to a complete stranger is a large part of what makes this scene tick. Concensus rules though as well, if someone has an established reputation for being a piece of shit, you can't assume they're nice. But you can't just work with what you hear either, that kid from today has been runnin' around telling people I'm a massive wallet thief. I'm not, by the way. But it's hard to fuck with an established reputation. Excuse me, just thinking aloud." Do you leave your front door unlocked at night and your car on a street with the keys in the ignition? - Mrs. J - | |||
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"yeah, I mean, I might be coming off as green inviting a stranger to my house. Dunno, been on the kink scene for years and never got into spooky trouble. Like, is this a common thing to be wise of, or a one off crazy-shit?" I reckon 95% of people are trustworthy. The more often you invite someone to your home that you hooked up with on the net the more likely you are to encounter the 5%. It's a risk we all take to be fair. We encountered some genuine weirdness at someone else's home | |||
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"Sounds like a fake and most probably never turned up in the first place. But if he did it sounds like you had a lucky escape personally it sounds to me like he is just fucking with your head." This for sure. Too too weird. Repost this and call the police if needs be. | |||
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"Did you exchange face pics? If not, when he arrives and knocks on your door say you have no idea what he's talking about and tell him to fuck off. If you did swap face pics and he knocks. Just tell him to fuckoff. " He has facial photographs on his profile - Mrs. J - | |||
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"... apparantly people are sending a bunch of race-hate to the guy who I'm still very pissed off with, off the back of this thread. If that's true, I ask, please, cut it out. Racism is the worst. On the other hand, if you wanna call someone out for being a crazy jerk, that's fine with me." How do they know who he is ? | |||
"... apparantly people are sending a bunch of race-hate to the guy who I'm still very pissed off with, off the back of this thread. If that's true, I ask, please, cut it out. Racism is the worst. On the other hand, if you wanna call someone out for being a crazy jerk, that's fine with me. How do they know who he is ?" I was thinking that too - Mrs. J - | |||
"Did you exchange face pics? If not, when he arrives and knocks on your door say you have no idea what he's talking about and tell him to fuck off. If you did swap face pics and he knocks. Just tell him to fuckoff. He has facial photographs on his profile - Mrs. J -" DOH! | |||
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"... apparantly people are sending a bunch of race-hate to the guy who I'm still very pissed off with, off the back of this thread. If that's true, I ask, please, cut it out. Racism is the worst. On the other hand, if you wanna call someone out for being a crazy jerk, that's fine with me." Why are you still in contact with him? | |||
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"why are you talking like an American gangster?" You talking to me? | |||
"why are you talking like an American gangster? You talking to me?" | |||
